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SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: Having High Functioning Asspergers Is A Curse!
POST: This might come across as rude, especially to lower functioning individuals.
I hate being aware that I am not so neurotypical. If I was lower functioning, I could make lower functioning friends but in this semi-autistic state its very difficult.
I'm completely aware of how oblivious I am to other peoples emotions, the empathy I lack and the social fundamentals that a normal person should have....I can't help but disagree with everyone and everything regarding the perception that I think is right.
Everyone that knows me never had a thought in the world that I'm under the "PDD" spectrum because of my "acting skills".
I just act the way I do because I think I will make appropriate friends this way. If I were to show my true self, people would think I'm an asshole. I can't help but refuse to make friends because of the lie of a personality I would have towards them.
This has led me to a larger and larger insecurity, that's growing more and more.
If you have a friend or you, yourself are suffering from the "PDD" spectrum, your not fucking alone. The auditory stimulus that feels like nails on a chalkboard, the severe anxiety, the confusion, the depersonalization, the co-morbid disorders, the inconsistency...I'm trying to stay positive the best I can and hopefully you are to.
TL;DR: | I fucking hate having the diagnosis of asspurgers or in the new DSM-IV(High functioning autism) |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [28m] led a [31]f on. How to make this stop without being a dick?
POST: Me [28m] just gone out of a 6 year relationship in June. Met this 31f 2 weeks ago being a friend of a friend. Dated two times, things got a bit hot, but no sex.
I think I really hooked up with her just to gain some confidence in dating new girls as I do not really like her that much. She was sending tons of texts and then she noticed I was being awkward in my replies. I told her I do not feel comfortable having a relationship and agreed we should just stay friends.
Now I'm going on a long trip (6mths +) at the end of the month. She told me she wrote a poem for me and now telling me that she has bought gifts for me. This is really making me uncomfortable. Come on I have friends but they do not by me individual gifts nor write me poems. I am afraid this girl is getting obsessed with me.
Any ideas how I can make her this stop without being a dick and hurting her more? I know I led her on and it was my mistake but never thought I was so appealing to get someone this obsessed with me.
TL;DR: | I led a girl on. She is now kinda obsessed with me. I want to her to stop thinking about me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I have a real life Grinch, attempting to steal my Christmas. How should I handle this guy?
POST: I bought a truck from this guy about 20 months ago. I could only pull 1K from the ATM, so I offered him a personal check for the remaining $1250.00. He accepted, I drove the truck home with the title. The next day he called and said he needed the money immediately and could not wait the four business days for the personal check to clear, and requested that I wire the money. That day, I put a stop payment on the check, and wired him the remaining balance for the truck.
This weekend I get a notice from my bank saying the check ($1250.00) had been presented for payment on 12/03/2010, and returned due to non-sufficient funds.
This asshole is trying to cash a check I stopped payment on a year and a half ago. Is this check fraud? Should I call the cops? What do???
TL;DR: | A guy is trying to scam me out of $1250.00 from a 1.5 year old check that I had stopped payment on. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by wanting to eat
POST: You know how goldfish (the food) sometimes come in those big cartons? Well, today, I wanted some. Sadly, so called carton wouldn't open. After many attempts, I'm like "ALRIGHT, TIME TO TAKE A
KNIFE TO THE BOX!!!" So, stupid me gets kitchen knife and tries to open carton. Knife slips, makes cut wound to side of left hand. No biggie, just a small cut, until IT DOESN'T STOP BLEEDING. Me freaks out for moment, calms down, looks for band-aid. ALL OF THE BAND-AIDS ARE TOO BIG. Finds small kiddie Star Wars band-aids and uses, feels ashamed. Finally opened goldfish moments later.
TL;DR: | Wanted goldfish, took knife to the box, cut self, applied kiddie band-aid and is now ashamed. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Why do I feel the way I do about group marriage?
POST: Obvious throwaway account for obvious reasons.
So my husband has brought up a strange topic a couple of times: he's interested in the idea of "group marriage." Group marriage being the two of us finding another couple to "fall in love with" and live together with as one happy family. He doesn't have anyone in mind, and wants us to search for them together. He thinks that it would be a great way to add more to our relationship and make us happier overall.
To be honest, I'm not interested in it in the least, even though I can see the logical advantages in it (more people to spend time with, more financial stability, etc...). I love him and only him and am just not interested in bringing anyone else into the equation. I can't cope with the emotional aspect of it. I don't want to share my husband. I don't want to be shared.
He thinks that I'm being controlled by the norms of society by not even considering it. I can't explain why I am so against the idea (at least, not very well), so he's having a very hard time accepting my rejection of it.
So, I've turned to you guys. Maybe you guys could help me understand why I'm so against the idea of a group marriage, when I can understand all of the benefits of such a relationship.
TL;DR: | My husband wants to be open to the idea of a group marriage and I don't, yet I can't explain why. |
SUBREDDIT: r/cats
TITLE: Separation Anxiety
POST: My boyfriend and I just adopted a new cat from the SPCA. He's a about 8 months old. We have a one bedroom apartment, which he has access to everything but the bedroom. Since the first night we brought him home, we've been having issues with him crying and scratching at the door when we go to bed. This will happen for at least 10 mins or more. Is there anything short of letting him in to stop this?
I'm a bit allergic, and have always kept my door closed when there is an animal in the house or apartment. He has really never been alone, because he was in the shelter since October. The SPCA has recommended that we don't get another cat as a companion because he is very dominant, and didn't do well with either of the foster homes he was in. I would agree with this, as he wants to be the center of attention all the time, and would probably be upset if he had to share us with another cat.
TL;DR: | cat meows like crazy when we go to bed. Any way to stop it short of letting him in the room? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24/M] walk home with this girl [20ish] almost everyday, how to talk to her?
POST: So this girl who's pretty cute literally lives across the road from me. She is always looking at me, not obvious but more subtle, but that's it. She looks a little intimidating lol but still. I mean I don't even wanna hit on her it's just someone to talk with even, it just feels weird when were walking pretty close, and only the awkward sound of footsteps can be heard.
Today, I was actually going to say hello and ask she lives across the road and damn why didn't she say hello to me first for a laugh, but she had her earphones in. But then she took them out, and after a minute or so started playing with her hair. Is this some sort of female hint I'm supposed to pick up on?
I'm good/cute looking anyway and friendly so it's not like I'm some weird creep wanting to talk with her, I think she goes college which is what I'm going back to this year to. Maybe I should post a note in her door like sup girl <3 then stand at my bedroom window looking at her window all night lmao.
So, should I just talk to her then? it really is that simple...what would make for nice small talk?
TL;DR: | Girl lives across road from me, we get off the same bus and walk the same way, how to say hello? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17M] with my mom [45/F], who's mad at me for not wearing a jacket to school.
POST: I'm not good with describing stuff in long paragraphs, so I'll just post it in point form:
- School starts at 9:30am for me
- It's a three minute walk
- It's been 50 degrees outside for weeks
- I don't feel cold at all
My mom is really mad at me for not wearing a jacket when i walk to school, and is trying to force me to put it in. I 100% don't feel cold at all when I'm outside, and will likely put it on once December comes around.
She also says that since other kids wear their jackets, I should too. And if i don't, they'll call social services.
TL;DR: | Mom wants me to put my jacket on when I walk to school since she thinks its cold, but i don't. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22F] Found out my Coworker I kinda asked out is only [16M]
POST: There's this guy who's been working at this restaurant with me for a few weeks, we talk quite a bit and we get along well. I asked him if he wanted to go to the mall and to eat this weekend, he agreed to it. It wasn't exactly "asking him out" but it was kind of a date.
Now I found out through his social media accounts that he's only 16 years old, I thought he was older than that and now I feel very awkward and I don't know if he thinks of this as a date or not. I don't know what I should do, I do have some interest in him but I feel kind of wrong if I were to pursue that. Should I still go? What should I say/do?
TL;DR: | I found out that this guy I work with who I basically asked out, is just 16. Don't know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by trying to be Good Guy Greg
POST: Went to Tim Horton's this morning for my morning cup. Anyways, as I'm leaving a young woman is walking in as I'm going out. Her earbud cord, loops around door handle and pulls her phone to the ground. Without missing a beat, Good guy Choc, goes to pick up her phone for her. As I'm coming up, phone first, she is bending over reaching..... SMASH! We both miss the hand-off and I slap her phone right in her face..... We were both so stunned at what just happened.... Nothing was said, other than me forcing out a, "I'm sorry" and I took off.....
TL;DR: | Tried to give back a cell phone, and missed the handoff; slapping the woman in the face with it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Am I [29F] being too sensitive over a NYE alone away from my bf [32M]?
POST: My bf [32M] and I [29F] (almost three years together) recently moved away from home, but we were planning to travel back home for a friend's party over NYE. Lamely, I unexpectedly have to work the day before and can't go. I totally told him to go ahead without me as it will be a fun trip for him. I really believe he would have stayed home, but I really do want him to go!
I don't know anyone here yet, but I'm planning a fun night home alone with take out and movies, so it isn't like I'm planning on sulking or anything (maybe a little).
So I mention casually yesterday that I would still like to talk at midnight even if we can't kiss, and he said he may not be able to since he'll be at the party, and it might be noisy, etc. For some reason, this really hurt me. Sure, it's not a huge deal in the great scheme of things, but I feel like he could easily step into a bedroom or something to chat with me for a few minutes knowing that I'll be alone and a little sad.
And tbh there's a pattern of him not...blowing me out of the water with romance in the relationship, which just sounds ridiculous and princessy of me, I know, because he's a solid guy.
Should I be upset or even care? Am I acting like a spoiled brat?
TL;DR: | I'll be apart from my bf on NYE and want a phone call that he can't promise. Should I be upset? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [24 M] fucked up things with a girl and now I might have to deal with her as part of a D&D group
POST: I was at one of my local bookshops and I met this girl who was buying a Warhammer 40K novel. We had a bit of a chat, struck up a bit of a conversation and I somehow managed to add her as a friend on facebook. I figured that I didn't meet someone who was interested in 40K every day, so I asked her if she was interested in a coffee. It sort of came out that she was good friends with her ex, but that coffee would be alright. At this stage I (like an idiot) apologised and said that I didn't want to mess things up between her and her ex if they were still close. She then said that it was best if I didn't talk to her again. I apologised for what I had said and defriended her.
I also use OkCupid, not only to find dates but also to find people just to talk to. I met someone who was willing to offer me a place in a D&D group. I said I was interested, but then I found out that the first girl I had met was also part of the group.
I know I've done the wrong thing and I don't want to be the cause of an unnecessary conflict. Should I confess to the other person and excuse myself? Thank you for any advice.
TL;DR: | Fucked things up with a girl I met, now may have to deal with her as part of D & D group. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M/F] with my girlfriend [20 M/F] of 2 years, did I cheat and should I tell her?
POST: My girlfriend of two years has serious anger problems and everytime her mum or I make her upset she becomes an extremist.
I got mad at her for going to a strip club (female) and lying about it. She said she was going to a movie with her friend and I thought that was cool. I had to find out later and turns out she also let the strippers touch her (motorboat/69). I found it disrespectful and I consider it cheating...
(I had previously told her I'm not comfortable with her going to those kinds of places so that's why she lied. She told me, "I knew you'd get mad but I wanted to go.")
So her mum lectures her about literally everything she does and when I got upset over this she snapped and said she is done with me along with other hurtful things. Since we were not together anymore I had sex with one of my friends but now she wants to get back together... I love her so I don't want to say no but I also really want advice on if I cheated and if I should tell her about it because I think it's going to be in my mind for as long as we stay together.
If I need to put more information just let me know please. All advices wanted.
TL;DR: | GF breaks up with me, I have sex with a friend, we get back together. Did I cheat, Do I tell her? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by drinking a lot NyQuil prior to taking a huge dump [NSFW]
POST: I'm making this short and sweet, mainly to avoid recounting the gory details of what occurred this morning. So at around 1:45am I took a dose of NyQuil slightly larger than the recommended amount (nothing crazy though) and went to the bathroom to take a dump.
One thing led to another and I fell asleep mid-dump (I've slept probably 6 hours in 3 days due to a bad cold, so I'm attributing this to the NyQuil+Sleeplessness). The next morning I woke up in my own fucking shit.
Some how I managed to not only fall off of the toilet and shit my self in the process, but fertilize my entire bathroom with my own excrement.
I know I probably could've made this story somewhat more entertaining but, seriously, even writing about this makes me nauseous.
TL;DR: | Took NyQuil, passed out on the toilet mid-dump, woke up with a "self-fertilized" bathroom. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My Sister[18F] got fingered by her lecturer [40+M]. Help.
POST: I don't know how to react now. My younger sister just told me this after her class. Reddit please help my sister.
Apparently she's been secretly dating her lecturer since last Oct without anyone's knowledge. My sister is just an average looking girl with no past relationships. She takes her studies seriously but somehow lack the affection from guys. This lecturer is an assh*le manipulator. He has no wife/kids. He doesn't even has a car. That's the main factor on how they started.
You see, my sister rides the bus after her classes. And this guy doesn't own a car so eventually he rides the bus as well. Since he's her lecturer, they would have casual chats on the bus sometimes. One thing leads to another, they started dating. It was only last week that he did this to her. Previously they only kissed at max. She doesn't feel right about this whole thing and hence she told me the story. She doesn't love him, according to her. She was only curious as she had never have any past relationships.
Reddit, how can I bring justice upon my sister as a brother???? My sister doesn't want to bring the issue to public for fear of shame. We are from Asian family and the last thing we wouldn't wish for is to bring shame to the family.
TL;DR: | Sister dated lecturer. He manipulated her. Fingered her. She don't feel right. How to help her? |
SUBREDDIT: r/Pets
TITLE: (Another) cat food question
POST: Hi all, I'm a new kitty owner trying to work out a good diet for my baby :) I've been reading a lot, and as much as I'd love to give them a diet of raw food or Blue Buffalo canned food, I have to work within my means. Right now I am using **Taste of the Wild** dry food and mixing it with **Merrick Purrfect Bistro** wet food. I know the Merrick is okay, but it's also a bit more expensive. I was wondering if the cheaper Friskies canned food is a suitable replacement? I know they have a bad rep for all the corn in their dry foods, but I read the labels on the canned wet food and ingredient-wise, it was really all just meat and by-products (which I think are alright). I don't know how to interpret the %age carbohydrate and stuff though.
I'm not from the U.S. so I don't know how the pricing there works, but the price difference here is really big - a tall can of Friskies costs less than a 5.5 oz can of Merrick's. Fancy Feast costs only a little less than Merrick's so I've ruled that out, but I'm really tempted to just go with the Friskies...
TL;DR: | Is Taste of the Wild (dry food) + Friskies (wet food) a decent budget diet for kittens 3 months old |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [24M] have been dating this girl [22F]for a couple of weeks now. She has a close friend that is a guy. Should I be worried?
POST: My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 2 weeks now. Her and I are actually doing really well together but she does have a friend that is a guy. I'm not the jealous type at all but something's recently that have been happening lately have been kind of bothering me. I work a 3rd shift job that are 12 hour shifts with really limited breaks. I love to talk to her on my breaks but today she said that she is hanging out with him right now. I'm cool with that. I text her saying I'm on break and all she says is that " I'm watching a movie with "him" right now. I will talk to you later." She also said he is anal about phones while they are hanging out. I asked her about this whole thing a couple days ago and she said they would never date and they are just friends. Am I looking too deep into this or should I question it further.
TL;DR: | New girl friend has a guy friend that seems a bit too close to. Blew me off to talk with him. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What is the worst thing you have ever done? Possibly NSFW
POST: I'll start...
...back when I was about 17, and still an immature idiot, I was at this guys house for a party, well more of a gathering of around 20 people, and seeing as I was one of the only people driving (the others were completely hammered, I was just a bit tipsy) the guy who's house it was asked me to drive his girlfriend home. Now, I had sensed that this girl was kind of in to me before and she was giving off some signs in the car that she definitely was, so me, being a slightly tipsy, over confident and highly sex charged teenager asked her if she would like to have a taste of my love stick (i'd always wondered what it was like to get a bj while driving).
She duly obliged and started pleasuring me while i was taking her home...from her boyfriends house. We ended up pulling over and having some pretty steamy car sex before i dropped her off and returned to the party.
I felt like a complete dick for what i did, and it still embarrasses me to think about it now. The worst thing about the whole situation was that the guy whose girlfriend i boned was actually one of the nicest people you could ask to meet, but at that age your dick overrides your brain.
TL;DR: | Nice guy asks me to drop his gf home, naughty willy takes over brain and I end up boning her |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Is my (28m) behavior when with her (28f) inappropriate?
POST: I'm very touchy feely, which she isn't, but she's accepting of it and doesn't mind.
But whenever we're in bed or on the couch, my hands usually wander to her boobs or inside her pants, and very often her belly! I take this to be silly couple fun, but although she only removes my hand from time to time, I'm wondering if this behavior is appropriate or if it's weird and she's not calling me out on it.
Something similar is whenever she's dressing for work or is out of the shower, I stop what I'm doing and just stare, and although playfully, she said this was a bit creepy. Is it?
TL;DR: | I feel up my fiancee whenever I can, and stare at her when she's naked. Weird and off-putting? |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Help me change my life
POST: Hey everyone,
I'm using a throwaway for this one.
I need your help, everyone. You all do so well with your weightless, its outstanding and I am all so happy for.
First a little back story and information: I[f] am 19 years old, 20 in January and I have been overweight all my life and obese for at least half of it. Currently I weigh 225lbs. My senior year in high school (fall) I was down to 178. By my freshman year in college I was back up to 225 and then by the following summer, I was at 250lb. At this point in my sophomore year, I am down again but I've come to a plateau and I'm losing hope. Also, a huge game changer has came into the picture. My weight loss partner, my mother, has jumped the natural weight loss band wagon and chose to receive weight loss surgery. Not only do I no longer have a weight loss partner, I feel like I'm in competition and have a damn near anxiety attack when I think about her being skinnier than me (I know, I know that sounds bad).
Basically what I am saying is I need your help. I want to know all of your tips and tricks, your fad diets, your supplements, your go-to exercises (keeping in mind that running is not my thing...yet). I need your help guys, because I want to do this for my health, my self esteem, my family and for myself. I owe this to myself, but I need your help.
TL;DR: | I'm fat, tell me all your weight loss tips and tricks and help me be in the body that I want to be! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [F21] can't get over a guy [M20] I didn't even 'date'
POST: Ok so I say 'date' because we literally spent all our time together (for 4 months, seems a lot longer than that) and even traveled over 3 hours to see each other frequently after univeristy ended but were never offical. He also gave me money to visit him and did the gentlemanly thing of paying for all dinners and activites despite me saying no. We also were sexually active from pretty early on.
We decided we'd make the decision to offically date once we got back to uni but he just told me he doesn't want to date now. He's also no longer texting as much and we never call anymore.
He is the first guy ever i've had these strong feelings for (and first person I can stand being around 24/7) and now I can't shake it. I just have to see pictures of him with other girls and I get very upset. I stil want to be friends with him because he is so amazing as a person but I know I couldn't handle it if he started dating someone else. I don't want to delete him as friends on FB and such but I fear it may come to that.
TL;DR: | Didn't offically date, now he doesn't want to date at al and I can't forget about him. Help |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by not setting my parking brake
POST: TIFU this morning.
I've always been told to set my parking brake when I park. I have basically ignored that gem of info unless I'm driving a stick shift.
This morning I went out and turned my vehicle on to defrost ( yes it was in park). I ran back inside for a few minutes because it's been well below freezing. Upon exiting my residence I panicked thinking my vehicle had been stolen. Nope, it was now across the street parked firmly against my neighbors mobile. Turns out my tranny linkage is getting weak and it popped into reverse! Apparently my weight and slamming the door was enough to get it moving.
I swear my vehicle suffered more damage than the mobile did. It caved in my taillight area including the metal and the bumper. The best part is, it was just in the repair shop. Oh AND the neighbors just had their siding redone. The mobile will need some siding and hopefully nothing in the mobile was damaged.
Lesson learned, I'm always setting my parking break from now on.
FML
TL;DR: | Didn't set my parking brake, my car hit my neighbors house. Now I have to fix my car and a home :/ |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: i have an ex-friend who keeps harassing me and it's affecting me negatively.
POST: I have stopped feeling comfortable around my ex-guy friend (I'm a girl) because of our history in the past (I cheated on my ex-bf with him. I KNOW I WAS WRONG AND I REGRET IT. My ex-bf and I have talked it out. He forgave me, and we are just good friends now.) I wanted to stop being friends with the guy I cheated with after this event, but because he views me "like a sister", I continued to be his friend until I couldn't take it anymore. I sent him one final message, saying it would be better if we just went our separate ways. Now he keeps messaging me once a week on facebook, every message getting more obsessive than the last.
[link to fb messages](
The dove that he mentions is a gift he gave me for Christmas to represent our friendship (it's the same dove from Home Alone 2). I didn't want to give it back because it was a gift. I don't think it's right for someone to ask back a gift they whole-heartedly gave to someone else. I didn't respond either because I thought he would just keep trying to talk to me if I did. Now I'm started to get worried and that he'll hurt me or my family. I've blocked him from Facebook. Can someone please tell me what you think of this because this situation is just eating me whole.
TL;DR: | there's a former friend who keeps messaging me and i want it to stop but don't know how. pls help. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [17M] am interested in my friend [17F] for a few months, don't know if she feels the same way? need help
POST: There's this girl I've known since grade 4/4th year of elementary school who sits beside me in Calculus class, and I grew fond of her about 3 months ago
We spend a bit of time together outside of class, we were both on the school cross country team in the fall, and we are currently in track and field together for spring.
I often walk her to her class, and to her locker when we have practice, and we talk a lot during these times.
Often times she'll come to me during lunch, and we'll sit together and talk.
I want to ask her out soon, but I don't know if she's interested, and I'm afraid if I make a move and it turns out she's not interested in me, our friendship will be ruined.
How do I subtly let on that I like her, or find out if she likes me?
TL;DR: | I like a girl I've known for a while, but I don't know if she llikes me, what do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Need a little advice from even just a few kind people on this subreddit ( I (18M) have encountered so many!)
POST: Before anyone thinks about commenting "you're so young don't worry about it you have a long life ahead" just know that I have tried. I have tried everyday for years. Like almost every story, there is a girl (shocker, right?). I started to like her in the 6th grade when we awkwardly danced to "don't stop believin" and I liked her on and off until today (post HS graduation). She is smart, cute, spontaneous (in a fun way. She doesn't dye her hair blue randomly) and I can't get her out of my head. Througout highschool I have been super awkward and dense and told her I liked her, panicked when she liked me, etc. Currently we are friends. Nothing special or anything. I don't know if I am in love with her or not because on and off crushes are all I have had with her. But it has only been her. Any road I choose it leads me to her. Do I tell her? Is it too late? All my friends tell me that she is poison to me but if I could give up then that wouldn't be love it would make 6 years of only wanting her to be pointless. What do I do?
TL;DR: | It is a long story, please read it I am really sorry I just don't know how to sum it up. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21/F] just found out i've been sexting a taken man[22/M]?
POST: I've never met this guy (living in a different state), but I was bored and added some people via snapchat-- on a reddit post that was clean and friendly snapchatters only, so i could just have more stories to look at when I am bored and talk to new people.
I always ask about the person and what they do, if are they single etc so I dont cross any lines if we are both mutually interested.
One guy in particular started sending me provocative pictures -- I didn't want to send anything fully exposed of myself back and he was okay with this. He has been sending me pictures/videos and messages for at least 2 months now.
Flashforward to today: I decided to do some stalking on instagram after knowing about him and assuming he used the same username on both accounts (he did) .... and i've just found out he is in a 1+ year relationship.... Should I contact the girlfriend? or just leave it? would you want to know if your partner is sexting other women? Not sure if its my place to tell, so I'm not too sure about my decisions.
TL;DR: | sexting a guy, who I just found out has a girlfriend, should I tell her? would you want to know? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What is the most embarrassing thing you've ever done that could've been easily avoided? I'll start.
POST: The time:1997
The place: Target
What happened: Star Fox 64 had just been released, and so the free to play N64 in the Target was, of course, featuring it. My parents never believed in buying video games for us kids (it'll rot your brain!) so except for the NES we got from our grandparents, the only games we owned were "Number Munchers" and "Where in the World is Carmen Sandiego?" so these sojourns to Target were my major chance to play all the games that had just come out while mom shopped.
I started Star Fox and had just gotten a hold of the controls when I realized I had to pee, *really bad*. But I had only just started a mission - they couldn't last more than a couple minutes - so I held it. And held it. Until I couldn't hold it anymore, and, at the age of 8, urinated all over the Target floor.
TL;DR: | I, as an 8 year old, peed all over the floor of Target in order to continue playing a video game. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [21M] with my gf [21F] of ~ 3 years, 90% sure she is emotionally cheating
POST: Through catching glances of chat clients that are subsequently quickly minimised etc, i am fairly certain my girlfriend is having some sort of emotional affair or something she wants to hide with a friend. Additionally, recently she has not been showing me any affection, and takes her phone with her everywhere she goes.
I have trusted her for 3 years without ever having a single doubt, but this is all very out of character. Can I just outright ask to see her chat logs with this individual? I just feel that if I ask she will get defensive and turn it around claiming I have trust issues. Not knowing is making me resentful.
TL;DR: | see title, want to ask gf to allow me access to her personal conversations, don't know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Ex [22M] contacted me [21F]. What's he doing?
POST: Ex dumped me several months ago, maybe like March. He was just starting a job and he was having a lot of family issues. Told me he didn't love me anymore after 3.5 years, and I went crazy. Crazy came from two things:
1. Unhealthy relationship
2. He would blatantly ignore me for the month before the break-up and act hostile whenever I even hinted at something being up.
I calmed down from my craziness, and eventually was willing to be friends like he expressed great interest in doing. Then he acted like a complete asshole when I tried to get my stuff back.
We talked a little after the break up and then we just didn't..for like 2 and a half months. Then he contacted to catch up over text. Great timing dude because I was really busy and hadn't thought about him in a while. Crushing really hard on someone else at the time. He seemed really enthusiastic in the conversation, while I was replying with basic manners. I cut the conversation short, saying something along the lines of "so busy ttyl".
TL;DR: | Ex was an asshole before/during/after break-up. All of a sudden chats me up being all buddy-buddy. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24F] dating my guy [25M] for almost 2 years, and we don't say I love you (and it is really starting to get to me.)
POST: He regularly says "I like you so much." "I think the world of you." "Don't know what I would do without you." - And I truly believe it.
That being said, I don't know what is holding him back from saying he loves me. He is loyal, treats me well, and is very respectful. I'm a believer in 'actions speak louder than words', but after almost two years of a healthy and happy relationship, it seems right to express mutual feelings of love.
Lately it has been right on the tip of my tongue, but I worry that it will change things if I say it first, and I don't want to put pressure on him. Our relationship is very easy-going and great, so thinking of the potential blow-back scares me.
TL;DR: | We don't say I love you after almost 2 years, but I'm worried what will happen if I say it first. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I'm a guy in need of pussy and I need your help dear Redditors to find out if she wants my magical stick
POST: I'm on a many-day trip with my friends and in our group there is girl who made me write this. My observations on her seem to me that she isn't intrested about me; she doesn't look me much. But there's something that suspects me. She has stroke my arm twice during the trip while she have laughed to some silly joke I made. Today when we were alone a while, she was intrested if some guy in one window was naked. Then when wondered why is she so intrested she said that she hasn't had a man for a while. But usually when we are alone and no one else is around, she doesn't flirt with me.
Is there some phrase or any other helpful thing which could help me to figure out if she could be intrested of magical presentation done with my stick?
TL;DR: | I want pussy from a girl, and I'm not sure how to find out if she wants to share it with me. Tips? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by adding a coat of paint on a wall
POST: So today we decided to fix up the paint job on a couple of walls on our hallway. No big deal, right? We certainly thought so.
I got the paint, a roller, cleared everything out of the way and got to work. 5 minutes into the job I notice something funny. The paint seems to be peeling off of the wall and on to the roller. I start peeling the coat of paint off of the wall but more and more starts coming off.
As it turns out, there were too many coats of paint on the wall and the one I added made an older layer peel off.
So now here I am, peeling the paint off of the wall with my hand, hoping it will stop peeling off somewhere so I can get on with the paint job. NOPE! 2 hours and A LOT of frustration later I ended up peeling off all of the paint I had put on, as well as parts of the underlying layer.
In the end i just gave up. Instead of 30 minutes of touching up the paint job I'll end up pulling down all the wallpaper and starting from scratch. It'll probably end up costing hundreds of euros too.
[Here's an album of what happened] mid way through the peeling action.
TL;DR: | spent 5 minutes to paint a wall; spent 2 hours to take the paint i had just put up off of the wall. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Got two girl to chose from.
POST: Okay I'll make this as quick as possible. I haven't had the best luck or abilities with women, so this hasn't happened before. I have two girls I might be able to date, both are equally attractive and the same age, social class etc, etc, etc. I will use (a) and (b) instead of their names. Girl A, I've known for a bit and we had something going on a while ago and it didn't work, she now wants to get back together after several months. She has a lot of experience if you know what I mean...., but she is still really decent. The other, girl B, I just started talking to in the past month, but she wants to wait until shes done for the semester in June to start dating. She said we might be able to but isn't promising anything. She has never had a serious relationship before and is really sweet. But i don't want to wait on a relationship.
TL;DR: | Girl A, one i've known and has experience. Girl B really sweet but wants to wait a while to date. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Me [23 M] with my EX-GF [24 F] known each other for 12 months, has been texting me 'boo' and 'bb' but just learned she has been hooking up with other guys since our month of not being together
POST: Me and Jessica, replaced for safety, have known each other for a year and she texts me things like I love you to the moon and back and bb and boo but just asked her if she has hooked up with anyone since the month we broke up and she said yes. I dont drink or smoke and she is in rehab for that and just got kicked out. It hurts me so much that she has hooked up with another guy after texting me and snapping me lude pics. I dont know what to do guys I am going to suggest no talking for a month I need space. oh and the reason we broke up was because on our previous break up she used cocaine got taken advantage of by two guys and lied about getting clyhmedia and gave it to me.
TL;DR: | My exgf who gave me chylmedia has been hooking up with another guy on our only month long breakup |
SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: Alright I need a little help.
POST: To start I have a shar pei boxer mix (2 years old named Dexter) Great dog easy to train, never had any problems. My buddy has a pure bred boxer, he's not neutered, and 1 years old.
Now to the problem.
My buddy left for Vegas today for his anniversary with his wife, and last second had the person watching his boxer bail on him. He was in a bind, about to cancel his plans when I told him I'd watch his dog... I mean... How bad could he be?
His dog is a bully. And now I don't know what to do. His boxer will not leave dexter alone, won't let him go anywhere with out trying to hump him, block his path or nip at him. I feel like Dexter is so uncomfortable and he won't go anywhere near him. Our dogs have met before at dog parks and they were totally fine, no problems whatsoever.
Anyone have a way to have them both get along? I've tried walking them together and feeding them together but dexter seems like he just wants to leave and curl up in his kennel and never come out.
TL;DR: | buddy left for Vegas, I'm watching his doing. His dog isn't getting along with mine. Any ideas? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What is the strangest thing that's ever happened to you when you've introduced your SO to one of your friends?
POST: For me it has to be the time my straight-laced, judgemental, rigid life-plan-having, tea-party republican, pastor's daughter friend who has a chronic case of stick-up-the-assitus turned into a giggling, trampy schoolgirl around my bisexual, tattooed, alcoholic, slacking, atheistic, socialist hipster (now ex) boyfriend. When I say trampy, I mean *trampy*. This girl, who I've known for over a decade, is the biggest prude I've ever known and she starts very obviously flirting with the first boyfriend of mine I've ever introduced to her. The highlight of the evening being her fellating two hookah mouthpieces while giving my boyfriend the "fuck me" eyes after eating raw oysters and waxing poetic about their aphrodesiac qualities while staring this boy *down* (I would think troll, but she's incapable of it.). As for the two of us, he looked like a scared bunny rabbit and I was torn between figuring out how I'd fallen into the Twilight Zone and pulling a Sassy Gay Friend on her ass and asking,"What, what, what are you doing?". I settled for staring and promising my traumatised manboy that he would never have to hang out with the crazy lady ever again.
My ex was the only one who'd had more than a single beer.
TL;DR: | FRIEND WHO SAYS AN EVANGELICAL MITT ROMNEY IS HER DREAM MAN GOES SLUT-TASTIC AROUND POLAR OPPOSITE |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [17M] don't know how to channel my jealousy and anxiety towards my [17F] girlfriend, and her [17M] best friend.
POST: Essentially, my girlfriend suffers from depression and such things, and to make matters worse, her family is falling apart. Needless to say, she's been clinging to her best friend of nearly six years, rather than her boyfriend of one.
I find myself stalking her Skype to see if she's online after she already told me she couldn't talk. I lose sleep wondering why she keeps me around if I'm of no use to her. I Shouldn't do these things, but I can't stop.
What's wrong with *me?* Why can't she come to *me?*
I've been incredibly harsh with her lately on account of the pressure, and I think she's starting to get fed up. How do I stop and acknowledge that she needs him and not me?
Is there a chance she's manipulating me?
He's a nice guy. He really is, and I love him almost as much as she does, but I don't trust them. I need help being normal, and shoving this into the back of my mind.
Also, this isn't about her. This is me not knowing how to be rational. I've broken her trust in the past, so she has no reason to confide in me. I broke her trust in telling my best friend (her nemesis) about her family situation. I did so because I was paranoid. I need to be rational in the heat of the moment.
This is all word vomit. I apologize.
TL;DR: | I'm clingy and I hate it. She may also be wrong, but I'm too infatuated to tell. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] of a year, can't make her orgasm
POST: I have been with my SO for about 13 months now, 11 of which have been spent having regular sex. In this time however I have never made her orgasm, for the first 5 months she said she had but she hadn't and then after a while she just admitted that she never has, she simply feels it build and then it goes. I feel really disappointed in my self and my self-esteem is being crushed as I feel that I am not satisfying her sexually like she is me.
What can I do? I have spoke to her about it and she just insists that it really doesn't matter to her, I should probably point out that I am her first sexual partner.
TL;DR: | Cant make GF orgasm, first sexual partner for her, tells me its fine that I can't, what can I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/cats
TITLE: Need advice about finding a friend for a lonely older cat
POST: Hi r/cats!
I am coming to you today on behalf of my mother; one of her cats passed two weeks ago at the age of 11 and her other cat - a 12-year-old boy who has never been an only child - is incredibly lonely. He cries at night and wanders the house looking for his sister, and when my mom goes to work every day she feels terrible leaving him alone without a snuggle buddy.
She wants to get him a companion but isn't sure if she should be looking into a kitten or an adolescent or a grown-up cat or what. I figured I would pose the question to the experts and see what you come up with.
Thanks!
TL;DR: | one cat died, other cat (male, 12, never been alone) is very lonely. What should we do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [20M] I want to have sex yet don't want to force my girlfriend [18F]. She gave me a timeline for when she'd be ready "before our junior year." I don't think I can wait that long.
POST: So my girlfriend and I have been talking about when we are going to have sex. A little background first:
*We have been dating for a year and a half.
*We are in a LDR.
I know I really like her. She's amazing she's smart, funny, and cute. So, we were talking about which one of our friends have had sex, and all of them had. I stupidly feel in competition with my friends (I know I shouldn't but I do.) So I asked my girlfriend when she wants to have sex, and she didn't know, but she gave me a timeline saying, "Let's say before our junior year of college." And I don't know if I can wait that long. It's two freaking years at minimum. I want to respect her decision but I don't know how I will.
Am I overreacting? If I am overreacting how do I deal with this? Can someone put this in perspective for me?
TL;DR: | SO doesn't want to have sex. I do. She gave me a timeline. I don't know if I can do it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Is my employer poisoning me?
POST: I work at a small hotel as a valet. Our parking garage is located in our basement taking up almost the entire footprint of the building, which is a nearly hundred year old former apartment building. It's roughly 2,000 square feet with space for 32 cars. Other than the opening of a retracting garage door at street level, at the top of a ramp, there is a 2'x4' window that is propped open at about a 30 degree angle. That's it.
I have overheard random comments about the garage; for instance my dog had to spend an hour in my car and the manager was reluctant at first, casually mentioning that they weren't sure how safe it was.
I'm usually okay but at the end of my shifts towards the end of the week I feel lethargic, sleepy and develop a headache. I sneeze a lot more than normal while I'm here too.
Should I be afraid? My guess has always been that the hotel had to be inspected when it opened and this issue would have arisen.
TL;DR: | will having a 2'x4' window cracked open in an enclosed ~2000 sq ft parking garage keep me alive? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22m] with my gf [23f] 1 year, she has talked about her ex a lot
POST: Hey everyone, coming here with a question about my gf talking about her ex. I know the first advice is always talk about it, and we have but it is still on my mind so I'm here to talk about it.
Basically, she had an ex that she kept bringing up in random comments during our normal activities. Things like a time they went to her families cabin and having sex, meeting her parents, her parents opinion of him, taking plan b, lots of little things at random times. I know she's over him cause it was a while ago so I'm not worried about that, I just really don't want to hear these details at all.
This happened a few times and I told her it made me really uncomfortable. The first couple times she felt bad, but comments still came up. A few weeks ago I finally told her how much it bothered me and she felt terrible when she realized what was happening. So i know she's over him and loves me and feels bad about everything, but I still can't unhear the things. I'm also bothered that I asked her several times to be more aware but nothing really changed until now.
So I guess my question is how to get past hearing all these things after we've already talked about it but its still on my mind. We've talked about it a lot and she knows how much it bugged me and feels really bad about it, so I think now its just something I have to get past right?
TL;DR: | GF talked about ex too much, we've talked about it but it still bothers me. How to get past it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/Dogtraining
TITLE: Help! Crate training... again.
POST: My border collie/ lab mix Seamus is now almost 11 months old. We have had him since he was about 4 months old. Crate training him was SUPER easy. So easy that we really didn't have to do anything to train him. He loved his crate and we didn't have a problem until this past month. When we moved out of our 1 bedroom apartment into a 3 bedroom duplex. In the one bedroom we had his crate in the corner of the living room because it was the only way we could have it in there (we got a HUGE crate not knowing how big he would get).
When we first moved in we had him in the spare bedroom because we were still trying to get things organized. We knew he would probably be stressed from all the moving around so we expected some difficulties. He may be spent 3 days in that room. Since then he has had 3 weeks back in his crate which is in the living room. Every night is a struggle. There has been less whining when he first goes in at the start of the night, but he has been waking up in the middle of the night/early morning and barking. He does not stop barking. Just constant. It's usually somewhere between 2-4 AM. We tried just letting him bark till he tires himself out, but that just doesn't work at that hour. We don't want to let him out because we feel like that is reinforcing bad behavior. We usually go out and give him a "No Barking" command, and he might stop or he might not. Any other tips?
TL;DR: | Pup was great in the crate before move. Now a total cry baby at 4 AM. How to make it stop. |
SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: Goals Question During Interview
POST: I have a phone interview tomorrow for a one year position that may become permanent at the end depending on performance and their needs. Just getting out of grad school and looking for my first entry-level gig. I'm anticipating the "what are your goals?" question.
My "perfect world" goal is to get that great job in a great location with great pay and stay until I retire (which is this job if it lasts more than a year). I'm not even particularly concerned at this point about moving up the ranks or anything; just a stable, fulfilling position for 25-30 years or so.
I also have a more realistic goal after months of looking at jobs and realizing that most positions that I want require 1-5 years of experience. Now I'm thinking more along the lines of just taking whatever reasonable offer I get, at whatever location, and at whatever pay; stick with it for a few years for the experience; and then start being more picky about location and money.
The position that I am interviewing for potentially fits well into either one. Is it better, during the interview, to make it clear that I want to get in with this company and stay there? Or should I acknowledge that it's only a yearlong thing and I would be satisfied just having that experience to help me find something permanent?
Thanks!
TL;DR: | For a short-term position, is it better to tell them about my long-term or short-term goals? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20M] saw my ___ [20 F] girlfriend of one month snapchat another guy a picture of her breasts, what are my options?
POST: So I spend the night at her place, and this flash of light wakes me up. I startle and see her breasts out with her phone and I ask her what happened. She said she took a picture of her breasts. I ask where the picture is. She stammers and confesses it was a snapchat to some guy she met online. I tell her I'm not cool with that, she says it's perfectly ok to do, and I leave. When I get home she calls me and says how sorry she is, that it was wrong, and I said I needn't time to think. I'm not sure what to do.
TL;DR: | Caught gf sending a dirty snapchat. She said she's sorry. Should I stay with her or not? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Just found out the age of the girl i'm seeing
POST: Backstory:
I'm 20.
The other week, I met a girl at a party in a university residence. We get to chatting and hit it off. She tells me she's turning 19 this year (at least this is what I recall) and we proceed to spend the night talking/kissing. I decide this girl is cool so I pursue further. Go out a couple times, and I'm starting to really dig this girl. Then all of a sudden she drops a bomb. "Me and my siblings are 2 years apart... ...my older sister just turned 19." ???
What should I do... does the age difference become less weird as you get older, or does this still seem a bit strange? should I repost this to /r/jailbait with pictures? or should i confront her about it
TL;DR: | i'm 20 (21 in sept.). girl tells me she's 19. actually 17?! i'm too pretty for jail |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by asking the schwan man for blue bell
POST: This happened about a month ago.
I am at a friends house enjoying the patio furniture on a nice summer day. As we sit there chatting, the beloved schwan man, you know, the frozen food delivery guy that your great grandma had come around when you were a kid? Well, the guy us uber friendly and is normal stop at my buddies moms house. I proceed to ask this fine gentleman "Hey! Do you have any blue bell ice cream in there?" I had been hearing the radio jingle and have never had any of their ice cream before so I was very happy to ask. The gentlemen looks at me with the utmost disdain and says, "You do realize that is the equivalent to asking the pepsi guy if he has coke on his truck?" He then proceeds to explain how blue bell is their competitor (very kindly). I end up getting swindled into buying the schwan man ice cream toffee kind, and still havent had blue bell!
TL;DR: | Asked the schwan man if he had blue bell ice cream on the truck & is like asking coke guy for pepsi |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [29 M] with my GF [31 F] of 8 months - too much to stay around?
POST: My GF and I got together and were seemingly happy. We've had issues over this time mostly due to her past. She was a stripper that has herpes, and has been with over 150 men and been in very messed up sexual situations (4 guys at a time etc). It has always bothered me but I've been trying to "accept" her.
We moved in together March 20 and things were okay. But as time has gone on I've lost all interest in her in every way. I don't love her or want to spend time with her. She's kind of changed somewhat in that she isn't who I remember when we first met. She's angrier and more stressed out.
I just don't feel it anymore. Given her past and how I feel, I want to move on.
My questions are: how do I tell her? Who moves? We are both financially tight and we can't afford the apartment on our own so one of us needs to move or both into a roommate situation.
I'm not articulating well and I apologize. I'm very stressed in an emerssive training program and this is added stress I don't need right now at all.
TL;DR: | want to move on. Are my reasons valid and if so how do I tell her and split up and move on? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [16 M] want to date a girl [15 F] who only wants to have sex, often.
POST: I [16 M] recently met a Friend of my cousin's. We'll call her Marissa[15 F]. From the moment we met, She constantly wants to have sex. She doesn't seem too interested in dating. I want to date.
She isn't slutty, she doesn't act like that with anyone else and never acted like that at all prior to meeting me.
Im particularly frustrated because I am usually very good at reading people and knowing what they want but I'm stumped now. How should I try to convince her to go on a date without effecting our life in bed. Because the steady sex is pretty great
TL;DR: | I want to date a girl, she just wants to have sex. How do i convince her to go on a date or two? |
SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice
TITLE: HOW NOT TO BREAK A GIRL'S HEART ??
POST: Hi M 23 here .So here's the story , I met her about 2 years ago at a common wedding reception . At first sight I thought I was in love all I could think about was her . About a year later I finally had the courage to ask her out . She said yes we have been dating for about a few months . But here is the problem after dating her I realized our thoughts doesn't match , our priorities doesn't match nor does anything ... But before I could break up with her she says she is in love with me . After she confessed about her feeling I didn't have the heart to break up with her. Don't get me wrong she is almost perfect , she is kind , she is beautiful .... But the thing is I don't feel the attraction anymore . If I break up with her it will break her heart and I don't want to do that but then again if I stay in the relationship it would be a lie. I don't know what to do . I can't see her in pain neither can I see a future with her . Please don't hate me I tried everything I could but it just seems like I can't really connect with her . she is so gentle I fear if I tell her the truth it will devastate her . please help :(
TL;DR: | Thought I was in love realized I am not , can't break up because I don't want to hurt her feelings. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: My puppy tested positive for Giardia today. Advice/tips?
POST: I have had this dog for two months and her past is virtually unknown. I took her into the vet and had basic blood work / stool samples taken which all came up clean and well as a couple afterwards. I've pretty much been battling her loose stool / diarrhea since day 1. I started by switching food which helped for a couple of weeks then the diarrhea started up again about a week ago and she was becoming very lethargic. My nearly 7 month old pup was due for her last round of parvo so I waited until today to have her checked out (she didn't seem sick, just a tad lazier than normal). My normal vet wasn't there today who usually takes care of her and is such a nice lady, my dog LOVES her. Instead I had a grumpy old man who my dog was terrified of and he couldn't even complete the full physical exam. After telling him her symptoms and the time line he tests her for Giardia and sure enough it came up positive. He gave me Metronidazole and something to calm her stomach. Other then that I really had no idea what to ask him and was just uncomfortable with him in general. So i'm here wondering what else I need to do? I isolated my roomates cat, cleaned and scrubbed the water / food bowl, what now?
TL;DR: | Pup was diagnosed with Giardia, given meds and sent on my way. Anything else I need to know? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Leaving for Europe in for two months in August. What is a MUST see?
POST: In August my GF and I are going on a 2 month vacation to Europe. We are on a modest budget as we have saved for over a year and will be relying on those savings(about $25k combined). We are planning to land in Germany and stay in hostels and vacation apartments. We want to visit a few countries but don't want to spread ourselves too thin trying to see everything. We mostly plan to see a lot of Germany (definitely being there for part of Oktoberfest), The Netherlands (hope to contact family here), the UK, Ireland (GF has family in Ireland), France and perhaps weekends in Italy and/or Spain. Any suggestions, tips, warnings, or stories of your travels through Europe would be appreciated.
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TL;DR: | )- going to Europe for two months. Plan to go to Oktoberfest and travel. Looking for suggestions. |
SUBREDDIT: r/Parenting
TITLE: Parents of school age kids, at what age did they start to become a little more independent/imaginative with their play?
POST: I have a 2.5 year old and she really is great and quite independent for her age. However I am still wondering at what age children start to play independently for longer than 15 minutes without skipping to the next thing, dumping out all the toys in the entire room, or absolutely having to play while "helping" me. Don't get me wrong she is really great and I love having her help me with tasks, just not ALL the time.
When I put her in her room for nap time, often she just plays quite happily for an hour even two. I'm wondering at what age children will entertain themselves for an hour or two by choice. Don't get me wrong, even despite "terrible two's" she is an awesome and pretty easy going kid.
TL;DR: | what age to kids start to think "what mom's doing is boring, I'd rather play with my own stuff"* |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Does anyone around Maidstone, England, have a place for a homeless 17-year-old girl to stay?
POST: She recently got kicked out of home by her mother. She applied for a homeless shelter but since she was considered "high risk" due to mental health issues she was transferred to another one pretty far away, which won't have an availability for her for two months. During that time she will be homeless unless she can find someone to stay with. None of her friends will let her in. Please, if anyone can give her food and shelter for even a short amount of time I am sure she would be eternally grateful.
TL;DR: | IF YOU LIVE NEAR MAIDSTONE AND WOULDN'T MIND TAKING HER IN -> PLEASE COMMENT |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 F] with my non-existent dating life; dateable?
POST: I'm a tall, high i.q., russian, female. I'm always told that I'm beautiful/stunning/gorgeous and according to my friends and family i'm hilarious. My style is classy and sleek.
I am a virgin. I've rejected every guy that has tired to kiss me. I'm very busty and i'm very conscious of my breasts. I feel like they are much too large and that if a man sees me naked, he'll think they're repulsive.
I feel like i have to dumb myself down, lose the jokes, and be a completely different person when i'm around men, because they wont like me for who i am. My last bf was 2 years ago, for 4 months. He was happy in the beginning, but complained to his friends that i'm hard to keep up with.
Guys, would you date someone who is far advanced in her career (for her age) that usually caries the conversation in group settings and has caused people to pee from her humor?
Or is is someone you'd rather not deal with?
It seems like (in the russian community), guys would rather date someone who is duller, quieter, and is in general a "simple" gal.
TL;DR: | who would guys rather date? dull>quirky. bland>intelligent. seems like im not what guys desire. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24F] with my friend [26M] 1 monthish, doesn't want to say goodbye
POST: Basically the guy I was seeing for the past month rather abruptly informed me that he doesn't want to see me anymore because he doesn't want to get too emotionally attached. Backstory: I travel a lot for work, I spend a few months at a time in various places. Met this guy, we hit it off really well, but once I told him I was leaving in a few weeks it kinda went south. His logic is that he's had previous lovers leave before and it's hard on him so he didn't want to continue while I was still in town.
Which I totally get. But he doesn't even want to meet in person to say goodbye. There were a few instances of performance based problems in the bedroom (which I could care less about), so I figured that might be part of it but my instinct is he was simply seeing someone else and this was an easy cop out. At one point during one of those unfortunate incidences he blurts out that he was with someone else the night before and though nothing happened he felt bad about it... I just think it's kind of odd. It's very likely that I'll end up here again next year, and he said he wants to keep in touch, but I don't know. I feel like I'm being naive here.
TL;DR: | guy tells me he can't see me because he doesn't want to get attached, I feel like he's lying. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20F] with my defacto SO [23M] ofa few months, friends with a [17F] he slept with and I can't cope
POST: Essentially, they've been friends for a long time, and they've slept together a few times.
We've been together for about 2 months, with a 2 week break in between.
When he and I broke up briefly, she was right there with him, getting drunk and sleeping in the same bed because she said she was "too drunk to go home", but later hinted that it was a ploy to get in his pants.
She has always fantasized over him because he is older, and he was her "knight in shining armour" when her life was dark. I understand that and don't blame her.
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They're good friends now (apparently platonic, although she has told me that he keeps flirting and making passes, but she "respects the relationship too much to hurt me". (Which just makes me think that if i wasn't here, she's be all over him like bees on honey.)
She's otherwise a lovely person, and I feel awful for feeling this way, but I just can't be okay with it, no matter how hard I try to just get over it. What should I do?
Keep trying to bite my tongue? say something? continue drinking?
TL;DR: | she wants him, he's wanted her in the past, and I can't keep biting my tongue. what can i do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: How can I find better friends? Or do I have excessive expectations?
POST: I'm in a weird place in life as far as friendships go. I'm a big believer in the idea that who you surround yourself with has a huge impact on yourself and your life.
I had several friends in high school that I admired greatly and considered excellent people.
I started school at an engineering university and joined a fraternity. Made some pseudofriends (people I enjoy spending time with that aren't particularly exemplary individuals; wouldn't want to get super close). Frat sucked, quit.
I'm in my last semester in senior year and don't really have anyone outside of family that I'm really close to.
I have plenty of friends, but they're people to hang out with, not people to get close to. Lots of petty drama. Most of them are just.. "fake" I guess. Way more worried about perception than being good people.
I don't think it's a socialization issue; it's more an issue with finding the right people to socialize with.
As I get older I feel more and more like the only places to meet new people are bars (I'm not a huge fan of drinking) or work.
At the same time, being at an engineering school, most people have pastimes like video games or on the other end of the spectrum drugs.
TL;DR: | where can I find good people to add to my life that aren't boring? Or maybe I'm just too picky. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by trading in CS:GO
POST: Yesterday I was thinking that I didn't had any FU while reading other people's FU'S, then I managed to fuck up.
I was just chillin at my desk and was trying to trade an item for another,
I don't know if you guys know that you can send "Trade Offers" so the people can acept latter when you're not at the computer.
Thats what I did, but because I'm a smart ass I sended my Offer without adding the other guy items, then i sended him my 100 $ items for free.
I added the guy and he sayed: Ty, bb.
Today I fucked up really well.
TL;DR: | Sended a trade offer only with my 100$ items on it, then the guy acepts it says ty bb. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend (27m) wants to invite his ex girlfriend (27f) and her boyfriend over to our place
POST: My boyfriend (27m) who I(27f) live with is trying to reconcile a friendship with his ex girlfriend(27f) who he dated for a year and a half. Him and I live together and I've told him that under no circumstance will I be comfortable with any of his exes coming over as it is my personal space as well but he says I have no right to tell him who he is allowed to have over. We've been together for a year and a half.
So, reddit, does his right to have company over trump my right to feel comfortable in my own home?
TL;DR: | bf wants ex gf to come over to our place, I don't want her there, who is in the wrong? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: When is it time to let go?
POST: 25M, 21F. 1.5 year relationship with lots of ups and downs.
Sex is great but communication is lacking. We've been on and off for the last 2-3 months.
I love her but the relationship just doesn't work. Some days I feel she is the girl of my dreams and that we should stick it out, communicate and fix our problems. Other days I recall past actions, issues and realize it may never be better (major issue from my side is that i see her as a compulsive liar and as a result I don't fully trust and respect her). On the other hand she does treat me very well (much better than I treat her)
This is my first "real" relationship. How do I know it's time to let go or to continue working on it?
TL;DR: | 25M, 21F, 1.5 years. On and off. How do I know it's time to let go or to continue working on it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by grumpily brushing off a stranger at 1am.
POST: Let me preface this by saying that I'm a tall (6') woman. I kinda stick out in a crowd.
This Fall I was supposed to go out to a campus bar with my friend. I went to a big 10 university (graduated) that isn't in a very big city, but you still see some weirdos around. Well, I'm not big on the bars anyway, but I said I'd go, so I put on a dress, did my makeup, and went out.
It's about a mile and a half from my house to the bars. I walked there, waited by myself for my friend to show up, and finally she texts me that she decided to go to her friend's frat party. No part of me wants to go to a sticky frat house to watch 18-year-olds get alcohol poisoning, so I finished my drink and started grumpily tromping on home.
I get about 20 feet from the bar when a group of people walks past me, one of whom is a kinda short guy wearing an eccentric outfit. He walks up to me and says, "Excuse me, do you sing or act?" The last thing I wanna do is talk to some weirdo at 1am, so I just say no and stomped off.
A few days later, one of my friends, an theater major, told me that a scout had come to one of her performance classes looking for movie extras. Immediately I think, OHHHHHHH fuck. She proceeds to describe the weird guy outside the bar at 1am.
Of course, I really *don't* sing or act, so it probably doesn't even matter that I missed my big hollywood break, but I'm still kicking myself.
TL;DR: | Coulda been a star, but I didn't talk to a rando so now I'm watching Netflix and posting on Reddit. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Is it normal for me [29 M] to be attracted to my wife's [29 F] mother [54 F]?
POST: I've been married to my wife for 6 years and have always got along great with my in-laws. We lived far away from them but we always got along when they visited us and we visited them. I always found my mother-in-law attractive, but recently we moved close to them and I've found myself more sexually attracted to her. It seems normal to be attracted to her since she looks like my wife and has a similar personality, and I hope it's a good thing because that means I'll still be attracted to my wife at that age, but I'm wondering how "normal" it is.
I definitely have no intention of a physical relationship with my mother-in-law, and would never cheat on my wife, but I sometimes masturbate thinking about her or looking at pictures of her. I just wanted to get other's experiences with these feelings and maybe some ideas for managing them, if you think they need to be managed.
TL;DR: | I'm sexually attracted to my mother-in-law but have no intention of acting on it. Is that common? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How to approach my boyfriend of 1.5 years [m31] about my [f21] STD when I think I got it from him?
POST: I had my yearly exam a few days ago, and I apparently have an STD. I've only had actual sex with my current boyfriend, and I know he hasn't cheated on me. But I also know he probably hasn't had an STD test since before he met me.
I've had "sex" with my ex boyfriend, but he had a Madonna-Whore complex with me and could never get hard. So he was technically inside me for a minute a couple of times, but never any real sex. Also condoms were used with him.
I don't know how to approach my boyfriend without sounding accusatory, but he needs to know that he probably has it too. Has anyone ever dealt with this? Should I contact my ex even though we never really had sex?
TL;DR: | I have STD but I've only really had sex with my current boyfriend. I don't know how to approach it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by getting hugged by my little cousin [NSFW]
POST: This just happened. My cousin's been having her festivities for her twelfth birthday downstairs at my place, and since almost everyone had left I grabbed the big bag of cheetos and took it up to my room. She comes up a couple minutes later wanting it back and gives me a hug. She turns her head, clearly to look at my laptop screen. Just around when she knocked, I had refreshed my Tumblr dashboard, and by a bad stroke of luck, the first image on my dashboard was hentai. Although she didn't say anything, she was rather quick to run back out of the room.
TL;DR: | Little kid comes to get a bag of chips back, sees hentai I didn't mean to have open at the moment. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] with my ex-girlfriend [18F] 4 years, she isn't interested anymore while there's another girl in my life
POST: Hello, I've been engaged with this girl since we were both 17 and 15 yo. We definitely had our good times and I'll always hold special memories of her.
But you know how it happens for first relationships, we both didn't know what we wanted from a partner, and one day, out of the blue she told me she didn't love me anymore.
That was 6 months ago. I've been trying to improve my life so far, cutting all contacts, meeting new people, hitting the gym, getting better grades and finding a part time job. Great isn't it?
Thanks to the help of a good friend of mine I've met another girl 2 months ago. She is sending me signals that he's interested in me. She's also very kind, a bit quiet and never been engaged. I started dating her one week ago. We both kissed yesterday and that's when hell started for me.
This night I couldn't stop thinking about my ex-gf. Thoughts like: I've cheated on her, I am not good enough for this girl, I'm giving her false hope and so on...
I know it's over, she told me it is, I should get over it but I feel so emotionally invested in her that I can't enjoy the company of the new kind girl. I feel like I'm letting get past me a good opportunity to definitely forget about my ex, but this girl is so into me and I'm scared she could see me through and understand how i feel.
TL;DR: | Broke up 6 months ago with ex-gf, still love her and can't enjoy the company of another girl I met. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: [M21] In a very tricky situation with [F19]
POST: Its quite a long story, but I'll give you the gist of it. I met this girl on this one encounter. We got on pretty well, with her showing signs of interest, however she seemed really shy (like I was when I had SA). Anyway, the next day I add her on facebook. Fast forward a month and we talk for a week on FB, and I reply to her message and at the end I ask her out for coffee. Now, this was Friday. It is now Tuesday. It seems like she has missed my message (not seen it) but not coming up on her notifications. (FB does timestamp when you've seen a message). She still hasn't seen the message, and I'm 100% sure becuase she has neither unfriended/blocked me or replied yes or no (hasn't seen it to).
There is no way to see the whole message and the ending where I ask her out just by glancing at the message notification box. Also I know she has been on facebook as she periodically comes up as online on messenger. Plus, I had asked her out before on fb, mentioning that I forgot to get your number and whether you want to go out some time etc, but it seems like she hasn't seen that either. She is a nice girl and would like to go out with her, but I just don't know what to do now...
TL;DR: | Met a girl, talked a bit on facebook, asked her out, she hasn't seen the message after a few days. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Calling all ReddI.T.ers, please help me become an I.T. guru while bedridden..
POST: Due to health reasons (please don't ask as I'm still trying to get to grip on it all) I'm going to be literally bedridden for at least the next 6-12 months. I've had to defer uni (B. I.T.) and life for now, but I still want to learn. I know I don't want to go in to web design, gaming or heavy programming (maybe a little if it's needed). I like the idea of networking or system admin, but I'm not sure how to get that "hands-on" experience while stuck in bed. Can you recommend any books, sites, virtual or online courses (preferably free, or at least worth it) that I can learn from? I'm in Aus if it helps.
TL;DR: | When I grow up, I want to be the "I.T. girl" managing a company's interwebz. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Had to put a medical bill on credit card; think it affected credit
POST: Hi all,
I was without a job after graduating graduate school for nine months, but finally got a job in February. Toward the end of the unemployment, I ran into a few medical issues that had to be taken care of sooner rather than later. I was also running out of money.
In order to pay the last medical bill, I put it on my credit card since I was worried I wouldn't be able to make rent next month, but was in talks with my now boss to negotiate a contract (so I knew it wouldn't be long at all till I'd be able to pay it off, but not soon enough that I wouldn't have to pay another month's rent). The charge was only 250, but my credit card only had a limit of 500 at the time.
I paid it off as soon as I could, but when I recently went to apply for another credit card, I saw on the results for their check up on me something eluding to the fact that I had a heavy charge on one of my balances. I fear that this affected the rate they gave me.
So, my question is this: is there any way to check up on this, and to correct it? I mean, I paid it off pretty quickly. I'm scared this will affect my credit in the future.
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TL;DR: | Had a heavy charge on a credit card; seems to be affecting my credit, not sure how to fix it). |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Hey Reddit, what's the best way to go about asking for a raise?
POST: I'm a college student working part time (~20 hr/wk) at a mom and pop Gamestop equivalent. Right now I'm making minimum wage doing trade-in and the general retail thing. The store in located in my hometown, which is about 25 miles from the college I'm attending. At my current pay, I'm barely making enough money to pay for gas and all my other bills. I know that I am an extremely valued employee based on my boss's words and actions, and I love my job and want to keep it; but in order to do so I really need a raise. If I could simply work more I would, but my course load prevents that. Whats the best way to ask for a raise so that I get the most pay without being rude or unthoughtful?
TL;DR: | How do ask for a raise in a way that doesn't offend my employer, but gets me a good bump up in pay? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Customer came in to pay a bill. He has shingles. I've never had chickenpox. Am I going to die?
POST: He comes in and hands me a wad of cash. I count through it and get ready to put it in the register when he starts talking with some other people here about how he has shingles. I stand there, cash in hand looking at him talking to the other ladies and verify that he currently has shingles. He says yes so I put the money down and was like "uh oh, I've never had chickenpox". He says his doctor said it's not transferable. I told him I heard otherwise years ago when a friend had shingles. I couldn't be around her. So, I put the money down and told my boss to deal with the money and went and washed my hands. Looked it up online and yep, somebody with shingles can give somebody chickenpox who has never had chickenpox.
TL;DR: | Dude with shingles came in. I handled his cash. Ive never had chickenpox. Am I going to die? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by wearing my thermal socks while sick
POST: First mistake is I love candy. And February to April just so happens to be my favorite candy season. Why? Mofuckin jelly beans. Best candy ever.
I tore open my first bag of the season and had a field day. Wake up a few hours later feeling miserable. It is cold as fuck in my house so I put on my fleece socks and I head to the bathroom. "Shit! I can't shit." So I stand up and face the toilet. It's coming.
Instinct takes over. My body rapidly throws its head downward towards toilet. "HHHWUUUUAAAAA.." Still coming out. I spread my legs slightly to get even lower. This is where I go full fuck up. My cozy socks slip on the tile floor. I go straight into the splits and land directly on my tailbone. Throw up comes right down with me and gets all over my body and everywhere except the toilet. Blood curdling screams were heard.
I still feel sick. And I now have to put ice in between my legs, right next to my balls.
TL;DR: | hHHWWAAUUUAAAA.OUHHH OH AHHHH MY GOD FUCK ME.. FUCK ME!!! MOTHERFUCKER SHIT!! |
SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice
TITLE: What is she after?
POST: First of all, I should state that I am a very socially inept guy and I am horrible at picking up on signals and hints from everyone...ever, even at the age of 30. Anyway, for four years I worked at a local college and during the course of that became very recognizable to many of the students I helped. Fast forward to today and I am still working with the public and I occasionally see someone who recognizes me from my previous job.
Last week a student I helped many times comes in (who is now 23 and has graduated and has moved onto Grad School) and starts to talk to me. Nothing odd or out of the ordinary at all.
Since she found out that I work there she has been coming in every day and starting up long conversations with me on her lunch breaks. Then today she asks if I am doing anything for lunch or dinner tomorrow. Also, she asked me if I was seeing anyone (I'm not).
TL;DR: | I am an idiot and I don't know whether a 23 year old woman out of my league is hitting on me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: Running form advice for a former sprinter?
POST: Hi, Runnit! I just started running distance earlier this year, had my first half in September and have been keeping up the miles. After looking at my running photos for multiple races, I realize that I seem to plod along and never really pick my feet up off the ground. Video analysis has confirmed this, and I just move from the knees down. I was a sprinter/hurdler through high school and college, and have to wonder if this has any impact on the way I currently run? As you can see in the photos, when coming in to the finish I revert to more of a sprinter's stance versus a distance one. I have viewed the Good Form running website, and try to follow all of their steps, but nothing seems to help! Any advice?
TL;DR: | I run like a 800lb boxer, or so I've been told. Trying to get that fluid look. Tips? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What random acts of violence have you seen, been a part of, or been victim to?
POST: I only have a couple examples, none of which are very interesting.
One time i was walking to work and a guy leaned out of his window and threw something at me. It hit me on my leg. I turned around and tried to see who it was but he was back in the car and just kept driving. When I looked down I saw that I had been egged.
Another time I was at a party with some friends. We were sitting on the porch when a guy came up and said that the party needed to end because it was too loud. When my friend told him that he didn't live there but he could go talk to the people who did, the random guy punched him in the face repeatedly, breaking his nose and then ran off.
TL;DR: | i got egged in the legged once and my friend got the shit kicked out of him for no apparent reason. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, I need help regarding a Dismissed Summons in NY
POST: Hi, Reddit. My girlfriend (20 years old) and I got summons for criminal court a few months ago and I was told that nothing would be sent to our homes so that our families wont find out. She comes from a strict family and her father loves reading her mail (Daddy issues). So fast forward to today, she gets a letter saying she is dismissed from criminal court and the case is sealed. Her father obviously is the one who opened up the letter and is going to call the court on Monday to find out what the letter was referring to.
So my question is, can he inquire to the court about what the summons was about? Would they tell him? Or is it really confidential?
PLEASE REDDIT HELP ME.
TL;DR: | GF got summons, doesn't want nosy dad to find out. Will they give him the information if he calls? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I (F20) tell my ex (M21) that I have a new bf?
POST: I (F20) don't know how to tell my ex (M21) that I have a new bf. Throwaway since my ex knows my username.
Backstory: My ex (John) and I were together for 3 years. At the end of it it wasn't very good, I tried breaking up two times during our last 6 months together. However, he was good at convincing me that I shouldn't. About two months before finally breaking up with John, I met a boy (Connor). We got along so well, and of course, I fell in love. I didn't say anything to anyone, broke up with my ex, and then tried to be just friends with Connor. When he heard about me breaking up with John, though, he told me how he felt about me and we couldn't stop it. Just a few weeks after breaking up with my ex, I had a new bf.
Anyway, that was six months ago, and my ex and I are on friendly terms, but I just don't know how to tell him. He suspected that I had feelings for Connor, but I told him I didn't, and I worry about his feelings. How do I tell him gently? Do I just update my relationship status on fb?
Sorry about formatting and grammar. I'm on mobile.
TL;DR: | My ex and I broke up six months ago, still on good terms, but how do I tell him I have a new bf? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What is your most out-of-control drunk moment? I'll start. (Possibly NSFW?)
POST: Freshman year of college, I got invited to two parties on the same night- one that I really wanted to go to, and one that I didn't want to go to, but my friends did. So I stopped by the one my friends wanted to check out and tried to cram in a couple hours of partying into like half an hour. Drank three cups of veeery strong jungle juice, felt sick, puked, felt better, decided to keep partying.
Party number two, we play a drinking game where the loser takes a shot. I lost five times in a row (in maybe fifteen minutes) and, needless to say, was shitfaced, so when a friend suggested we put on togas, I was all for it. I snagged a sheet from him and tied it on, when he commented that my bra ruined the effect and I should take it off. Drunk as I was, I agreed.
The next couple hours are lost to me. Apparently I was completely coherent the whole time, other than a couple flashing incidents, and went all over campus visiting people. Finally, around 2 AM, a friend found me passed out on the quad, toga askew, near a group of people. He carried me home, where I vom'd for the rest of the night.
TL;DR: | Got black out drunk, wound up passed out in the grass in a toga when there was no toga party. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I suspect my boyfriend [19] might have tried to cheat on me (F[18])
POST: Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 6 months now and I would say that we're both pretty into each other. But the other day I was told by his ex-girlfriend's best friend that he tried it on with her whilst I was at work. She claims that he was upset and his ex-gf went over to cheer him up (She has a partner herself) and he tried, and failed, to get with her. She apparently is upset by this, and I am quite worried too. By things that he has said to me on that day, I can tell she was with him. But he hasn't acted any differently and is still his loving self so I'm doubting the truth of this statement. Could it be her making things up to stir up our relationship?
I really like him despite being together for a short period of time and I have been cheated on in the past. But I don't know whether to ask him or just leave it completely. I'm worried that it could escalate further. Any advice, reddit?
TL;DR: | Boyfriend tried to get it on with an ex-girlfriend but she refused him and told me. What do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18 M] think the girl [18 F] I've been seeing on and off for a few months is ashamed of me.
POST: I have been seeing the same girl on and off for a couple months now and she is afraid to make it anything official. This doesn't necessarily bother me, but it seems like anytime we're in public she's very distant. She's also very hesitant to tell anyone that we're seeing each other, and never invites me to social events with her. Anytime I've brought this up she usually just declines that she's done any of that. I've already backed out of this situation once because of this but she begged that I comeback. I genuinely care about her more than I have anyone in a long time, but I can't tell if being with someone I care about a lot is worth feeling like she thinks I'm not good enough to be seen with her. How do I handle this?
TL;DR: | I think a girl I've been seeing for a few months is ashamed of me and I don't know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my partner [20 F] 1 year, i dont know if i should give up
POST: well me and my girlfriend have been going out for ages now, and i really do love her lots .. and she loves me lots sometimes, but she has major anxiety issues and it gets her a little down sometimes and she gets mad at me and tells me she wants to leave me in those periodswhich i can handle, but its the fact that she deletes all her messages she sends to other so i cant see them and hides her snapchat from me
then she freaks if i get onto her snapchat .... she has told me that she has sent a nude to another guy and that she sometimes wants to leave me ..... normally i spose i would have just left her straight away cause she cheated and she might again.. or probably will.. but i really do love her so much :( ... she's an amazing girl and we have planned to live together soon... i actually cant put into words how much i want her even though she has hurt me and cheated .... and also the fact that i am pretty lonely withought her and dont know how ill find another girl like her again .... i just dont know if i should leave her or stay
when things are going good they are so good and its the best times of my life, but i just dont know if its worth it, or i dont know if ill find someone else like her
TL;DR: | She has sent nudes or innapropriate messages , but she sill loves me and i her.. should i stay |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23 F] had a one night stand after my [24 M] of 11 months and I broke up due to distance. Back together. Tell or not?
POST: Throwaway.
My SO and I (nearly a year together) were long distance for 3 months, but it didn't work out. Communication breakdown and no end to the distance in sight, we broke up. When I say 'broke up', I mean that we both agreed to end it and said our goodbyes.
That night I had a drunken one night stand the night we broke up (I know this is awful). I take full responsibility for it, I made a terrible choice and regretted it immediately. A couple days later circumstances changed, and distance is no longer an issue. He was keen to try things again, and I agreed.
I saw the breakup as permanent, he saw it as temporary. Which means, I cheated, there's really no other way of putting it. He would be devastated if he knew.
It has been two weeks of us trying to work things out and I haven't told him. I wanted to spare him the pain and humiliation in case we were breaking up for good. I really want to continue the relationship, as does he.
We are pretty much back together. The one night stand was a one-off and will not happen again. Should I tell him or not?
TL;DR: | ScumbagSally broke up with bf, then had one night stand. Back together. Tell or not? |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Taking a job versus traveling and being happy... ADVICE?
POST: Graduated from a Masters program last August.
I quit my job and started traveling a month after (I'm 27).
Get home in January to where I left off, only I had no job, no school, and no money to float on. I had to move back in with my parents. Fast forward to last week. I find out I'm accepted into an English teaching program in Europe that starts in October. And today, I'm offered a full-time, benefited, salaried position (pays $48k) with a national research firm about a ten minute drive from where I've grown up my entire life. Long story short, I've basically accepted both offers.
If I take this teaching position in Europe, I'll have to come up with funds to get me to Europe and to stay afloat out there for a month or two (~4k), but it will be absolutely awesome. If I take this full-time position, I'd lose out on going to Europe and would have to shell out money for a new place to live, but I'd make some money to either save for traveling or pay off my debt.
I just don't know what to do.
Oh, to cap it off, two of my best friends from home are moving out of state.. big time suckage.
TL;DR: | Take full-time, salaried job close to home OR take a leap and teach English in Europe for scraps? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22F] am jealous of BF's [20M] ex [21F] and can't stop looking at her social media.
POST: My BF [20M] and I [22F] have been together 7 months. Previous to our relationship, we were best friends. When we first met in Summer 12' he was dating his now ex [21F]. His ex cheated on him several months later and he broke up with her. Flash forward to this past summer when we realized we were perfect for one another and fell in love.
Here's the thing: I cannot stop thinking about her or their past. I'm jealous of it, and I stalk her on social media. She seems like she was a much cooler person than I am, and she was quite thinner, too. I don't know why I can't stop wondering what her life is like or comparing her to me. I've been trying not to do this because it's toxic, but I can't help it, and I've never been jealous before.
Does anyone have any suggestions on how to quit this? I don't want my bad habit of checking up on her to be an issue in our relationship.
TL;DR: | BF broke up with his ex over a yr ago, and I can't stop stalking her online. Jealousy issues. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my mother [45 ish F] Relationship is 21 years old. She is upset with me because of something I said.
POST: Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.
This morning I told my mother that once I leave home she probably wouldn't see me again because we don't get along and when i told her this she freaked out and got mad and upset. The reason i said this is because we don't get along at all and I don't see the point of continuing a relationship that neither of us gets anything out of. How should I deal with this with out further upsetting her? I only need a temporary solution to this problem, but any kind of help will be appreciated.
TL;DR: | Mum got mad when I told her that I wasn't going to see her after I leave, what should I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: iPhone question here
POST: Okay Reddit, here's the scoop:
Monday: Suddenly got an iPhone on Monday from AT&T. It was a refurb'd 3GS (free!), but wasn't updating in the store when they hooked it up to their laptop. Took it (and the old phone) home anyways, in hopes that tomorrow they could fix it.
Tuesday: Took it in again; Tech at AT&T and sales rep both couldn't get the thing to update, getting a 1030 error. Got it home, managed to get it working, but apparently iPhone decided it needed ANOTHER system restore and reset itself. Was sad, but decided to talk to Best Buy coworkers that night.
BBY coworkers say either take it to Apple Store (wee bit to far away) or take it back to AT&T and get a new one.
Today: AT&T guys says the only thing they have in stock is a 3GS (I got a 3G) which will cost me ~50$, called over to another store and is having it brought over to their store for me tomorrow.
TL;DR: | got a non working, refurb'd iPhone 3GS; should I have to pay for the 3GS phone they're offering? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I [21 F] just found out my boyfriend [25] of 1 year called an escort for sex
POST: Last night he got a text from a number saying "hi". He said he didn't know the number. We were laying in bed and I had his phone, so I jokingly replied hi back. The next text back was the person saying "hey babe want to meet"? My heart sunk but he still denied knowing the number. Fast forward to tonight, I texted the number and found back that the number was an escort. She said that he had called wanting to have sex, but nothing happened.
I don't know how to approach him about this, but I want to and will. I feel guilty because I have been depressed and not wanting intimacy from him. And I guess I just need someone to talk to...
TL;DR: | Found out my bf called an escort wanting sex, but never went through with it (as far as I know...) |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22F] got used and dumped by my ex [25M] 2 years ago, I never really told him how I felt, his friends defended him
POST: He was my first, it lasted some months, and it was great for me. Suddenly, out of nowhere, one day he decides he "doesn't really know what he wants, he's lost in life, he's not sure" etc. and that "we should break up". I was depressed for weeks, because I couldn't understand.
He had told some mutual guy friends that I was "the one" and that it was "serious" in order to push them out of the way. He used me, dumped me, and left.
Thing is, I'm going to have a party (in truth, joining a pary with another person, who invited him without my knowledge, because THEY are friends somehow). I never got the chance to tell him how much he hurt me, and all that stuff. I found out a few months ago he's been with 20 or more girls, just for sex. I felt sick. His friends have always been on his side, defending him by saying that he went through some things in the past, which other girls did to him, as if this was some kind of justification! I don't know what hurts more, this attitude, or what he did.
I want to tell him a few things, and then tell him to never go anywhere I am, and to never bother speaking to me again. Is it too late? What should I even do/say? I am still going, because afterall the party is half mine, and whoever me and my friend invite are welcome.
TL;DR: | Got dumped, friends defended the guy, I'm going to conjoin a party and he's invited. How to act? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17M] with my girlfriend [16F] of 1.5 years
POST: (Sorry for bad grammar)
So my girlfriend and I had a conversation some time ago about when you have crossed the line when it comes to cheating, and i told her that i wouldn't be okay if she kissed with another girl, and that I would consider it cheating, she then accepts how i feel and agreed not to kiss with anyone else than me.
After some month we where to a party together and she then asks me if she can kiss with other girls, and i would be okay with it, i then said okay and that she from now on was allowed to kiss with other girls.
But then i found out she alredy had kissed one of her friends before i said it was okay, and she is saying it isn't cheating because she isn't a lesbian, and i later on gave her permission.
TL;DR: | i told her i didn't want her to kiss another girl, she then did it and later i gave her permission |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: What would you do? (US)
POST: Hello, looking for some ideas to help me in the future. Short story is my fiancé and are getting married next year, then we plan on having kids about 5 or 6 years after that. When we have kids we would like to buy a home here in NYC. Until then, I'm not sure what to do with our savings. We have a 6 month emergency fund, are fully contributing to our 401ks, no debt, and are saving about $1800 every month. We've got about 80k more than that which we would like to turn into as much money as possible in 6-7 years. What would you do? Some of the money is currently invested, most is not. I'm hoping to hear some outside the box type ideas, I'm not risk averse, just would like to hear something other than index funds which is the obvious safe choice.
TL;DR: | looking for some creative ideas for turning 80k into more money in 6-7 years, risky or not. Thanks |
SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: job searching and timing? can't start asap?
POST: Hi! So my situation is that come Aug, my contract for my first job will have ended and I will be jobless. Mid-August til Sept I need to travel overseas for family reasons, and will be MIA for ~3 weeks.
Now this job I have now, I am looking internally as well, but the timing is making it difficult for me to land a solid offer to transition into a new role. My question is when to start actively applying to jobs elsewhere when I know I have this 3.5weeks looming over my head come August?
I know it's harder to find a job without a job, but working around the timing is hard. I'm gonna send some cold emails to areas of interest, but since I can't start immediately not really sure what to do or how I should go about interviewing with this situation.
TL;DR: | when to start applying for jobs when i need to be mia mid-august to september? ~3weeks? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25M] with my GF [25F] of 5 years, how do i end it?
POST: As the title says, i have been with my girlfriend for 5 years now. We live together, and have lived together for about 3.5 of those years (financially it made sense but i think we rushed it looking back)
In this time she has gone from being someone i love deeply, to someone i don't enjoy being around any more. We seem to constantly bicker about everything and anything and I feel we have drifted apart.
Part of the issue I think is that she wants to get married, and i do not. I have vehemently stated that i DO NOT want to get married, and yet whenever it comes up she just says 'we'll see' It annoys me that she wants to change me. Now all her friends are getting engaged/married and i think she's trying to guilt me into it.
She makes me unhappy to be around most of the time, but I feel that our lives are now so intertwined that it's near impossible to end it (joint bank account, shared bills, no family local to her so mine is hers). I don't want to break her heart, I still care for her enough that i don't want her to be hurt. But I feel that if this relationship keeps going i'm only going to make myself more miserable.
What do i do? How do i go about this?
TL;DR: | I don't love my GF as i used to, feel we need to break up, how do i go about this? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Will LDR work with no end date?
POST: I've (25f) been together wit my SO (26m) for just over a year now, and we're reaching a point where I will probably have to leave the country (visa reasons) and he will stay. We are completely devoted to each other, and have discussed our future. The issue is neither of us an in a position to be able to feasibly take the next step. This is his home, I came to study. I'm concerned about LDR as i've seen what it has done to couples, and I don't want that to happen to us, especially since our relationship has been awesome till now and would probably be so if I stayed. Since i'll be going home, there's no time frame of how long i'll be gone, or i'll ever even be able to come back. Sure we might still visit each other and yes there is skype.... but is it really feasible to try **LDR** if its endless? It would leave us heartbroken if we broke up.
Should i give it a shot and see how it turns out? Or should we leave things in happy memories and try and move on? Thanks for all you're advice in advance!
TL;DR: | Deeply in love but moving away, don't know when/if I'll return, is LDR worth a shot? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Beeped in on a really bad conversation with my[M17] sister[F20] and her boyfriend[M20's]
POST: Not sure if this is the right place but it involves my sisters relationship?
Known her my entire life (she's older so yeah)
Ok. We recently got out of a family plan on our cell phones and haven't found a new provider so we're basically only able to make calls on the house phone right now. Earlier tonight, I picked up the phone to call a friend for a ride.
I didn't know my sister was on it and I would have started dialing had I of not heard her boyfriend screaming at her. He was saying things like, "If you don't talk to me, I'll snap your neck," or "Don't think I won't beat the shit out of you again," etc etc etc.
I know I should have hung up. Something. But I didn't. I listened for about 10 minutes before I couldn't take it anymore and slammed the phone down. She heard this and about five minutes later was in my room yelling at me for spying on her and that I can't tell our parents.
My question is, what do I do?! Do I go to our parents? She's an adult now, what can they do? I'm scared her boyfriend who she's only been with for about 4 months is beating her, or will beat her, and it terrifies me and makes me angry all at the same time.
When I told her I didn't like it, and asked if I could help, she told me to shut up and that it wasn't a big deal, but I'm really worried.
TL;DR: | Listened in on a convo my sister was having with her bf. He threatened to kill her, beat her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Hit Someone with Car - need advice
POST: throwaway account, but I need reddit's help. I was driving down a busy street, speed limit around 35-40 mph. I was driving the speed limit, and I wasn't drunk or high or anything. On this street, the sidewalks are completely covered with snow, and the snow comes almost a little bit into the lane. It was dark, and I didn't even notice the man until my friend screamed that there was someone on the side. So, I reacted and swerved the wheel left(the man was on my right) I had just clipped him with my mirror, and I got out and ran to him and asked if he was okay. I had never been in an accident before, so I had no idea what to do. All I did was exchange our phone numbers; he was a little reluctant to give me his information. He said he was a doctor and insisted that he was okay. He didn't want me to call an ambulance or anything. But, I still feel like I should report this to the police or my insurance. What should I do?
TL;DR: | I hit someone with my car. He said he wasn't hurt, and we exchanged numbers. What should I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: The Vanishing Boyfriend.
POST: I feel kind of stupid for doing this but here goes nothing.
We are in a r'ship of 3 years, both early 20's but very serious about each other (or so I thought) and he lives in a place where I can't just hop on a plane and see him. Last Sunday we had a minor tiff, and I left for the night. I try to apoligise, I didn't really think it was a big deal but he refuses to talk to me.
So I left him for a day or two, thinking that space would be good. He didn't come back so I sent him a text to make sure he was okay. He replies "I'm okay" and that's the last thing I heard from him 3 days ago. I've tried to give him space but today I've been trying to text/call him. (One text, one call) Refuses to answer. It's driving me mad.
He is prone to leaving, needing his own space for a few hours, sometimes a day or two. But we usually can talk it out. This time he just disappeared. He is definitely I don't know what this all means. He's due to move here in a few months so I'm wondering if it's nerves. He hasn't shown any signs of it before and before this things were more than fine so I don't think it is, but what do I know? Don't really know what to do either.
Help?
TL;DR: | My boyfriend disappeared a few days ago, he's fine just wont talk to me. Don't know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I know a girl likes me but she has a boyfriend. (First time, help!)
POST: So there's this girl I like who goes to my school, but she has a boyfriend. I'm like 90% sure she likes me as in the last month we have been texting and on fb. We always say hi and are always looking at each other in school. I have known her for a while (8 years) and I have liked her since around christmas. She has been dating the guy for 3 months but its long distance as he goes to another school, I have been kinda waiting for then and I'm not sure if I shoud tell her or not. Shes really nice but I think that she might not wanna break up with the guy because she doesn't know 100% about me. I've never dated and her first date is the bf. I'm really nerveous and I was also wondering how I could get her alone to talk to. Thanks for the advice on the first post :) Love Reddit!
TL;DR: | I'm think that a girl likes me but is too nervous to tell me and I don't know if I should tell her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I skipped on a test and my parents just found out from a call from my teacher. Reddit what have you done to get out of similar situations?
POST: So I skipped out on a test and after I did so I really regretted it. Even though my grade wasn't too bad with the test not being there it could of been better. But after I thought I was off the hook after a few weeks my mom got a phone call from my teacher saying that I skipped. Right now she is just trying to think of a punishment for me and all trust that I had with my teacher (the little I had) is now gone and I don't know what I should do to try to get through this. If you were in a similar situation as me please post. I just want to get through this time and I don't know what to do. Help Reddit!
TL;DR: | I skipped a test and my teach called my mom and now she knows, what can i do to ease the situation. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [19F] official for a month, need advice on various things
POST: We have been getting along really well, but there are some hiccups. From her side I'm her first boyfriend, so she doesn't totally know how to handle things, which is alright but she often worries about how I've had other people and doesn't like to talk about it, how do I convey that I like her and no one else, I've explained it but either she gets weirded out or she doesn't understand. She also has had trouble with anorexia, so eating foods with her or her being naked is a problem with her, how do I get over that with her or ideas on ways to alleviate it.
Finally from my side, I have more trouble with the sexual aspect of our relationship, honestly shes so pretty and beautiful that I get extremely nervous or I just want her to enjoy herself so much that I can't keep an erection, so then I get even more nervous and it compounds over several weeks. I also have problems with believing its real, like I seriously stress often about whether shes gonna dump me, when she really loves me and has personally said she wouldn't, we even have plans for the future and I still stress CONSTANTLY about it to the point of breaking down crying about it.
TL;DR: | She has anorexia/first time issues, I have performance/anxiety issues, Mehh help me please! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Girlfriend [22/f] can't stay off her phone when she's with me [21/m]
POST: Whenever we're out at dinner or something, she feels the need to check her e-mails, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram every few minutes.
I've tried to ask her to cut down on it, but she keeps doing it. So, fine, I try to deal with it.
But when she's out with others, like at a work function, she can't take the time to reply to my texts. I tried to ask her why it's okay to do it to me, but not okay to do it with others *for* me and she says there's a huge difference between checking your social networks and texting. I don't think there's a significant difference because the bottom line is: you're on your phone and it's disrespectful.
Then we reach a point in the argument where she just goes "Fine, I'll just throw away my phone when I'm with you." and we can't talk anymore. What am I supposed to do when she won't communicate with me to try to come to some sort of agreement??
To clarify: I would like her to not be on her phone when she's with ANYONE as I feel it is disrespectful to the other party. But since she's so adamant about it, she could at least answer me, even a quick "important dinner. might not be able to respond".
TL;DR: | Girlfriend is always on her phone when out with me. Never on it for me when she's out with others. |
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