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SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27F] with my BF [29M] 4 years, says can't commit to me but has "intention to commit". What does that mean?
POST: Edit:
Sorry left out some information and context. The way he explained to me is that he is fully committed to me right now and cannot be more committed if he wanted to. But on the subject of marriage (more commitment) he has intention to commit but cannot commit right now. I believe that's what he said... Is that a fair comment and am I reading too much into it?
hi all
So I've been with S for almost 4 years and we have our share of ups and downs in our relationship but overall happy. We've been through a lot. And recently on the subject of commitment he says he is not ready to commit to me but has the intention to commit to me. I don't know if I'm reading too much into it.
A male perspective would be great. Thanks
Oh and S is a super serious type of person who won't say things lightly. I'm not sure if its something i should be worried about?
TL;DR: | not sure what "can't commit" but "intent to commit" mean. Am I reading too much into it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [28 M] find my GF [31F] of 3 years very insecure that I might break up with her.
POST: So my GF of 3 years is very insecure. She needs to know who i'm with and what i'm doing i'm doing 24/7. I finally got fed up when she told me if i were to go out with my friends there better not be any girls. So i went out with my guy friends to eat and one of my friends brought a girl he was talking to. I didn't think it was a big deal, told her who i went out with and she flipped out because there was a girl. She got upset with me because i didnt take myself out of the "situation" when I thought there was no problem.
She's been insecure since we've been together. Shes gone through my phone and seen my "guy texts" and blames that for the additional insecurities. I did find out early in the relationship that she was talking to a guy via FB and settled that problem.
I don't know what to do anymore. Ive tried staying home with her to save myself the drama from going out and i'm just at the point I want to end it. I love her and she has other great qualities, even was thinking of proposing. But this situation has put that to a halt and dont know what to do now
TL;DR: | GF is insecure, its driving me crazy, how do i help her? if i cant im just going to end it |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [20M] friend [20M] is upset he didn't get any money from returning empties. Am I wrong?
POST: I often host parties at my house, and over the span of about a month collected what turned out to be $30 worth of empties. My friend, C, will attend every party I host. He said that I'm being greedy keeping all of the money for myself, and I should have split it with him, or at least bought some beer to share.
I'm always stuck with cleanup. He can take his containers home at the end of the night, but he always leaves them laying around. As such, I don't feel that I'm obligated to share any of the money. My house, my cleanup, my empties. Am I wrong?
TL;DR: | Friend wants portion of money from empties as he often attends my parties. I said no. Am I a dick? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU and kicked a weeaboo in the cooch
POST: So I play girls' soccer, alright? This stupid girl from the other team ran into me when I was about to kick the ball hard and thrust into my leg. I couldn't stop myself… My foot went right in her groin. She dropped, and started to roll in the grass, covering her vag.
That's when she started to swear at me… in Japanese. "Kutabare!" "Kuso kurae!" We're both white and she calls me a baka gaijin. She didn't even pronounce it right! (I know because I'm a closet weeb. Shhhh!)
I apologized a lot... but as bad as I felt, it was kind of funny. Gomenasai, otaku-chan!
I got a penalty because they didn't believe it was an accident. The kicked weeaboo girl also got benched with an ice pack for a while and stared daggers (or katanas?) at me the whole time.
TL;DR: | I accidentally kicked a weeaboo in her omanko and it wasn't kawaii. Now suddenly I'm an ijiwaru! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I(27f) get this guy(21m) I've been friends with for 3ish years to notice that I'm interested in him..
POST: Help me /r/relationships. Sorry for any typos, I'm typing from my phone. Throwaway for reasons.
I can't figure this guy out... We've been friends for a few years now. And I can't stop thinking about him. He's funny, kind, a good listener and his body omg, his body is just so nice to look at, I just want to ravage him.
During the time I've known him, he's had one gf and she cheated on him. That was over 6 months or so ago. He took it pretty hard, but seems to have recovered and is always smiling/joking when I see him. Also, He text me nearly everyday. He's the one asking me hang out all the time, and most of the time it's just him and I.
He just doesn't responding to any signals I'm giving him. I've haven't asked him directly yet... Because I've never really approached a guy before.. And when I think I have the courage to go for it, I always back out at the last minute. Plus, what if he isn't interested.. I don't want to scare him away because e I do enjoy hanging out with him
TL;DR: | Help me me figure this guy out. I'm really, really into him. But, he doesn't seem interested. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Am I [20/F] too suspicious ?
POST: My bf [26/M] is a photographer and yesterday I [20/F] brought him w/me to the anniversary of marriage of my uncles to work.
He is convinced that I've brought him w/me just to present him to my family and not to work, but it is not true because my aunt knows his talent and hired him for the party.
Btw he was paid for the job done and today he bought me smth that costs a little more than he earned yesterday saying I deserve it.
I am sure he has done this because he doesn't accept to be paid by my family for his work.
Am I too suspicious? Should I just accept? How should I act ?
I feel terribly guilty about this expensive gift, he never did smth like this 4me.
TL;DR: | bf spends 4me the money he earn from my family just because he doesn't agree to be paid by them. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22, M] hate and am terrible at flirting.
POST: Pretty self-explanatory. I'm not a big fan of flirting, for a couple of reasons:
1. There's something about it that is sort of passive-aggressive in nature. By that I mean you're hinting at what you're trying to pursue with the person you're flirting with, without just outright saying it.
2. I'm awful at it. I don't at all have the self-confidence to be forward about my feelings, and I have a tendency to get tongue-tied and nervous (not in a sitcom way as much as just a slightly debilitating way) when trying to have a conversation with a girl I find attractive and interesting.
Really, I just need some tips. How do you find the balance between making your intentions clear and being forward without coming on too strong and freaking them out? I rarely, if ever, have others flirt with me, so I have no real concept of what works and what doesn't.
TL;DR: | I'm bad at flirting, and don't like doing it because I'm bad at it. How the hell does it work? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22/F] with my boyfriend [29F] of one month, worried about age difference and places in life.
POST: I'm 22, boyfriend is 29. He's the most perfect, kind man I could ever ask for. I love him, and I see serious long-term potential with him. We both have very similar goals for the future.
However, I just graduated from college and I'm starting grad school. I just moved out on my own for the first time. I moved two hours away from both him and my family. This is all very new for me.
How do I make sure that this relationship doesn't stunt my growth in any way? Obviously, I want to grow *with* him, but I'm so worried about becoming someone I wouldn't have just because I'm dating a man who has "been there, done that."
Does anyone else have any experience or advice?
Thanks!
TL;DR: | Age difference between my boyfriend (29m) and I (22f) causing concerns due to where I am in life. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What's your best, "How Did You Think You'd Get Away With That" Story? I'll Start.
POST: So, when I was in 6th grade, there was an 8th grade girl who was notorious for being a slut. Everyone knew it, and she did too, and everyone let it slip, because she was hot. We had an out-of-uniform-day, and she wears something slutty, but that's not the funny part, that was the sexy part. The funny part, is that for some reason, she thought it would be totally normal to draw dicks all over herself in Sharpie. So she walked around all day with dicks draws all over her. When asked, if believe she said that she got bored in 1st period and started drawing them. Needless to say, a teacher stepped in and she was punished. I admit that I was surprised that she went almost 5 periods before being punished.
TL;DR: | Slutty girl drew dicks all over herself when bored in 1st period, expected to not get in trouble. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: [Help] Fish Oil Dosage Questions
POST: Hey r/dogs!
I'm looking to start my two 45lb mutts on fish oil soft gels (will likely purchase from Costco). How many mg should be administered per day?
They're fed rotationally on Fromm Surf & Turf/Duckenpfeffer, Zignature Zessential, and whatever decent grain-free kibble I can find for sale on Chewy.
Should I alter how many caps I give them based on the food I feed, or will the food contribution be negligible?
My goal is to see if their slight year-round itchiness subsides as well as to improve the shine of one of the girls' coat. How long might it be before I should notice improvement?
TL;DR: | How many mg of fish oil for a 45lb slightly itchy/dull-coated dog? Thanks in advance! |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I think that some close friends snubbed me. What should I do?
POST: This might seem like making a mountain out of a molehill, but I honestly think something is wrong here.
These friends of mine, a couple I have known for years, didn't invite me to their party (I know how minor that sounds). It was the female's birthday, and apparently many of our mutual friends were invited, except for me. We are all part of the same small group of friends, and I'm surprised that I didn't hear about it. I have known the couple for 11 years (we are all about 30). The boyfriend was my roommate in college, and I lived with the both of them for two years (2005-07).
I have hung out with them twice recently, once at Thanksgiving (when I invited them to a bar for drinks), and again at New Year's, when they invited me to their house for a small gathering of friends.
I found out about it on FB. I had mentioned something about the weekend, and a mutual friend of ours asked me why I wasn't at the party? I was like, what party? After that, the mutual friend has been silent, like she gave something away I wasn't supposed to know.
I know this all sounds silly, but I really feel like something is amiss. What should I do?
TL;DR: | good friends of mine didn't invite me to their party, feeling snubbed, not sure if to ask about it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 23F and I think my 25M SO wants to cheat on me...
POST: So we've been together for a little over a year and a half and just recently found out I'm pregnant.
A while back (probably 7 or 8 months ago) I went through his phone one night and found he had dating apps that he'd been searching through. I confronted him about it and he tried to say it was old and that he was searching for someone for us to have a 3some with (that was a discussion at the time.)
Well tonight, after he went out and I stayed home, something in my gut told me to do it again. So he came home, drunk, and passed out. My pregnancy has me waking up every couple of hours so now here I am and I went through his phone again and I find not 1 but 2 dating apps, both of which he's been messaging girls on as recently as this week!! I started to think maybe this is a drunk thing he's doing, when I notice the date wasn't tonight, but Thursday night, when he was home with me.
What should I do? How can I confront him about it without him trying to make it my fault for "invading his privacy" and "breaking trust," which is what he said last time this happened... he's the one breaking trust by being on those apps, right???
TL;DR: | my boyfriend of a year and a half is on dating apps and I don't know how to approach him about it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: April Fools for entire office. Can you help?
POST: Hey guys, throwaway account.
In the last 3 weeks I've moved offices to our London base. I'm working for the same company - as a matter of fact I'm working for the same people in the same department - I'm just doing it remotely.
The company that I work for is pretty "cool" as companies go, and the office I've just left has a pretty open-minded sense of humour. There are around 20 people down there and I just asked one of them what he thinks we could achieve between us to get the whole lot of them.
His answer: "Ask Reddit".
So here I am. I'm willing to put time, effort and SOME money into it. If you can come up with anything worthwhile or we get any sort of following I'll document the whole thing and dedicate it to the evil genius that comes up with it.
TL;DR: | I want to prank the office I used to work in. There are 20 of them and one of them is on-side. |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: GPS or treadmill: which should I believe?
POST: So I did a search of r/running and found some general info, but maybe you could help me make sense of this.
I have been running for 9 years this summer. I always just ran by time, not by distance, until this past winter when I started doing speedwork on the treadmills, just to keep things interesting during the long, gross winter. I go to a gym with nice, brand new, high quality treadmills. Over the winter, my personal bests at the gym were a 6:20 1 miler, a 24:00 5k, and a 49:12 10k.
I see people posting their race times on here, which are often better than mine, and I wondered how I could possibly get any faster.
Then I started running outdoors with a gps tracker (iRiver ON heart rate sensor). I've routinely been getting 5k times that are more in the 19:00-20:00 range, without even pushing nearly as hard as I did on the treadmill.
Now it seems people think treadmills are quite inaccurate, in general, due to wonky calibration. But could there really be that much of a discrepancy?
My running route for a quick test run tonight was approximately 6.2k, according to google maps. Total distance on the gps tracker was 7.7k. Slight variations in path (zig zags, street crossings, etc) could make a slight difference, but by a full 1.5k? Is my gps just piling on the distance too fast?
TL;DR: | Personal best 5k on treadmill, 24:00. Outdoors, in the 19:20 range. Who is fooling me? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] with my GF [25F] for 14 months. She wants to move in, I am not ready. What do?
POST: Backstory: Known GF for ~9 years or so. Started dating a year ago. Gf has been ready to move in since about a month in, I have not been. She has been upset about my uncertainty with moving in. For the most part our relationship is good. Outside of communications issues on my part there isnt really a problem.
TL;DR: | Girlfriend of ~1 year wants to move in, I am not ready. She is feeling unloved because of this. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by getting the bubble guts on a school band trip
POST: This was about 15 years ago between my Freshman and Sophmore years of high school. Every 4 years our school band took a long bus ride to Florida to dress up in our snazzy outfits and march around the theme parks. I don't know what I had eaten that didn't agree with me along the way, but it decided to show itself in the middle of the night as the bus crept along the road. I was sleeping soundly when all of a sudden my gut was sending that signal that pooping in my pants was imminent. I also know that one of the main rules of riding in a packed charter bus is to never use the toilet for number 2. This wasn't going to wait so I shuffled along to the back of the bus where all the older kids were sitting. I went into the bathroom and as quietly as possible I took care of business. I knew that the cardboard thin door didn't conceal what I had just done and anyone sleeping just outside of it was now awake. What I had hoped was that it didn't stir any of my attractive classmates awake(it did) and that the smell wouldn't linger. I opened the door and dealt with a few stares and went back to my seat thinking that the worst was behind me(it wasn't). Apparently the toilet wasn't functioning properly and it couldn't vent so for the next 3-4 hours, everyone had to smell what I unleashed in that bus toilet.
TL;DR: | Pooped in a crowded bus toilet during high school band trip. The smell. Oh god, the smell. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me 19M with my 18F duration, Long distance and she's homesick
POST: I'm in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend and we love each other very much and talk about our futures with one another. She's in her first year at a university while I'm at my second at a university 4 hours drive away.
I visited her this weekend for her birthday, which is today, but I had to leave at 5am this morning to catch a bus back to my school.
Today is her birthday but she is feeling very depressed and homesick. She rushed a sorority, but feels out of her element, because she does not like the party scene. She has had a tough time meeting friends and her closest friends are her roommate and people that we both know from our high school.
How can I make her situation better and turn her day around? I have a hard time being happy when she isn't, and I really want her to lose some of her stress. A lot of the stress is because we had to say goodbye today and I know a lot of it is her homesickness, what can I say/do to make her feel better?
Thanks in advance for the advice!!!
TL;DR: | Girlfriend homesick/upset the day I leave (her 18th birthday), how do I make her feel better? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Post Breakup Regret
POST: About a month ago I broke up with my partner of 1 year [18F] as a [18M] because the inevitability of college was putting too much pressure on us, causing us to fight all the time. I am going to LA for college and she is going to NY, so we agreed long distance was out of the question. Now I'm wondering if I made a mistake. I was trying to protect her from being badly hurt and in a relationship that was making her unhappy, but I'm worried she now resents me for it. I didn't want to break up with her, but I felt I had to. I'm feeling kind of lost, and struggling to move on. Did I make a mistake? Or did I make the right call but am just having trouble moving on?
TL;DR: | I broke up with ex gf because of college early in the summer, and am wondering if I made a mistake. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [21M] gf [23F] is teaching abroad soon. Are my worries unwarranted?
POST: I'll give some backstory before asking for the actual advice. Me and my gf have only been dating for about a week. It'll be about 2 months when she leaves in early March then comes back in late May. I know it's not been long at all. We've known each other for about a year and have just gotten closer recently. We're both Spanish Education majors and I am doing all of my student teaching around our university while she is doing 10 weeks of her's here and 8 in Costa Rica as part of a teaching program for our university. This involves teaching a few classes and doing some volunteer work. She's a shy girl and I have no reason to think that she would cheat. My worries come from the fact that she will be abroad and that I have heard all kinds of stories, good and bad. She also likes to go out and drink but isn't really what you would call a "party girl." She also hates dancing/singing because she is too shy.
Basically what I'm asking is, Should I be worried? I'm a very insecure person who probably worries way more than he should but the whole study abroad thing is killing me. I need advice.
TL;DR: | My gf is teaching abroad for 2 months and I don't know how worried I should be, if it all. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by driving my motorcycle
POST: Alright, so this happened about an hour or two hours ago. I got a text to go study with a couple of friends of mine, so I pack my stuff and walk out the door.
"It's a pretty enough day," I thought. "I should ride my bike. Although it gets cold at night so I should bring a jacket." I grabbed my helmet and jacket and walk out.
Now, this jacket happens to have a hem that's been ripped, so I have to check to see if that pocket's contents haven't fallen out. Idiot I am, I put my truck and house keys in that pocket.
Yeah, that's where I fucked up. So I got to the library, and then I reached in my pocket to check, and my keys weren't there. I sighed and backtracked, looking for them on the road. Then, after a second loop, I walked the way to the library.
Now, my house is about 3 to 4 miles away from my college. I crossed the interstate, which is abso-fucking-lutely terrifying by the way, and made my way to the police station. I told them, then went back home.
TL;DR: | I wore a jacket with a defect, then lost my keys and had to walk to try to find them, to no avail. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I(23/f) need to break up with my boyfriend(24/m) but don't think I should tell him why. Need opinions
POST: Long story short..I've been my bf for about 16 months. Even though he is a great guy I don't think I can continue dating him. Lately I've been thinking about my ex ALOT(even though we haven't contacted each other in about a year), he is almost all I can think about. And it is driving me insane. My heart is almost always pounding because it makes me so anxious. I know that if my boyfriend knew what I was thinking he would be so upset and probably leave me. I kept hoping these thoughts would go away but they won't. So I think I need to break up with my current bf. Even though I don't plan on getting back with my ex.
Anyway I don't know if I should tell my current boyfriend this because I wonder if it will make him have trust problems. I've had guys leave me because they weren't over their ex and it made me a jealous/insecure person for a long time and I don't want that to happen to him. He already had issues with my past( I had more sexual and relationship experience than him) and I fear telling him I may not be 100% over my ex may make him never trust another girl again. I usually think honesty is the best policy but I don't know if it is in this case.. what are your thoughts reddit?
TL;DR: | I'm may not be over my ex, but I don't know if telling my bf is a good idea or not. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [16/F] broke up with me after about a year. Me:[16/M]
POST: Now, before you start berrating me about being young and all of that just listen. Me and this girl started dating June 13th of last year. Everything was fine. I was happy. She was happy.
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Then about a month or two into the relationship, her ex-boyfriend kissed her when I wasn't there. Fast forward a bit, and she broke up with me. It was a bullshit excuse[Pardon the language] and I don't remember it. We worked it out and she got back with me.
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Then again. And finally now. She told me she had feelings for him and that she thinks she loves him. He is in a relationship already and she knows. You realize how young I am and you know that I'm probably stupid. But not with her. I want her back, more than anything. She told me she would try to forget him for me, but no guarantees. She wants to be single for a while she said. I really want to be with her but she *thinks* she loves him. Also, she *thinks* she loves me. It's so shitty how we were doing perfect before all of this. Thanks.
TL;DR: | I'm 16, GF broke up with me because she "loves another dude", I want to be with her still. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Husband says no to sex 99% of the time. Help?
POST: I have been with my husband for 9 years, married for 1. We are 24. The past couple years it has been myself who initiates sex, which he 99% of the time says no. The reason when he says no is usually being tired or not feeling well.
Our jobs require for us to be apart during the week, and when I'm gone he is constantly sending me horny texts, begging for naked pictures, videos, etc., but when I am physically beside him he isn't interested. I look exactly the same (no sudden weight gain for example) and so does he. He tells me all the time how he thinks I'm am beautiful or sexy.
I know the fact he says no to sex is normal once and awhile, but to this extreme I don't know what to do. The only negative thing he says is that he 'has to do most of the work' because I don't like being on top (only because there is no satisfaction for me). I'm not sure what to do about this, I feel if I stopped initiating sex we would have sex once a month, maybe even less. He never used to be this way. I mean if I wore a skirt around him it used to drive him crazy. We had sex 2 days in a row the past couple days, and tonight when I tried to initiate he says, "we've done it twice in a row!". Am I just being a horny mess? Could there be other reasons why he would say no 99% of the time? What should I do about this?
TL;DR: | I am usually the one to initiate sex and my husband says no 99% of the time. Not sure what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: Cant trust anyone?
POST: So, recently I started seeing this friend of mine (who we'll call T). T is new to the area, and very good looking, so of course, all the guys at work are hounding her (this is a mainly male workspace). Somehow, without really trying, i managed to catch her eye, we kinda hooked up, and then i had to leave to go help out my parent who fell ill.
Now, were not dating or anything of the sort, but when i get back i hear from a friend of mine about some slightly promiscuous things she might/might not have been doing. I know for a fact that one time she drank a bit too much and ended up with this guy, who in the morning she had no recollection of. With it being new years and christmas, she was drinking a lot. this plus the stories i heard have me quite worried, and i dont know if i can trust her or not. or what to do about it. Im kinda just venting because theres no one i can really talk to, and i dont know how to bring up the subject without being a dick. Its really killing me because i dont know what to do. i just kinda am stuck in a loop of bringing it up, or just ignoring it because we werent even together. T's side of the story is slightly different from the ones ive been told but like i said, its one of those i dont really trust either side
TL;DR: | dont know if its my buisness or not to know, and not even sure i want to know, ya know? |
SUBREDDIT: r/Cooking
TITLE: The "Perfect" Steak Indoors- On the Hob or In the Oven?
POST: Hello People of /r/meat.
I, like a lot of people, love a good steak. Personally i love my steak rare. My preferred method of cooking a good steak is on the BBQ and i think i have it down to a fine art, gauging the temps of the coal Vs thickness of the cut of meat, and i can pretty much get my steak spot on each time.
However it's not quite BBQ weather yet here in the UK and I'm stuck cooking indoors, and i can never seem to get my steak right! How do you cook your steak? do you use a Frying pan on the Hob or do you use a pan in the oven.
* What temps do you use for each method?
* Do you oil the meat(my usual method) or oil the pan?
* Do you need to turn the steak when using the oven?
Thanks in advance
TL;DR: | how do *you* cook *your* perfect steak when indoors , on the hob or in the oven, and How? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Buy a house, or build one?
POST: I'm in the process of buying a house, and the process is falling apart last minute. It's a VA loan, and everything was on track, until the mortgage company said that my "dream home" (which uses a well) is close enough to the city water hookup that it's required. The appraiser estimated that the hookup would cost about $1k, and there's some trivial woodwork that needs to be fixed too. This stuff is *required* before the mortgage company will close on the house, and I'm not even *allowed* to pay for it, even if I wanted to. The seller is being a jagoff, and refuses to do anything to the place, so it's really looking like it's going to fall through.
My current lease is up at the end of April, and it's taken me about 4 months to get this far. Now that it's looking like I have to start over, I'm simply considering bringing my three kids into a temporary residence with a flexible lease, and putting most of my stuff at a storage unit.
My question for reddit, aside from any generic sage advice, is this. Should I keep looking at buying a house that's on the market in central Florida, or go ahead and try to have one built to my specs? I would love to have conduits throughout for wiring, and a dedicated network closet, etc ... etc ... and I was planning on amending that to whatever home I found, but I wonder if it would just be better to start fresh.
TL;DR: | Tried buying a home, it's falling through late in the game. Do I buy or build as the next step? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26 M] with my GF [28 F] of 2 weeks, She dropped the L-bomb...on accident?
POST: Started dating a girl who got out of a LTR 8 months ago. We are making out and I ask her "What do you like?" My question was concerning what sort of things she likes to do in bed.
Her answer, "I love you...I like you, I love kissing you"
My take: I am not trying to read into it, I know that when you are used to being intimate with someone in a LTR that your vocabulary of sex talk is usually dominated with expressions of how much you love that person. So naturally when you start making out with a new guy your brain spits out what your used to saying. Does my explanation sound legit?
2nd Question: We did not discuss what she obviously said, we just stopped momentarily and proceeded to make out some more. Should I even bother to bring it up to her?
TL;DR: | She said I love you- 1. Am I right not to be too worried about it? 2. Should I bring it up? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: She flipped out on me recently and I don't know how to handle things
POST: *Facts: I am a male, 19yrs. She's a female of 19yrs.*
My girlfriend of +6 months recently flipped on me. I knew she had been diagnosed bipolar but the most I had seen of it was random mood swings where she would get kinda depressed for a few days.
This Friday night she really freaked out, cutting herself and vocally degrading me. She was a totally different person, and I did not like it.
She had calmed down by Saturday morning and apologized and explained to me that that was her worst side and it's normally under control because of medication.
I am at a loss on what to do. I really do like her, but I'm not sure I can handle the fact that she could flip out like that again. Any help?
TL;DR: | My girlfriend is bipolar, flipped on me for the first time, and I don't know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/weddingplanning
TITLE: Mary's Bridal Returns?
POST: I had my first dress appointment today and it was wonderful!! Previously I posted that I would have to go alone due to my family and friends all living out of state. BUT I DIDN'T HAVE TO GO ALONE! My fiancé's grandma and aunt surprised me with an offer to join me. It went so well. They are both really sweet agreeable people and we had a great time.
Originally I was set on lace, but after trying on some more flowing chiffon dresses, I realized that was the way to go for our simple garden wedding.
So here is my dilemma:
I found a dress at this shop I liked, but this shop charges for alterations on top of the cost of the dress.
A local shop closer to where we lived is run by a nice woman who I have met before. She would charge me the cost of the dress alone -- alterations would be free. The only issue is she only has dresses from Mary's Bridal.
I found a Mary's Bridal chiffon dress online that is very similar to the one I liked at the shop. In fact there are a few things about it I like even more.
The issue: there aren't any samples within 100 miles of here. If I have the local woman order it, what sort of chance do I have of being able to return it in case it isn't what it looked like online?
Any advice would be appreciated :)
TL;DR: | is there anything I can do to return a Mary's Bridal dress if I don't like it after I order it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20M] I am insecure, but recently it was better. Today I turned 20 and I have all the joys of a birthday... Don't know what to think or do...
POST: So. Today I turned 20. I feel depressed, not sad, just empty.
I originally had planned on just meeting up with one of my best friends, just watch films. (Only her, I don't know why but I am at a point where I both want to reach out to people but feel conflicted and refuse to.) However, I found out fairly last minute she had to attend a wending on the day and cancelled; further she will be working before, and at least 4 days after the event. Other best friend at least contacted me but she's moving house in another city. I didn't make any alternative plans as I was just feeling extremely low that I wouldn't see either of my best friends.
Further, this morning I realised I had my privacy setting on FB so it didn't show my birthday, I eventually turned it off at around noon, a few people whom I'm not close with then proceeded to wish me a happy birthday. I'm a uni student, and I thought I had made close friends at Uni, but only one or two wished me a happy birthday. The closest group I was with, whom I travelled abroad with and hang out with didn't even seem to notice.
I'm already in a one sided but I feel justified friendship with one of my best friends, this birthday has just hit me hard and I feel like no one cares.
TL;DR: | Hi! I'm alone for my birthday, stalking my own fb feeling bad for myself. Super healthy ain't it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (18M) have a crush on ex-teacher (25F)
POST: I have a crush on her, but it's more personal to me than that. She was my teacher for about 3 years and I still feel the same way about her since the first time I layed eyes on her. I have now finished school but there was a always an odd connection I felt with her.
I can't stop thinking about her and although I'm convinced I will never be with her, I have never felt this strongly about anyone in my life. Surely it's not lust, I've felt this physical pain for years now.
If it's true love then it's meant to be. Just recently out of nowhere I decided I wanted to go to church. I believe in God and I am a spiritual person. My local church was closed so my dad and I went to a different one and she was there. I couldn't believe she was there. I thought it must be a sign. She glanced over at me but I didn't look at her and I really regret that and I'm shy. That night I experienced a physical pain I've never felt before.
Maybe I'm young and dumb but I need advice. I was thinking of sending her a message on Facebook but under a different account. I want to send an anonymous message telling her how I feel. I need to get it off my chest and I could die happy just knowing that I told her. Love, or whatever I'm feeling hurts. If I told her in person I would feel in the wrong as she was my teacher. If anyone can please alleviate my pain and offer advice I'd overwhelmingly appreciate it.
TL;DR: | I've fallen in love with my ex teacher and need advice on what I should do or should I let her go. |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: 24/7 headache for 2.5 years..need some help on where to find answers
POST: I'm not even sure if this the kind of thing I can post here.. But at this point I am really starting to lose my shit and my patience is wearing thin.
I woke up with a headache that stems from the back of head on April 18th 2013. First I thought it was because of a sinus infection but after the infection went away I figured it was because I was doing my squats at the gym wrong and injured my neck / head somehow.
I've been to over a dozen specialists, had an MRI (came back fine), gone to a Chiropractor for six months straight, stopped eating Gluten, got off birth control for a year, increased my yoga, I even went to a therapist for 5 months because I thought it could be psychosomatic. No one can figure out what is wrong with me and I'm starting to feel like a crazy person because this pain is real and it's extremely frustrating to have 24/7. It's a dull pain that feels like I have a muscle cramp but it's in the back of my head (on both sides, sometimes one side is worse than the other) . Some days it turns into a migraine where if I do any physically strenuous activity, my brain is throbbing and the pain is excruciating.
Like I said before, I'm still not sure If I'm even allowed to post something like this but I'm out of options at this point. Thank you!
TL;DR: | 24/7 headache for 2.5 years, tried everything, cause is still unknown. Losing my goddamned mind |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Why are Redditors no douche bags?
POST: So I've been checking out Reddit for a short time now, enjoying the good honey crusted link stuff that is provided to me from time to time by you guys.
Embarrassingly enough, I didn't actively started to check out Reddit since a month now.
But what I noticed most of all...you guys (and ladies) aren't douchebags. Mostly anyway. I've expected a community like you see elsewhere online on the bigger sites, like you see on YouTube or most forums, video games, you name it. There it's filled with raging hotheads who want to argue till death (ARE YOU NOT ENTERTAINED?!)
Of course there are the occasional dick jokes here and hey-put-your-hand-in-this-bowl-of-warm-water-as-you-sleep jokes, but no mindless flaming.
What could be the reason that unlike other sites (9gag...) this actually has a decent user base? Lack of visual effects perhaps, as it's mostly just text on the site that might scare away the real ragers who are hurt when reading too much?
TL;DR: | y u mostly nice and not kiddies flaming, it's the interwebs after all?!?!?? It does not compete! |
SUBREDDIT: r/college
TITLE: My roommate has poor social skills and is making it hard for me to maintain my social life.
POST: I went with a random roommate and started my freshman year a couple weeks ago. My roommate is a nice guy and has had trouble making friends in the past. He's a little overweight and might be a little insecure. He talks way too much and overstays his welcome and try's to force himself on people. I feel like he's trying to make as many friends as possible because he's never had any before.
He pushes boundaries, such as eating and drinking more than his share of I bring any into the dorm, so I quit keeping food and drink in the room. I also suspect he's gone through my belongings, but the real problem is his social skills.
I'm good friends with two guys on my floor and my roommate likes to tag a long with me when I hangout with them. They don't like him and so we sneak around him and because of that he always goes to their room and knocks and puts his ear to the door to listen for us. If he hears the door open to the hall way he goes outside to see if it's them.
I don't want to be mean and tell him he's being too pushy and it's annoying but I also don't want to keep sneaking around him because he always questions me when I go/come back from somewhere.
And I don't want to have to deal with confrontation of getting a new roommate, since I'll be on the same floor hanging out with my friends.
TL;DR: | Roommate can't take a hint and is making it hard for me to hangout with my friends without him. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskDocs
TITLE: Hair loss at age 21 (possibly from stress)
POST: Ok, I'm 21, a male, and in college. I had a girlfriend for awhile, and was feeling pretty stressed with school and her. I started losing hair. First in a small patch, then it got a lot worse. There was a period when a handful of hair would come out every time I showered. That only stressed me out more. Me and my girlfriend broke up, and I have felt less stressed; I'm still losing hair, though. I have been losing hair for around a month and a half to two months. I say it may be stress because my dr tested me for my thyroid and it came back normal. I have a pretty thick head of hair, so it looks worse because of the amount of hair I've lost. Idk how to make it stop and I can't stop thinking about it. Any advice would help.
TL;DR: | Hair is falling out at 21. Thyroid was tested as fine. Been falling out for 1 1/2- 2 months. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [15M] am going Pokemon Hunting with my crush [15F] in an hour
POST: Currently I am freaking out. I am so goddamn nervous and I am shaking as I type this.
Me and this girl have known eachother since March, we met in Geometry . I really liked her and I got her snap.
When I started talking to her it was like talking to a brick fucking wall. She was so bland and boring. I asked her to hangout and she always said 'maybe' or 'idk.' I stopped talking to her after awhile because she was like unresponsive.
I don't think she is romantically interested in me, but idk.
I finally asked her to hangout a few days ago to go play pokemon at this really nice park in my town.
I have never been one on one with a girl like this before and I don't know if I should try to make a move or even how I should act.
TL;DR: | Going to play pokemon with my crush and I have no idea how to act or if I should even make a move. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [19f] boyfriend [20M] doesn't know how to communicate how he feels
POST: My boyfriend and I started seeing each other last September, and it's been kind of rocky until December. Since then we've been 100% together and are happy with one another.
Essentially my boyfriend claims that he isn't sure how to express how he feels, particularly about things that have emotional depth. I've asked him, "Why do you think I'm special/What is it about me that you really like?" only to receive, "I'm not sure, I'd have to think about it". This is hurtful to me because I feel as though you shouldn't have to really think much about why you care about someone, but he claims it's because he doesn't know how to do it. This confuses me, enough for me to suggest he post here, but then said he didn't know how to write it out so I'm doing it for him. He becomes very upset, as he believes expressing these feelings should be easy, but he is unsure how to do it at all. He also claims that he's afraid that he would give a wrong answer, because he doesn't know the right answer, and he doesn't want to upset or disappoint me. I have no expectations for what I want him to say, other than honesty, and I don't expect grand proclamations of love and affection.
I'm not really sure how to help him with this, as I'm certainly no therapist. What should he/I do?
TL;DR: | Boyfriend isn't sure how to express his feelings, and I'd like to help him in any way I can. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: Advice please: We are both working full-time. Can we realistically own a dog?
POST: We are a family of four, I have two little boys of 5 and 8 years old. I work a 9-5pm job and my wife works most days from 7-3pm. We have been recently thinking about getting a dog. We would get one from an animal shelter, a small breed or mix starting from an age of at least a year old. I am hesitating though because I don't know if the dog could make it so many hours alone. I have a small garden and I could install door flaps, but would that be enough or would he bark his head off or chew the whole house? I could walk him in the morning before I leave and in the evening, maybe even come home at lunch break and give him a tour around the block, but that's about it. Do you guys think I can own a dog under these conditions or not? Opinions please.
TL;DR: | I want a dog for the family but can he make it without going crazy for as long as we are at work? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my Girlfriend [20 F] of 6 months, hates cuddling/touching after sex, makes things awkward.
POST: Our relationship has been really happy, we almost never argue and when we do the issue is sorted out very quickly. As far as I am aware, the sex is good for both of us, she has told me she enjoys it and says she would be honest with me if she didn't.
The only really issue is that she doesn't like cuddling after we have sex. She'll quickly jump up when I finish, and she'll go to the bathroom. She then goes really distant for 10 minutes or so, but gets upset if I don't talk to her during that time. I respect that she doesn't like cuddling afterwards (she's explained this to me), but it makes it quite awkward for me and I never know what to say afterwards. She's cried before when I go quiet and don't say anything.
I really love this girl and it's a very small part of our relationship, but I feel it's important that I make an effort to improve it.
TL;DR: | gf hates cuddling/touching after sex, makes me feel awkward and don't know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Have any of you ever gone from ready to completely take on the day to completely demotivated/demoralized after overhearing something at work?
POST: Been at the same job over a year now and no raise. Been thinking about asking for a while. Recently a lot more responsibility has been added to my plate(not including the vast amount that has accumulated over the year). Today I gathered up the nerve to go up and ask, but just before I go ask, I hear the boss coming out of the accountant's office ranting about how he doesn't give out raises for taking on more responsibility, and went off for a few minutes about the co-worker who asked without directly saying the persons name coupled in with some of those "well he can go work for such and such for minimum wage, see if he gets a raise there" type comments. Needless to say I just turned around and went back to my desk without asking. Now I am sitting here with absolutely no motivation to do anything, had I not heard what I had just heard from the boss, I probably wouldn't be nearly as demotivated and demoralized to do work as I am at the moment. I'm not sure what to do with myself now.
TL;DR: | went up to ask for raise, got shut down before even asking, now I'm demotivated/demoralized. |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Tought i was doing ok, but now i'm lost
POST: 20yo here and decided to change my life. I was never overweight, but always chubby but in the same time light... in some kind of skinny-fat.
I was weighting 72kg at the time, I started to eat in a caloric defficit and run everyday, at the time I was like this:
One month and a half later, i dropped 5 kg and was pretty happy with myself, and wanted to begin to bulk to not became too light... then i was like this:
Not the greatest change in the world, but I have 1,75m and weighting only 67kg was kinda lame, then last week I buyed supplements and started in the gym.
I was doing some "adaptional exercises" this week, and then today my checkup came to my e-mail, and DAMN, my bodyfat is currently on 27%!!!
I don't know what to do anymore... I am already too skinny in my face and arms and legs, my belly is fat but I can wait to lose it, but having 27% of bodyfat is just desmotivating...
So loseit, please help me, what do I do? I cut? I bulk? I quit?
TL;DR: | I have 18,5kg of fat stored mainly in my belly and don't know if I bulk or cut or whatahell |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How should I [17F] let him [17M] down easy??
POST: My new friend introduced me to her brother a week ago. Her brother is... strange to say the least. He doesn't have any friends and he comes on very strong. But we got along pretty well and he asked me out on a date. I said yes but as I get to know him, the less I'm interested. I don't want to take it back because he's lonely and he's never been on a date before but I really don't wanna go...
What should I do? Thanks in advanced.
TL;DR: | Friend's brother asked me out and I don't wanna go but it's his first date, what do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by messing with Murphy
POST: For the past few weeks, I've been taking my stash of money with me everywhere I went, in the hopes that I'd buy a Vita with it in case I came across a GameStop or whatever sold it. My parents do not approve of such gaming, so I can't simply ask them to buy it for me and I'll pay them back.
Well, yesterday I struck out again so I decided to not take my money with me today. Now, my aunt who's visiting knows a nice little family restaurant out in the middle of nowhere in my state, so off we went.
We dined, and thus came time to pay. The adults whipped out their credit and debit cards when the owner simply stated, "Sorry, we don't accept cards anymore."
The adults fumbled around in their bags for cash. No luck. They turned to me...
...and now I'm sitting here, typing this, being left at the restaurant as collateral, while they go to the nearest atm machine. Google Maps says it's 30 minutes away.
TL;DR: | And I wouldn't be stuck in the middle of nowhere too, if it weren't for that meddling Murphy's Law. |
SUBREDDIT: r/Dogtraining
TITLE: House training help! (Dog refuses to go in front of us)
POST: We purchased a 4 1/2 month old Mini Australian Shepherd last week, and frustration is at an all time high. This puppy refuses to go to the bathroom in front of anyone. I take her out every half hour ALL day and she will not go. She held her poop and pee for FORTY-EIGHT hours when we first got her. I put her on the screened in balcony and she poops and pees immediately after I leave her alone for a minute. I continue to take her outside when I see her circling like shes about to go, and she will hold it until I take her in and am not watching. Today she pooped in her crate 30 seconds after I took her outside this morning. I feed her on a schedule, and take her out every 30 min after that. She is not a rescue and did not have a previous owner so she doesn't have any fear from a previous owner so I am lost. Any suggestions?
TL;DR: | Puppy refuses to go potty in front of me and shits and pisses in crate or porch when not looking. |
SUBREDDIT: r/weddingplanning
TITLE: I have a plus-size MOH, where is a good place to find dresses?
POST: So here is the deal: I have 3 bridesmaids, and they are all very different sizes. One bridesmaid is very petite (around 4'11") and a size 2. My other bridesmaid is a size 10. And my wonderful MOH (my older sister) is a size 24.
My problem has been most retailers only go up to a size 16 in bridesmaid/cocktail dresses. This is really discouraging me because I love my sister and don't want her to feel bad that I am struggling to find dresses that would fit everyone.
I am open to the mis-matched dresses idea, but I would have to make sure they were the right color (my colors are peach and sage green), which could be problematic if they have to order from multiple designers.
Does anyone know of any good stores/Etsy shops that make dresses is regular and plus sizes? Any other suggestions?
TL;DR: | My MOH is plus-sized, while my other bridesmaids are not. Suggestions on where to buy dresses? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [26] am not sure what to do about my gf [23] who has been posting on gonewild
POST: We've been together for 10 months and recently she's been posting on gonewild. The first time I didn't have a problem because I thought it was for fun and that was that.
But just yesterday, I saw her logged in on another username that I didn't recognize and checked the post history and she's posted on gonewild about 10 times already... I feel uncomfortable about it and I find it rather wrong that she posts so that she can get complimented by men when I am there for her. I don't know how to react. Personally, I feel dumb for being jealous and angry, yet I think she's wrong for doing this. How do I handle this and speak to her about it? Last time we spoke about this, she claimed, "MY BODY...MY RULES."
TL;DR: | My gf [23] posts on gw and I really dont know how to handle it...is it okay that i am angry? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Need some advice asking a girl at work out...
POST: I'll try to keep this short and to the point. There is a girl that I work with that I've become attracted to and want to ask out, just to get to know her. Problem is that where I work, I'm in a different group and have not spoken to her nor do I get a chance because of conflicted schedules. Now onto the question. I've worked myself up to asking her out to grab a drink or something after work, but have never spoken to her... would it seem weird asking her out to something like that without ever speaking to her before? I think I know what I want to say to her, but I want to make sure she doesn't think I'm some sort of creep by coming up and asking her on a date. Think I'll just ask her if she is seeing someone and free sometime after work.
TL;DR: | Girl at work I like, haven't spoken to her before. Is it ok to ask her out for drinks regardless? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [36 M] with my wife [29 F] of two years, did she intend not to invite me on a vacation trip?
POST: My wife, Laura, and I have been married for 2 years, together for 5 total, friends for 10. She is kind, considerate, and caring. We never argue, the sex is amazing, and she tells me how happy she is.
But during the year, she found out her best friend from cosmetology school is moving to Hawaii from Florida, and they decided she would drive down after the semester ends so they could spend time together before Jenn moves across the globe.
So my wife was saving and scrimping and making lists for months when I said, "I have vacation saved up." She looked at me and said, "Okay! I'll ask Jen if there's room! If not, we'll do a hotel or AirBnB so we can still go." I told her it wasn't necessary.
Long story short, there's room and I'm going. My wife seems thrilled and keeps wanting to talk about what to do besides a theme park when we are there.
When I asked her why she didn't invite me along in the first place, she told me, "I just didn't think you'd want to go and I forgot your vacation time was coming."
She doesn't seem upset by the change, but happy. Am I overreacting in my worry that I shoehorned in on it?
TL;DR: | Wife is going on vacation. I invited myself. Do you think I ruined her plans or am I overreacting? |
SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: I am not sure how to reply to people on the phone
POST: So I guess this is a somewhat unique situation but I just wanted some advice.
When I answer the phone at work people often ask me what my name is. I do not want to give out my name over the phone because a little while ago I had a guy calling the store asking for me, then sending super creepy things to the store for me. I have contacted the police and they have informed this guy to never contact me in any way again.
I still feel creeped out whenever anyone asks my name though because he did that and it just makes me really uncomfortable.
Do I just use someone else's name? Or do I just ignore it. I have sometimes just pretended I didn't understand the question but then people get pushy and I get even more uncomfortable. Eg. "Who am I speaking to?" "This is the grooming salon, how can I help you"
TL;DR: | Had a stalker that has been dealt with but I still don't want to give my name out. What do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: Owner Defensive Behavior.....Help!
POST: Hello Reddit, my name is Sam and I have a 1 1/2 year old Lab/Dane mix named Persephone ( I rescued Persephone at about 6 months old along with her mother and siblings who were all very badly abused, starved, and dehydrated. I managed to find homes for the rest of the dogs, but kept Persephone because she was prone to fear biting. I am no expert with dogs rehabilitation, but I have raised many dogs. I love this dog and would never want to part with her, but lately she has become so defensive of me that I am starting to get afraid to take her anywhere, or even have people she isn't familiar with over. Folks are afraid of her, and rightly so, she is a pretty big dog, clocking in at right under 100 lbs. Has anyone had experience with this behavior before? She is kind of "fragile," in that she has anxiety issues and does not take being punished well at all, although she is very intelligent and trainable.
TL;DR: | Rescued my dog at six months and she is now 1 1/2 and has developed overly-protective behaviors. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by trying to zip my boyfriend's penis.
POST: I will preface this by saying that I currently live with other people. And we were in the living room.
Today my boyfriend came over to hang out and watch TV. Nothing out of the ordinary until things start to get heated. Eventually I decide that I want to give a blowjob. The best way to do it was to unzip and pull it out. I begin to get to work when suddenly I hear a key in the door. Shit. Someone is home and about to walk in on said blowjob. I did the logical thing and try to put it away. I think its in and rush to zip his pants.
It stopped.
All I heard was "You bitch!" as he cupped himself and tried to zip up properly.
Didn't get caught. At least there wasn't blood... just the tip.
I later made up for it with a proper blowup.
TL;DR: | rushed to zip his pants up to avoid getting caught in the middle of a blowjob, zipped up his dick. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How do I gain the courage to do something when I'm afraid of the end result?
POST: Honestly I want to ask this girl I know out on a date (I'll call he Cece).
But If I can apply this to other aspects I know I'll be more successful, so what can I do. In terms of women when I want to talk to them as anything besides a friend or acquaintance, I walk up to them and instead of saying what I want, My brain filters it like the FCC filters cuss words.The end result from it is always awkward conversation followed by and even more awkward silence followed by an even MORE awkward goodbye. Not to mention afterward I beat myself up mentally which is bad since Cece is in 2 out my 6 classes and I try pretty much everyday. Other stuff, if I'm scared I just don't do it or leave.
TL;DR: | I want to talk to a girl and is too scared to follow thru and want to do stuff even if I'm scared. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I (20m) want to fix things between my (21f) girlfriend. L
POST: Things between my SO and I aren't really going well. I've been with her for about 2 years though there was a period where we had broken up for a month. I truly want to fix things between us, I care about her immensely but, we fight constantly. Its gotten to the point where we will fight, make up, and then another issue arises immediately. It's driving me crazy.
I'm scared that if we were to break up she wouldn't do anything with her life. I constantly try to motivate her to do/learn new things but she never stays interested. It's like she doesn't do anything. No hobbies no social activities. I mean she hasn't even finished high school. The lack of motivation to do anything is astounding. She has practically no friends. She hardly ever hangs out with anyone. If I mention anything she gets offended and thinks I'm trying to get rid of her, which is honestly pretty clingy.
I'm the total opposite, I constantly meet new people and love to be around friends. It makes it more difficult because we live together as well. I really don't know what to do, any advice would be appreciated.
TL;DR: | Girlfriend of 2 years is clingy and unmotivated. We bicker a lot. Don't know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: 20 lbs!
POST: Hey, guys! Long time, no text post. There's a small story here.
So about three days after I last checked in and updated my flair (15 lbs), I got really sick. And a side effect of this sickness was that...well, I was constipated.
I'm not sure if any of you redditors out there who have lost weight or who are losing weight have ever had to deal with constipation on a diet. For those of you who haven't, let me tell you: it sucks. Imagine that even though you're eating correct portions of everything, none of it is leaving your system: it builds up without going anywhere. Subsequently, the scale goes **up** every single day, despite your efforts to eat correctly. And that's the story of how I gained one pound last week instead of losing my normal amount.
Anyway, I got some meds and now everything is fine, and upon weigh-in this morning, I saw "250.8". I've officially lost 20 pounds since my start here at /r/loseit! I have about 80 more pounds to go, but I'm so happy to be checking in here again and changing my flair!
I just want to thank you all here at /r/loseit again for all of your motivational posts as well as your advice that you give myself and others who are trying to lose weight. I've never stayed with a diet so long to lose 20 pounds, and I believe this community is the only reason I have.
TL;DR: | Got sick, couldn't poop, got meds, pooped, now I'm down 20lbs thanks to /r/loseit. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskDocs
TITLE: Question about thyroid diseases
POST: Hey there Docs,
I have some questions about thyroid diseases. I'm a 23 yo male, 5'8", 140 lbs. When I was 11, I was diagnosed with Hashimoto's. I've been on levothryoxine ever since, and have been on the same dosage (100 mcg) now for about 6 years, pretty much since puberty. It was totally under control. About, oh, 4 or 5 months ago, I started experiencing very subtle symptoms uncommon to my normal life. Anxiety, low energy, nonexistent sex drive, lingering feelings of depression. I was in a brand new environment, and while I was very confused about why I was reacting this way, I chalked it up to life. Fast forward to about two weeks ago, and my resting heart rate was about 110. I was experiencing palpitations, lack of sleep, and my anxiety was through the roof. I went to my doctor, and found that both my TSH and T4 levels were high. I've since had my levothryoxine dosage reduced to 75 mcg, and am about a week on that dose now. I'm starting to improve, definitely, and have an appointment with an endocrinologist next week.
My question is, how in the world did I go from from hypo to hyper? If Hashimoto's is autoimmune and part of my thyroid was destroyed, why do I all the sudden have excess? Is it possible to now have Grave's disease, or nodules? This is more of a curiosity, but I'd like to have some info. Thanks for any help!
TL;DR: | Have Hashimoto's, have been hypothyroid my whole life, now all the sudden am hyperthyroid. Why? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: HELP! My 35lb mix ate a chicken bone :(
POST: She somehow managed to get a rotisserie leg out of my trash (up on the counter so she COULDN'T get it) and snatched the leg before I could do anything. She broke it at least in half because I tried unsuccessfully to get the second half out of her mouth.
I looked online and it said to feed bread to cushion the stomach/intestines, but I'm really worried. She's acting fine right now and didn't choke on the pieces when they were going down, just wondering if anyone has advice or anything because I'm really worried.
I called the vet and they said not to worry unless she started acting weird but I'm still concerned.
TL;DR: | Dog ate chicken bone, vet said not to worry...yet... any advice or personal experience? Help! :'( |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21M/F] want to sleep with other women but do not want to break up with my GF [21F]
POST: My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 10 months. We are both 21 and in college, so not even thinking about anything serious(moving in, marriage, etc.). More recently I have had a building desire to sleep with other women, purely sexual no desire for another relationship whatsoever.
However, I truly do enjoy time with my girlfriend and she is great with my daughter (from a previous relationship), so I am hesitant to give up on the relationship.
I do not believe she would engage in an open relationship, but would it be worth it to ask her and then decide to end it then?
All comments welcome, I know it is a selfish post, so don't be afraid to say so, I can take it.
TL;DR: | Truly care for GF, won't cheat, but not happy with monogamy at this point in my life. What to do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Is it ok to jump into a new relationship after I [35M] suffered hell for over a year with my ex-wife [26F]?
POST: If you'd like to see what I mean by hell, well here's a past post:
We got divorced about 2 and a half weeks ago and she left the country 2 weeks ago. Now I'm going out every night trying to meet new people and I met some very beautiful and seemingly sane ladies who seem interested in me. Last night was amazing though, met a brunette stunner. It's been years since I've been close to a lady this beautiful. I did not pursue anything more intimate as I'm still an emotional mess, but we're fb "friends" now, and I would like to see her again very soon, but I still don't if it's too early to date or even go out after all this mess with my ex-wife. If anybody has any suggestions it would be greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: | I met a super hottie after 2 weeks of divorcing the devil herself and don't know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26f] with my bf [29m] 1 year, he won't stop giving me shit because I like beef well cooked, etc.
POST: Petty issue, and please don't start right off with ZOMG HE'S A JERK BREAK UP, I know this sub is super breakup happy.
So Tom has a big issue with the fact that I don't eat meat that's (to me) undercooked. I don't like medium, rare, etc beef. I have other things that I prefer when I eat (I like bacon crispy, I like pasta cooked further than al dente, etc) but he often times gets really assholish about it.
I've asked him to stop bringing it up and stop commenting, and he will, but we just went to get burgers at this place and I asked for mine cooked well-done and he asked me why I bothered getting a burger if I just wanted an "overcooked slab of dried out meat."
I said that's just how I like it, and if he didn't like it, he didn't have to watch me eat it. So he got up and sat across the restaurant!
Anyway this is one small issue in a sea of positive things so I'd love a solution to get him to shut the fuck up already.
TL;DR: | BF has an issue with me eating well cooked beef. I need a way to get him to shut up about it! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Is it bad that your husband flirts with other girls with no other intention?
POST: I'm not sure how to feel about it? I always knew he was a flirt but perhaps naivley i thought that would stop once he got married. Most of the time I am not bothered by it, its not in front of me either. Its quite sexual too but a joke. It's bothering me though, I dont want to be the jealous wife. Would it overall affect our relationship if he does get ego boosts from other girls? Or does this say something about me? Or our relationship? He has always been a flirt I guess and been a bit of a player, but he is a very loyal guy too.
I am not your regular floaty, girly, overly touchy feely woman. I am quite blunt and hard, balanced male/female characteristics, with him I can be soft and mushy but not always and when its not always reciprocated I shut down a bit, bad habit of mine. I am 30 yes even at my age I can insecure. We have bee together 3 years.
TL;DR: | Husband flirts with other girls, i think for an ego boost, i trust him but it affects me at times. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20M] just found out from my little sister [12F] that my kid cousin [12M] is smoking. How do I handle this?
POST: I found out tonight my 12 yr old cousin is smoking. He's a good kid who has developed a reputation as one of the cool, popular kids since starting at a new school in September last year, and I think it has gone to his head somewhat.
I don't know how to deal with this cos I don't want to grass on the daft dick to his parents, on point of principle as well as the fact his younger brother is very autistic and is a stress on his mother enough.
Though we're not very close, I suppose I am as close to an older sibling that the boy has and as I've ducked in and out of smoking habits unbeknownst to the family, I really don't want him on that path. I hate to think what other stupid choices the kid will make in order to look cool if he doesn't get any guidance.
If he was older, I would just leave it but his age really concerns me.
Am I being over-protective?/Should I tell his ma? Talk to him? I really don't think I can leave this one, it will really upset his family. Help!
TL;DR: | Kid cousin has been smoking to look cool. I don't know what action, if any, is appropriate to take. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My friend (24 F) and I (22 M), both already in relationships, shared an intimate time together, how do I talk to her about it?
POST: We've known each other as friends for about 2 and a half years. We were hanging out with some other friends, my SO of 3 years had stayed in for the night. Everyone ended up really messed up in the best of ways, strip charades and naked dancing, etc. Well this friend of mine, we'll say "Emma" and I ended up spooning in the eventual naked cuddle pile. There was no sex or anything very explicit, just a soft caressing, but the energy was intoxicating and invigorating. I cannot say I regret it. It wasn't the first time I have felt an attraction to her. She may be moving away soon and I worry that I may be missing out on something if I just let the situation awkwardly fizzle away, but I also feel mildly guilty about the unfaithful aspect. This feeling is however not as strong as I would have suspected. I really need advice! This account is a throwaway, I could care less about karma. Also, this lass is a fellow redditor, so hopefully this will generate enough talk for her to see it and call me out on it. That's kind of romantic, right?
TL;DR: | OP (22M) snuggled with his friend (24F) and really liked it, wants to know what to do now |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Do I [20s M] need to tell my half Vietnamese girlfriend [20s F] that my father was a Vietnam war veteran?
POST: Sorry for the throwaway, my girlfriend [20 F] reads Reddit though I'm [20 M] not sure if she reads /r/relationships.
So she's not really my girlfriend yet but I've been seeing this girl for about a month and so far nothing is too serious. I do really like her though and I hope to take our relationship a step further soon. Before I do, do I need to tell her about my dad being in the Vietnam war? I personally am 100% against war and I feel disgusted to think about what my father was a part of. I'm torn. On one hand, I would like to just pretend it never happened and not tell her. My father has passed away (from complications of the war) in the last few years so there's no chance that they will ever meet and we don't talk about it much in my family. On the other, I think it's the right thing to do, though it may end or slow down our relationship. We never have talked in depth about our parents and I'm not sure if or when I should tell her?
TL;DR: | Do I need to disclose that my father was a Vietnam war veteran? If I should, when do I do that? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [M 22] needs to break up with my GF [21 F] of 5 years, it's killing me and I don't know how to go about this...
POST: To the point, we've been together for 5 years and I don't know how to do it. We're being forced to move at the end of next month and she's currently looking for a place for us. I need to leave the relationship, and am out of town til wednesday and I need to do it tonight or tomorrow so I don't lead her on. We broke up in July, but decided to give it one last try with all we could, and I have to go my own way. It seems very cowardly to do this over the phone but shes under the impression im signing a years lease with her right now.
TL;DR: | Do I break up with her over the phone to not lead her on, or wait til we're face to face? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: (20/M) Friend at the moment (17/F) is confusing me.
POST: Alright, we don't have a relationship right now and she actually is in a relationship with someone else at the moment. We talk a lot online and when we hang out in person we really get along, we really click, but she is very strange... She is very depressed in some ways and she knows it and she has told me some very strange ideas she has, e.g. She doesn't want to live a long life, she thinks sex is super boring so she never does it. We rarely talk about me and her as a thing since she has a bf and I don't want her to cheat and I don't either. She talks about how she likes her boyfriend, but he does nothing for her, he didn't even get her a valentines day present. I have known her a less amount of time than him, yet I have hung out with her more. I feel like I can help her and make her happy, but she is stubborn and doesn't like a lot of change. I want a relationship with her, but I don't know how to approach her about it. Please let me know any advice you have, I really would appreciate it.
TL;DR: | I like a girl who is depressed and who has a bf that doesn't appreciate her. Not sure what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm (F22) not sure how to talk too/approach cute guy at work, advice please!
POST: Title says it all! Recently I've been really attracted to a guy at my workplace. While I was sitting down with a friend I turned around to see him looking at me. I shot him a smile the second time I caught his eye and he looked surprised.
After that he came up to me asking if I worked his shift (when I'm fairly certain he knows I don't, we've seen each other before this and his shift is a small group of people). I tried asking him a question after that and he looked down and seemed really quiet. After that I've been noticing him more and he always seems to be looking my way or show up in my work area more often. Hes been on my mind for awhile I'm just very shy myself and I don't know if I'm misinterpreting what I thought were signs he was interested. I know this is very high schoolish but I have never pursued a guy before and I really want to try too pursue him. Reddit please help! :(
TL;DR: | Cute guy at work is catching my eye, I want to talk to him hut I'm shy, nervous, ect. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by clapping
POST: I was in school, We got out for our lunch break, I was talking with my friends and one "let's call him B" of them went to talk with his Gf < not sure he says she is only a "friend".
I didn't notice him, then my other friend told me:" Look at B, he is like in love".. I told him:" Good for him, Bravo" and clapped twice to sarcastically show my friend <not b> that i don't give a fuck.
then 3 seconds later, the WHOLE FUCKING SCHOOL started clapping, and she leaves him and i get blamed, He didn't speak with me since and he tried to hit me when we were on our way out from school but our friends stopped him.
so now, some of my friends could talk to him, he told them he will kick my ass tomorrow, some of my friends are telling me not to go to school tomorrow.
Must be fucking fun tomorrow.
TL;DR: | clapped on lunch break sarcastically, will get my ass kicked tomorrow for it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: What is a "break"; how have redditor's "breaks" gone?
POST: Hey guys,
Firstly my sincere apologies if this is in the wrong subreddit, im fairly new here (~6month lurker on various subreddits/main page etc)
Anyway a brief background for you all: been with a great girl for a year now, the first 6 months i was a horrible drunk but a loving sober (im sure many can empathise) and i pushed her away numerous times though we always managed to work it out.
Anyway, I get the drinking under control and the past 6 months have been great, a few ups and downs but on the whole i think(/thought) we've both really enjoyed it.
Onto the thread purpose: Last night she comes back from drinking with a mutual friend and tells me how she had such a great time with him and how she wants to break up, i was sober so was pretty upset but managed to agree we sleep on it. Anyway morning comes she remembers the conversation and seems to be avoiding any discussion of it; untill she declares that
"she wants to be on a break for a bit to give her time to miss me and that it's not me it's just her being weird"
this is my first real relationship and i honestly have no idea what that really means; i have a rough idea, the cliché use and going on a break seems to be a nice way to maybe let me down gently.
Anyway
TL;DR: | Gf wants to go on a break, i have no idea what this is or how they work/work out. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23 M] wanted to take my wife [22 F] out for her birthday
POST: Was going to do something unorthodox that we both thought was fun - go to an arcade.
We both have younger siblings and figured, why not invite them too. However her family apparently can't afford to make the trip, and now she doesn't want to do it at all.
I've suggested we just do the 2 of us, or go with my siblings and do something else with hers but I'm getting the famous "sure, thats fine, nothings wrong"
The one kind of solution I can think of is offer to pay for everyone - her fam and my fam - so it's fair and everyone who wants to come can come. That'll set me back a good 200 dollars though. Call me cheap but I don't have a huge disposable income, and was hoping to get her a gift as well.
TL;DR: | Had fun plans for wife's birthday, now she's upset about them. Dunno what to do for wife's birthday |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: (25M) Girlfriend has quit talking to me, updated
POST: **Slight
TL;DR: | gf of six months has just quit talking to me. Finally texts me back. Where should I go from here? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by letting my dad ride my new motorcycle.
POST: Well this actually happened yesterday but close enough right?
I got my motorcycle exactly a week before this event, whilst enduring many safety lectures from my father and how to be careful and what not. Fast-forward a week and there I am happily riding my new bike already 200 kms under my belt.
Eventually I turn up at my dads house for a visit and he decides to go for a ride on my bike, so I show him the buttons and levers and off he goes zooming up and down the street like some wannabe Moto GP rider, I go back inside and after a few minutes I hear no sign of him or the bike. I end up going outside as he pulls up really slowly to the driveway he sheepishly looks at me and I see the whole side of the bike is wrecked, missing the right mirror, indicator and the whole footpeg and back break is snapped off plus the plastics scratched and smashed. Turns out he tried to power turn on a patch of wet grass and went ass over tits and shreked the whole side of the bike. Moral of the story don't trust anyone with your ride.
TL;DR: | Dad has a go on my bike, slips on wet grass and wrecks my bike after a week of having it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (21M) really, really, really, need to break up with (20F). I've tried before. I've failed both her and myself by not going through with it. Help.
POST: It's been 3 years. I'm 21. She's 20. I've tried breaking up with her before but I am manipulated to stay with her. Whether it's her crying, throwing a tantrum, guilting me into staying with her, and even physically stopping me from leaving her car.
Please, help me. I've always been the one to be broken up with. I'm not very good at this. I feel like I've failed both her and I because I didn't go through with it. Now I am stuck in a spiteful relationship where I grow to hate her. I don't want to hate her. She used to be my best friend.
Thanks in advance to anyone who tries to help me.
TL;DR: | How do I break up with my girlfriend who won't let me do it? What is the easiest/fairest way? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by walking in on a woman in a porta-potty
POST: So today there was the first annual 5k at the college I graduated from. It's my old college, so I'm going to support it, and I've been getting in shape so I decided to kill two birds with one stone. I get finished running and there is basically a huge party in one of the parking lots. Free beer, food, music, and we get to watch the spring football game later in the afternoon.
By 11am I've had probably 4 beers and needed to take a leak. So I go to the edge of the parking lot with the row of porta potties and look for one that I open. Most of the ones are taken but I see one that's looks like the lock just kind of went halfway down. I knock, and me being drunk combined with the live music, I don't hear anything. I open the door, but it got kind of stuck on the way. So by the time it's open I know it was supposed to be locked. This woman has her pants by her feet, she stands up, covers her nether regions, and yells in an embarrassed and angry voice that it is occupied.
I have never seen the look of shame and pure rage on someone's face like this before. As soon as I do this, someone else comes out of a different porta potty and I go in there. I hide in there for about 10 minutes and hope that I don't see that woman again.
TL;DR: | Walked in on a woman in a porta potty and couldn't tell if the woman wanted to cry or kill me |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me(23M) with my girlfriend (20F), she's says I love you a lot and it confuses me.
POST: Hey reddit, I know this will all sound stupid but allow me to explain.
I'm in a official relationship with my GF since january after a lot of messing around and I must say that this is the best relation that I ever had but here's the issue ( or is it ?).
She's always been the kind of girl to be more discret? with her feeling, she's even mentionned when she first told me 'I love you' that she wanted to preverse the value of those words and that we should not use it evertime because it would lose its meaning and I agreed to that because I think its true. Thing is, ever since I move to my New appartment( I proposed her to live with since she's living at her parents house and she dont really like it, she refused thought), she started saying it a lot and by a lot I mean 10-15 a day.
I mean its not really annoying but more like strange coming from her. Maybe it's just me but why would you need to confirm your feelings that often except if you're trying to convince yourself ? Anyway I'm confused so what would you think about this ?
TL;DR: | girlfriend says I love you a lot more and it isn't like her. I'm confused as to what to think. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I'm writing a paper about Reddit! Please help me find this TED talk on rewards.
POST: Hello fellow redditors,
I think this website and the community it has grown into is something worth writing about, so I've picked it as the artifact for my Senior Thesis in Communications.
I'm currently writing about the karma system and how upvotes motivate people to be more helpful, charitable, albeit sometimes just witty. A long time ago, I watched a TED talk about how a similar "reward" system would work in real life, where arbitrary points would be given for an assortment of good deeds. I've scoured the website but I can't find it. Can anyone out there point me in the right direction?
Thank you!
TL;DR: | I'm looking for a TED talk about a real-life karma system and I can't find it. Please help! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: M(18) with a girlfriend (17) of 9 months. Having issues with her stress levels.
POST: So my girlfriend of 9 months Is having issues with stress and it is effecting our relationship. There is a chance she may have to move 900 miles away to accommodate her fathers new job, or stay here and just live with her mother while her father goes 900 miles away for his new job.
On top of that she is stressed with school and a slew of other things.
It is effecting our relationship because she is starting to become more and more weighed down by the stress and it is screwing up what we have together.
I guess what I'm asking is how should I deal with the stress changing her, and what can I do to help her get passed it?
TL;DR: | Girlfriend has a lot of stress that is effecting our relationship negitivly, how do I deal with it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I [21F] need help coming over this probably rejection? I feel like puking.
POST: I talked to this guy for three months, and we hit off really well. He said I was stupid attractive, and that our personalities were very similar. We had so much fun talking to each other..
I didn't meet him, but we had plans to since I didn't get back to college until recent. He talked to me for the first week. I asked him to hang out. He said "I have been seeing someone this past week, so it wouldn't be a good idea". I basically responded with "wooooww. Okay". and then called him out for pulling a shitty move on me (not telling me earlier). Basically said I hope it works out (he didn't say he did either?) and that it probably should end now (us talking)
I am so hurt. I thought everything was going in the right direction.. and he doesn't give me a chance!!
At the end, I still hope he changes his mind and realizes his mistake but.. god. I feel like I'm going to puke.
TL;DR: | Guy [23m]didn't give me a chance because he was "saw someone" just once the past week... |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: F(26) Is it possible to have sex to soon in a dating relationship. M(33) (2 month relationship)
POST: We decided to have sex after our second date because we both suffer from anxiety. At the time I thought this was the best idea because it would help ease my nerves as well as his. Now that we have been seeing each other for 2 months I feel like our relationship is mostly about sex and perhaps we had sex to early and didn't form a non physical bond.
Id like to bring it up to him however Im not sure if this relationship can be saved. Should I suggest we not have sex anymore until things change. I myself am not sure if i have the self control to not engage in activities which worries me.
TL;DR: | Has sex 2nd date and now it seems our realtionship is based mostly on sex. What should I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20F] have no desire to engage in physical contact with my boyfriend [22M] of three months.
POST: My boyfriend (22) and I (20) are having issues with physical contact. If it were up to him, we'd be kissing and touching and holding each other all the time. However, I have little to no desire to engage in physical contact with him. We've talked about my reluctance and how it might be evidence of my intimacy issues, and he's agreed to back off and stop kissing me and whatnot. Clearly, he's bummed, but I don't know what to do. When we first started dating, I was excited, and I still get butterflies, but he's definitely more affectionate than I am. We connect on several deeper levels, and I feel like I can talk to him about anything. Reddit, is there anything I can do to build sexual tension or to get to a point where all I want to do is kiss him?
TL;DR: | Boyfriend likes kissing me, but I don't want to kiss him. I want to want to kiss him. Help. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23 M] thinking of getting back in serious relationship with my ex [24 F] of 2 yr. Would you settle for a girl like this?
POST: She is the only girlfriend I've had. We had a very healthy and happy relationship for two years until I started to notice stuff that I wouldn't like so much if we were to marry. No one is perfect and I don't intend her to be, but the problem is she is the only person I've been with and I don't know if I'm being stupid for walking away for those reasons. This is her:
PROS
+ She's honest 99% of the time
+ She's loyal
+ She's cheerful
+ She's loving
+ She's helpful
+ She has dignity and selfrespect
+ She's compassionate and forgiving
CONS (reasons why I'm out)
- She's careless / disordered
- She's not very intellectual
- She doesn't have strong personal passions.
- She doesn't speak for her unconfirmities, which creates conflicts.
- Her parents are manipulative and she doesn't draw the line, ends up manipulated.
- Her family's way of being is something I don't like at all.
People who have had many relationships, ¿Would you say the pros are worth bearing the cons? How hard is it to find someone with these positive traits?
TL;DR: | I don't know if I'm being stupid by leaving my gf for reasons I don't know if are important. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me 25M and her 26FM are getting a divorce. She wants it and I dont.
POST: We have been together for eight years and married three. I was just told two days ago out of the blue that she ready for divorce and isn't staying together anymore.
We have been absolutely great until she brought up this information. We had talks about a polyamororus lifestyle but I didn't want to do that. We moved on but now it's obvious what she wants.
I took her virginity so she feels like she missed out. I don'tthink she realizes the mistake she is making. We don't have kids, we have a great income. I'm in shape and she is average. There have been zero performance issues in bed.
She just feels like she is missing out and instead of cheating, she wants a divorce.
How did some of you get through a divorce. I seriously can't live without her and I don't understand why this has built up to now. She won't try any counseling either
TL;DR: | my wife wants a divorce and I dont. How do I move on when I feel like I can't even move? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] with my GF [21F] eight months, I lied to her for months. How do I prove to her that she can still believe me.
POST: My girlfriend and I have been dating for about eight months. She was the best girl I have ever gotten. She was sweet, cute, kinky, and completely in love with me. She helped me be a better person; she helped me stop smoking and she gave me a the freedom to be me whenever I'm with her. She gave me freedom and love. We are both in college, and I lied to her about my grades and my classes. I told her I was doing well and I didn't withdraw from any class, but I did. She has been suspecting this for weeks and today she confronted me about it. I told her everything. I showed her this semester's transcripts .
This entire semester my lies have been eating away at me. I knew I should tell her, that I have to tell her. But I was too afraid to tell her. I didn't want to seem incompetent and unsuccessful. Now I regret everything. She told me today that she is falling out of love with me because of this. How to I prove to her that she can believe me, that I can be honest. I don't want to break up. She kept me on track this semester despite the my grades, without her I would've done worse. I want her to stay. I know I need to be honest, but how do I prove to her that she can believe me? Please help.
TL;DR: | I lied to her for months,and I was too much of a coward to tell the truth. How do I get her back. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 27F and me [26M]
POST: So I got some advice a week or so ago, maybe 10 days ago about asking a girl who goes to my gym out. She and I always talk when we see each other at the gym over the last 4-5 months and I really would like to ask her out/get her number or whatever, but the issue is her gym attendance is spotty at best.
She might come in for 3-4 days for a week, then one day then not come in for a few weeks. So my question would be, do I wait until I see her in person, at the gym, to ask (which I would prefer) or contact her over something like messenger because of the long periods between running into her?
So I guess my
TL;DR: | do I wait until I see her in person (no idea when that will be) or ask her via a digital method? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Hey Reddit, I need a hand to score an amazing internship in Singapore
POST: Hey there, long time lurker here (yeah I know that's everyone's excuse for a lack of karma), but I really would love your love here reddit. I'm trying to get an internship with a seriously awesome startup in Singapore called [MyCube] and the nice folks who run it have decided to lock the runners up in a deadly duel to see who can get the most sign-ups for their new [beta](
(This is the bit where you come in). It would be redonkulusly helpful if you could sign-up at [beta.mycube.com] using my referral code **mcnicholash**, where not only will you receive my never ending love, but you'll also get $8 of credit with their new service!
Oops, forgot to post the link to the internship - you can take a look at it [here](
TL;DR: | go to [beta.mycube.com] and sign-up using **mcnicholash** to help me get to Singapore |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I make my GF more pervy?
POST: 26/m been together with a 28/f for 14 months - living together 12, and overall a pretty awesome relationship. I want her to be more flirtatious/pervy with me. A lot of times her idea of foreplay is snuggling up to me or outright offering sex ("hey, wanna do it?"), which though nice and simple, isn't always an automatic turn on. Admittedly I'm somewhat spoiled since my past experiences with women involved rather extroverted, confident (slutty?) women.. And my current GF - though a doll - has self-esteem issues which explain why she never wears skirts, heels, or anything else I consider "sexy" unless its by request - and even then only in the bedroom. The sad bit is, she's really open and more than willing to do almost anything for me in bed if I ask.. But I get turned off by asking her to put on some nylons, or some sexy knickers to have at it. Any advice for getting her to do these things on her own? I've explained to her how I feel and how I'd enjoy it so much more if she did these things (once in a while - its not like I need it to get off) with out my asking.. But that hasn't spurred her to action.
TL;DR: | GF has great sexual appetite but terribly un-flirtatious. How do I make my GF sluttier? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (17M) want to ask a girl out (17F) but keep finding excuses not to.
POST: This may sound really strange but I want to date this girl but I don't. She is a great person, nice, funny and really freaken cute, but we don't have much in common. I think it'd be amazing for us to date, but I fear heartbreak.
Me and a girl had a odd thing going on where I had a crush on her she had a crush on me and we where best friends. Well she reached a point where she didn't romantically like me anymore so I felt the full heart break. We stayed best friends and we've been best friends for about 4 years now.
After the sorta heartbreak I've feared it since. And this new girl we will call her kaity for now. We are good friends but I don't want to get stuck in the friend zone. I feel like im slowly running out of time. I do try to flirt on occasions but that's as far as I've gone. Help please.
TL;DR: | I like a girl but fear heart break and the friend zone. How do I get over my fear and ask her out? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by trying to flirt
POST: This happened yesterday and I still cringe inside when I think about it. I was sitting in my college's student union and I was waiting for a class to start. I was sitting at a table minding my own business while I see a pretty girl sitting at the other end of the table I'm sitting at. I was charging my tablet at an outlet nearby and I had to go to the John, so I asked her if she can watch my stuff for my while I'm gone. When I come back I ask her her name and I give her mine. After a couple minutes I decide to pull the trigger and talk to her. I ask her if the seat is taken, she said no so I sit down. I then ask her "What color was the dress?" in a stupid attempt to be funny. She said "I saw both colors" and in a pitiful attempt to keep the conversation going, I ask her what her next class was. We start talking about the class and the teacher until we just reach an awkward silence. The only thing I could have said at that time was "good talk" and I slowly got up and went out the door.
TL;DR: | Tried to talk to a girl, got an awkward convo in return that ended like a locker room pep talk. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (20M) recently heard that my recent ex (18F) of nearly two years has allegedly been cheating on me and I don't know if I should confront her.
POST: So I dated my ex during highschool then I went off to college as she finished her senior year so we went long distance for awhile. We recently broke up because she could not handle the distance and felt things had changed between us, but still wanted to be friends. I was very upset by this but I saw it coming and told her I'd need time alone first before we could be friends.
A week passed and I missed just talking with her and being friends so I was debating texting her just saying that yeah, it'll hurt and be hard, but I'll manage since it's likely I won't see her again. I told my friend who was in her grade what I was thinking and he started telling me about some of the stuff that happened during the time I was gone, including things like going out with a boy she told me she didn't see too often and was just a friend and making out with one of her friends at a party and then blowing it off when confronted about it by my friend.
So now here I am, confused, curious, angry, and a little sad wondering if I should reach out to her to learn the truth or letting it pass and never talking to her again. She has some of my games so that is a way I can confront her about that stuff when I get it but I don't know what is the best course of action here.
TL;DR: | heard rumors my ex cheated on me and now I don't know if I should cut off ties or learn the truth. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I [M 19] talk to my family about putting my father [M 69] in an assisted living type setting?
POST: My father is 69, retired, has very bad back problems that keep him from moving around a lot, has shown signs of dementia, and here recently has taken a fall down the stairs that has put him in the hospital. He is doing alright now, but he was hallucinating (just a little bit) in the hospital, and nobody has told me anything about what our plan for him is.
His bedroom is upstairs at our house, and there is not much room on the ground level to make him a room. Even if there was, my mom works during the day and my little brother has school so he would be home alone, and that's not something I feel easy about at all.
Has anybody found that their parents/grandparents were actually happier in an assisted living/nursing home type setting? I'm not sure of the differences between them or how they work, but I do know that I don't feel comfortable leaving my dad at home alone all day. I think it actually might be better for him, since he doesn't get out much. Maybe if he was living with all of these other seniors, he would get to socialize more or something.
Any kind of help or insight would be wonderful. I'm just so terrified something could happen to him, but I don't want to just stick him in a place where he won't be happy.
TL;DR: | Have you ever had to put a parent/grandparent into a home, and if you have, did it work well? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: brothers [m-23] girlfriend [f-23] is sabotaging my relationship
POST: hi everyone,
this is gonna be one big rant.
my younger brothers' [23] girlfriend [23] is one of a kind.
at first i really liked her, but now i just can't stand her!
she really tries everything to break me [f 25] and my fiance [m 27] up. you wouldn't believe it. she tells him i cheated, that she saw me kissing someone else, tells me, that my fiance doesn't wanna marry me, but that he knows i want it, so he's kinda feeling forced etc. she even said that he had been trying to kiss her...
that's not all though. my brother is so madly in love with her, that he believes every little shitty story she tells. it's even gone as far as him not wanting us over at his place anymore, and avoiding us at family get togethers.... i tried to talk to him, but it's nearly impossible to have a normal conversation with him.
this shit is really dragging me down. the worst thing is, that my brother barely talks to me anymore. we used to tell each other everything, but now (if we talk) it's like "hey, how's work? the weather has been good lately" and he's also turned his back on our other two siblings...
please help.
thank you,
needcandy
TL;DR: | my brothers [m-23] girlfriend [f-23] wants my fiance [m-27] and me [f-25] to break up.... |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU-by refusing family Xmas dinner
POST: Back story: My sister has had a habit of dating the 'wrong' type of guy. Her present wrong type has recently been caught installing an app on her phone that forwards all of her PM's to his account. She'd kicked him out over it, filed charges against him, put a restraining order on him and then a couple of months later drops all charges and takes him back into her life. She has two children who can't stand him. Her best friend won't visit while he's there. My mom can't stand him but is still going to Xmas dinner at her house which he'll also be attending.
Personally, I'm worried that I won't be able to be civil to him and would rather not ruin the event so I've decided to just not show up, send presents over with my mom and hope they have a great time. Problem is that my sister is now furious with me and told my mom that I ruined Xmas for her. As sis put it to my mom, she doesn't understand why I won't respect her choice. Well, it was a stupid choice, imo. I'm not going to sit there and pretend that I'm having a good, familial time when just looking at the goof upsets me to the point of reacting. He's like the red-headed bully in A Christmas Story to me: a veritable fist magnet. My hope is that she eventually sees that my obstinance is for the better good of the season but given her temper and surprising talent for holding onto grudges, that is not likely to occur any time soon. Le *sigh
TL;DR: | Sis's boyfriend is an a-hole so I won't go to her house for Xmas dinner. Now I'm the a-hole. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: When is it ok to start posting pictures with new SO on social media? (22F, 26M)
POST: My ex boyfriend and I broke up amicably 7 months ago. (22F, 24M) We dated for 2 years: 1 year same city, 1 year 4,000 miles of long distance. It eventually fell apart as we grew apart. We knew it wasn't working, but I wanted to leave it more than he did.
Fast forward to now. I have been seeing this new guy (26M) for 2 months, and we've been officially dating for just over a week.
My ex just came back to the states permanently. I met up with him for coffee a few days ago and he told me he was still in love with me. I told him I'd moved on.
I want to be courteous of my ex. I don't have romantic feelings towards him, but as he is my friend, I also don't want to hurt him more than he's already hurting.
My dilemma: I'm really excited about my new relationship want to post photos with my new bf on social media, but I don't want my ex to feel like I'm rubbing it in his face.
Should I wait it out a bit longer, or live my life and stop feeling responsible for everyone else's feelings?
TL;DR: | I want to post pics of me and my new bf, but also don't want to make my ex feel bad. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26/f] with my bf [32/M] 2.5 years, refuses to stay the night
POST: As stated in the title I've been with my bf for about 2.5 years. We've had some pretty rough ups and downs. I don't want to delve to deeply into the emotional issues, but I realize some details are required to provide a decent response. So, we both have depression and anxiety disorder(diagnosed) my depression is mild, and my anxiety is mostly under control. That being said his illness didn't really surface until almost a year into the relationship. During the first year we had a rapidly growing and loving relationship.
Now fast forward to a year or so in and after much persuasion my bf stays periodically (mostly during the weekend). After a few months of regular stays he wakes up one day in the worst mood and starts a fight. After said fight he expresses his discomfort with staying, and stops almost all together. He will stay rarely, but usually I have to suggest it, I don't really enjoy doing this.
Despite all this he and I still talk openly about a future together. At this point I'm wondering if living together is a good idea or even a plausible one. Beginning to think "the future" is all talk. Advice/thoughts appreciated.
TL;DR: | Bf of 2.5 years won't stay the night. Is this normal, and is there hope for a change, or a future? |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Applying for my dream job tomorrow - a porn store.
POST: Well, close enough to my dream job.
I've wanted to work in the adult retail industry for awhile, because it has always facinated me. I like working retail, and I'm just about the most lax/open person I know when it comes to sexuality. I applied for jobs in countless porn stores in my hometown (Portland, OR. Known for its parks, strip clubs, and sex scene.) but my best friend's mom was the general manager of the biggest chain of retail stores in the area. She put the word out not to hire me. (She was trying to protect me.)
I've since moved to a new town halfway across the country, and the local adult shop is hiring. The man on the phone sounded excited when I inquired about job openings, and told me to come in tomorrow morning and apply. I plan to bring in a resume (which isn't very impressive, but it does have 3 straight years at a party store on it... which is something for someone who hasn't even graduated college yet.) and a cover letter. Any tips on what to write for the cover letter? I was going to make it a bit more personal, a bit more beefing up the fact that I'm awesome than the general hoity-toity professional cover letter. What do you guys think?
TL;DR: | Applying at a porn store. Need to write a cover letter. Hints/tips/tricks/advice? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [28 M] don't want a friendship with her [27 F]
POST: a woman i met a few weeks ago is totally uninterested in a romantic relationship after letting my intentions known. no worries and absolutely no animosity.
however, when i stop contacting her (as one does when they are rejected), she continues to contact me, unsolicited, via texts or calls to see how i'm doing, catch up, etc.
i'm well aware of the "friend zone" and assume that she sees me as one. keep in mind, i've barely known her that long and we've never been friends, so this is not a case of me being frustrated that i couldn't work a friendship into "more." i simply don't want her as a friend, end of story.
how should i handle this without coming off as a total jerk?
TL;DR: | how do i let a woman know i don't want to be her friend in order to move on with my life? |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: [21m] unsure of how to deal with regret/guilt over breakup with [21f]
POST: 4 months ago I broke up with the girl I really liked after 2.5 months of being official (an additional 1.5 months before that). I did it because I was stupid, and didn't know what I wanted. I did it because I have to keep my love life a secret from my orthodox parents and I was facing pressure from them as the lies I created began to unravel. When I broke up with her, I lied to her and told her I didn't like her. I thought this would be the easiest way to do it (this was my first time breaking up with a girl, and I really cared about her and didn't want to hurt her any more than I already had to).
A summer away at my internship and I've realized what a horrible mistake I've made and what a stupid decision that was. But now she has another boyfriend. I'm not sure what I should do in this situation. Should I at the very least just tell her the truth and then let her figure it out? Or should I keep quiet and live with the decision I made? I tried forgetting about her, but our friend circles overlap.
TL;DR: | broke up with gf without legit reason, now she has new bf, but i still like her. what do i do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [M18] Should I start dating [F18] when she's moving away for three and a half months in just a few weeks time?
POST: I met a girl from my uni at a party last week and we hit it off quickly. We snuggled with no kissing or sex in the same bed there.
We've now gone on a dinner date and I throughly enjoyed myself though that night we went to a party again and I slept at her place. We decided against having sex or getting in a relationship given she's moving to a different state after exams finish in a few weeks.
I really like this girl and will struggle either way, seeing her only a few times in 4 months or not dating her at all.
What is a good way to go about resolving this?
TL;DR: | [F18] is moving away for a while and I [M18] don't know whether we should hold off. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Son & Daughter-In-Law found out the sex of their new baby today. They told her side of the family the sex, but not our side. Am I wrong to be pissed off?
POST: Some back story. My wife and I live close to our son and daughter-in-law. Her family is out of state. My wife watches their 2.5 year old son ant least once a week so the D-I-L can have some time to herself. Despite all the olive branches and efforts at trying to get close to her it seems she just does not like us. Today my wife watched the grandson while they went to the doctors. When they got back they told her that they had already called her parents (and other relatives) out of state and told them sex of the baby due in December. They didn't tell my wife, and only later said they wanted to reveal it at a party where everyone else will find out the sex.
Am I wrong to be pissed at both of them for treating us this way?
TL;DR: | Son & Daughter in law let her parent know sex of baby and won't tell us. I'm pissed about it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: My [m 23] gf [f 22] could tell I disliked my birthday gift from her. Need help dispersing resultant misery.
POST: After a beautiful trip to a state park up north, we came back to the car and she hands me a bag. It contained a necklace: the necklace had on one dogtag a latin expression (I am studying latin) meaning roughly "with my love".
The other dogtag featured a crucifix with uniquely feminine little sparklies dotting each corner. The dogtags are small and sort of feminine. Like... *really* sort of feminine.
I tried to play it off, but she could sense my disappointment, and when I asked in a restaurant for her to "tell me more about this necklace!" (Hoping to glean some insight into why on earth she picked this; I'm quite the romantic and really any not-made-for-a-14yr-old-girl necklace would have excessively sufficed.) She exploded in self-pity for her giftgiving skills; I feel like the worst boyfriend ever. I'm am awful liar, but I shouldve tried harder, eh? She physically stole the gift back and is holding it ransom, hinting that she'll try again. Feels bad man.
Friends, how do I turn this murky awkward sadness around?
TL;DR: | gf got me an ill-fitting gift (nonironically) and realized that and has become morose. Help?? |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Creeped out a co-worker, completely my fault. Need advise.
POST: Firstly let me open up by saying I completely realize the creepiness and pervy nature of my actions, I wasn't thinking and now it's really ruined a nice work dynamic I had with a co-worker.
So, I thought it would be a good idea to try and take pictures up my co-workers skirt with my phone. She caught me in the act and wasn't very happy at all.
Luckily no one else at work noticed the incident so there's been no fallout from it other than her hating my guts, I apologized that evening via text, owned up to my pervy, creepy behavior and said that I would give her space at work and that I owed her an apology in person.
I've yet to give her that apology as she doesn't want to talk to me at all, which I understood, so I plan on giving it some time before apologizing to her face.
I realize that if she was so inclined to tell our employer, this is something I could lose my job over.
How should I handle this situation?
TL;DR: | Co-worker caught me trying to take pictures up her skirt; is now creeped out by me and hates me. |
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