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My experience with chronic stress was an extreme version of the same issue that everyone on
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this planet contends with Thus recounting my story of recovery provides a vivid case study
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with which to compare your experience It also allows me to describe how the Program Peace
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exercises relieved my symptoms so that you can see how they can relieve yours My symptoms
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were pretty bad
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My breathing was shallow and rapid My eyebrows were constantly raised was always
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squinting and had purple creases under my eyes couldnt maintain eye contact for long before
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my eyes would dart away of their own accord had an enduring lump in my throat and a
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hoarse and high voice had persistent kinks in my neck tweaks in my lower back and a
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clenched jaw mumbled and stammered when spoke held my breath during conversations
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gasped between sentences and looked at the floor when speaking had almost no capacity to
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glare frown flare my nostrils or straighten my neck in the company of others
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Throughout my twenties was deeply afflicted by anxiety depression and bodily
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discomfort was unaware that the symptoms described in the previous paragraph were causal
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factors in this discomfort All knew is that felt perpetually distressed and couldnt figure out
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why The feeling would not abate and was resulting in chronic lowgrade pain This made me
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wonder Where in my body do hold this pain and how can access and extinguish it found
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the physical manifestations of my stress to be completely elusive tried many different clinical
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and alternative methods to improve my condition without success Popular breathing exercises
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medical recommendations psychological therapy and stress reduction programs did nothing
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for me So began experimenting on myself using methods derived from my knowledge of
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social cognition neuroplasticity and mammalian biology The result was a system designed to
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train the body to reflect an optimal environment
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The core idea is this Had you been raised in a perfect world with zero negativity the way
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you hold your body would be painless and symptomfree But no one is raised in an ideal world
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Our spines facial muscles breathing musculature and brains have internalized trauma over our
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life course Trillions of individual cells are altered on a molecular level The alterations cause
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muscles and soft tissues throughout the body to become stiff and sore These insidious changes
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rob us of our composure and put us in a metaphorical straitjacket That straitjacket constricts
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more and more with the passage of time Left unchecked it fits a little tighter every day
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until death The system presented here will teach you how to recompose yourself to escape
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this stranglehold
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This book presents activities and exercises for you to practice each accompanied by
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relevant scientific background for perspective The focus will be on comparative physiology
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explaining how our bodies function by comparing us with other animals Considering these
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parallels helps us make inferences about ideal functioning in humans We saw an example of
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this in the Preface When mammals are calm they breathe with the respiratory diaphragm
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When they are distressed they tense the diaphragm and breathe with other respiratory
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muscles The more traumatized a mammal becomes the more tense and inactive its
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diaphragm becomes
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PROGRAM PEACE Self Care Exercises to Reprogram Your Mind and Body
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In fact the diaphragm is one of your bodys main repositories of trauma The tightening
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stranglehold discussed above partially corresponds to cumulative changes to your breathing
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style that make you breathe more shallowly unevenly and rapidly You can release this trauma
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by training your diaphragm which we will start later in this chapter before focusing on it in
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depth in Chapter You will learn a series of methods to make your breathing permanently
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deeper smoother and slower This sends an its okay to relax message to the entire body
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By training your diaphragm to preside over your breathing you can convince your body to
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assume that it resides in a habitat free from danger The remainder of the book will guide you
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through exercises that combine this form of peaceful breathing with various postures
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expressions and forms of body language In performing them you will reprogram yourself for
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confidence health and peace
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Stress Resides in the Way We Carry Ourselves
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Most of us have knowingly or not experienced intense longterm periods of stress In my case
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it happened throughout my twenties In the morning would wake up feeling anxious After
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just a few social encounters my heart would be racing and my adrenaline overwhelming
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Friends and acquaintances were often alarmed by the way behaved wondering what could
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possibly be so stressed about would greet a friend and the expression on my face would
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cause them to scan the immediate environment for threats because the fear on my face
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suggested to them we were in immediate danger People would ask me What is it that youre
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so worried about To which would reply Im rarely worried about anything specific It must
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be biological
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Under conditions of chronic stress symptoms continually worsen over time My default
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stress level had been elevated over many years Upon going to bed instead of allowing myself
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to return to a tranquil baseline fell asleep more frantic than the night before When this
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happens the bodys systems become stuck in a state of overdrive Thought processes become
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overclocked It becomes hard to fall asleep difficult to rest and impossible to relax Many of us
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reach a point at which our experience of life is like a bad trip infused with the sensations of
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both withdrawal and overdose As tolerance to the sensations of stress builds many people
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barely notice how deranged they have allowed themselves to become
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Pressing social concerns and professional responsibilities cause us to ignore the symptoms
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As we habituate to the physical and mental anguish our body continues making longterm
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adjustments that further entrench us in overexertion This is compounded by the fact that it has
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historically been very difficult to successfully treat chronic stress Modern medicine has no real
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solution aside from drugs and rest This is why most people do little to nothing about it
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After a particularly bad day while lying in bed trying to meditate had an epiphany
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recognized the way was holding my body as the source of my mental suffering For the first
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time could feel my anxiety not as diffuse and psychological but as aching localized in my gut
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stiffness in distinct spinal muscles as agonizing contortions of my face and as the misery of
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stiff shaky breathing
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Recognizing that did not hold my body in this way as a child immediately wanted to
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know how had come to do it From that point on have been working to discover how the
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body and mind compensate after being exposed to trauma In creating this system spent
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countless hours analyzing my behavior and how carried myself in minute detail After
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Chapter Optimal Quality of Life Training
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comparing my mannerisms with the scientific literature on the manifestations of stress in
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mammalian biology came to realize was a model of precisely what not to do This process of
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selfdeconstruction took me from being the most nervous person knew to the calmest
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Why is stress so extensive in humans It is because it had survival benefits As a result of
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our prehistoric past we react to minor threats as if they were matters of life and death Most
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modern human stress derives from mundane frustrations that our bodys evolved mechanisms
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misinterpret as lifethreatening dangers Although most people dont realize it most of these
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minor threats are ultimately social in nature believe that the predominant source of stress
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is the apprehension of social conflict and the tension that it creates Deep down we are afraid
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that others will reject us if we are too calm We make ourselves feel uneasy and excitable so
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that our outward manifestations of stress communicate goodwill hope this book will convince
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you that you dont need to manufacture and advertise stress to avoid conflict and make friends
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Illustration A Facial muscles B Crosssection of the heart C Diaphragm and bottom of the rib cage
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Submissive Nonverbal Behavior Is in Our Genes
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Nonverbal social displays perpetuate the majority of our bodily tension In biology a display is
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