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SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me (17 M) and my girlfriend (17) have been together for almost a year and a half.
POST: (It is my senior year in high school.) My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half on the 25th of this month, but we won't be able to be to be together on that day because shes going to be out of town. The only day I would be able to hang out with her before she leaves is tomorrow.
Two or three months ago I bought her two rings, they aren't very expensive but they are still nice.
But I don't know if I should give them to her because she might think that they are a promise ring, but I also don't know if that would be such a bad thing. I just don't want her to over think it. The whole idea of giving them to her makes me nervous.
I've given her other stuff, like necklaces and clothes and notes and stuff but I have not given her a ring before because it just seemed like a bigger deal to me.
I guess what I'm asking is if it would be a nice idea for me to give them to her or not. I love her but I'm not sure if they would give the wrong idea and make things too serious for our age.
TL;DR: | I love my girlfriend and I got her two rings, but I don't know if I should give them to her or not. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by liking sexy girls photos on Facebook
POST: So I am single and I have been talking to multiple girls on facebook at the same time. I would like their photos just because I thought they were hot. Little did I know that it shows up in my friends news feed. So everytime I liked a "slutty" pic or whatever, all the girls I am friends with and have been talking to would see that I am checking out other girls and liking their pics.
I have been doing this for a few months now and I just found out after my parents asked me who the hell are all these girls on your facebook? They look gross. And they were paranoid that their friends on facebook can see them. Now I look like a huge pervert.
TL;DR: | Liked a bunch of pics of girls on facebook. Everyone probably ~~thinks~~ knows I'm a pervert now. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Getting myself out of debt as a 26 year old.
POST: So, I'm a UK resident earning £33,000 p/a - £1,984 net a month. Throwaway account as various of my colleagues browse Reddit.
I've got the following debts;
* Up to £2,000 - Overdraft (fluctuates between -£200 to -£1,800) @ no idea what rate, maybe like 15%?
* £3,500 - Credit card debt at @ 15% p.a.
* £500 - Credit card debt @ 17% p.a.
I'm owed £600 which will be settled up in the next two months (yup, dumb of me to lend money when I'm paying interested on the money I owe currently!)
I've got no savings and I just literally don't know where to begin to pay this off.
After outgoings, I have ~£984 a month spare. No matter what I do I always seem to be back where I started even when I try and control my expenditure.
What's the best way out of this? Should I try and get a debt consolidation loan? The interest on that would be lower and it would just finish off my existing debt and force me to pay monthly.
My credit rating is pretty atrocious as a few years back I accidentally defaulted on a credit card payment (which will 'drop off' in a couple of years).
It's my new year's plan to try and sort this and I feel like if I tackle this in advance of that date, I'll at least have some sort of plan in place.
Any help is appreciated but I feel pretty lost and crippled by all this debt (and yes, I completely realise that it was stupid of me to get into it in the first place).
TL;DR: | £6,000 of debt, how do I pay it off with a disposable income of just under £1k a month? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What one thing keeps you from "getting over" from your Ex completely?
POST: I would have to say his family. I never really had a supportive family. My mother and grandmother were alcoholics who both died before my high school graduation. Because I am the daughter of an alcoholic the rest of the family avoids me. My dad gave away custody right away so I just got to know that side of the family, and I'm still not really a part of it. My grandpa has really been the only supportive family member.
On the other hand, my ex's family loved me to death. His mom wanted me as one of her own. She always told me she loved me and would get mad at her son when he was being a dick to me. She cried when she found out that our relationship wasn't going well because she would miss me. His introverted really shy brother even got to know me. He started talking and teasing me, which is a really big deal. He plays the violin and after finding out I play piano he requested that I learn music we could play together. His sister was very supportive and so was his other brother. It got to the point where everyone in the family got me christmas presents and sometimes birthday gifts. Even his pet Macaw adored me. I miss these people about twenty times more than I miss him. The only reason that I would ever get back together with him would be to be in these people's lives and at their Christmases.
TL;DR: | I have a shitty family and my ex's family loved me to death. I wish I could be adopted by them. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Mother in-law issues
POST: Pardon the format as I am on mobile.
To begin, she's not technically my mother in law because my boyfriend and I are not married.
I simply adore this family, I love all of them to death but it seems like I could be replaced tomorrow and no one would really be bothered. This bugs me, how have we been together this long and his parents (specifically mother) be indifferent about me. I see the way my friends interact with their "mother in-laws" and it is so different than the dynamic we have. Even my best friend notices when she is around that she's not very enthusiastic about me.
For what it's worth she is an Aquarius.
TL;DR: | my "mother in-law" seems standoffish with me and I don't know how to win her over! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My mother (60) has been on a diet since I can remember - she is a healthy weight, sometimes a little too skinny, yet constantly complains about being fat and won't listen to me telling her she doesn't need to diet or exercise the way she does.
POST: How do I convince her that she doesn't need to lose weight? She won't hear it from anyone in our family (my dad is actually a doctor and her sister, a nurse, and I am not fat but not skinny either, so my words fall on deaf ears because she's always gotten on me about my weight) and complains about her joint issues as if she's only having them because excess fat is stressing them, not because of her age. I really don't know what to do and I'm worried if she keeps dieting and working out the way she is (she brags about eating a banana and a granola bar for breakfast and lunch!), she'll end up doing a lot of harm. It also causes stress on the family, with her constantly picking on not only herself, but others as well (myself DEFINITELY included). She is 5'4" and probably around 115 pounds. Help!
TL;DR: | 60 year old mother might be anorexic, I have no idea how to approach her because she won't listen. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20M] with my girlfriend [18F] she now wants a break and be friends.
POST: me and her started talking in December of 2014 and we hit if off really well and we had so much in common and had gone threw many of the similar struggles in life. at first i didn't want to jump into a relationship since i was a bit scared of hurting her or getting hurt. i had been single for a year before i started talking to her so i was used to be alone and i was fine with it. so around late January we finally dated and she was persistent in trying to get me to like her and she was sweet, nice, caring, and was there for me. after a month or so i started really liking her and by this time i had fallen her bad. everything was good until she got a job and i understood that she has to work and has school and i also had school being a full time student as a engineering major. so it worked for me because when she was at work i worked on hw but then out of now where shes said that she wants a break that she couldn't handle everything that was going on with school and work and having a bf. this happened 2 days ago and idk what to do i really like her alot and truly want to be with her. she wants to stay friends for now but idk since that never seem to work for me before. any advice? I know 3 months inst much time together.
TL;DR: | I told her i didn't do breaks and that being friends wouldn't work but i don't want to loose her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me (23F) and boyfriend (32M) having issues.
POST: We have been going out for a year and a few months and it seems many things are unsettling in our relationship. We often argue because we both become defensive at eachother, and I admit, I often unwantingly escalate things because I cannot always control my emotions. I also cry very easily and have a hard time letting things go.
My bf also is not so nice to me sometimes, and does the very things that I mentioned (minus the crying). It seems we are not a good match, and even after him "breaking up" with me many times, we always get back together the same day saying we will do better and that we love eachother.
Sometimes these arguments get out of hand and some things he has done or said would definitely be unacceptable in my opinion. Even when I want to break up with him though, I can't seem to do it, and when he says he wants to, I always break down and can't agree to it.. I feel confused because I love him and we have all the same hobbies and come from similiar backgrounds, but this is eating at us. I think we need to communicate better, but I can't get him to see his faults in the heat of the moment.
Sorry that this isn't a specific event, I guess I'm just asking for general advice and what steps I should take and things to consider.
Thanks.
TL;DR: | Bf (32) and me (23F) not getting along all the time, but can't seem to break it off. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Please help out my wife and show her how super groovy you redditors can be
POST: My wife is a member of the National Comedy Theater, an improv group in Arizona. They do hilarious shows with audience participation and have to stay PG rated for the kids to go to the shows. They have fouls they call out during the games, the groaner foul and the brown bag foul.
The Groaner is any bad joke or pun (sorry reddit I love a good pun too), if the audience groans no "points" are awarded for the joke. The player then has to make a formal apology to the audience and hilarity ensues.
A Brown Bag foul is when any player makes a dirty or inappropriate joke that is not kid friendly. The player or thee audience member who "fouled" then has to wear a Brown Paper Bag on their head for the rest of that scene and more hilarity ensues.
A local deli is doing a contest to name a sandwich and her idea was chosen to represent the National Comedy Theater. It is called the Brown Bag Fowl; it is a turkey, bacon, lettuce, tomato, avocado with a Sour Cream French Onion Spread.
Would you be so kind as to go to the facebook poll and help her out.
Come reddit, it has BACON on it.
Please go to the [Facebook poll here] click on the Polls/Quizzes tab and vote for the Brown Bag Fowl.
TL;DR: | – Click on the link , go to Polls/Quizzes tab and vote for the Brown Bag Fowl. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: A guy at work (24m) keeps asking me (27f) out but says he "just wants to be friends", how do I turn him down?
POST: I have this guy at work who keeps asking me to hang out with him after work. He insists it's strictly platonic and that he just wants to be friends and get to know him better. One, I don't really believe his intentions are platonic - he acts like he has a crush on me. Two, I don't want to be his friend; I find him annoying and immature. I've been saying no to these outings, but he asks "why not" and insists that it's purely friendly. I end up saying things like "I'm too busy" or "I have other plans," because I can't come up with a way to say "I don't want to be your friend" without sounding like a bitch. I'm not sure how to politely tell him no, and stop asking me to go out, it's never happening. I think he's getting the impression from my excuses that there's still a chance, but I don't know how to answer why not without being mean.
TL;DR: | guy at work keeps asking me out, says it's platonic, how do I nicely tell him to stop asking. |
SUBREDDIT: r/weddingplanning
TITLE: Wedding planner is helping me feel sane already
POST: I had originally planned to do almost everything DIY. We have a small budget for the bay area (10k) and had posted for a caterer on Thumbtack. We had quite a few quotes but I had the best connection with one. They had excellent yelp reviews and were a thumbtack vendor of the year as well. I looked at the company website and they are a "full service" event company that can work with our venue (a park). Their quote for food was a totally reasonable $20 per person for bbq! In light of this I asked about their rates for day of coordinating and she said she would throw in FULL coordinating services if we used them for two services. We can rent the speaker system and that will count as the second service! Around here I couldn't find a DOC for less than $1500 and now I'm essentially getting a full coordinator for $75 bucks!
I was starting to panic about how challenging it would be to plan a wedding while we remodel a house but now I feel like I'm in safe hands.
TL;DR: | Used Thumbtack, found a great vendor, got more than I could have dreamed of, can sleep tonight. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by putting lube in my bag.
POST: This morning I fucked up. I bought some lube a few weeks ago for sexy time with the girlfriend. I was going to spend the night at her house so I just threw the lube in my gym bag side pocket where I also had some pens.
Anyways, I get to school today (Community College) and while in my car I realized I didn't have a pen so I grabbed one from my gym bag and realized lube leaked a little bit in that pocket so my pen was a bit slippery. I figure it won't matter I'll just clean it up later.
So I get to class and i'm sitting next to this blonde that I usually small talk with about the class. All of a sudden the sign-in sheet where you sign your name to show you attended was passed along to my desk!
No big deal, I just pull out my pen and sign my name in there. I quickly try to put my pen back in my pocket when suddenly the blonde next to me asks if she can borrow my pen! I'm thinking, oh shit this is obviously a worst case scenario. So I straight out tell her "No" and I shove it in my pocket as fast as I can. She gave me the dirtiest fucking look I've ever seen but little does she know it was for her own good...
TL;DR: | Lube spilled on my pen, girl asked to borrow my pen, I told her no, awkwardness ensues. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [32 M] am overweight and my wife [28 F] wants me to work out, but I don't feel like it
POST: I am at least 30 lb overweight. I do want to lose weight, but somehow I am not getting the motivation to do it.
I used to be 35 lb heavier a few years ago, but 2 years ago I ran half marathons, ate healthy and lost that weight. Got married 2 years ago. Since the last 2 years, I have not worked out much, and have been maintaining the same weight. I am basically around 25-30 lb overweight. I have hypertension and my family has a history of diabetes and heart problems.
Early this year, I started running and lost some weight. But in the last 2 months, I regained the lost weight. Now, my wife keeps asking me to work out. Though I do want to lose weight, somehow I don't have the motivation to do anything about it and her asking me to work out kind of demotivates me even more for some reason. I am kind of lost as to why I am feeling like this. Any idea what I can do to stop my wife from being worried about my health?
TL;DR: | I [32 M] am overweight and my wife [28 F] wants me to work out, but I don't feel like it |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [26/F] said something to my dad [55/M] when I was a little kid that I want to apologize for now
POST: This might sound kind of silly in the context of other problems here, but it's something that's stuck with me for a long time and I bet it has for him, too, provided it actually happened.
I have a very vague memory of being a very little kid (around three years old, I believe) and telling my dad that I loved my mom more than him. That was absolutely not true, but I did have a preference for my mother as a child and I think this is what I was trying to express. Anyway, I'm sure it must've been immensely hurtful to him and I want him to know that I never actually felt this way. Despite some normal rockiness during my teenage years, we've always had a good, although not overly close, relationship and I love him very much.
However, I'm not sure how to bring this up. I feel pretty embarrassed about it and I'm worried that it might be a false memory or something, or perhaps he wouldn't remember, and I would risk hurting him all over. Any ideas of how I could address this?
TL;DR: | Told my dad I didn't love him as a kid, which was very untrue, and I want to apologize to him now. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How do you clear up a misunderstanding with your friends?
POST: A friend of mine (A) brought her acquaintance (Z) into our circle of friends. We are all girls and Z is a guy with a very interesting set of life-experience stories and the ability to play nearly any instrument. I am the only friend with a boyfriend, but friends A, B, C, and D all developed crushes on Z. I understood that he would soon end up dating one of them, so I decided to get to know him better, but my politeness, light-hearted conversation, and genuine interest in his stories and music were misconstrued to be flirtatious. Now all of my friends are leaving me out of plans, talking to me less, and keeping secrets from me, I know because friend D came to admit it to me and apologized. She said that they all found it very threatening that I was talking to him and recommended that he stop talking to me, which he has, and I don't mind. I mind that my friends are inflating the situation. I decided to explain the misunderstanding, but how do I start that conversation without sounding like a parent making their kid confess to stealing a cookie from the jar?
TL;DR: | My friends all like this guy and they think I'm trying to make a pass at him, which I am so not. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17M] and my gf [17F] have had some trouble recently
POST: Me and my gf have been in a relationship for over a year now. We had a slight break up during the middle of it that later a little less than a month. To give background why we broke up was that I felt that our relationship was more sexual than loving. Now I'm getting the feeling again but to back it up none of our families like us being together.
For example her mom absolutely hates me but my gf never told me for obvious reasons. I had to get that info by her close friend who told me that. Whenever I go to her place it feels unwelcoming by the overall vibe everyone gives off to me. My family isn't any better. Half of them don't trust her.
To describe our relationship it's almost been stagnant. She has barely opened up to me about personal things just recently in the relationship and I feel like that is the first thing that we should have done.
Something a little less than evidence that we shouldn't be together is that we both had multiple dreams of either ignoring or leaving the other person. I know that isn't a good reason to break up but it's something I thought I should mention. I don't want to break her heart again but if it's the right thing to do ill do it. Any advice?
TL;DR: | we "make love" a lot but with no love and I don't think I deserve her after we broke up previously |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I've [23F] been with my boyfriend [25M] for a little over a year now. I'm a city girl, he's a country boy... Are we doomed?
POST: I've been with my current boyfriend for over a year now. We get along really well and I'm very much in love with him. The only issue that keeps coming up is related to our geography. I live in a big city and he lives in the suburbs, and it's frustrating to have to take a 50 minute subway ride whenever I want to see him (I don't have a car). The other day I just straight up asked him if he would ever move to the city and he flat out said no. He asked me if I'd ever move to the suburbs and I answered honestly and said no as well. Neither of us brought it up again after that... Are we completely screwed? Is there any point to continuing the relationship? I love him so much and don't want to lose him, but I don't know how much longer it's worth trying to make it work.
Has anyone ever been in a similar circumstance? Did it end up working for you?
TL;DR: | I don't want to move to the suburbs, he doesn't want to move to the city. Are we doomed? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: Tifu by drinking my own piss.
POST: No throwaway, because no shame.
So I live in Washington where it's legal to smoke the mariweedus. So last week I got really stoned and was drinking my peach Snapple (I'm addicted to the stuff). Later that evening I had to piss but was too lazy to get up so, you guessed it...I pissed in my empty Snapple bottle.
Fast forward to last night, I had just gotten home from driving across the state and I really wanted a Snapple. I look in the fridge and the was one left in all its glory, Cracked it open, and downed half of it but realized it was my last one and was kinda bummed.
I made my way to my room, and was really happy because I saw a half full bottle of Snapple so I said "fuck it, mix them together!" As you know...this other bottle wasn't Snapple. I took a big gulp...immediately realized the horrible error I had made, and started puking.
TL;DR: | pissed in a Snapple bottle, a week later mixed it with an actual Snapple, drank it, puked. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [25 F] of over a year. I don't feel like I love her anymore.
POST: I'm at a crossroads it seems. She loves me a lot and goes out of her way for me, and even understands me more than anyone else. But as of lately, I just don't feel the same for her. I do not want to hurt her at all, but I cannot think of a good way to break it off. She pours everything she has into this relationship which is making everything so much harder. I even tried taking her to the beach earlier this year in hopes that it would change my outlook on the relationship, but it hasn't. I'm not sure if I just don't want to be in the relationship, or if it's just a phase, but I don't know what to do. Any advice at all is appreciated.
TL;DR: | Girlfriend loves me a lot but I don't feel the same way. Not sure what to do at this point. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25/M] jealous of fiance's [25/F] ex, together for 1 year
POST: So, i'm marrying the love of my life. We both love each other to bits. Not that it matters but we lost our virginity to each other. I would do anything for her but i'm jealous of her ex boyfriend. I had never dated before i met her. She dated him for just 2-3 months but the thought of them making out makes me sick to the stomach. She is absolutely faithful to me as i am to her but i just can't stop wondering if she loved him or was just dating for the heck of it as she says. She was in a bad spot family wise and says that she just needed someone to hang out with. I'm just not sure how to deal with my thoughts. Please do not recommend therapy as that isn't an option. And i know that my fiance is not in the wrong. I just need someone to help me clear my thoughts over the matter... If it is possible at all.
TL;DR: | Jealous of fiance's ex. Struggling to get the thought of them making out, out of my mind. Help? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [32 M] with my ex gf [25 F] 10 months together, apart for 1 1/2 years, she came back into my life and is leaving it again. I'm lost.
POST: Hi All,
My gf and I broke up 18 months ago after a 10 month relationship. She wasn't ready and said she wasn't feeling it anymore. I was not ready for it to end.
We hooked up a few months later and then she just stopped talking to me.
A few months back, she started texting and asked if we could be friends. I tried really hard to get her back. It all came to a head on Saturday night. I was drunk and she came over and we drank more. We started hooking up and she stopped it and we had a really long conversation about everything.
From what I can remember from the conversation, she said she wants to be friends and she isn't over the guy she dated while we were apart and she is not doing okay about it. She also said she doesn't know how she feels about me.
I called her the next day and told her I needed to talk because I can't remember a lot of the conversation, we agreed to go for a walk tonight.
Today she texted and asked if we could do it over the phone because she said all she needed to say. I said that I feel like I have some things left unsaid and need to say them and it is unfair for me to not have my say.
I know this conversation isn't going to end up with us being together, but I still feel lost. Please help.
TL;DR: | Girl broke up with me 18 months ago. Came back into my life but is confused and I'm lost. Advice? |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: [Novice Runner] Good Advice or tips for pacing 2-3 Miles?
POST: So I've been running practically 5-6 days a week since february, up until June. After June, college has gotten in the way. I have only been able to get enough energy, for a run every two days, and noticed that my stamina has dwindled severely since starting college. Normally I would have enough energy to push through 2-3 miles, but as of now my focus has been primarily on beating my mile times instead of long distance. I am starting to realize however that if I am to go long distances, I shouldn't be trying to go all out on the first mile. What tips would you suggest, to help me maintain a constant but comfortable pace and complete 2-3 miles comfortably? Should I have a regimen of focusing on pacing and distance, rather than speedy 1 miles?
TL;DR: | What tips would you suggest for maintaing a decent pace for long distances? In my case 2-3 miles? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] 7 months, can't pick between girls..
POST: I (21,M) have been in a LDR for 7 months now with my gf (20,F). Now a few days ago, I met her cousin.. We have a lot more in common and she seems really nice.. And around the same time I started feeling like my gf is just keeping me on the sidelines, like she didn't really love me. The only I do feel her love is when we get all emotional and breakdown and she practically begs me to stay because I'm the best thing in her life. But as much as I love her, I don't know what to do. I still have some feelings for her cousin, but I don't wanna throw my girl away. What do I do?
TL;DR: | I have some feelings for my gfs cousin, but I don't wanna throw my girl away. What do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (23F) need some advice on approaching a guy (24-27?M) at the gym.
POST: Hey guys, I need a little advice.
I just moved to a new city recently and I'm still trying to make friends, because of my lack of social life I've been going to the gym 5 times a week after work. I'm huge on gym etiquette and completely I understand that some people don't enjoy being interrupted mid workout (myself included), however I'm dying to talk to this guy!
We are always at the gym at the same time every day and we always throw each other side glances, "looks" or are always working out in very close proximity (my bench beside his).
Personally, I think he's very good looking, which is making it a lot harder for me to try and work up the courage to even say anything. Most of the time I see him he is with a friend. When he is by himself he seems really into his workouts or is even helping others out with their workouts! Just seeing his interactions he seems genuine.
I'm normally outgoing, but this is a situation I've never put myself in. Even if we start out just casual conversation I would be so happy! It's been extremely lonely sometimes in this new place. Im scared this is all in my head and I'll look foolish. Maybe he has a girlfriend. Maybe he's not as nice as he seems?
I think I just need a push and some kind words of wisdom. Maybe nothing too big will happen and I'll gain a workout buddy!
Either way, please help!
TL;DR: | Too scared to work up the courage to talk to a hottie at the gym. Need a push and some advice! |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: Thank you, /r/running!
POST: I started training for a marathon in May, and I had been loyal to my schedule until two weeks ago. I went away on vacation for a week and unfortunately didn't keep up my running. The week was filled with the beach, drinking, and friends - which I thoroughly enjoyed - but I was riddled with guilt when I returned. I have found it difficult to find my motivation again until I stumbled upon /r/running. Thank you for all your posts. They are inspirational and gave me the kick in the butt I needed. I just came in from my 4 mile run. It wasn't pretty, but I feel like everything is right in the world again. Thank you once again, /r/running.
TL;DR: | I lost my motivation to run when I went on vacation, but /r/running helped me find my mojo again. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU By getting tiger balm on my privates
POST: So, today was my second day of intensive hockey training. 3 hours straight on the ice. Since it's my first time playing for a couple of months, I feel sore as hell. When we finished up, I went home, had a nice bath and put some tiger balm on my sore muscles. Bad idea.
My groin was killing me. In the car on the way back, I could barely lift them. (Again, I'm athletic, just really out of condition for intensive play right now, I never get THIS sore). I rub some tiger balm down the inside of my legs. Somehow I get some underneath my balls. I don't notice anything for a while, but a few minutes later, an excruciating pain comes in like a punch between the eyes. I reach down there to see what's wrong and end up with more of the shit under my nuts.
To make a rather long story short, they're still in a fiery yet somehow freezing state of extreme pain.
Reddit, Today, I Fucked Up.
TL;DR: | Had sore hamstrings. Go for the tiger balm. Get some in the wrong place. Pain. PAIN. PAAAIIIN. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Haven't heard from my BF [26] in a full day, can't tell if I'm overreacting.
POST: Title says it all really, he was texting me all weekend up until today and now radio silence after I replied to his text. I feel like a 14 year old freaking out but if you're in a relationship with someone would it not be normal to hear from them at least once throughout the day.
He's said before if someone doesn't have ten seconds to reply to a text in a full day they can't really care that much so that's worrying me. I'm not expecting a full conversation or anything so I don't think I'm being needy. This issue has never come up before but I really don't want this to happen frequently, just wondering would I be overreacting to talk to him about it. I really don't want him to feel like I'm telling him to do but I'm just not into a relationship where we don't talk for days at a time.
TL;DR: | worried because I haven't heard from my boyfriend all day, can't tell if I'm overreacting or not. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: COMPUTER GEEKS OF REDDIT, HELP! (Scraping HP rebuilt computer for another build)
POST: So currently i have a HP manufacturer made computer.
HP Slimline S5000 Series
Model # s5710f.
This computer cannot run Diablo 3. and never will be able too. (because of the video-card)
I plan on building a new computer off newegg, and im trying to spend minimum.
so i need to know, is here anything besides the RAM in a HP manufacturer built computer that i can use for the computer i build?
Everything in this computer is good for D3, except my Video card. and to spend $400 just because i needed a new VC would be silly.
Ask me anything about the pc. if requested, ill take pictures of the internal for help.
I was told i might be able to just buy a new mother bored, and swap out everything.
but i have no idea, and don't want to take acting until i'm 100% sure.
TL;DR: | What parts can i take out of a HP Slimline- Model # s5710f to use twords a custom build? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [Dating] I'm[24m] "meeting" her[22f] now the 7th time. She seems to have a problem with getting close to someone.
POST: Ok guys and girls. This is my 3rd attemped because i am not able to write this story short.
Met this girl. Like her alot. Allways have a great time with her. She also meets 2 other guys. She doesnt call the meetings "date" because she just wants to "hang-out" and have a nice time. All three guys think they are dating her. I met her like 7 times now. i told her, that im into her. she still meets me. one guy told her, that he cant meet her anymore if things dont start to become serious. She told him:"only friends, sorry". She told me, that the 2nd guy is also only a friend for her, but that he also likes her more than that.
She didnt have a BF and sex since 3 years. Her first and last relationship was 4 month long. She told me that she isnt a lesbian, but maybe bi. Im in love and i fear to be also only a friend.
I think she got a serious problem with getting close to someone. Maybe something happened in the past. Im afraid to ask her whats her problem with men. Next "no-date": Thursday.
What should i do?
TL;DR: | Alot of guys like her, but she didnt even kiss one in 3 years. I like her too. What should i do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (M/24) ex (F/21) doesn't want to meet up. What should I do?
POST: We were together for 3 years. We had a lot of great times but in the end I wasn't feeling it anymore and I ended things with her about 8 months ago. She was devastated, and I was, to have hurt her so badly. I felt very guilty and thought it best to give her space to heal, but I will always care for her so I wanted to re-connect after some breathing space as friends.
I contacted her recently asking if she was free in the next few weeks to catch up and she said she was going to be away over Christmas. However I recently found out she isn't away and just made that up, I guess to avoid seeing me.
My question is, what do I do from here? Does this mean she doesn't want to be friends, or in each other's lives at all? Do I just not contact her anymore, or do I try and ask her again in a couple of months?
I care for her a lot, and to me a break-up doesn't have to mean a final goodbye.
TL;DR: | Ex lied that she's busy to get out of seeing me. I want to be friends, should I contact her again? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26M] with girl I'm dating [26F], I've never "broken up" with someone.
POST: After a 3 year relationship ended, I jumped into a Tinder fling with this new girl, Jill. It's been about 4-5 weeks now.
Jill is the opposite of the girls I've dated in the past. She even calls herself "low-maintence." While the sex is great and unlike any other sexual encounters i've had in the past, I don't find myself enjoying any other aspect of the relationship. She wears minimal amounts of make-up, if any. She is very basic with clothing choices, doesn't shave her legs or pubic area often. She doesn't drink alcohol. I can smell her body oder often as well.
My fuck up is I've been leading her on. I feel guilty as fuck now. I like the "falling in love" experience, or honeymoon aspect of new relationships. They have always blossomed into 2-4 year things with me. But I can't see myself becoming an official couple with Jill.
I've been in 2 LTR before, and in both instances was the one who got dumped. In both circumstances, they were the aftermath of huge blowup arguments.
How do I breakup with the girl. She is also taking anti-depressants, so I feel even guiltier now.
I know I'm shallow, but I like "girly-girls" or "high-maintance."
TL;DR: | Led a girl on, never broke up with someone before. What's the best way...phone call or in person? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: 6DollarTshirts site giving me the run around, need advice
POST: So I ordered a shirt from 6dollarshirts.com a few weeks ago. While browsing the site a came across a design I liked, then flipped through the various pics they had showing the different colors they offered for the shirt and settled on one I liked (the Azalea colored one).
Here's a [pic of the shirt] depicted on the site next to the one I received. Not quite what I was expecting....
I'm not a fan of PINK shirts (I'm a guy), so I emailed the company and kindly asked them if they would send me another shirt since the one I received was not the same color as what was depicted on the site. Their reply was *"The color AZALEA is correctly represented on the website, however, we do realize that different monitor settings can make the color look different."*
They then offered to exchange the shirt if I sent them back the original tshirt and also included $5 (of my money) to cover their costs to ship me a new shirt.
**WTF!!!**
How should I proceed? I need your input REDDIT!
TL;DR: | cheap-ass tshirt company misrepresented a shirt color, now i'm stuck with a [PINK shirt] and out $6 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22F] with my ex [22M], brought his gf to my mom's funeral.
POST: So my mom died a few weeks ago. Naturally I told my ex because they were close before we broke up. He was sympathetic and told me he would go and visit.
He tagged along some college friends of mine that were going to visit. I thought everything was going to go great until bam! his girlfriend is behind him.
You see, my ex and I didn't really have a "clean" break up. We were together for almost 2 years. We're broken up for 2 years. People knew we broke up because I'm too much to handle but I knew he wants to be with another girl (his current gf). My speculations were the girl flirted with him when we were at a rocky part of our relationship and he fell for her. Yes, I know I can never prove it, and if I ask my ex about it he would just protect the girl. It was never a secret how much I dislike the girl. He knew, she knew.
So it really confuses me why he would bring her to my mom's funeral. I'm on an emotional state as it is and he would do that. I know we were over a long time ago but I think what he did was disrespectful. I think it's not only disrespecting me and mostly it's disrespecting my mom. If I were in good terms with his gf then by all means take her along but he knows I don't like her.
Am I overreacting?
TL;DR: | Ex bf brought current gf to my mom's funeral. I think it's disrespectful. Am I overreacting? |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: I'm lost and I need help
POST: I just found out that my best friend has, over the course of the past few months, been sexting the girl that I have been courting (not a relationship; just spending lots of time together). He says that he was only doing it to prove to me that she is two-faced, but I don't understand why he had to continually do it to prove thisthis. I feel betrayed and used. The whole time that I was talking to this girl, she presented herself as this sweet girl who had been hurt by past relationships and just needed a friend. I have been through similar situations like this before, and it is turning me into a cynical douche. I already broke off contact with the girl, but I have no idea where to go from here. Does anyone have any helpful advice for me?
TL;DR: | Best friend has been sexting girl that I was interested in. I have no idea what to do. Help. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by eating a hot pizza at Pizza Express.
POST: So, I went to Pizza Express. I bought the Etna, and by force of habbit I added garlic and chilli oil to it. Bad idea. My mouth was burning and spicy oil was smothering my hands. I was frequently wiping my hands in a conveniently placed napkin beside me.
Suddenly, I needed the toilet and got up to go and poop. When I returned I sat back down and resumed my meal.
Later, my nose began, as I was consuming copious amounts of spicy food, running and I yet again noticed a conveniently placed napkin beside me. I picked it up and immediately wiped my noise with the slightly orange stain covered napkin. Another bad idea. Another bad idea that I immediately regretted. My nose was burning like our lord and saviour, Satan. So... Yeah.
TL;DR: | Ate a spicy pizza, put spice on napkin, used napkin to wipe nose, it stings like crap. |
SUBREDDIT: r/travel
TITLE: Looking to Vagabond.
POST: Hello all,
I've been reading the book *Vagabonding* by Rolf Potts and has been giving me inspiration to go out into the world and experience it. If anyone has done any sort of extended traveling, what tips and tricks could you give to me? Where should I travel to? What things should I seek out? Right now this is sort of a fanciful idea that I have been playing with around in my head. I would love nothing more to travel and have begun to understand the sacrifices involved in doing so. However, thinking you're prepared and actually being prepared are two different things. I would appreciate any help given and I realize that someone's own experience will differ very much from my own. I am just looking for rough ideas at the moment.
TL;DR: | I want to vagabond. Any helpful tips on what to do and where to go would be much appreciated. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Hey reddit, I just saved my pup from a vicious dog attack, what are your real bad ass real life karma stories?
POST: We're sitting out back of our apartment complex and this guy brings his pit bull out off leash and starts telling us about how his dog recently got in a scuffle and what not and BOOM, out of nowhere this other dog goes straight for my dogs throat and starts crushing it like a motherfucker. My girlfriend starts crying and everyone is standing back screaming so I jumped in the middle, got my hands in the dogs mouth, and managed to pry the jaws off so my dog could get away while my hands got eaten up. He got away with nothing but a chewed bit ear. He looks a bit Holyfield now but is cool and happy as ever again. I was then informed I'm getting awesome sex out this heroic act.
TL;DR: | Saved my dog from a viscous attack, got my hands all eaten up, but earned awesome sex for it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] having troubles with [28 F]. Passed up the chance by mistake.
POST: Hey Reddit! I'm not used to posting these kind of things, so apologies if I come off a little odd.
Basically, i'm 23 years old and hopelessly in love with a 28 year old colleague of mine. She's perfect for me in every way, I'm sure, but the only problem is I may have missed my chance. A long time ago, I was slightly into her, but also into another girl. The 28 F in question was always asking me to do things with her, and now that I look back on it, I was totally blind.
I told her recently how I feel, and she said that she'd moved on, but explained that she used to like me and generally told me all about it. Now, am I daft in thinking that I have a chance to fix this?
I really will do whatever it takes to fix it, but I'm not sure if it can be done. We're slowly moving back towards talking together, but I'm scared that there may be other people trying it on with her too.
Thanks for any help!
TL;DR: | Missed a chance with a girl that used to like me cuz I'm an idiot, is it salvagable? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My(28/m) friend(25/f) thinks I betrayed her by going out with one of her friends. Did I?
POST: My (M/28) very close female friend (Amy F/25) introduced me to (among other people) her friend and former coworker (Jen F/25) at a BBQ.
Jen and I hit it off and the next week we go out for drinks.
Amy is extremely upset by this and claims we "betrayed" her by going out behind her back and not telling her.
Jen and I hung out a couple more times since then and we both seem to be having fun with it. It's been a few years since I've dated a girl with which I could see long-term potential with, so I'm excited by the idea.
Amy (who is in a committed relationship with her boyfriend of 3 years) claims that I am being selfish and disrespectful towards their friendship. I tried explaining that I feel she is being selfish by being so angrily against it.
I'd rather not damage any of the relationships involved over this (Me-Amy, Amy-Jen, Jen Me) But don't know where to go from here.
Basically my question boils down to: Are Jen and I being bad friends or is Amy?
TL;DR: | My(28/m) friend(25/f) thinks I betrayed her by going out with one of her friends. Did I? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How long did you wait before saying "I love you" to a significant other?
POST: I know that it varies from person to person, and there is no "right" amount of time that everybody should wait... but how long have you waited in the past? How did you know it was the right time?
In the past, I think its generally been at least a month, if not more, before either of us said anything.
Currently, I am in a relationship, and we've been together for a week and a half. He's on vacation right now, and last night I sent him a text telling him how much I missed him, but there was *definitely* no mention of love. After I fell asleep, I got a text from him saying that he loves me. *After a week and a half. Via text message.* Does this feel weird to anyone besides me?
TL;DR: | When/why did you say "I love you" to a S.O.? Is 1.5 weeks, via text, bad? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 F] talking to [21 M] for a few months. Should I give up?
POST: I've been talking to this guy for about two months. We've gone out twice, and it went really well. I told him over two weeks ago that I had feelings for him more than just a friend, and he told me he liked me too. (YAY RIGHT! BUT...) I'm always the one asking to hang out, and he's down for it but things come up. Some reasons are understandable but others are like... really? I told him straight up how I feel like he may not be interested in me like I am with him, but I may be overthinking it. He said, to not overthink it and he invited me to his house later this week before he starts school. I'm always texting him first, and I feel annoying doing so.. I'm trying and yet, he doesn't. So, I'm just really confused about it.. Should I give up? What should I do? I might see him tomorrow. It's been years since I've been in a relationship and all this feels relatively new and more confusing.
TL;DR: | 21 y/o F, talking to 21 y/o M for two months. Could he be into me or should I just give up? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my GF [20 F] (of 2 years). She is very racist, but I haven't told her I'm half black.
POST: I was adopted by a well off white couple, and grew up a life of privilege. When I turned 18 I decided to find out who my parents were. Eventually found out my mom was a teenager when she had me and my dad was a black football player. I'm very light skinned and have white people hair (sorta like Blake Griffin) so I can pass for a caucasian, but still appreciate my african american heritage.
When I went to college (at an southern SEC school) I joined a frat and meet the most beautiful girl ever. She is everything I want in a woman and treats me wonderfully. I think she could be the one for me.
But she is terribly racist towards black people. She constantly talks about how they are ashy, unemployed, stupid, poor, lazy, etc. She even called Obama a n*gger. Furthermore, due to her distaste of rap music, I had to delete my 2pac pandora channel. I want to tell her the truth but she has said before she would never be with a black guy. I introduced her to my adopted parents, so she thinks I'm some rich white kid. Im very conflicted as I feel I should tell her the truth, but I don't want to lose her. WHAT SHOULD I DO?!? PLEASE HELP
TL;DR: | Racist GF thinks I'm white, really I'm half black. Don't know if i should tell her the truth. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [37 M] with my wife [35 F] 14 years, She had an affair for a year and I just found out
POST: For a year, I have suspected my wife of cheating on me. The few I shared this with agreed with me. I confronted her and she denied every time. Finally, someone sent me explicit pics of her with someone else. She couldn't deny it anymore. It has been 2 weeks since I find out and 2 weeks since we have been separated. She seems aloof to the whole situation and gets angry at me for being hurt. I don't see this working out at all given the affair and her reaction.
In the meantime, I have come to feel ugly, severely depressed, unwanted, taken advantage of, something must be wrong with me. How can I trust anyone else ever again. I loved her and she was my best friend, obviously this was not shared. On top of all this I have the horrible feeling of now being alone.
TL;DR: | Does the pain go away? Does life move on? Can I get past this? I don't know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Girlfriend (27f) and I (20m) want to move in together, but logistics have made this hard and made us argue. Am I asking too much, or is she?
POST: She works 6-7 days a week and attends class one or twice every three weeks. She lives in the city where she works (5 minute tram) and which is about 15 mins from her school. Her hours of work vary, but most nights she ends at 10.
I study fulltime some way outside the city, 10 mins walking distance from campus.
She does not want to move to my suburb nor someplace inbetween mine and the city, since she feels that because of her hours its too inconvenient travelling that late at night (10:30pm or later by train). This I feel is because of safety and also because she does not want to travel even 20 mins by train and then a bit to get home after long hours at work.
She wants me to move into the city with her. I am hesitant. This will mean a 45 minute commute to campus for me everyday, if we live near the train.
She's upset because I am hesitant for this reason. Is she being unreasonable, or does she have valid concerns for not moving out of the city, and instead wanting me to come in?
TL;DR: | gf and I want to move in together, but I don't know of I'm asking too much or if she is |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Caught my boss fapping today. Now what?
POST: I was working late at the office today and it was just me and the boss still there. Poked my head in his office (the door was wide open) to let him know I was going home for the day. Needless to say, he was startled. He quickly covered his shame and minimized the obvious porn playing on his screen. I tried to pretend like I hadn't noticed, did my utmost to act normal. Said good bye and left post haste.
Now what do I do? He must've thought he was alone, but damn. I doubt I'll ever be able to look him in the eye again. Advice?
TL;DR: | Caught boss red-handed. Tried to play it off like I hadn't noticed what was up. What do now? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by taking a walk
POST: So today I decided to take a walk im my neighborhood in the blazing Florida sun with some of my music. And about a hour in to the walk im sweating like a condensing water bottle. Sweat dripping from my chin, ears, everywhere, and i was craving some cold water. So I decided to go back home and cure my thirst.
Unknowingly I went down the street of where my crush lives who we will call Vanessa, but due to my mouth being drier than a hobo's elbow, I didn't even notice. So im halfway up the street getting closer and closer to the holy grail. And then felt someone yanking my shoulder like lawn mower, and it woke me from my waterless induced state and startled the hell out of me.
Now due to me being scared easily and,well it being Florida, my intial reflex was to swing my arm as fast I can and **WHAM** I hit something.
Then I turned around..... it was was Vanessa. I just hit my crush right in the fucking chest. She was trying to catch her breath for a full minute. I and I just stared, dumbfounded at what I just did, I said I was sorry and everything she said it was okay and walked back inside, still holding her chest.
Holy fucking shit I feel dirty as hell for doing that what the hell do I do now?!?
TL;DR: | Took a walk, crush scared me, Gave her a chris brown reflex punch to the chest, scared her off |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [31F] husband [28M] does not like orally giving.
POST: Pretty straight forward here: we've been married for 3 years, together for 4 1/2... he's never been very sexual. We were separated from June 2011-Nov 2013 because of immigration issues. In the very beginning stages of our relationship things were good and passionate but as time went on it fizzled, his excuse, "we have our entire lives together to have sex - I don't want to get bored of it."
I sincerely doubt he has a side chick (there's just no time, and he's not that kind of guy). Anyway, since he's been home for almost a year now, he's gone down on me all of 4 times. Says he hardly ever does it because he's lazy or because it makes his mouth hurt (well if you never do it, duh!). He's very honest so if it were personal hygiene on my part he'd tell me, plus, we only ever have the time to have sex after I've taken a shower and put the baby to bed.
How do I talk to him about this (lack of oral sex)? To be fair, I rarely go down on him but I do a lot more than he does, and I really don't mind doing it.. it's just by the time we get around to sex it's late and we're tired and like "ugh just get it over with." And also, we've become very shy around each other - like painfully shy in bed..
TL;DR: | husband has gone down on me all of 4 times in the past year. How do I get him to do it more? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: My gf is talking to someone who made her cut and brand herself, because she wants to help him. What is the dumbest things someone close to you has done?
POST: My girlfriend, who I have spent 7 months of my life getting out of cutting/branding/self harm, is talking to one of the people who made her feel like she needed to do that again. We're both Christians (I'm not a good one, I'm a fairly bad person. Apologies for how some "christians" act) and she wants to show the love of God. Which is reasonable, but I know she's going to get hurt again, she knows she's going to get hurt and I spent three hours yesterday talking her down from branding herself again after this guy cussed her out. Nothing I've said has helped her see that this is a bad idea. I'm wondering what the hell?
TL;DR: | Gf is talking to a guy who made her hate herself, and won't understand why this is a bad idea. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How can I [21M] find common ground with the girl my friend introduced me to a few days ago.
POST: My friend introduced me to one of his friends who recently became single. She turns out to be a really awesome girl and I'm definitely interested in getting to know her better. My friend (without my knowledge) added my number to her phone and told her to message me. She did, and we've been talking steadily throughout the last few days. From our messaging, I'm feeling she's at least somewhat interested in me.
I'm going to ask her to grab some coffee or dinner so we can get to know each other better but I don't want to ask 'interview type' questions to get to know her as I find that quite boring. I'd rather have a more fluent conversation where we can enjoy ourselves.
My question is, what are some subjects or any other interesting forms of discussing interests and values that make it fun and exciting while being in each others company. I'm open to any date ideas as well.
TL;DR: | Met a girl I'm interested in, would like opinions/advice on fun ways to get to know each other. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: My mom's friend just sent $8,000 dollars via Western Union to a scammer in Cambodia. Is there anything she can do?
POST: My mom's friend has been going on about this guy she met online who apparently is an engineer working out of Cambodia. After a couple months of talking, he said he was stuck in Cambodia and needed money to come visit her. So, what does she do? SHE WIRES HIM $8,000 DOLLARS AND SENDS HIM HER BANK ACCOUNT AND ROUTING NUMBER. We tried telling her it was a scam from the getgo, but she didn't believe as she's an older lonely naive woman whose husband just passed. What can I do to get her money back? Or to bring justice down on these jerks..
TL;DR: | Lonely old lady friend of my mom got scammed for $8,000 and her bank info. WHAT CAN SHE DO? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20/F] with my fiance [21 M] of 3 years, want to move in together, but my mother may have a problem with it.
POST: Me and my fiance want to love together before getting married, but I'm pretty sure my mom would have a problem with it.
2 years ago we talked to her about it when I was starting university and she was not happy with that. She called me a whore and "grown" (meaning a fast-tailed girl) and said that she would essentially cut me off if I tried. She even said that me moving in with him is worse than if I told her I was pregnant.
My mom still pays for my car insurance and phone bill while I am in school, but I know that if I move in with him I would have to take care of those bills myself, which I am prepared to do.
I don't want to ruin my relationship with my mother, but I love my fiance and he kind of feels like I'm rejecting him if I don't move in.
I think she may also feel like I would be making the same mistakes as her, because she cared more about guys than school and blah, blah, blah, but I am nothing like her in that regard.
I'm not really sure what to do or how to go about it. I want to take on more responsibility as an adult, but at the same time I don't want to ruin the good relationship that I have with my mother.
TL;DR: | Want to move in with my fiance, but my mom would most likely hate me for it. What do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25/m] with my Girlfriend [25/F] of one year, had an almost threesome with a mutual friend while drunk. She doesn't know if she can get over it.
POST: This past weekend I was out drinking with my gf and a group of friends. We all got completely hammered and I ended up going back to my place with my girlfriend and one of our female friends that had nowhere to go. We all crashed in my bed and I started getting sexual with my girlfriend when she suggested a threesome. I was surprised but went along with it and ended up fingering and kissing the other girl along with my gf, from there my memory is hazy but I don't think any sex happened, we all ended up passing out. So the next morning I wake up to my girlfriend freaking out about this other naked girl in the bed and she does not remember anything. I had to explain everything to her and she was very upset saying that is not something that she would ever want. Now she is not sure what to do. I feel so guilty like I cheated on her and she doesn't know if she can get over this. We both love eachother but we want a healthy relationship and if she cannot get this out of her mind I know it wont be.
TL;DR: | Had a blackout threesome with gf. She is upset and doesn't know if she can ever forget about it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I can't decide on what to do about college. I need your advice.
POST: for a little background info, I am a slightly above average student (also an NHS member), but apart from that I am nothing special, no sports, no fancy awards. I intend to study physics and have applied to Cornell, my state school, and a few other notable schools in the area; all of which I have received no reply from since I applied regular decision. I did apply to a somewhat no-name school in the area the other week and have already been notified that I was accepted and will receive scholarships to cover tuition, room and board, and even food. I know the school is decent and not a diploma mill since my uncle works there. So, what I am asking is, should I go to the school to which I have a free-ride, and study at nearly no cost, or should I go to a private school which will cost vast amounts more (or my state school which will cost less) because they are more notable and may have better programs?
TL;DR: | Should I go to a no-name school for free, or go to a better, far more expensive, private school? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Justified reactions or not? I think I fucked up. (M18>F17)
POST: Okay, here goes.
Started talking to a chick, even went on a date that went pretty well, she seemed quite into me. After that though she started saying she was busy and stopped replying to texts (getting replies back after 8-12 hours later, if at all). After about 2 or 3 weeks of that and after waiting half a day for a response I just said "Fuck it, you win, I won't bother anymore"
That's my first part: is my reaction justified?
That evening and the next day was filled with texts (funny that, now she had time to reply) as we discussed this latest developement. To cut it short, I told her I thought she just didn't give a shit and she said that wasn't the case. But after that confusion was diffused and I asked for a second chance she flat out refused and made excuses. Then stopped replying to me completely.
That's the second part: she didn't give me a second chance. For that, did I deserve one?
TL;DR: | I got ignored, gave up, got told that I shouldn't have given up, and never got a second chance. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (M27) need to break up with my GF (F25) of 9.5 years because she has anger issues and gets really nasty.. I can't deal with the tantrums anymore.
POST: My GF is so sexy and smart and funny. I love her more than anything but she has some issues (maybe something that happened as a child, i dont know) that she won't address, after I have begged her to seek help, I am even willing to go with her as I have always supported her through good and bad.
Anyway, she often gets frustrated and angry at really small and insignificant things that then turns into a deep rage quite quickly sometimes, then I have to do everything I can to calm her and explain that her behavior is not acceptable but I just get abused or written off as if im talking jiberish bullshit and some how it always ends up being my fault and I'm the bad guy for saying how I feel.
I am just really exhausted from all of it and don't know how much more I can take. I feel like we need to break up but I can't seem to make a decision and commit to it because I love her so much and don't want to give up on us as we have been together a long time and when she is being nice and happy it's really fun. We have a similar perspective of life and click with most things but I feel im her verbal punching bag alot of the time and when she does stop and apologizes it just happens again half and hour later.
TL;DR: | GF angry often and gets real nasty. I need to end it but don't know if I can coz I love her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My pregnant [25F] of 9 months wants nothing to do with me [26M]
POST: My girlfriend of about 9 months wants nothing to do with me. We got pregnant about 4 1/2 months ago and we moved in together about 3 weeks ago. About two weeks ago she expressed the fact that she has been miserable and depressed for the last month. We no longer sleep in the same bed. There is no physical contact and we barely speak unless it is about bills or stuff that is needed for the house. She has a two year old daughter that she does not want me to have anything to do with. The person that I am says they are a package deal and I should love her and treat her as my own, but she will not have any of that.
I said some not so nice things early on in the pregnancy and gave her some selfish reasons as to why I wanted to keep the baby. I was afraid she would leave me if we didn't keep it and I was afraid that she wouldn't be able to deal with it and take care of the child she already has. The truth is, is I couldn't deal with it myself killing a tiny himan that I helped create and I have recently told her this. I want nothing more than to have a family and to raise this child together.
She expressed her need for space and I have given it to her. Yet it kills me to not be able to sleep in the same bed or rub her tummy and talk to the baby growing in her belly.
I'm not sure how to fix this fellow redditors...please help.
TL;DR: | Pregnant gf no longer wants anything to do with me because of things I said, how do I fix this? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: 16M Needs advice (again) with 16F
POST: Early this year I asked [here] ( about a girl that I met and what should I do. A lot happened since then.
I realized that in other to be able to have relationship with others, I should learn to love myself, and at that time I didn't. While I learned that, I (strongly believe) hurt her feelings in some way, 'cause I stopped talking to her a few weeks. But, having realized that, I talked to her and apologized that I was such a shitty person to her, and we got back to talk.
Now here is the thing, I still have feelings for her and I feel she still feels something for me, it may not be love, but something. I haven't actually said that I liked her more than a friend, but my actions may have shown her that.
We are good friends, our relationship is special in our own way. Sometimes I catch her staring at me but she just stares and then look away, no messing with hair or any other sign of flirting. I am thinking of asking her out, but I don't know if it's the right thing to do...
What should I do?
TL;DR: | Boy meets girl, girl likes boy, boy fucks up, boy wants to have a second shot but girl is hurt. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [17/M] have a lot of money and everyone always expects me to pay for everything.
POST: For reasons that I'd rather not get into now, I [17/M] have a ton of disposable income (in the tens of thousands of dollars). Pretty much everybody (friends, girls, etc.) knows this.
Now, when I hang out with friends or go on dates with girls, I'm literally always expected to pay for everything. My friends want to go go-karting, for example, and they'll say "Ok, /u/WeekendAfterparty will pay for it". I've done that in the past, because the money isn't a big deal to me, but its gotten really annoying. I don't want to be seen as everyone's ATM.
I'm kind of a "yes man". I don't like disappointing people, so I have a tough time saying no. How can I say no nicely?
TL;DR: | I have a lot of money, people expect me to pay for everything, I don't want to. What do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: She loves me and another guy! Argh!!!!! What do I do??
POST: So this situation is extremely complicated, but i'll try to summarize it. Me and my ex used to be best friends and we eventually dated. Then she broke up with me, but although not technically dating we were still "together" (We were working on the problems in our relationship). Then she started flirting with another guy behind my back. One day we got in a huge argument and said we were officially over. Then later she started to go out with other said guy. But whenever we would talk/hangout we would always act the way we did when we were together. The problem is I kept getting hurt and confused because she has a boyfriend, but treats me like one too. Then today she told me that she loves me, but loves him too. She knows that it is wrong and therefore she is going to choose one of us. What should I do?????? I love her so much and she said that if she could go back she would fix all she did wrong. I've forgiven her and am confident that she would be a good girlfriend if she ends up picking me. Is there anything I can do about this? I really want her to pick me.
P.s. We're in our late teens and she has matured and changed a lot from the time we started going out up to today.
TL;DR: | The girl I love, loves me and another guy. She is going to pick one of us. What should I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How can I [18 M] help my girlfriend get passed that stage to have sex again with me? [17 F]
POST: Hello, I have been dating my girlfriend for 20 months. We are a good healthy couple who don't have sexual intercourse, but oral sex. This doesn't bug me. It has just been so long since I have had sex with her.
We first had sex early in our relationship at 4 months. I loved it. She, on the other hand, got worried. I came inside the condom while pulling out of her. I checked the condom. No leaks. Good. I set it on my nightstand and she saw a wet mark around the condom. She flipped shit. She started saying, "Oh MY GOSH, ARE YOU TRYING TO GET ME PREGNANT?!" I tried explaining, buuuuuut.. she didn't believe me.
It has now been 16 months since that event. Each month she brings it back up and says she wants sex, but is worried that she'll get pregnant. I say the reasonable thing, "We'll have sex again when you're ready." Every month this happens and no sex.
So my question is, "What can I do make sex happen again without her freaking out?"
Thank you for those who can help!
TL;DR: | Gf doesn't want to have sex again due to "condom leak." How can I persuade her to have sex again? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: A little bit of competition
POST: So there is this girl [18] that I [19] find attractive. Now i have her number and i have access to go hang out with her too. I know she finds me attractive as well (she told me), except here's the problem... she also finds this other guy, idk his age, attractive as well.
Since i have been talking to her for like two months , a lot mostly flirty and a lot of serious conversation, she told me about this guy and told me that he is into her too. From what I have gathered she has hung out with him about once. Recently she has been liking him more and i ask her about the situation. She says she doesn't know what she wants. Now obviously i want to win her over and here is my upside, i am less than half hour commute to her college and he is about two hours away. Sometimes she's willing to travel over to him too, which i find a bit ridiculous (jealousy talking).
I just want some advice on what should I do to win her over, I also got school work to balance out too.
TL;DR: | i like a girl who likes me and some other guy. I want the odds to be in my favor again. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 F] with my casual thing [20 M] short. I really liked him, now I am afraid of him, dislike him and don't want to deal with him but REALLY miss his cuddling and physical affection.
POST: Right after we ended whatever that was, I found a few one night stand type deals but that's not what I want. I want a non-committed FWB. I am moving next summer and do not want to get emotionally invested but want someone for fun time.
Really, I want HIM for fun time but as it turned out at the end, he's repulsed by me. Right off the bat it sent me into a bad way, fucking guys just to prove that I am not repulsive. That did not work.
I don't know where to meet people (small town, I don't drink, most of my friends moved away in the past couple of years) or how to really truly accept that I will never again hold him.
TL;DR: | He's a dick and I am afraid of him, but I want to touch him. How did I get past this? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Found my gf [23] on gw..
POST: Hey all, I [m,23] have been with my gf for around 5 months now, and things are going well.
However, I recently found out a few days ago that she had posted a bunch of times on /r/gonewild, and needless to say, it makes me uncomfortable.
The posts were from about a month before we started dating, but we were still hanging out and talking a lot during this time. It's been tearing me up inside for a few days because I'm dying to confront her about it, but I'm sure you could understand my hesitation.
I have no idea how to bring this up, or even if I should. It makes me quite uncomfortable and I don't want to ruin what we have going.
TL;DR: | My gf has posted a bunch of times on /r/gonewild and I don't know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Somewhat of a clean slate, and I have no idea how or where to start.
POST: I will summarize as best I can. I live in California, and Since 2005, my parents have had complete control of me financially. Between 2005-08 four properties (one in Dubai), a couple of large loans, and a car lease were all purchased under my name. Needless to say, due to the economy, everything tanked. Three of the four properties were foreclosed upon, the car lease was repossessed, and debt collectors were calling me 20x a day. During this time, 1/3 of my wages are being garnished for back taxes, and we are buried in debt and bills. Last summer I filed for bankruptcy and it was finally granted at the beginning of this year. I have no bank account, no credit cards, and the only thing I have left under my name is the house we reside in now-and the loan out on it is being refinanced. I can honestly say that I have no idea how or where to start from scratch. I never ever want to find myself in this miserable position again. Financial gurus of Reddit, where do I start? What are the best banks/credit unions I should look into? Should I file for any credit cards? Do I have any limitations because of my bankruptcy? What should I look for, and what should I avoid? Any and all advice is greatly appreciated!
TL;DR: | FILED BANKRUPTCY AFTER YEARS OF FINANCIAL RUIN. NO IDEA WHAT TO DO NEXT! |
SUBREDDIT: r/Parenting
TITLE: 3 & 5 year old sons posting school/art work all around their room.
POST: I am always very cautious about not over doing the praises and say things like, "That is some good work, you must have worked hard on that." Followed up with "Are you proud of the hard work you have done?" Sometimes we post things on the fridge, sometimes we don't.
So my son comes and gets me and says he wants to show me his work. Not unusual, so he takes me to his room (which is unusual to show me his work). All over the walls was his and his younger brothers work EVERYWHERE! It was quite impressive to see. He started by showing me his brothers work, then his own. I again repeat the same kind of statements I usually give.
I go ask my wife if this was her idea, she said no, that it was our 5 year olds and she just helped hang some of the harder to reach pieces and helped our 3 year old hang his pieces.
I think it is great, but in the back of my mind I wonder if this is the start of being vain. Then I start to think I am over analyzing. Anyways just wanted the collective input from other Reddit Parents.
TL;DR: | Son fills room with his and his brothers work, is it a little too much? Or am I over analyzing? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I'm an average lazy 20' y old.What's the best way to start working at home in the graphic domain?
POST: My usual day starts at 13:00, wake up , play either CS:GO/HON/Darksiders 2 or TF2, I wait until the night comes and then cruise around town and meet up with my friends.
The thing is I am tired to live off my parents money, not that they wouldn't provide, it's just to make something of myself.
I know alot of things to do but not good at anything. I learned photoshop all by myself and worked once or twice but have never been payed enough for my troubles.I can learn pretty much any program if I like it and I dedicate myself to it.
It may seem like I got a 3'rd world problem, but I've reading reddit for a while and this seems like the right place to ask this.What can I do with all this free time, work online, and make some of my own money.
Besides, I'm an ent for a year now... don't feel bad cuz of it and it somehow changed my perspective but I can't get satisfaction from nothing and it seems like working is the next adult thing to do, and it feels the best thing to do next.
I tried clickworker, seems to take alot of time, i'm not that experienced for big projects found on freelancers, where could I start.
Probably the best job would be a game tester :))
TL;DR: | I'm lazy as fuck, know alot of stuff, don't have will power, but want to make my own money. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend(F17) broke up with me since I(m17) didnt let her cheat off me on the final exam
POST: Today I had my final today and my girlfriend sat right next to me (we have the same first letter of our last name)(Alphabetic order). So anyways she was saying how I should let her cheat off me because I love her, I thought she was joking ,but during the test she would nudge me. I mouthed the words No and moved the cover sheet for the test closer. (Im not going to risk being caught which will end up cancelling my exam score and referral)
After the test we had a big fight and to sum it up, we broke up and I lost my prom date in front of a lot of people. We were together for 6 months ,so she wasnt just dating me for the sole purpose of cheating, and this was the first time she did this.
TL;DR: | Was I in the wrong? Prom is in 2 weeks and I dont have a date now, what should I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19m] with my gf [18f] took a 2 week break she started talking to other guy, gave him a blowjob now she wants me back.
POST: Well a little background first. Dated 3 years I graduated high school. Sacrificed everything for this girl, decided to stay in the US once I was done with High school working ilegally away from my family. One day she breaks up with me because she wants to be "single". She starts talking to this guy and denies everytime they ask if she's dating him. 2 weeks later she tells me she made a mistake and she needs me back. I acepted. Later on I check her phone and I see the last txt they sent about how she doesn't want to see him anymore etc. Scrolled up and I see a picture of her wearing her sport bra. Keep going and I found a video of her puting a an entire lollipop inside her mouth. He replies "I want another one" she says "that one wasn't very good, I need more space." at this point I grab my stuff and tell her I need to go get something to my car. went home. She calls me crying telling me it was a mistake she won't do again. I forgive her but I tell her we can date because it will always come back to my mind everytime we hang out. She keeps begging to get me back.
I guess my question is, I know we weren't dating it was a 2 week break but I was wondering if anyone had any experience on this and tell me how it went.
TL;DR: | Dated girl 3 years, took a 2 week break, gave a guy a bj and she wants me back. |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: 26/M and 21/F. Ending it gracefully. [xpost]
POST: I have recently been dumped in a rather monumental fashion. Essentially she just stopped talking to me and my attempts to contact her and ask for an explanation have been met with nothing but silence.
I do not know why she has done this, and I would like to know. Although, to be entirely honest, I am alright with the fact that she has decided she does not want to be with me. I would like to extend the option of friendship to her but I doubt she would be receptive of this, given the way she has decided to end things.
I have written up a fairly long message that I would like to send to her as a parting farewell. In essence, I want her to know that I am not bitter about the way she has treated me, that I would rather she spoke to me about it but I am ok with the fact that she didn't. I am not upset or bitter, I'm not going to try and win her back. I am ok with being friends.
My question is, should I send the message? Or should I just walk away from the relationship without letting her know how I feel?
TL;DR: | Got dumped. Not upset. Send her a message to tell her this, or just walk away and let it hang. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit I need your help! How can i tell if I am getting scammed?
POST: EDIT 1: Confirmed fucking scam, thank you Reddit!
This supposed artist "Mark Thomas" was in need of an assistant so he responded to me over e-mail after i was interested in his ad "Light Office Work (Minneapolis)" on craigslist stating $250 a week as pay ( I'm a broke college student in need of a job) besides all that jazz, i never gave him my social security number, I only gave him my name and address (even that is pretty dumb IMO) so he could perform a background check before he "hired" me, he responded back and "confirmed my position." So here's where it gets fishy, I check the mail today and I have received a check for $2850 from a woman by the name of "Laura Lopez" along with a note from this woman. here is what the note said: "Hello, My name is Laura Lopez, I have been instructed by your boss, Mr. Mark Thomas to contact you in regards to the payment our company needs to make. You have, with this mail, the funds. As soon as you have received this Payment at hand, I would like you contact your boss, Mr. Mark via email...[insert email address] <----(i took out the address) and confirm to him that you have received the Payment so that you can get further instructions from him. Thanks, Laura." So obviously reddit, what should i do? Should i just not contact him anymore?
TL;DR: | I DON'T WANNA GET SCAMMED, SO PLEASE REDDIT, I AM ASKING FOR YOUR HELP! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I visit my internet crush? F24, M29
POST: A month ago, I (F24) met this guy (M29) on a forum about grad school (we're both applying this season). I recently suffered a bit of a romantic blow, so I suppose I'm particularly emotionally receptive. Still, this was a totally unexpected connection, and maybe that's why the intensity has kind of blown me away -- it's happened entirely online, from a forum that had NOTHING to do with romance or meeting people.
He lives across the country from me, but we've started talking every day via email and skype. We have yet to meet in person, but our "webcam chemistry" is off the charts. I think he's a really great person. In any case, I kind of want to see if we mesh this well in person. I'd like to know if this is just pure silliness or if maybe we could actually be something. Would it be crazy to book a cheap ticket and visit him on an upcoming long weekend? I have a friend who lives in the same city as him so I could stay with her. I discussed this with him already and he seemed into the idea, but I just worry that it might be a little rash, and I might ultimately get disappointed if I invest a few hundred bucks in meeting him and he turns out not to be what I thought.
TL;DR: | I (F24) want to visit my internet crush (M29) but I'm not sure it's a good idea. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [15] decided to do drugs in my home, now I really blew it by attempting to do it again.
POST: Disclaimer: I'm a really stupid fucking idiot. Continue reading.
So about a month ago I got caught smoking weed at my house. I was stupid enough to smoke it while my siblings were home. This was the first time I got caught so my parents are obviously going to be mad. They find out, I get in trouble and yeah. Forward to today, I deicded to smoke something else...guess what it was? Tea! Yes you heard me, tea. I came back from school and I had some craving to smoke. I've smoked tea before expecting to get a high from it but I don't think it does that (I still did it anyways). I don't smoke darts or anything like thar but yeah I was smoking tea. Parents smelt it, I got in trouble and my mom called the cops and they directed her to get me treatment (counselling) and so now apparently I have a appointment with them tommorow about drugs and stuff. And also, I got a long talk about the consequences of drugs
Honestly, I don't know why I did it, I had a craving to smoke and I did it. It's a mix of sadness and poor choice making. I do have to agree with my parents though about getting help. I think the reason for why I did it was because I have depression. But, at the same time I don't want to get help just because.
Honestly, you can judge me because what I did was really stupid but I'm probably not going to do it again.
TL;DR: | did drugs, got in trouble, attempted to do it again, now I'm forced to get help, what do I do |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I am a 28 Year Old Virgin who wanted to wait till Marriage, but I am not longer sure.
POST: OK. So I am a 28 year old Male. I have always wanted to wait to lose my virginity until I was married. I am religious (attend mass weekly, and make Jesus a big part of my life, but I do drink and I am not what you would call an ideal catholic) and that has a lot to do with me decision. However, my choice has cost me several relationship because of girls not wanting to wait, but that really never mattered to me because I just figured that they weren't right for me. Now while I am a virgin I am not completely inexperienced. I have given/received oral sex before and told that I am very good at it.
But recently I found a girl that was willing to wait, and was the first girl that I ever really loved. But I got really drunk one night and we got in a huge fight and she decided that she didn't want to be with me because I am an asshole when i get drunk and she can't trust me anymore. But though the 20 or so girls that I have dated in my life outside of HS this is the only one who I actually think meant it. BTW, she has no interest in getting back with me so not an option.
So basically, I am thinking that maybe I am wasting all of the years that I could be going out and hooking up with girls. So reddit, do you guys have any advice for me?
TL;DR: | 28 y.o. virgin. Hard finding a women that respects it. What should I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21F] am having trouble getting over something my boyfriend [21M] of a year said to me.
POST: A few days ago, my boyfriend of a year said that I'm "not overly pretty," and it's stuck with me ever since. I do know that I'm not exceptionally gorgeous, and although I have self-esteem issues, I do believe that I'm not ugly.
I've talked about this a lot with my boyfriend over the past few days, and I better understand the context of what he said, so it's really more of a personal issue at this point. We communicate really well and are very open with each other (he even knows the account that I'm posting with). He's a wonderful guy and I have nothing but love for him.
I'm looking for any advice that can help me stop dwelling on this. I've always been a sensitive person, and it's a constant challenge to be able to let anything go.
TL;DR: | Boyfriend said something hurtful, we talked about it, I'm still not okay. How do I get over it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by spelling my name wrong
POST: For those who do not know, the pSAT is a "pre" version of a test used in America by colleges. The pSAT is taken by all high schoolers, but is a short test of ~4 hours.
Anyway, on the test I put my email, marcos(mi)(lastname)[email protected] which was used to email me my scores a week ago. Well, I couldn't view my scores, and was not able to make an account for some reason. We called, and they couldn't figure out the problem. Well yesterday, I got an email (advertisement from a college)... But they spelled my name wrong...
"Dear Narcos..."
I filled in the wrong bubble on the test.
I can't access my scores or make an account because I have the wrong name. If I make an account using "Narcos" I'll have it registered wrong name on everything the SAT is uses
TL;DR: | I'm not "Marcos" to colleges. I am a word for a Mexican Drug Lord, "Narcos" |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: Thanks, miss you too
POST: After I broke up with my boyfriend, I decided to get checked out at the docs and found out he gave me an STD. He was the only person I had been with in 8 months. We broke up because we recently found out his ex gf was six months pregnant with his child ... which if you do the math ...
On one hand, I was the adult and told him because that was the right thing to do. On the other, I wish I hadn't of told him because he just yelled at me and called me a whore and that he couldn't even believe he wasted so much time on me and how did he ever say he loved me.
Nice huh? Least it is treatable with no long term effects.
TL;DR: | After I broke up with my boyfriend, found out he gave me an STD, told him and he flipped his shit. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Should I give up on him?
POST: I'm 24f, he's 23m. We're both grad students and met in class several months ago. We went on a few dates although nothing ever happened physically, not even a kiss. I definitely know he was interested, but I'm not sure if he's given up on me now.
Basically I'm really bad at flirting and showing interest, so I worry that he thinks he got "friendzoned." The truth is, I think about him all the time, and I want to jump his bones! But since he's kind of reserved too, I never feel confident enough to do so.
In light of this, I decided to try initiating contact with him more often, and to try and make my interest a little more obvious. But it seems that he's not interested anymore. He usually only talks to me for a few minutes (IMs), and then suddenly has to go somewhere or do something important that cuts our conversation short.
I just want to know if I should stop trying to talk to him. Should I just give up on him?
Tangent: I'm not new to relationships. I've had 4 LTRs in the past. I don't know his dating history at all.
TL;DR: | Infatuated with friend, but think he's given up on me. Should I keep trying, or just move on? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Is it ok to go out by myself?
POST: Hey Reddit,
I moved to Europe a couple months ago on my own to go to College, I met some people but those friendships quickly disintegrated after I got involved romantically with a guy and the relationship ended badly. I had a platonic friendship with a guy from my class and we arranged to meet to go out downtown, but he just told me over email that hes sick of being 'just the friend' so I'm stuck alone.
I want to go out. I just got a job and finished exams, I wanna celebrate:). Would it seem weird or desperate if I went out alone. I know in the US it wouldn't be that weird, but what about Europe? Thanks guys :)
TL;DR: | Alone in Europe; no friends. Can I hit the bar as a lonesome female without seeming desperate/odd? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My(21F) two good friends(23F,24F) bought me gifts for Christmas. I can't afford to get them anything and I feel like an asshole. What can I do to make up for it?
POST: I know this isn't as serious as some questions are here, but I don't know what to do. This year has been terrible to my wallet. I've had to fix my car numerous times, pay off bills, etc. I'm a financial mess right now.
Today my friends wanted to go Christmas shopping. I only have a brother, sister, and mother to shop for this year. Between them I only have less than 50 dollars to spend. While we're shopping my two friends start talking about the gifts they need to buy for our other friends. I connected the dots and realized they each bought me one too. I honestly didn't know we were buying each other gifts. We haven't mentioned it to each other.
They both know I'm in a rut right now financially. I mentioned yesterday that I have to take my car in tomorrow for $900 worth of repairs. I can barely afford to get my family anything, but I feel obligated to because they are my family. What's the appropriate way to either explain this to them or how do I make it up to them?
TL;DR: | I can't afford to buy friends gifts. They already bought me gifts. I feel like an asshole. What do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Help with the girlfriend? eh? eh? eh?
POST: Hey Reddit,
So My lady and I have been in a relationship for over a year now. I know I can speak for both of us when I say we are still having a blast. I have some concerns though, it seems like the conversations are getting a little less intimate, a little less thorough. I love her reddit. She is the most down to earth, good looking, hysterical woman I've ever met. I am afraid of growing apart.
I know I'm doing a good job of being a boyfriend. It is a top priority of mine. My question is to the couples that have been together for at least a couple years. What makes a solid relationship? I know it can be a little tough at some points but it's worth fighting for. What keeps that spark going in all you couples that have made it for years? And most of all, what do you keep talking about? Should this all be coming natural to me?
TL;DR: | How do you keep a relationship stable for many years, what do you talk about, do, etc. etc. ? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [25M] My long-term girlfriend[22F] wants to move home to her family if/when we get married and have kids
POST: We met in college and have been dating for several years. She's my first girlfriend. We enjoy each others company a lot, I miss her when she's gone, etc. I love her. Not everything is perfect, but what is, right?
She recently graduated and moved home/ began job hunting. She's very close to her family and after being there for a few months, has decided that she wants to live there permanently. Not right now but after she has kids.
To be blunt, I don't want to move there. I feel like our lives would revolve 100% around her family. They're nice enough people, but I was just raised differently... my long term aspirations are more related to my career and living life than staying near the family tribe. I'd basically have to give up my own dreams if I were to move there with her.
She has offered to postpone moving until after we get married/have kids, but that just makes me feel like I'm living on borrowed time. (On a perhaps related note, she wants to get married now, whereas I think we're too young).
So I'm stuck. I feel certain that if we breakup I'll be miserable for a very long time. On the other hand, I also think I would be miserable down the road if we moved to be with her family.
Has anyone out there ever had to make a decision like this before? How did it turn out?
TL;DR: | Girlfriend wants to get married and move home, I have other long-term goals, not sure what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (22f) got the old "hey" text by my recent ex (22m). Help me not be stupid!
POST: Title says most. 2 year LDR. He dumped me last week via text! Didn't say much other than his feelings were gone. Flew away. I asked him some questions and told him how I felt. He didn't respond. I waited about 3 days and I get an email. "Silence is the most eloquent reply". Well, shit.
So I'm done. Like, DONE. Then last night (7 days after the dump) I get a text at midnight. "Hey". Hey what?! Hey you want to rip my heart out again? Hey you're an asshole? What is the best way to approach? Silence or f$*! off? I am curious what he wants as the last thing I said to him was I loved him and didn't understand why he was unhappy. He didn't reply, I get a snide email, and a hey!
TL;DR: | ex broke up. Vanished after I told him how I felt. Sends me a text in the middle of the night. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [17 F] of 10 months are kind of at a standstill in our relationship. I need some advice.
POST: Today we got lunch, and it ended up in a conversation about how our relationship has changed, and how it seems forced to have a conversation now. I'm going to college in about a month, and I'm not sure if my girlfriend or I is taking it very well.
We've had conversations about whether to stay together or not in college, and we've both decided to try it. I'm staying in-state (about a 30 min drive away from her) and I am still, extremely in love with her. I feel like ending our relationship now wouldn't be fair to either party. I'm going on vacation soon, and we're going to take that week to think about what we really want in or relationship. From your experiences, what's the best way do you think to go about this? I mean obviously this is a lot of self-reflection, but I just want to know, for those that have done long distance, what am I getting myself into? What are things that we should try and work on to make our relationship work?
TL;DR: | I'm going to college soon, really love my girlfriend. I think we're both a bit nervous. What do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/books
TITLE: Help with identifying a first edition
POST: So i was really into the Spooks Appretice series of books a few years back and i saw that they are making a movie so i decided to relive the story, anyway after digging around in the loft for a while i found my copy of The Spooks Battle, and then i saw it was signed, and i remember just finding the signed book on the shelf of my local waterstones, so i have no idea how it got there or anything like that, but anyway i was looking online for the more recent books and saw a 1st edition, signed going for ~£100, and upon further investigation i think i have a first edition book too, the number line reads 1 3 5 7 9 10 8 6 4 2. i could give pictures but it would e from my phone so they would come out pretty bad.
TL;DR: | i think i have a signed first edition book with the number line 1 3 5 7 9 10 8 6 4 2. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (21M) girlfriend (20F) of 2.5 years keeps having bad dreams and cries over them a lot.
POST: My girlfriend always has nightmares but usually they're just a little scary and she forgets about it within an hour of waking up. Lately, she's been having dreams about me cheating on her. She's always had trust issues with me and she has been cheated on **by another guy** before our relationship. I have never cheated.
So lately she's been having these dreams and she gets really sad and scared over them. It's worse when she comes over and takes a nap with me. She'll wake up and start crying. She shakes her head when I tell her I love her or give her compliments. I try to tell her that it was just a dream. That dreams aren't real and that they're randomly organized thoughts, not visions into the future. She won't have it. She cries and shakes her head and won't talk and somewhat shuts down.
If this happened once, fine, whatever. But this keeps happening. She's 20 years old. I think at this point she should be mature enough to not let a dream take over her reality. Am I wrong in thinking this? She stops believing I love her while she gets like this. She has trust issues with people but that isn't an excuse anymore.
How do I tell her how I feel about this? How do I make her stop getting like this after a stupid dream?
TL;DR: | Am I being too harsh on my girlfriend? How do I get this to change and how do I talk about this? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Hey reddit, I'm a bit shy on the situation but I would like your take.
POST: I feel as though it seems improbable but the fact of the matter is that I think I fell in love when I was 14 to a girl. I'm 17 now and I can't seem to get her off my mind even today. I think that maybe the fact that I haven't been able to get her off my mind a day in my life since I met her. I don't know if I like her or whether I miss the feeling of falling for somebody. It was intoxicating and I'm addicted to the feeling. I feel depressed that I haven't felt it since and I yearn for it. What do you think I'm feeling because I would like to put an answer as to what I should do about this feeling I have in my heart.
TL;DR: | I think I fell in love, I yearn for the feeling, and I'm looking for solutions from you guys. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Gf [20f] wants to go to Ibiza alone and expects me [23m] to be ok with it.
POST: I'm using a throwaway because she knows my main Reddit account.
We met in college. I'm currently working on my master's degree though. We have been dating for two years if it's relevant.
A few months ago she was so excited about going to Ibiza and I thought we could go together. The problem is that she wants to go alone. I have no problem when it comes to traveling alone, but Ibiza is... weird. It's a party island. A single woman who just turned 20 going there on her summer break seems like bs to me.
When she told me she wants to go to Ibiza next month, I asked her if she was planning to go alone and she said "obviously yes, why?". I told her I wasn't comfortable in having her abroad in Ibiza alone and she sarcastically asked if being on Facetime with me would be better. I said 'no, being less condescending would' and she said she was going anyway because she already booked the tickets and I should stop being jealous.
I'm not a jealous person. I'm not possessive. I give her space and time. But Ibiza seems too much. What should I do here?
TL;DR: | gf wants to go to Ibiza alone on her summer break and I don't think it's a good idea. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] with my almost-GF [14 F] Im worried about getting with this girl, because of the age.
POST: We met at this dance, we danced for a quite the while, she found me online and reached out to me, at the time i thought she was really cute and I sort of liked her.
At this point, i thought that she was AT LEAST 18, she did not look 14. And once we started chatting online, i thought that she was, once again, at least my age.
She seemed intelligent, thoughtful, funny, nice and with a good sense of sarcasm, and she looked pretty damn hot. Honestly she was a perfect catch.
Then she asked, translated: Uhm, Do you know what my age is?
At that point i thougt it would reveal that she thinks shes too old for me, and will say that she doesnt want a relationship.
Now we have been chatting for quite some time, we have both confessed feelings for one another.
I like her.
I really like her. I haven't found a single thing that I wouldnt like. I dont have a problem with her age, I really dont.
But what about her family? what about her parents? FFS what about the law?!
(im in a eastern european country, can someone explain how the law acts in this situation, that would be sweet, but im aware that im not in the right place.)
She, honestly, right the fuck now, seems perfect.
How would you all act in my situation?
TL;DR: | Met a girl I liked, we confess we like each other, Scared cause of Age difference (18/14) Thoughts? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 m] with my gf [22 m] 6 months, going well except not finacially
POST: Me and this girl have been dating since november. I like her a lot but I am in college and have no job and class is hard enough, so I dont work. Maybe I'm a lazy piece of shit cause I could totally get a job on top of class but then I would have no life.
We go on a lot of dates and I pay for 90% of them. At most, we split it but it is still expensive to go out to eat in my area. Many times I try to suggest taking a walk in the park or doing other free stuff but she's not into it.
Today we went to the movies and It cost me 33 fucking dollars. I had fun but this is a lot of money to me and I need to eat for the next few days before going home.
I know this is a common problem but what I'm really asking here is how the fuck do I get my date to pay for ME? I want to keep doing fun shit that costs money but I'm tired of being broke and she never feels like returning the favor financially. How can I convince this girl that she should pay for me once in a while?
TL;DR: | Im a broke ass motherfucker and I want to convince my gf to pay for me on dates once in a while |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Getting married soon and I have some questions
POST: Ok, here's a little background. I'm in my final 3 months of college and I'll be getting married about a month after I graduate in chemical engineering. My fiancee graduated in education this spring and is currently living with her folks. Neither one of us has a job yet but we have not exhausted all options. We've both come from families that while not rich haven't had to worry about being able to pay bills or provide food. As a result of this neither of us really grasp what it will cost to start our lives together. Between her parents and mine the wedding is covered and I've been told that we have at least $1,500 coming to us as a wedding present. I'm just worried that this plus what I can make this summer (I work part time at a computer repair store) won't be enough to secure us a place to live, utilities for said place, modest furnishings, and other assorted bills like cell phones and car insurance. So my question is, in your experience reddit, how much does it cost to pick up and move to a new place? I may be inspired to bring you more queries if this proves to be a fruitful venture for me. Cheers
TL;DR: | I need to know how much to save to comfortable move into a new place with my soon-to-be wife. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: For the first time in my life, being a sarcastic jerk landed me a smoking hot married milf to cam whore for me... how does this work, and what to do if Im not interested?
POST: So I have never been successful with the ladies and upon going back to school I met a smoking hot, unhappily married MILF... I never really complemented or hit on her, simply we just studied. During that time I never made a move, and for the most part acted like a sarcastic "funny" asshole to her.
Meanwhile she cant go 5 feet without some douchebag hitting on her, and telling her how good he would treat her... I have never done this our entire time we known each other.
Flash forward 1 month and now she does full on cam shows for me... I thought it was going to end at titty play, but to my surprise she went full spread knuckles deep for me. FUCKING AMAZING..
but... at the same time I really am not too interested in her... I would have enjoyed a tease and after seeing all she has to offer I am quickly loosing interest.
On the flip side, I recorded it (sssshhhh) and the next day I blew like 3 loads to it... and here she is again ready to go at it call me up and ready for a show. So here I am all floppy dick and she wants to play.
On serious note I think she may have depression issues, and is extremely unhappy with her marriage.
TL;DR: | By ignoring hot milf, she ended up cam whoring for me, but I am not even really interested... |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25M] and my [34F] co-worker is starting to cheat[2 weeks]on her BF with me. I don't want to be the guy in the middle, advice?
POST: It started with simple flirting back and forth, then to her telling me about how she suspects her BF of cheating on her. Something about finding condoms in his car, along with some other things, well things have progressed.
We've started messaging through social media outlets, to which the boyfriend found out, they had an argument. The things we were talking about was normal work stuff. It wasn't until we resorted to a new form of communication that things amplified to 'sexting' and making plans to have sex.
I don't feel like being the guy that is with someone that is cheating, especially because of my history with the subject. Should I just come out and say I do not want to continue communication and try to be friends? Should I push for her to break up with her SO then pursue a relationship with me? I feel like we were both vulnerable and horny and things escalated. Kind of new to relationships, as some of you intuitive reddit-tectives can tell, and need some advice. Thanks
TL;DR: | Co-worker wants to cheat on her cheating-BF with me, I was going along with it, now I am not sure. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: have you ever been fined while travelling in another country and decided not to pay it? How'd it work out for you?
POST: Travelling on a train in Germany i got a €40 fine because I could not find my ticket when asked. I later found it sandwiched between two cards jammed in my wallet. I emailed them proof of my valid ticket along with the fine expecting to get an email back. 5 months later when I finally return to my home country, I find they've sent me mailed letters, initially reducing the fine down to €10 but because I did not respond in time, they sent me 4 more letters, each time increasing the fine by about double. I still have the tickets proving it was valid but just wandering to what extend they will go to get me to pay.
TL;DR: | got a fine, even though I have valid ticket, don't want to pay. How much trouble would I get into? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: How to break up with my [m20] girlfriend [f22] of two years?
POST: Hi everyone,
I [m20] want to break up with my gf [f22] of two years. I've thought really long about this and I'm sure about my decision. She's the sweetest, nicest girl I've ever met, but still I often catch myself thinking how I want to spent more time with my friends and such when I'm with her (other things as well, but this is what it boils down to, more freedom and stuff).
So my question is what, or better when would be the best way/time to tell her? We had a rough patch a couple of months ago, but since than things have all cleared up, and it really worked well again, but my side of the story has returned again, and I'm sure she doesn't expect this at all.
Would it be best to just tell her that I'm breaking up with her, and why (keep it short), or give her time to ask questions. Where would be the best (her dormroom, her parental house, public place (don't think so), etc.). I'm just trying to make this as easy as possible for her, because I'm positive she will be devistated.
TL;DR: | I [m20] want to break up with my girlfriend [f22], not sure how to make it easier for her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: In Jordan, could use some advice
POST: Hi, I'm in Jordan studying abroad. I got here pretty recently. Here's my predicament, I only know MSA and am trying to pick up dialect quickly, but I can't do it in a way to carry on a great conversation. That being said the local populace seems to switch to English immediately. Their english is not super great, neither is my arabic I'm sure, and I'm sure they're frustrated by the MSA instead of dialect.
I could use some advice as to where to go to find a community where I could talk. Even if it's in the dialect just need some people who are patient.
Also for any natives, Jordanian or not, what is the picture of foreigners speaking MSA? Does it come across as pretentious? Is there any way to bridge the gap? Its such a neat country but I feel like I'm floundering since I'm walking a line between not trying to offend but also trying to approach people.
TL;DR: | In Jordan, speak only MSA, can't find many people to talk to, Where I go??!?!?!1 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [16 M] with my parents [40's M/F], my parents saw me naked with a boner while I had a freind over. Now they think I'm gay.
POST: So "Chuck" stayed over at the weekend and we did what guys do after watching porn. Chuck wanted to know how big I was and not being shy I showed him by standing on my bed stark bollock naked with a boner.
Mom walked in as I was waggling it around and then walked out.
Since then I've had multiple conversations with both her and dad about how its ok to tell them anything and how they will continue to love me no matter what I choose to do with my life.
Secretly I think they are hoping I am gay.
I'm not gay - I'd like to try a few things but thats normal isnt it?
Tomorrow I've got my boys night out with dad and am dreading it cos I know he'll ask and not believe me.
TL;DR: | Parents think I'm gay, I'm not how do I convince them or do I ride it for new clothes first? |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Found some chick's purse/wallet, turned it into the police station on campus (West Chester University)
POST: I made sure to check there was nothing illegal (like trees) inside before I turned it in, so she wouldn't get boned on top of the pita involved in losing her credit card, house key (I'm guessing) and medicine. I hope she got the note I left for her under a rock on the bench in front of the lecture hall, and I hope that she went to the police station to see if it had been turned in.
They said they'd try to contact her, so there is that at least. I'm not sure why they had to take down my name and address etc, but wth, no skin off my back. Just trying to do the right thing.
Anyhow, just wanted to share this with reddit in the off chance she's a redditor. I hope announcing the school's name in the title doesn't violate that whole privacy thing.
Damn, I hope for a lot, don't I.
TL;DR: | I did a nice thing today and I hope that it turned out well. Felt like sharing/karma whoring. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Mutual Spark or Friend Zoned? (M17)
POST: This is my first reddit post, so cut me some slack. About a month and a half ago I broke up with my girlfriend(F17) of about a year over a multitude of things. Since then, a. lady friend that I've had for years has been talking to me. Naturally, I've built some affection for her, but she sends mixed signals. We talk daily and she gets upset when she can't sit next to me in social situations, yet certain things she's said and done have led to me believe that I've simply been friend zoned. For instance, last year (prior to my relationship) she was made aware that I had minor feelings for her and a few weeks ago we talked about it. I lied and said that those feeli gs had subdued because I knew they probably weren't mutual and her response was that she understood but was glad I hadn't pursued her. But then she ended the conversation by saying you should never apologize for your feelings. So that's a shit situation. Another one, recently we made group plans to go see Christmas lights. I was psyched to get some evening time with her even in a group. But yesterday she said we should include my ex's best friend and my ex. (X and I are okay socially). Part of me thinks if a woman likes you, she wouldn't want to invite his ex around. I'm certain I've been friend zoned. Any sliver of chance, men and women of reddit?
TL;DR: | I like shy girl, can't tell if I've been friend zoned, or low self esteem has just made me doubtful |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Please give advice - Made mistake during HR benefits election, now i have no insurance
POST: Hey reddit...
I fucked up and I need some help. I'm in the midst of a divorce, that has been going on for 15+ months. Prior to the pending divorce, I was always on my wife's medical insurance plan through her employer. My company holds medical elections once a year and this year, I didn't elect to get medical coverage. Part of this was stupid, me just figuring "hey, I'll be able to elect for coverage once the divorce goes through". In the interim, my (soon to be ex)-wife dropped me from her coverage.
I found this out tonight, as I had shooting stomach pains (which, in all honesty, have subsided in the last 15-30 minutes) and decided I should probably go to the ER (never been to the ER before, but with the pain I was experiencing, it seemed the most prudent thing). I called her provider, they said I wasn't covered.
So, Reddit...right now, I'm gainfully employed, but with no healthcare. Not the worst of situations, i know...but, does anyone have any suggestions whether I'm really fucked until this divorce goes through? If I do end up having to go to the ER tonight and end up having to have an appendectomy, am I paying out of pocket?
TL;DR: | Medical coverage lapsed because I'm dumb. If I have to go to ER for surgery, am I screwed? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend (18) told me (18) about her sex life and I don't know what to do.
POST: I might be asking the wrong subreddit. Long time lurker and first time poster so I apologize on any mistakes I make. My whole life I have been with girls that are virgins because the thought of someone being in there not scares me but kind of disgust me. Recently, I began to date this girl, 2 months now, great girl but has been with other guys (3) Yesterday, she told me on how she messed up and how she cheated on her last boyfriend. She gave me details on how it happened and is now stuck in my head. So whenever we do have sex, I always end up thinking in the back of my head on how she did stuff with other guys. Do girls feel like this too? Was is sorta messed up she did that?
TL;DR: | My girlfriend told me about her sex life and is now stuck in the back of my head. What do I do? |
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