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SUBREDDIT: r/pettyrevenge
TITLE: Eat my food will ya? Hope you like dirt in your mouth.
POST: Little back story:
I moved into the place I'm living about 9months ago when I started my new job landscaping for a huge company. I rent a room in a house l, which is shared with two brothers, 34yrs old and 23yrs old. I am the odd one out.
The build up:
So like any normal human being trying so save money, I go out to my local grocery store and buy what I need for the week and repeat.
Since the day I moved in my food would disappeared without me eating it. Neither one of the brothers would fess up to it when I asked about my missing food.
OK no problem I get it. The two of them are brothers and are going to have each others backs and say fuck me because who the fuck am I right.
The revenge:
As I mentioned I work as a landscaper. Not maintenance so much as installing huge trees and small plants. Needless to say I get fucking dirty. Filthy! So what do I do when I get home? Take a shower.
And here it is you see, dirt collects under my finger nails all day at work. They only way I've been able to clean that shit out is with my roommates toothbrushes they both leave in the shower. Its been nice knowing that every time one of them uses their toothbrush there's just a little bit of dirt from me going on their teeth.
TL;DR: | MY ROOMATES EAT MY FOOD SO I USE THEIR TOOTHBRUSHES TO CLEAN DIRT OUT FROM UNDER MY NAILS. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: One of my [29F] acquantainces [20s M] in Twitter send me a private message asking for my phone number to talk about. I don't want to give it to him. I don't know how to tell him.
POST: So, I use Twitter a lot, and I talk to several people there, most of the time I talk in public or private messages if the conversation is too long or if it is about something more private, of course, I always tell my SO because I have nothing to hide from him.
This past few days, I reconnected with an acquaintance there. He politely asked me if we could chat, and me, being the stupid friendly person that I am, told him that of course, but because I have I have a weird schedule sometimes I wouldn't be able to reply fast.
After that, the guy asked me for my phone number, because that way would be more comfortable and better for him... and I didn't like that. I don't know it it was a hint or what, but after having a stalker for 3 years, I don't want to give my personal phone number to a guy that I barely know.
I talked to my boyfriend but he has no clue on what could I say to this guy, because if it were for him, he would just ignore him completely, but to me that's not polite.
So, what do you think I should do? I am clueless. I want to tell him no without sounding like a bitch.
TL;DR: | Guy wants my phone number, I don't want to give it to him, but I also don't want to be unpolite. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[22m] met someone [21f] on new years. We had 2 dates and the second one she stayed over. I just broke up with her and she is saying I was just using her for sex.
POST: I met this girl at a new years party at my house. She's very nice and smart. We talked the whole night. We went on a date that weekend that ended in sex(she suggested). And a second date this passed friday. She stayed at my house and we were together most of Saturday. She asked a lot of questions and sounded like she wanted something serious with longevity. She put the relationship up on Facebook and for some reason that made me uncomfortable. I called her and told her I don't think we're looking for the same thing and she says I was just trying to have sex and leave. Am I an asshole?
TL;DR: | we have 2 dates,both end in sex. I decide I'm not interested. She accuses me of using her for sex. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [17/M] got broken up with my long term (4 years) girlfriend [18/F] but don't feel like anybody is going to respond to this unless it's something abnormal.
POST: No, I don't have any crazy story that I somehow was related to me ex, or it turned out that she had a third nipple or whatever that complicated our relationship or something. I'm just a really heartbroken guy right now.
I was with my ex for the past 4 years on and off (longest period was the last two) and she just broke it off Wednesday during what I thought was going to be a "communicate our problems and we'll make it better" chat.
She's been involved with everything in my life. I've been in band with her, which basically one huge chunk of my high school life (I'm graduated, for clarification). Heck, we even went to New York together for spring break.
We've sucked this summer with talking and hanging out. Less than 1 time a week we'd hang out, and less than 2 times a week we'd text, message, call, etc. I invited her over my house Wednesday to talk it through to fix our relationship. It's important to because she's leaving for a different college in the fall which would make the relationship long distance. However, that talk turned into her breaking up with me.
Reddit, I've never felt so unwanted in my entire life. I don't get how she can go from telling me I was her everything to this. I've lost faith in exactly how commited a person can be to somebody else.
TL;DR: | I got broken up with by a girl who meant everything to me. And I just want to curl up and cry. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I just found out my [17f] boyfriend [17m] has been talking and flirting online with a girl he used to be in a relationship with.
POST: I moved away about a month ago and have been very depressed and not communicating with my boyfriend very well since then. I noticed something was up and tried to snooped on his social media only to find the passwords had been changed. We've been together for four years and have always been open about anything like that.
It instantly struck me as fishy and I brought it was a week later. He gave me the pass codes and I found their messages.
Again their messages didn't say anything romantic or sexual just flirty. He liked her before we got together and about a year ago he told me he wanted to be friends with her. So I said that's fine. We had been together about two years at that point and I thought I had nothing to worry about. Found their messages about a week later and she was trying to get him to come see her about an hour away.
This girl didn't have a good reputation to begin with so I told him I didn't want him to speak to her anymore. He agreed until now. From what I can tell they've been talking for about a month.
TL;DR: | I snooped on my [17f] boyfriends [17m] social media and found he was flirting with another girl. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I tell?
POST: I (18/F) was with my ex boyfriend (18/M) for almost two years, we broke up about two months ago and it was a pretty clean break up. We are still friends and we still hang out occasionally. We've hooked up 3 times since the breakup. The last one was a couple days ago, and after I found out that he was kind of official with this new girl. Should I tell her what happened? Or tell him that I think he should? I wouldn't have done it if I knew he was with a new girl. I'm not that kind of person and I feel bad.
TL;DR: | hooked up with my ex, turns out he's with a new girl. Should I tell her or just let it be? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19M] like a girl [19F] in my friend group and she likes me? What do I do now?
POST: Ok so this girl and I are in the same friend group with about 9 people and we're all very close. I am 100% sure this girl feels the same way I do about her but what do I do now? We've texted a little bit but not consistently. We haven't talked about our feelings directly but since we talk about them with other friends in the group stuff gets around.
Now, we've only hung out with other members in the friend group but I would like to branch out to me and her just hanging out to get know each other a little better but how can I do it? I don't want to come off and ask her to a date immediately but just a casual spend time together thing. How could I do this?
TL;DR: | I like girl, she likes me. Same friend group. How can I branch to her and I just hanging out? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22 M] have a giant crush on a girl in a class of mine. But, there's more.
POST: I've had a huge crush on this girl [24 F] for about a month now, I didn't pay her much mind but I workshopped a short story she wrote and her writing had this sort of flair and beautiful flow to it, really hooked me. Ever since then whenever I go to that class on Saturday I can sort of see her peek a glance at me, and it seems like both of our opinions in class seem to meet up. But, I'm never sure how much of that I'm making up in my head. I've always had lots of trouble approaching girls, even when I know they're really interested I can't convince myself that it's not in my head. So I Googled her thinking I'll find her Facebook. Things I found out
She's about 2 years older than me
She's been a model since she was 16
She's dated an A list celebrity
She has an insane portfolio
So now I went from iffy to intimated. I feel like I'm setting myself up to fail. What do I do Reddit!
TL;DR: | Liked a girl for about a month, found out she was way out of my league, what do I do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: have you ever loved a woman?
POST: here's the thing: I'm as awkward as shit. I'm really good at meeting people and flirting with women, but after my bag of tricks inevitably runs out, I become myself. my boring, socially awkward self (17/m).
over the summer, I met a girl who didn't mind. we didn't even kiss, but she told me (SHE told ME) that we were "soulmates," and if she didn't have a boyfriend, she would have wanted us to be together. legit.
why? we could be ourselves around each other. our boring, socially awkward selves. we clicked.
I've had girlfriends and hookups, but nothing like THAT. now the summer's over. she lives halfway across the country and I'll probably never see her again. even two months after I met her, however, we chat every day and make up new inside jokes.
TL;DR: | I love a woman who loves (or at least loved) me, but we never even kissed, and I'll never have her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27F] having issues connecting with [27M] a couple dates in
POST: So I'm going to try and be short and sweet.
I recently starting see Marcus, we've been on a handful of dates. I met his friends already. He is very vocal about how he feels about me. If I asked him to be exclusive right now I know the answer would be yes. He seems ready to jump into 'relationship mode'. He is very attentive, a gentleman, he says/does all the right stuff. I wasn't feeling good and he was so caring and comforting and it make me uncomfortable. Honestly, I am so used to guys being jerks/withholding their feelings that the fact he is so open about his is putting me off. I'm not sure if the issue is with me or if it's with him.
In the past I've dated guys that end up being jerks (think narcissistic or guys that enjoy the chase). There is something about their personalities that has attracted me to them, though I cannot put my finger on what it is. I would've killed for them to be excited and eager to see me all the time. However, Marcus is eager and perfect on paper yet I am really put off by it. I honestly don't know how to respond when he says nice things to me.
What is wrong with me? I can't tell if I'm just not 'feeling' Marcus or if I'm just not used to being treated well
I know this is super vague, I am having a very hard time explaining the situation so if I need to clarify anything let me know..
TL;DR: | I date jerks that give me butterflies, met a nice guy and I am hesitant. What's wrong with me? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Unique gift items for a guy
POST: I am a new owner of a small upscale men's boutique. Clothes, decor, gifts, books, etc. I'm looking to get some cool and interesting items in there, things you can't just buy at Macy's, things you don't see every day. I've brought in some cool things like hand-made wooden puzzles and games, trebuchet kits, and some unique decor items like replica diving helmets and old model cars. I'm still looking for more, though, and am running out of ideas. Do you sell or know of a website that sells something cool and unique? Let me know.
One simple rule is we don't sell electronics. So no gadgets. And no fleshlights. Gracias!
TL;DR: | I want to stock my men's store with some cool, unique shit. Post a link. Help me out. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What was your worst first day at work story?
POST: He is mine, It was winter time, had been snowing heavily, I managed to get a shift at the night club, due to them being short staffed. The shift was fine but there was no-one at the door or inside the mens bathroom, so fucking asshole thinks it's funny to block the urinal trough with paper, everyone keeps pissing in it all night never telling any of the staff, It fills up during the night and overflows, 3am music stops and eveyone leave, only then do any of the staff realise whats happen. I'm given the task to clean up, the whole bathroom, with is Inch deep in piss(Not making it up), took an hour, using 8 blue roll, lots of bin bags, and a mop. I'd no choice but to stand in the piss to clean the trough, About 5 minutes in I realised that I had a hole in my shoe, and piss was slowly making it's way into my sock, threw the shoes and sock away when I got home, and the worse thing was I never got paid, as the manager claimed it was a trail shift and they didn't want me.
TL;DR: | Cleaned a whole nightclub bathroom, Inch deep in piss with a hole in my shoe, and wasn't paid. FML |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Stupid boy...
POST: This girl drove three hours to see me tonight. We had a fantastic evening, I thought we were really hitting it off.
Then, out of nowhere...
She calls me a stupid boy?!
So, I've come to you Reddit, what does this mean? Does it mean I should just stop trying? She's supposed to be here another two days. I don't know what to do... If I'm in a "things are going great, there's fireworks in my eyes" mindset, and she's in a "can't wait to GTFO" mindset, this could suck.
What am I to think? It wasn't a joking "stupid boy," it was the most sincere tone of voice I've ever heard. So please Reddit, help me to salvage these two days as best I can.
TL;DR: | Uh, girl I thought I had a chance with said I'm stupid. But I have two days left with her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: GF Lying To Me, Won't Fess Up, How To Deal?
POST: Me: 25, male,
Her: 24, female
Relationship Length: 1.2 years
Living Arrangements: Share apartment
My GF got caught in a lie yesterday, which wasn't such a big deal, but then she lied about lying and just was totally invested in her original lie and was saying anything and everything to make it seem like she was innocent (her stories were inconsistent, and she was acting super guilty). The original lie was so blatant, it's insulting that she's continuing trying to convince me that she's innocent. The lies straight to my face about not lying were what made me the most upset.
She has done this in the past, and I've been able to brush it off, but now, it's pretty uncool, and I'm really starting to lose my trust in her. How can I deal with this situation? I don't think she's going to stop lying in this particular situation, and I can see this same thing happening in the future (since this has happened in the past). I'm stuck in a 1 year lease with her, so breaking up would be a difficult thing.
I pay for 2/3 of the rent, so I'm thinking of making her start paying for 50% because of the way she's been acting. Because she won't admit to her lies, I want to make her pay for it.
TL;DR: | gf lied to me, lied about lying, I'm upset and don't know what to do with her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [14M] is getting fed up with my sister [18F] constantly being on my case
POST: I am getting absolutely fed up with my sister. All she does is snitch on me to mom and dad, sibling are suppose to have each other's back and she keeps snitching on me and acting like a third parent.
I can't even hang out with friends with out her texting me asking me where I am. If I want to go out when mom and dad are not home she gives a time I need to be back or most of the time does not let me go at all.
I don't understand this attitude she has where she thinks she can boss me around and tell me when I can go out.
What can I do to get her to lay off me
TL;DR: | My sister won't get off my case, she keeps telling what I can and can't do and I am sick of it |
SUBREDDIT: r/college
TITLE: Questions about 6-drop rule (TX), input and advice from students in any other states is more than welcome.
POST: So this is gonna be a weird one... So I failed out of my university previously after transferring there from another school. I attended a community college this past semester but because of a hold at my previous university I only submitted transcripts from my first school. I had drops at my second school, and I dropped courses this semester at CC because I moved. I've come to realize I'm over the 6-drop limit but I was allowed to do so because the CC didn't have my transcript from my second uni. If and when I reapply to my previous uni and they ask for all transcripts would I have to submit transcripts from this CC even though I don't have any grades there? What happens when my previous university sees my reapplication and sees that I went over the 6 drops? Can I even go back to a university at this point or get any form of financial aid?
TL;DR: | i'm over the 6-drop limit due to some holds with transcripts at a CC. How will this affect me? |
SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice
TITLE: Does "whoever you date is going to be one lucky girl" translate to "I like you but I don't want to date you"?
POST: First off, I'm a guy and I've become good friends with a girl I wouldn't mind dating. We are part of a close knit friend group and two of the other guys in the group have already tried asking her out but she rejected both of them (all respectful, everyone still close friends, no grudges).
The other night, she came to talk to me after rejecting the second guy because she was worried it might make things awkward. I talked to her about that situation as well as other things she had on her mind. Afterwards, she said the line "whoever you date is going to be one lucky girl". Now, should I take that as "You're really nice but I don't want to date you and I'm tired of rejecting friends" or something on the other side of that and that I might have a chance?
I'm not sure about this whole thing and could use some good womanly advice. Thanks and I appreciate it!
TL;DR: | Got told "whoever you date is going to be one lucky girl" and am not sure how to interpret it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: How long do I wait for the "Big Job" to show up?
POST: I have a part-time job as a waitress. It's not a terrible place to work, but I'd really rather be gone in the next month or two. I've applied to a ton of jobs over the last 6-8 weeks (receptionist, bank teller, etc.), some part-time, some full-time. I've been contacted by one or two part time jobs, but I've declined the offer because the jobs didn't pay enough (less than my current job/not enough to cover my rent). I'd really rather have one full-time job than a handful of part-time jobs, but I'm afraid of passing on my only offers. I also don't want to take a crappy part time job only to be offered a full-time job (weekends/holidays off, $14/hr, benefits, etc.) a week later.
TL;DR: | do I take the crappy job, or keep waiting for a full-time job? How long do I wait? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [37 M] with my wife [34 F] 11 years, don't know if I should tell her my co-worker tried to seduce me.
POST: Never been in a situation like this before.
I'm married to a very beautiful woman and I still love her like crazy after all these years. We have 3 kids with another on the way (it's a girl by the way) and I have no intentions of cheating or abandoning them EVER.
I work with a woman [32 F] and she is attractive but I've considered us acquaintances. She's tried to flirt with me before but I've shut it down and have told her numerous times that I'm married and to stop so she has.
Yesterday took the cake really.
My office is in a odd position it's facing in a way where you can't exactly see who goes in. I was working and she came in and started asking me questions (nothing important) and just keeps going on and then asks about me.
She started asking how my day was and if I was okay and then did something that still seems unbelievable even now. I turned around to look for a file in my drawer and when I looked up she had her clothes off....yes seriously.
I asked her what the fuck was she doing and she told me "I know you want me" and tried to walk towards me. I told her to put her clothes and get out and after trying to get her out she finally left.
I'm really not sure what to do should I tell my wife should I just let it go what should I do.
TL;DR: | my co-worker tried to seduce me I didn't fall for it but I'm wondering if I should tell my wife. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 28M broke up with 24F because I liked her too much.
POST: We weren't ever really together, but we've seen each other steadily over two months. We've had about a date a week and saw each other a few times a week in class. It was more then casual. But less then exclusive.
I didn't plan on it, but through the course of our date tonight, I ended up having the "where is this going" talk with her. I told her I liked her, felt that we had something, and wanted to see where it went.
TO be honest. I can't really remember her response. It's like my ears rushed with blood or something, but basically she didn't feel the same. Or at least, not to the degree that I did.
I wanted something more. She didn't. She probably would have kept seeing me, but that wasn't enough for me, so I broke up with her. I made the right decision, right?
TL;DR: | I liked her more then she liked me, so I broke up with her. That was the right thing to do, right? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20 M], have pissed off my brother [18 M] by going out with my friends and explicitly not inviting him, then accidently putting him down.
POST: So I went out with two good friends tonight, and my brother got very angry when I tried to explain why he wasn't invited. I started by explaining we had different levels of life experience, to which he responded that he was more mature than the three of us put together, and he'd punch me in the face if I kept putting him down. He failed to see the irony.
Next I tried explaining that my friends and I have really started to get to know each other lately, and he interrupted and said I'd "better unfuck myself real fast". Now might be a good time to mention he can bench press me about 4 times over, and was sitting well within arms reach.
I told him that situation wasn't helping, and he told me to get out. I did. He left a little while ago to go somewhere else for the night, taking his school with him, and I started writing this post. I also texted my 2 friends a short message explaining he was pissy about it, which may or may not have been a good idea.
This is the first time anyone's ever been really angry with me, what the hell do I do?
TL;DR: | Went out with my friends, brother's pissed he couldn't tag along. He left to go angst for a while. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Is my boyfriend (M21) supposed to do something for me for my birthday (22F)
POST: My boyfriend (M21) and I (F22)have been dating for 2 years. A few days ago I celebrated my 22nd birthday. My boyfriend didn't do anything for me. I was surprised but I didn't really mind at first because he tagged along with me for part of my birthday with myfriends and family and it was great. But today, I keep thinking about how he didn't do anything for me and I feel hurt. Last year he got me a small gift and took me out for dinner. We usually do something small or special for each other on our bdays so this feels outta place this year.
Is this not normal? Should he have done something or am I just expecting too much. I can't help but feel sad that he didn't care as much.
I briefly brought it up to him and he said he was busy. Which he wasn't at all. He offered to buy me something later or take me out to dinner...using a gift card to a place I had bought him with my own money as a present a little bit ago.
I said no though because it didn't seem sincere . What should I think about this? Do your boyfriends usually do something for you for your bday. Men, what is your standpoint.
TL;DR: | My bf (M21) didn't do anything for me(F22) for my birthday and it hurt my feelings. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25 M] with my friend [24 F] of 3+ years, good friend of a couple years randomly kissed me and told me she loved me
POST: Seems all well and good right? **She has a boyfriend of 2+ years.**
We've been friends for a long time, theres always been sexual tension and attraction but we were pretty good at ignoring it for the sake of our real lives. But this time, she randomly visits my city one night, convinces me to come out, and within 5 minutes of seeing her she starts makin face with me. She proceeds to tell me how she loves me, how shes always loved me, but how she cant love me, and how she has to go home to her boyfriend the next day.
I really dont know what to do, this was about 2 weeks ago and she still hasnt told him, which i think is incredibly disrespectful. we've still been talking and such like normal, but everyday it irks me more that shes just pretending it didnt happen.
So reddit...how should i handle this? I really dont think i want to have this close of a friend if she's willing to behave like this.
TL;DR: | long time good friend visits me, kisses me, professes love for me, but has a boyfriend of 2 years |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: what does it mean when my ex (m22) friend requests me (18) on Facebook months later after a nasty break up?
POST: Short story: I mety ex last summer via a mutual friend and we hit it off immediately, which is incredibly rare for me, as I am usually closed off. Before leaving for the fall semester at an internship several states away, we agreed to try dating with the agreement that no matter what happens, we would try again when I returned home. about a month later, my friend texted me and told me that she had matched with him on tinder. I kinda knew it before hand- he had stopped talking to me or texting me unless he was drunk, wanted to sex, or only replied when he initiated the conversation. Hurt, I broke up with him over text and told him that we should go our seperate ways with a request not to contact me agak. Even though we dated for such a short period of time, I found myself missing him and turned down dates from guys from football to pro hockey players that most women would kill to talk to. I reached out to him three times and after he never responded, I moved on and find myself now in a new relationship with a very wonderful lady. One day, out the blue, he friend requested me on Facebook. I'm not sure what do do or what this means. he was a good person in my life the short time I knew him but I don't know if it's worth having him in my life again. Is it really worth trying to talk things over?
TL;DR: | months after a nasty break up, my exwants to reconnect I think and I'm clueless as to what to do |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Boss offered me "One Wish". What should I ask for?
POST: So I've been working at KFC for almost a year.
I make $11 an hour (Ontario minimum wage)
I work Front Cash (my preference) and am not really interested in any other position there, including Shift Manager, which would be the next promotion.
We have Guest Surveys and I've been doing really well. People regularly leave positive comments about my excellent customer service.
It's been noticed regularly by the Manager and the District Manager (who manages multiple locations)
So I recently had another exceptional guest survey. The Manager came to me and said him and the District Manager were talking about me and they would like to reward me.
He offered me "One Wish". I tried to follow up by asking what that means exactly. He said "Anything I want."
As far as asking for a promotion, I don't really want to become a Shift Manager. I could have become that by now if I wanted (they have come and gone a few times) and I'm fairly sure my boss knows I don't want that position.
And he already told me earlier I would continue to get the amount of hours I want. I'm happy with the hours they give me.
So what should I ask for? What is reasonable/unreasonable?
TL;DR: | Min. Wage Job, 1 Year, Boss Offered Me "One Wish". Didn't say what. What should I ask for? |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: My health insurance company pays for smoking cessation treatments, but diet medication is not covered. Pretty pissed at the double standard.
POST: Late in spring I hit a wall. I was doing very well at the beginning of the year & exercising. I had lost ~25 lbs. Then I just fell off the wagon. No explanation. I've put on ~15 back. I'm finding now that I lack any motivation to get going again, and now I'm just plain frustrated and pissed at myself.
I recently went to the doctor to ask about my connection to anxiety/anger & food. He told me that he has several patients that are having very good success with Qysmia. Qysmia is basically Topamax (topiramate) and the "good" portion of Phen-Phen (phentermine). He warned that not all companies cover this medication. I took the script, went home and called my insurance. Nope. Not covered at all. Diet pills are not covered. Yet I can get smoking cessation treatment for free (I already did that cold turkey years ago). I do plan on asking for a further explanation from my carrier, but until then, what are your thoughts Reddit? This seems like quite the double standard from insurance carriers.
I'm not looking for an easy way out, just some support...er, well, maybe I am, but whatever. It is way too expensive for me out of pocket. I know there are discount programs, but that is besides the point.
TL;DR: | I can take drugs to quit smoking for free, but I have to pay an arm and a leg for diet medication. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Need advice with what to do about a relationship that ended about 3 months ago
POST: So my ex boyfriend [20M] of a year and a half broke up with me [22F] about 3 months ago. I frankly have very strong feelings for him and I am unable to let go.
He says he loves me but doesn't want to be in a relationship right now with anyone, not for a long time. He still acts like my boyfriend, he still wants to have sex with me, he sees me from time to time, but he just doesn't want to be with me. He claims the problem isn't me, it's that his feelings have changed about being in a relationship.
He'd rather play video games than hang out with me; i'm a video game fan too and we do play online sometimes, but he still prefers that over seeing me.
Quite frankly, I don't know what to think. He ignores my texts sometimes and I hate making myself too available for him. I have a life of my own but I don't know if I should move on or stick around and give this a chance.
Do you think he could possibly love me but not want to be with me? I'm very confused as I don't want to waste my time on someone who eventually wouldn't want me.
TL;DR: | Should I let go of my ex boyfriend if he doesn't want to be with me but wants me in his life? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I [M/19] am having issues with my girlfriend [F/20] and have been acting immature, how do I go about talking to her about my emotions without sounding like a child
POST: My girlfriend and I were fine up until her parents came to visit her at the University we both attend. Since then she has seemed more and more distant and I have been trying to give her more space.
Up until recently when I made it clear that I miss her and want to help her. She has been hanging out with this friend of hers who she says is just a friend but people think that she has "a thing" with him, which she told me she does not. It has bothered me since the week inbetween when her parents came and this past weekend she would text him whenever we were hanging out.
This past weekend I made it very clear that I am upset and feel like I am losing her. I love her very much but she said that I was smothering her after awhile. Its like all of a sudden she doesn't have time for me.
Like an idiot, I got mad at her and was acting fairly mature to which she responded that I was acting in such a manner and that I was on the precipice of having her never talk to me again. We are hanging out in two days to discuss our relationship and whats been going on.
I obviously fucked up but need some advice on this situation, even if it is telling me I am a dickhead.
TL;DR: | I am a dickhead and got mad at my GF and now she is threatening not to talk to me and I am afraid |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Is my gf[17F] of 3 months not loving me[18M] anymore?
POST: I know some of you guys will say "it is the youth it will pass as you grow, you are too young" etc. but here is my problem: She never calls me through the day, she never includes me in plans. She goes out and drinks coffee and hangs out with her other friends almost everyday but when it comes to us, I am always the first one to ask to go somewhere together, I am the first to make plans. When it was her birthday, i got drunk the day before and she told me to "rest" at home while she celebrates her birthday with her friends. I am currently getting prepared for uni exam so i can't pay attention to her not as much as i would like to. But i care about her and told her so. I asked her if anything is wrong or if she is upset with me but she gives me escapy answers like "we will talk later". How to " regenerate" our relationship or is there no hope?
TL;DR: | I think gf lost interest in me or she never had. What to do? Move on or try to recover? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21F] just broke up with my long-time boyfriend [21M] -- absolute love of my life.
POST: I'm sure this type of post shows up on here a lot. But I couldn't find one to stalk for advice.
Madly in love with someone who is madly in love with me, and it's been that way for a long time now. The two of us together has always made sense to us and everyone who knows us. We're compatible in nearly every way. Unfortunately, as 21-year-olds go, I'm more mature for my age and he has some growing up to do. I work 3 jobs, pay for everything myself, constantly think of great dates for us, do extremely well in school, and generally get everything that I work hard for. He lacks in ambition, doesn't put much thought/effort into our relationship and his academics, ...is just generally behind in maturity compared to me.
I knew it was best to break up with him and let ourselves grow for a bit. But now I can't believe I did it. I'm a wreck, and when I'm upset the only person I want to cheer me up is him. It feels like I made a huge mistake.
Redditors: begging for break-up advice, tips for moving on, or maybe some encouragement to make it work. I don't fuckin know.
TL;DR: | I broke up with the only person I can ever see myself with, and I don't know what to do next. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit: my best friend forwarded me an offensive political email and I snapped. Did I go too far?
POST: One my my best friends forwards me 2-3 conservative and often blatantly false emails a week. Many are offensive, but I find it entertaining in a general sense.
They're often politically based--"CAN YOU BELIVE OBAMA BIN LADIN DID THIS LOL!!"
Today's email, however was a variant of this [one] A smattering of anti-Muslim comments allegedly made by Australian officials, that essentially told Muslims to assimilate or "get out of Australia."
I find religious intolerance particularly bothersome, so I responded with the following:
> Wow dude, that's about the most un-American pile of shit you've ever sent me. Please don't forward me ignorant crap like that.
To which he has not responded.
My question is this: **do I apologize for responding in that way?** I realize now I should have just deleted it and moved on like all the others, but this one struck a particular nerve.
TL;DR: | I told a good friend to buzz off over an anti-Muslim email. How do I avoid any further awkwardness? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What was your parent's punishment/spanking instrument of choice? Which one was most effective?
POST: Inspired by ssoo's thread:
When I was young, my parent's goto was this very thin but very strong bamboo stick and The Flyswatter.
Its been a long long time since I've been spanked, but I was a pretty insolent kid when I was young. So spankings were pretty frequent. However, the most effective thing my parent ever done to me was when my father cried.
I was 20 when this happened. My parent and I had a huge fight over something I don't even remember anymore. It was probably a whole list of things that compounded together. All I remember was my father being so disappointed in me that he started crying and blaming himself.
Till then, I've never seen him cried before. It absolutely crushed me. The realization that I was such a goddamn turd to my parent came to me full force all at once in that one moment. So yeah, what was the most effective thing YOUR parent did to you to teach you a lesson?
TL;DR: | What did your parent do to punish you that was effective? Mine was, "SON, I AM DISAPPOINT *TEARS" |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Crazy over co-worker
POST: So my co-worker [26f] and I [38m] had a drunken escapade about a week and a half ago. We've worked together for about six months. She has been cool and open with me since. We've lunched together and hung out again after work, but nothing physical since. I can't get a read on her though -- I'm very interested in getting to know her romantically, even if we have to keep it hush-hush, but I can't tell what she's thinking.
She has said she's fine with what happened between us, and we chat and talk throughout our workday, but it feels like a really strong friendship, and not flirtatious or romantic. I have to add that she's just out of grad school, so she's younger than me, and I sometimes wonder if this is just par for the course for a woman her age -- hooking up with a co-worker/friend, but nothing beyond that. It's absolutely KILLING me, because I'd like to push things a bit (even if it remains casual).
I can't figure out what to do. I suggested taking our relationship out of the bar setting (which she said she'd be willing to do), but I feel like I'm tossing out chances for her to say 'lets get together tonight' that she NEVER jumps on. I'm afraid to ask her out because I don't want to seem desperate, overly anxious, or more into this than she is.
Is the answer obvious, and I'm missing it? Or do I need to really chill out and back off?
TL;DR: | should I wait for my co-worker to make a move, ask her out, or forget what happened between us? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by causing $3000 worth of damage to my car.
POST: So I was pulling out of my garage not realizing that my grandfather was parked in our driveway. I looked beind and to my left to avoid the tree at the edge of our funky curved driveway swung the car back to the right and heard a thud. It was the sound of me hitting my rear panel with his bumper. I get out a look there's a dent and some paint transfer.
I go to the auto body shop and they tell me they're going to have to replace my cracked bumper and the entire rear quarter panel because of where the dent is located. I have a pretty nice and flashy car with all kinds of curves so just popping it out wouldn't look the right, especially because it's black.
TL;DR: | I hit a truck I didn't know was there and caused a ton of damage to my car by the way it hit. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Tonight I witnessed a man get hit my a car. What is the most terrifying thing you have ever seen?
POST: Tonight, while helping a friend move, I saw a man get hit by a car traveling around 75 mph. The man was on the right hand side of the road, there were two cars on the left hand side that had been in an accident and this man appeared to be trying to get across to help them. Why he thought that he could cross three lanes of traffic is beyond me. He got to about the third lane and realized he was about to be hit, when the impact was made, even for me in another car everything went into slow motion. He flipped through the air about 15- 20 ft. In the air. I did not get a chance to stop, but when I passed by I was going very slow, he looked dead to me, and I see no way that he could have lived. So I do believe that tonight, I witnessed a man get killed. I feel very sorry for the man that got hit, but even worse for the person driving the car that hit him, I cannot begin to imagine what they must have to live with from now on.
So my question to you is, what is the most terrifying thing you have ever seen?
TL;DR: | saw a man get hit by a car. Flew about 15-20 feet in the air. I think he died. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: xpost from r/pugs, A scammer just tried to work us over for a few pugs. Details are in the comments.
POST: We've had our hearts set on a Pug puppy and came across this last second find tonight. The owner of the pugs originally said they can't have dogs in their new apt, so they have to be gone by tonight. We jumped for joy and offered to take them into our homes, when the owner said she only wanted $50 for the adoption papers, rather than the $180 listed. Ok, sounds great. The fishy part was they only wanted it in a CVS money gram express card, and to text them the card number right away. We told them no, it's too fishy. We would be willing to drive up tonight (three and a half hours away) and pay the fee, grab the pups, and stay at a hotel so we can do the paperwork in the morning. At this point the person started getting angry saying they trust us with the pups, that we should trust them with our money. We then did a [reverse image search] for the pups and they turned out in Louisville, Ky, Las vegas, and had a bunch of removed listings in other places. [Here] is the Kentucky add, with all the same info as our original find in NC.
TL;DR: | Don't let this[3] jenny work you over for $xx for false hopes, there is no puppy. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [18/M] girlfriend [16/F] tried getting a reaction out of me.
POST: To give background: my girlfriend has anxiety and is quite depressed. Sometimes she gets in moods where she doesn't talk to me, and it's hard for me to determine whether she's ignoring me (she does it when she's mad) or just in a "mood".
Today, she got in one of those moods, and I tried to talk to her to see what was wrong. She completely ignored me and didn't even bat an eye. I needed to do something important, so I went to do that because I didn't have 30 minutes to spend trying to talk to her. I even got a bit upset with her and didn't talk to her for awhile.
I had headphones in and I could see she tried to talk to me, but I was upset that I always try talking to her with no attention, so I ignored her. Eventually, I took the headphones out and we talked.
Tonight she was telling me how upset she was that I ignored her after "what she said". She tells me that she told me it's over, and never to talk to her again (after me ignoring her for awhile).
I understand she may have just tried to her a reaction out of me, but I'm hurt by that and take it really seriously. I don't know if ignoring her for a few days would be terrible or overreacting, but I feel too offended and shocked to respond.
What should I do?
TL;DR: | Girlfriend ignores me. I ignore her for once and- while I can't hear- tells me it's over. |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: My girlfriend is mad at me because I don't drink raw milk. What the actual heck?
POST: She brings up the subject of raw milk once or twice a week, and I continue to tell her that I don't want to drink raw milk because it can be harmful, and I barely drink ANY milk as it is; so I simply avoid the raw.
Well today, it was brought up as she put raw milk in her tea, and I had my tea black. This time she got extremely defensive and she's been ignoring me for about two hours now. I even tell her that I believe those who want to drink raw milk should be able to as they please (as it is illegal to sell). As long as they don't serve it to children, of course, as they don't understand the possible dangers of unpasteurized milk and can't really decide for themselves.
ANYWHO. How can I fix this? I am honestly at a loss. I don't ever want to fight with her. And this is an extremely retarded reason to be fighting.
TL;DR: | I don't drink raw milk. Girlfriend mad at me for not drinking it. Ignoring me for 2 hours. What do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by refilling my coffee at starbucks
POST: So... this just happened at my local Starbucks. After casually finishing my medium roast coffee I approached the counter to get my refill. In front of me was an African American, lets call him Bryan, who was talking with the barista, lets call her Beatrice, to order his coffee as well as purchase the metal coffee mug. Beatrice was doing her best to sell the metal coffee mug and pointed out that with every purchase with the coffee mug would give Bryan a $0.10 discount on the coffee and the refills would be $0.50. Afterwards Beatrice pointed me out because I was getting a refill on my 16oz medium roast and asked "I don't know your name". I replied in a jokingly manner "It's okay. I don't know yours either." I feel like a huge cock right now.
TL;DR: | A Starbucks barista asked me for my name and I replied "It's okay. I don't know yours either." |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: She [19F] broke up with me [19M] after only 3 weeks together.
POST: We dated for about 3 weeks. Neither of us had been in anything close to a relationship before, but (I think) we had a really great time for at least 2.5 of those 3 weeks. Then out of nowhere, she breaks up with me the day before Spring Break, but says she still wants to be friends.
It wasn't too bad over Spring Break, because we only knew each other from college. However, once I got back things started to suck. She lives in the same dorm as ~10 of my friends here, so I introduced them and we all hung out while we were together. The problem is, she still hangs out with a few of them after break. The one time I hung out with them and her since break ended, it was pretty awkward and we both just avoided each other (it was at a party so it was easy). My friends don't want to exclude her, partially because they have to see her all the time, but they feel awkward asking me to hang out if shes there (which is often) because they think it will be weird (which it probably will be again).
I've tried talking to her to kind of clear the air and explain the situation and that I don't really know what to do, but shes blown me off both times.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation? Any advice on how I should handle it? Avoiding that group of friends isn't really an option that I want to consider.
TL;DR: | Gf broke up with me, still hangs out with my friends but its awkward when we hang out. What do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: She can't tell her parents...
POST: I'm a sophomore [15] and this girl I like is a senior [18]. Now, I'm an open lesbian and I just now found out (from her) that she's a closet gay. I'm the only person she's told, her parents don't even know. Her step-dad is Muslim and very religious/conservative. I'm over at her house constantly. We cuddle and watch movies. We flirt and do romantic things for each other. We go to dances and formals together and we're always together. We even went to prom together. But we can't tell anyone that we're together. She makes me happy and I make her happy. She's been accepted to college and will be living in the apartment building next to me, so that's not a problem. But I don't know if it's ok to be in a relationship in secret. I know I love her and she loves me. I'm only fifteen, but i just know that I want to spend the rest of my life with her, and she feels the same way. I have consent from my parents. We've been dating for a few months now, and, I know I'm incredibly young, but i just know she's the one for me.
TL;DR: | I'm 15, she's 18 (we have consent) and we're engaged but her parent's don't know she's gay... |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: So there's this girl I kind of like in my res at university, but I've never been on a date before and need some helpful tips.
POST: Here's a little background information about myself:
* I'm 18 years old (19 in a month)
* First year university student
* I'm shy around girls I like
* I'm an excellent listener (if that has anything to do with it)
* I've started feeling down since most of my friends are in positive relationships (I also really want to meet someone nice)
That's why I told myself it's time to enter the dating world. The one downside? I have no idea what to do or where to start.
I've got a crush on one of my classmates from last semester. We don't share that class anymore, but are friends (to the extent where we acknowledge each other among the thousands of students in our residence) and have very recently started chatting online.
I'd like to ask her out at some point, but I have no idea what to do. I don't think I can really just go up to her now and randomly ask her out; least not now. But then I don't know when I should (I'm a lost cause at the moment).
TL;DR: | Shy guy around crush. Would like to ask her out but don't think it's possible at the moment.* |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How long should I [24F] wait before asking where I stand with my FWB [28M]?
POST: We have been sleeping together every weekend and some weeknights for about 4 months, usually after a night out. I've met all his roommates and he's met mine, we get along very well and have established that we're not seeing other people. I was very stand-offish with him at first, and I know this set the tone of our relationship.
Buttt now I know I'm starting to get feelings for him, it's bound to happen when you commit yourself like that. I tried to end it recently because I was sick of only being with him in the bedroom and he said he was confused by my attitude during the start but that we would do more together now and see where it went. Since then we have gone on a couple of dates, but it's still nowhere near the level I'd like it to be.
From reading this, it does seem like he's happy with the current situation and doesn't want things to change, but when I questioned him he said at first it was just about having fun, but it's become more than that for him now.
Basically, I just want him to know how I feel, and ask him what he wants too. I don't know what I should do. Anyone else been in this situation before?
TL;DR: | I fell for the guy I was sleeping with. Told him. He said we would do more. We didn't. Now What? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Need some advice on Lord of the Rings…
POST: Here's the deal:
I've read *The Hobbit*, which was okay (but perhaps a bit tedious in places), and about a quarter into *The Fellowship of the Ring*, which is harder to read. I actually found a lot of it quite interesting, but I just *can't* read the long passages about how they walked through hills and mountains, or whatever. My mind just wanders every few paragraphs, and it's very boring.
At first, I had intended to read the books, then watch the movies (which I haven't seen, but have a readily-available box set of), but I am now considering watching the movies now, and maybe having a stab at the books another time.
What should I do?
TL;DR: | I find it hard to read *LOTR*; should I watch the films and come back to it later? |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: Half-marathon training assistance needed
POST: Hi running,
I have found myself in a bit of a predicament, and I need advice and help. Months ago I signed up for a half marathon to be ran May 3. I'd never done one before but I've been running for soccer training for years and figured I could get into it.
The caveat here is that I chose the race as a comeback from ACL reconstruction surgery. That was all well and good until my recovery took longer than expected.
Long story short, here I am, fully recovered and ready to train, but with only about 8-9 weeks before the marathon. My prior conditioning as a runner would probably only afford me up to 2-3 miles of running ability at this point. Can I pull this off? If so, what kind of training plan am I going to need to get going on?
TL;DR: | I have 8-9 weeks to go from being able to run 2-3 miles to 13.1. Can I, and how? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [27M] ex [26F] who cheated on me in the past is back in my life and I'm falling for her again
POST: I met this girl 5 years ago. Two years ago, we dated for a couple months until she cheated on me. My buddy who is a bouncer at a bar and claimed he saw her possibly leave with someone she just met to have a one night stand. I confronted her about it and she lied to me at first, until I told her some of the details my friend told me. I was really upset and broken that she would do such a thing and lie to me like that.
We broke it off, but she never really left my life. We have the same circle of friends. We never told them why we broke up. Since then we've both dated and slept around. Now the past 2 months, we started getting really close again. I'm the only man in her life right now (her words). We talk about everything now. We kiss and make out, do drugs together, but no penetrative sex during this recent period. I told her I wanted her back. She said no, it would be a poisonous relationship and wants to go back to being friends. Wtf???
Now I'm more confused than ever. A part of me says she was using me as a placeholder until something better came along. Am I being used? It's hard because I still have feelings for her.
I am so lost right now.
TL;DR: | Ex cheated on me. We broke up. Now shes back and I want her. But shes confusing the hell out of me |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm not sure if he [22 m] is into or just a really good friend [21F]. I've always struggled with this.
POST: He barely texts anyone and he is s lil social awkward.
He said that our text convo was the longest text convo he ever had. Then he awkwardly ended it....
I left our college town early and when he went out he was texting me all night.
I told him i had bulimia and when i almost collapsed he came over with a bunch of Gatorade and food and stayed with me.
When a guy hit on me and then left his phone at a bar, he wanted to return the phone. I returned it and he was.watching me the whole time.
TL;DR: | I don't know how to tell if a guy friend likes me as a friend, or if there is something more... |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Married and singles of Reddit! What is protocol for wedding well wishes regarding a fizzled friendship between the bride and the well-wisher?
POST: A friend(F/26) and I(F/25) were acquaintances prior to her relationship with her now husband. We became better friends over time and during the period of her relationship with him. Much to my dismay, suddenly, things between us took a sharp right turn and we mutually ended our friendship. I moved away, but when I returned to see some other friends for a visit, she wanted to make a truce. I passively agreed, but we both knew we wouldn't speak to each other after I left.
She got married this past Friday to her now husband, and although we aren't connected on Facebook, I still wished her and her main squeeze well through texts with the cell numbers I have for them. This would indicate to readers that weve previously had communication though these numbers; we have. She didn't recognize the number - must've obtained a new phone and needed new contact numbers at one point in time - and I told her it was me. She never responded back, either in acknowledgement or with a thanks.
My question is, isn't it most appropriate to thank *anyone* sincerely wishing you well for such a significant moment in your life whether youre friends, acquaintances, or not, or on talking terms or not? I could care less what *she* does, but for future instances... What should I know going forward?
TL;DR: | A (once, good) friend got married; I said 'grats, she didn't acknowledge. What now? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: How should I talk to my gay crush? [21/m]
POST: I'm a 21 year old guy, and I'm gay.
There is this guy who I really like in one of my college classes. He is somewhat effeminate and draws a lot of pictures of anime guys in their underwear. I think I am right in assuming that he is into guys, which would make him the first person who I've ever been interested in who is.
I have only dated two other people before, and, in both cases, it was them who asked me out over the internet.
I just don't know what to say or do. Every day in class, he says something to me, and we have a short conversation and laugh a bit. He often brushes against my arm or puts his elbow or foot against mine and leaves it there for a long time.
I feel like I should say something to him, but I always just stand there awkwardly and then leave when class is over. I'm always lost for words. What should I say to him? Should I ask him out, and if so, what should I ask him to do?
Thanks in advance for any suggestions.
TL;DR: | I have a crush on a guy who may also be interested in me, and I don't know what to say to him. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[21M] with a coworker/friend[21F] 3 months, Date advice
POST: Alright so I have been single for almost 3 years now, and havent been on a date in about the same time span.
Recently my coworker/friend agreed to have me make her dinner tomorrow night, then I suggested we go to the movies and she said she wanted to see Pacific Rim(She's awesome, I know). She even picked the time to see it at 9:45pm. We also been flirting with each other every night after work for the past week now.
I'm pretty nervous and don't want to do too much. Should I buy her flowers, and if so, what kind? Also any questions or some kind of topics to ask to keep conversation going would be appreciated.
I was planning on making her dinner and I even bought her favorite kind of ice cream. I really want to make this work and don't want to screw it up. :)
TL;DR: | Making dinner for a flirty coworker, I don't want to screw anything up. Should I buy her flowers? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Friend (24) and her on and off again bf (30) want to have a baby, should I tell her it's a terrible idea?
POST: One of my good friends really wants to have a baby. I just had my daughter two months ago and all through my pregnancy she was saying how she couldn't wait to be pregnant with her own. She met her bf just over a year ago, they're living together now but break up all the time. He says some pretty nasty things during fights (this is just what I hear from her second hand) things like how she used to 'whore it up all the time' or how when they break up she's just going to sleep with someone right away. He has very low self confidence and always makes snide comments about her cheating on him when she goes out with her friends. She's been faithful to him 100%.
Anyway, the two of them want to have a baby together and want to start trying really soon. Should I keep my mouth shut or let her make a mistake that will tie her to him for the rest of her life? (she will be a great mom, and he will probably be a good dad, but I don't ever see the two of them working out in the long run)
TL;DR: | friend wants to have a baby with bf, their relationship will not last. Do I tell her my opinion? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Really need some advice on becoming a Canadian citizen...
POST: So here's my situation:
Part 1: I served in the US Navy for 5 years, got my GI Bill so that I could attend school out here. I was in a program here and then the VA sent me a letter saying that "due to a recent review, we came to the conclusion that your program cannot be supported since it interferes with the HERA act of 2005." In short, any foreign school program that involves "telecommunications" (any program that has online portions such as tests/pretest all the way to lectures) has been completely dropped, which is every program I've looked into. This means that I won't be getting my monthly housing allowance from them, meaning no income from me. Part 2: My fiance (A Canadian citizen) and I are getting married soon and I want to gain Canadian citizenship so that I can get health insurance etc. and set us up for the long run here (I also hate being a liability). I've been trying to get a job but it's ridiculous trying to apply for one when I can't legally work here until I get a work permit (which I need a JOB first before I can acquire one.) The only thing I've found on marrying into citizenship is sponsorship that takes 2 years to acquire. So I'm asking this: Is there a way to marry into citizenship and is there something that I'm missing with the whole work permit thing?
TL;DR: | The U.S. VA dropped my funding, I need work/citizenship, how can I get these things? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23M], my girlfriend [30F] 6 Months got invited to her exes birthday party.
POST: So my GF [30F] got invited to her exes birthday party tomorrow. They were together for 9 years and have 1 kid together. They have been separated for 2 years, but they have been extremely cool with each other in the time span they weren't together.
I'm talking about still hanging out with each other and drinking. Going gambling and him coming over to chill.
The man tried to start a fight with me the 2nd time I met him, even after I tried to be cool with him, drinking and everything. Another situation is he tried to have my GF come up to his room so he could "get some", my GF didn't go. Things have cooled off since I put her in check, and we are ok with each other for now.
It's not that I don't trust my girlfriend. I just don't trust her ex. There will obviously be drinking at the party and she said he invited both of us there. I just have no idea what to do.
Thanks.
TL;DR: | GF's ex (together for 9 years, 1 kid together) invited us to his birthday party tomorrow. Confused. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [19F] 4 months, smokes weed and I am totally against it, can this work out?
POST: Both sophomores in a large university. Ive tested the waters with women lately and she has honestly been a breath of fresh air. We get along really well, Im pretty sure we are truly in love. We hang out everyday, get along, the sex is amazing, I like to think we are meant for each other and she is the one.
One thing though, she smokes weed. Her father passes away a few months ago and she said she smoked weed to cope with him passing (and Im pretty sure she smoked before) and also her mother is also really sick. But I have smelled it on her and during her partys at her place and it instantly turns me off, hardcore too.
Another kicker is that I'm in ROTC at the university we attend. I want to make a career out of the military and one of the biggest things the military does not tolerate is NO DRUGS AT ALL, zero.
My gf and her roommate smoke (and Im pretty sure my gf smokes with her ex, who she is still friends with). Should I be worried? Because I honestly cannot tolerate smoking. What should I do?
TL;DR: | gf of 4 mo. smokes weed, I do not like it, joining the military as an officer, what do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU, by cutting the grass.
POST: Yesterday I had to cut my grass for the first time this year because it was getting pretty bad. All I have here is an electric weed eater which is why I put it off for so long. Whats worse is the extension cord I have for it is only about 20 feet which means I have to unplug it and put it in another section of the house and hang it out the window.
So I get to the last little part of the yard and my only option to plug it in is to unplug my deep freezer, no big deal, its only going to take about 10 minutes to do the lawn, my meat will be fine!
Flash forward tonight, I open the freezer to get something out for dinner tomorrow, and realize that not only did I forget to plug it back in, but **EVERYTHING** has thawed out.
Now here I sit, 2am baking 10lbs of chicken legs, making a huge pot of chicken noodle soup with 5lbs of chicken thighs and 7lbs of BBQ ribs in the crock pot.
TL;DR: | forgot to plug my deep freezer back in, and now I am cooking 20+lbs of meat at 2 in the morning. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: trust issues.
POST: So I've [F20] been with my boyfriend [M19] for about 4 months now and other than the usual couple of spats things are perfect. We're in college and occasionally I go home. While I'm away I constantly worry about what he's doing even though he hasn't given me any reason not to trust him. I always think he's lying when we says he just woke up or if he doesn't text back soon enough I assume it's because he's doing something shady.
Literally right before we started dating I was in a serious and bad relationship for 3 years that was very emotionally draining. I fear I'm putting all the past experiences on my current boyfriend and he doesn't deserve that. Any help on how to just chill and trust him? Or at least realize that he's not my ex? I'm reallllly into this guy. I love him and he's just such a breath of fresh air that I don't know how to handle him or hold on to him. I'm afraid eventually my behavior will push him away.
TL;DR: | I have a new boyfriend but I peg the old ones crap on him. But I love him and want to do better. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by helping my friend look for his remote, but instead ended up grabbing a big black dildo.
POST: So this just happened about 5 minutes ago and the first thing I could think of, after washing my hands, was to post this!
I came over to my friend from work's house to introduce him to Rick and Morty. It's a great show and I thought it'd be great to smoke a few doobs with this guy, we'll call him, Gerard, and have a good time.
So we go back to this house, go up to his room (he shares with his girlfriend in a big house, so his room is pretty much a bed with a giant TV), roll up a few joints and crack into season 1. The volume is slightly low though so we start looking for the remote.
I was lying on the bed with my back against the wall and reached behind my back, blindly down the side of the bed..
A slightly rubbery texture grazed my hand. Convinced it was a button from a remote, I reached down and grabbed it. I was sadly, sadly mistaken. For context, Gerard has already filled me in on his sex life a fair bit and I knew his girlfriend is preeettttyyy freakaaayy. So me finding this big black dildo, was just not OK.
I knew without pulling it out what it was, so instead of saying anything, or pulling it out and flopping it about screaming "DILDO!", I went to the bathroom and washed my hands. I came back in and Gerard was downstairs making tea, so here it is.
Exactly where I left it.
Butt-plug attachment and all.
TL;DR: | Tried to find a remote down the side of a bed without looking. Grabbed a big black dildo instead. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Breaking my cellphone contract?
POST: Hey Reddit!
So... whilst being incredibly poor I made the terrible mistake of switching over to Tmobile for cell service. I've heard online that if you claim to not get service where you live or where you work etc. They are legally obliged to cancel your contract with no early termination fee. This of course would be a lie, but what can you do? On top of that, the 3G Data connection I have promised to me works maybe 30% of the time. The rest of the time my apps can't receive a stable enough connection to even load (Facebook for example).
Essentially what I'm asking is if anyone has successfully broken their contract without an early lease agreement before? What my options are, etc.
TL;DR: | I want to get out of my awful T-Mobile contract and can't afford a termination fee. What do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [33F] am incredibly attracted to Asians, but they're not attracted to me. Is there anything I can/should do differently, or just go for other people?
POST: I'm a 33-year-old woman, out of a recent long-term relationship trying to get back into dating. I find that the guys who are most attracted to me, I am the least attracted to; and of course, the guys I'm most attracted to are the least attracted to me. I'm not looking for just sex, that's easy - I want an actual long-term relationship.
About me: I'm a fat white chick, I dress well and have a decent job, I'm not high maintenance, I don't have low self-esteem or any mental issues, college graduate with honors, I love my family and friends and am all around normal. I'm an outgoing introvert - so I get along with just about everyone, generally well-liked, but I still enjoy quiet time to recharge.
The people that usually hit on me are (in order): black guys, brown guys (my city has large Hispanic and Middle Eastern populations), white guys, and I never get hit on by Asian guys. Like, ever. I've tried approaching a couple of Asian guys before, given my number, I never get a call.
So I don't know if it's me specifically, or if (in general) Asian dudes just aren't attracted to fat white girls, or loud girls, or girls over 30, or all of the above. Boils down to this:
Would Asian guys (in general) get involved in a long-term relationship with a fat white girl?
TL;DR: | Fat white girl has yellow fever. Is there hope, or is it time to accept it's not going to happen? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Is he [28M] giving me [21F] subtle hints?
POST: 28M and I 21f have been together 5 months. He is preparing for war and is away a lot. In the last month he has: flirted outrageously with other women, made jokes along the lines of we're only together because I won't leave and, after coming back from sea, is going to bend over backwards to go to his friend's party, probably without me. He hasn't gone to bed with me except for sex, after which he hops out. All the while he tells me he loves me and wants to be with me long term, and that I'm the most beautiful and amazing woman he's ever met.
Is he trying to tell me he wants me to leave or does he just not realise he's being a dick?
TL;DR: | he treats me not that well but tells me he loves me. Do you think he wants to be with me or not? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by leaving my butt toys under my mattress
POST: I am a straight male. I enjoy anal play. I have a plastic bag with two (rather large) toys and two containers of lube. I put this under my mattress and today my grandpa and I were putting carpet in my room. We move the bed and I realize my mistake right as we're removing the top mattress. My grandfather is on the other side of the bed where the plastic bag was. I turn my head the other way and continue moving the mattress to avoid the shame. I see him look through the bag suspiciously. No eye contact. He quickly realizes what it is and puts the bag to the side, making no comment to the contents; he can only guess whether the toys are for me or my SO. We finish the job without a word about the bag.
TL;DR: | Grandpa and I move bed. He finds my anal toys, tosses bag to the side. No conversation about it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [23/m] My GF [21/f] most likely has Herpes
POST: I know that she did not get it by cheating, and that it is most likely HSV-1. I don't know if I am infected because I have never shown any symptoms. I have been dating her, and having sex with her, for the last 9 months. Every time she had symptoms she was under the impression that it was a yeast infection (because of a previous doctor's appointment), used monistat and the symptoms subsided within 4 days so I never thought anything of it.
During this entire ordeal she has been progressively getting more and more needy. (She makes comments about how she made a sims character that looks like me, checks her phone constantly to see if I texted her and basically wants to be attached by the hip)
I'm getting tired of it, and I don't know what to do with her having genital herpes. She is dead set that I am unhappy about it, but I'm really not sure. I love the girl, she's perfect in a lot of ways, but this neediness coupled with the STI is kind of a turn off.
What do I do here? I don't want to ditch her because she is very important to me but I feel like im kind of over my head here.
TL;DR: | GF has a high chance of having herpes, she is getting needier and I really don't know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [18 M] Girlfriend [19 F] talking to ex [18 M] more and being inappropriate
POST: I really love my girlfriend, she's smart, funny, beautiful and all around amazing. She's the first girlfriend I've ever had so I feel like I don't know a lot but she's been really patient. I lost my virginity to her and everything.
Recently she's been messaging her ex a lot, she'll talk to him even if we're hanging out (although we normally just chill and do our own things). I said it made me uncomfortable and she said alright, she'd tone it done. She said she wasn't interested in being with him because he's not going to college or anything.
Later she was texting him before we went to bed (she lives with roommates and I stay over). I got mad and demanded to see her phone. She handed it over and everything was pretty normal except they were sending a lot of memes. They had that stupid Harambe meme in there and she said, "gotta have your dick out for harambe" and he replied "you know my dick is always out for him". I know it's a meme but I feel like it's really disrespectful to even talk about dicks with your ex.
She thinks I'm overreacting and offered to block him but I feel like she doesn't understand. She said I'm being a little controlling and jealous over things that don't matter. Am I in the wrong here?
TL;DR: | Girlfriend messaging ex and made a "dicks out for harambe joke" and I think it's disrespectful. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] with my GF [22 F] of one year, GF wants to take nudes for a project. Should I support her?
POST: My GF and I got into quite an argument when she asked my how I would feel, if she got some nude photos taken for The Nu Project, a book and online gallery of natural naked women. She is an outspoken feminist and feels obligated to do more.
I answered that I don't like the thought of her naked body on the internet for everyone to see and how I'm put off by the thought of countless other men masturbating to naked pictures of her.
Apparently she didn't even want to participate, but now she's mad at me for not being supportive. It's a matter of principle for her, she says. I would never say that she's not allowed to do it or that I would stand in her way. I just said that I didn't like the idea. Am I being unreasonable and should I just support her?
TL;DR: | GF wanted to have nudes taken for a project. I don't like the idea. Should I support her anyway? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU By masturbating in the shower.
POST: So I get off work and take my usual morning dump before I shower, it's about 6:30am. I usually shower and go to bed with my GF until she goes to class. Today I was feeling particularly horny, so I decided to jerk off in the shower. So I jerk off, and when I finish I notice it's not wanting to flow with the water down the drain. So I have to kind of push it with my foot to get it to go toward the drain, and now I have some stuck to my foot, no big deal. But then I see it just sitting in the drain...shit. And so I figure there is probably hair stuck in the drain. So I then proceed to pull a giant jizz-covered hairball out of the drain, and it is absolutely fucking disgusting. Pulling a giant hairball out of the shower drain is gross enough on its own, but when the hairball is covered in jizz....that's a whole other level of gross.
TL;DR: | Jerked off in the shower, had to pull out a giant jizz-covered hairball out of the shower drain. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (20f) don't like his (20m) friends.
POST: I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 months now. We met through some mutual friends at a local bar. These friends are more like acquaintances for me as I haven't seen a lot of them for a couple of years.
After we started going out I started hanging out with his friends and quickly became best friends with a couple of girls in the group. We've all been hanging out at least 3-4 times a week.
The last week or so I've realised that I don't want to be friends with any of them anymore. All they do is cause drama, argue, bitch about everyone behind their backs and they've caused a lot of problems between my SO and I. I don't want to be friends with people like that.
The problem is that my SO is upset with me. He doesn't see us staying together if I can't be around his friends. I told him that we can just see each other less so he can see his friends without me.
What should I do?
TL;DR: | I don't like my SO's friends and he doesn't see us staying together if I won't hang out with them.. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Should I Get Back on the Horse? (And Some Post-Breakup Issues) [24m]
POST: Preface:
Recently ended what was a pretty bad relationship about a month ago. I made every effort to cut all contact with her in an effort to just get on with my life. Unfortunately, she aggressively tried to maintain contact and berated me for ignoring her. Eventually, she started sending me risque pictures of herself...and my dick took over judgement calls and I started talking to her again. This came to a point the other day where I was drunk sexy-texting her (yes, I know) and she told me she was dating some other guys. I flipped, tore her a new one, then cut all contact. Again. Haven't heard from her since.
Which leads me to my actual question. The very few bright spots there were in the relationship were able to show me that it was something I really preferred over being single (before this, I hadn't dated anyone in a couple years). There is a girl I've met that I am pretty interested in and I want to ask out. However, I don't want to run the risk of her being a rebound and end up hurting her in the process. So...considering the situation what would be best for me to do?
TL;DR: | ex screwed me up and i don't want to be alone, but i don't want to hurt anyone else in the process |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [17 M] looked through my GFs [18 F] of 3 months, i think she has something with another guy
POST: Weve had some trouble in the last week, and tbh i was a bit suspisious about that Daniel, his name, since she once mentioned it was her ex..
she asked me one month into our relationship if she could meetup with him, since appearatnly they were good friends too or something. I was hesitant, but who am i to tell her no?
Anyway because of all that i did this slightly creepy move, and looked through her text conversation with him, and what i found really hurt me.
She referred to me as buddys (not even single form yeah), and they were talking about meeting up today, on valentinesday nonetheless during the day.
She later told me that she could only meetup in the evening because she had to do something for her choirgroup... she lied directly into my face which hurt me really.
So what the heck am i to do?? I cant really confront her, i cant go on as if id never seen it..
Help please!
TL;DR: | gf referes to me to her ex as buddies, meets him at valentinesday lies to me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19 M] see potential with a girl [21 F], but she has kids. What are your thoughts on taking on someone else's kids?
POST: I normally don't need to ask for advice, and in a sense I'm not asking for advice, but I do want to see what people think. I've recently started talking to a girl and we hit it off. I'm 19, she's 21, and she has kids.
I realize that there are plenty of people out there with "step parents", and I have absolutely no issue with that. Yes, I'm young, and yes I could be having fun and enjoying my life, but I feel that this could be something amazing. There's no nice way of putting this, but I wouldn't technically be "fathering" any kids, because I could leave at any time. No responsibility towards child support or anything. BUT, I'm not that type of guy. I'm very committed once I feel it's the right person.
Basically, I'm wondering what experiences people have had with taking on someone else's children and being a "step parent". I wouldn't flat out be anything to them right away, because obviously the waters need to be tested, but it could potentially become that.
I know that I have a lot to offer, and if it really did come down to it I would treat them as my own and protect them. It's a huge decision to make, but I know that everything happens for a reason and if it doesn't work out, then it wasn't meant to last and there's always something else around the corner. Maybe not right away, but soon enough.
TL;DR: | I hit it off with a girl who has kids, but I'm not sure whether I should take the chance or not. |
SUBREDDIT: r/cats
TITLE: Is my cat trying to fuck my forearm?
POST: My male, neutered cat will often lay down on my chest while I am in bed and beg me to pet him. He then gets in this almost trance like state of constant purring and head nudging. After a while he will get up, straddle my arm, bite down on a piece of skin on my hand and then lower his body onto my forearm. He then stays in this position for up to five minutes before he walks away looking frustrated.
I used to think he was just mad that my hand wasn't petting him enough so he would punish it by biting and sitting on it. But recently I found a stray female kitten. A few weeks after taking her in she started to go into heat. And whenever she got into "I'm a little slut, put your thorny cock inside me" position, my male cat would do the same straddle, bite, squat thing that he does to my arm.
Have any of you run into this with your male cats? Is he actually trying to knock up my forearm? I must say it is a little disturbing to think that my cat has some sort of human arm fetish, but hey it is the 21st century and all.
TL;DR: | I think my cat has got it bad for my forearm. He acts like he is trying to fuck it all the time. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by trying to make a joke.
POST: So this happened around two days ago and it really ruined some reputations.
I was in my art class and we were making jokes about where we were from. So this his panic person says, "I'm from Columbia.... Missouri" it's not that funny but we're in high school and were bored. So I was born in Virginia and tried to do a play in words that way. So I was like, "I'm from the Virgin-ia islands!"
One of the people at my table misheard me and like whispers, "You're not a virgin?" And I was like, "What no I sa-" and here comes the loudmouth bitch who joined our conversation at, "You're not a virgin." And shouts for the whole class to hear, "WHAT?! YOU ARENT A VIRGIN?!"
You would think this is not that bad, right? Lots of people aren't virgins in high school. But I've only had one girlfriend for all my time here and people know that. So not its going around that Jack and his girlfriend had sex. And more rumors piled on top of that saying she's pregnant. I don't know what to do anymore. The only people that know the truth are my friends and I, so they are trying to stop the rumor when they hear it.
TL;DR: | Tried to make a joke based on where I was born, ended up hearing that I have a new baby on the way. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: boyfriend's ex wants to be my friend?
POST: My boyfriend met his ex online through a game. They dated, did the long distance thing, and broke up. End of story...right? WRONG! My boyfriend stopped playing the game for awhile but we started playing the game together a month ago. She'll occasionally message him during the game but he usually ignores it (unless he needs help in the game). She continues to send him Facebook friend requests, which he ignores...but NOW she started sending me requests. She sent me 3 requests in the game and 2 Facebook requests. I sent her a message after request #2 that politely stated I didn't think it was appropriate for us to be friends. He has told her to leave me alone because I don't want to be friends. She continues to send me requests anyway. I finally blocked her on Facebook. His family still has her on their friends list on Facebook and she comments on their wall and pictures all the time (they ignore her too). What do I do to get her to stop?
TL;DR: | my boyfriend's Facebook stalker ex wants to be my friend and won't leave me alone. What do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How come every night I will fall asleep for a few minutes, and then wake up not being able to fall back asleep for another hour or more?
POST: Every night I'll go to bed and lay there for what I'd guess is about 15-20 minutes teetering between asleep and awake. Then I'll fall asleep, but wake up like 5 minutes later. I don't know the exact time, but it has to be at least a few minutes because when it happens, I wake up with quite a bit of drool on my pillow.
After that point, I can't fall asleep again for another hour and a half or so. Sometimes I'll try to just power through it, but other times I say fuck it and get up. But I can never get that "teetering back and forth" feeling after that initial few minute sleep time. Happened to me tonight which is why I'm writing this. I went to bed at 1:30ish, fell asleep after a little bit, then woke up and laid in bed for another hour and said fuck it and got up.
This happens to me every single fucking night and I don't know why. The only nights this doesn't happen, is the nights when I wait until I'm extremely exhausted, then I fall asleep within a few minutes with no problems. But if it's a normal night where I get to bed at a normalish hour, it's a struggle.
TL;DR: | Every night I fall asleep for a few minutes, then wake up and can't get back to sleep for an hour+ |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (27F) might be moving for work next year, my SO (25F) of a year won't even consider long-distance
POST: There is a good (I'd say 60%) chance I'll be moving to another city for a job opportunity in early 2016. The job market in my field is pretty flooded where I live, and pay/benefits will probably be better if I go elsewhere. My SO has commitments locally that will keep her here for around another year after that, and I wouldn't want her to drop everything and follow me anyway. I was hoping that she would be open to at least trying to continue our relationship, but when I brought it up she made it clear that if I leave we're over at least for now. (She did say we could reassess once she's able to move, but that's a long time from now and a lot of shit can happen in two years.) Other than this issue, everything is fine. I would even have said it was "great" a few days ago, but to be honest our discussion about my potential move has made me start to reassess.
Should we just break up now? When we originally talked about this I thought I was fine, but it's been eating away at me over the past few days.
TL;DR: | I may move next year. I'm open to long-distance, my SO isn't. Should I cut my losses? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [43 M] with my acquaintance [55 F] 3 months, she smacked me on the rear end in a buffet line
POST: I was attending a club meeting. A buffet dinner is provided. While in line at the buffet, an acquaintance (previously unseen) straight-up smacked me on the ass by way of startle-inducing greeting.
It shocked me so much I couldn't think of how to call it out as not okay. We aren't friends. We're barely acquaintances. If I had done the same to any female in the room, I'd expect the police to be called. Nobody who saw it called her out (I guess that was my job, and I blew it).
In case it's relevant to anyone: Nope, I don't find her in the least bit attractive. Ugh. Just no. On principle, it shouldn't matter. She should keep her hands to herself.
I'll probably run into her at other events. Do I bring it up and say that wasn't okay? Do I pretend it didn't happen and let that be a hopefully one-time thing?
Bonus: I told my wife [51F] about it. She thinks it was f--ked up but not a big enough deal to follow up. If things were reversed, it would be a very big deal to me.
TL;DR: | Publicly smacked on the ass by an acquaintance, did not call it out at the time. What do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: Knee pain from not running enough?
POST: I did my first marathon a week ago. I've been running and biking for years, so I'm used to certain types of pains like tight IT bands, but this around the marathon I've been getting new pains.
The pain is on the lower inside part of my knees, mostly on the right but a little on the left too. I can sometimes see a tiny bit of swelling. Cold doesn't help, but heat does. It hurts when I stretch the inside of my legs too.
The reason I'm asking here is that I started to feel the pain more during the taper. It started just over a week after my 30k run. It subsided after I did 18k between the 30k and the marathon. It started to come up again before the marathon, but was gone for the race and most of the week after. It's a week over now, and my knee has been feeling crappy since Thursday. It felt no better or worse after my 8k yesterday.
One last thing. I've only ever had pain on the outside of my knee because of the tight IT bands and I'm a bit of a supinator. Every answer I've seen for this kind of pain was for a pronator who was over training, and they get the pain during or after the run. I've never seen someone asking about pain coming up during the taper. Does anyone have any idea what this might be, or do I just need to keep the volume up and back off more slowly until I reach my off season milage?
TL;DR: | If I don't run enough, my knee starts to hurt, and in the wrong place for how I usually run. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [20 M] Looking for graduation gift for gf [19], would appreciate advice
POST: Right, my gf of 2 years is graduating in early June and I want to give her something nice. For my birthday she (and her family) got me a nice watch (~$300). I really appreciate it and wear it everyday so I'd like to give her something similiar.
Now im looking for something similiar, something that can last a lifetime and that you actually use. She likes sort of preppy brands like Ralph Lauren, Gant and such but she is not a real fashionista. Just a really smart, down to earth girl that I love a lot. My upper limit is around $200-250 Would really appreciate any tips! If i'm posting in the wrong sub please Let me know so i can correct it.
TL;DR: | Need gift for gf, want something that she will use and lasts a long time. Budget $200-250. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Is this a normal salary for someone with an Associate's degree, or am I being underpaid?
POST: I worked as an intern for the company that I'm currently employed at. Technically, my job title is "IT Support Specialist"; however, I do much more than that. I re-designed their whole website for them and am currently re-coding a portion of the backbone code that they use for their websites.
They began paying my ~$11.00/hour for my internship hours, which was great. I could afford to quit my dead-end job to focus on my internship. Near the end of my internship, they gave me an employee evaluation and extended a full-time salaried job offer my way. I foolishly assumed a handsome raise to come with the salaried position. Wrong. They are going to pay me an average of $12.00/hour. Is this a fair wage for the work that I'm doing for them? I can give more specific examples if needed.
Also, just to be clear, I only expected somewhere around $14-$15/hour after being hired on full-time. It's not like I was expecting to make $50,000/year coming straight out of a 2-year college.
TL;DR: | Hired on $11/hour for internship. Got offered full-time salaried position. $12/hour. |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: I could really use some r/running encouragement for I.T. Band woes :-\
POST: I just started running in January 2012 and after about 3-4 weeks I started having pain on the lateral side of my left knee. It got worse and started affecting my other activities (I'm in a tap dance co.), so I went to the doc who diagnosed it as I.T. Band Syndrome. I know it's a common running issue so I was hopeful for my recovery, but I've been doing a combo of rest, physical therapy exercises to strengthen my glutes, stretches, foam rolling, taking anti-inflammatories, icing and using a tens unit for 5 weeks now w/o much, if any, improvement. The pain flares up at the drop of a hat, even just sitting at a desk at work, and I'm worried I'll never be able to get back to running. Can anyone offer words of encouragement? Is it normal for this issue to respond so slowly?
TL;DR: | I've been treating I.T. Band in my knee for 5 weeks w/o any improvement, is this normal? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by pulling our dying out of the house
POST: My family alwas had dogs as my fathers goes hunting a lot. Therefore we always had well trained dogs but they were not allowed to go into the house. They had a kennel in the garden and my mother always freaked out when one of the dogs set a foot in our house. Only one dog lived with us in the house, a small Dachshund that was not trained to go hunting with my father.
Today i saw one of the hunting dogs in the carpet in our living room which suprised me a lot as the dogs knew pretty well that the house was taboo for them. I told him to get out of the house but he didnt move. I tried to pull him out of the house but he struggeld so I pulled at his collar and managed to get him back in his kennel.
Well, later that day I went into the garden to look for the dogs and found the tresspes-dog dead in his kennel.
So he tried to be near his pack when he died and because of me he died alone - i feel so bad :(
TL;DR: | Dog wantet to die near his family, threw him out of the house so he died alone - feel bad now! |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Do you give money to homeless people?
POST: Me and my sister had a discussion about a guy holding a sign on the side of a road today. She called me heartless for not helping the guy with $1. He held up a sign that said he had cancer and was a war vet. Am I the only one that doesnt believe strange men holding cardboard signs? I know there are a lot of people in need out there but if I gave $1 to every guy with a sign I saw I would be out there with them. What's your opinion? Give them money or save it for another cause?
TL;DR: | One of many homeless guys on side of road. Being heartless I refused to give him $1. Am I wrong? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: A basic jealousy question. Me [23m] and my gf [22F].
POST: My girlfriend and I have been together about a year. She has a co-worker who she's somewhat friendly with. I met him a few times, and he seems like a nice enough guy. I know my girlfriend isn't attracted to him. The thing is, he's the type who knows girls aren't into him and I think he wants them to pity him, and my girlfriend isn't discerning about her friends' motives as long as they're nice to her. I know it sounds harsh, but she often has friends who are pathetically pining for her. This guy also shamelessly flirts with my girl every time he's around her, even when I'm there. He's friendly enough to me, but makes it obvious that I'm cramping his style every time I interrupt his time with my girlfriend. To me that's pretty irritating. But my girlfriend makes me aware that I shouldn't care who she hangs out with, which I guess is true.
So this guy's invited everyone he works with to a party at his house tonight, and I get the feeling my girlfriend will be pissed at me if I don't want to come. I feel like sitting around while a guy shamelessly hits on my girlfriend doesn't sound like fun. So how do I balanced between not stepping on my girlfriend's independence and not having to deal with this friend of hers?
TL;DR: | Girlfriend has a co-worker who's into her, he hits on her even around me, that's annoying. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: lap-band?
POST: I've been having a really tough time due to stress & giving my son up for adoption and have turned to food to comfort me. I have gained about 60+ lbs and just don't know what to do. I have tried strict dieting, 10 minute trainers at least twice a day & i never lose any weight. I just get even more depressed. Is this something that you guys recommend? I was never this big, I have always been an athlete. But with depression and having PCOS, I find it really hard to lose weight & keep it off. I am not being lazy, I am active and am always outside with the dog or working on my car. I just don't know what else to do. Any input is really helpful!
TL;DR: | Has anyone on reddit had the lap-band system, & what are the pros and/or cons of the operation? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I'm feeling DeviantArt isn't for me...
POST: There was a time when the internet was young and I was a fledgling artist, I had a site, and then DA came along. DA felt like a nice little artist community and for a time it was.
It has since been blanded out and stagnated the same way other "social media" sites have, to the point you feel unimportant, and no one appreciates you, as an artist or otherwise (unless sex or nudity is involved), it's flooded with 12-14 year olds with pictures of Sonic characters.
But even though I feel lost in the mix of millions of images by other really talented people, I ALSO feel unable to REALLY connect with them, maybe even collaborate, and it feels like a lost cause of late.
So what I wonder is are there any other venues. Places where people who are serious artists, or really talented and looking for actual peers can get connected?
Or has the internet been reduced to algorithmic advertising constructs, and pimply, bored teens looking for Rule 34 pics, and if you don't pay, or sell out you just get shuffled in the mix.
Why does the internet make me feel like less of a human being, and just info to be compiled. Or am I doing it wrong?
TL;DR: | I'm tired of DevArt, I want to share my art, but I wonder if there's anyplace else I can. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27F] with my boyfriend [29M] for 8 months, finding myself tempted to cheat with ex [29M]
POST: I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months and whilst I don't get to see him as often as I'd like, everything is generally good between us.
Lately though, sex hasn't been great. I can tell his mind isn't on it when we do have sex and more often when I try to initiate things he can't stay hard and just wants to cuddle. I never saw myself as someone with an especially high libido, but these days with my bf it feels like I'm some sort of horny sex pest.
Which brings us to now, I dated another guy for a couple of months last year before I met my bf, we had amazing sex but he didn't want commitment so we went our separate ways. We still text every now and then, platonically, because we both admitted that we thought each other was good company, but lately the texts have become more heated and I know he wants to sleep with me again.
I absolutely don't want to cheat on my boyfriend and I don't want to break up with him, but I'm so tempted and it's tearing me apart. What do I do?
TL;DR: | tempted to cheat with ex, but don't want to do anything to hurt my bf. Very conflicted right now. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU By Coughing
POST: **Backstory:** Over the last week or so, I've had a cold. Nothing too bad, just stay at home and rest stuff.
So, I was using my phone for something or another, and I as I went to plug it in for charging, I started to cough, probably due to my illness. I'd hardly just plugged in my phone, when I uncontrollably coughed up some phlegm, and I flew out of my mouth straight on to my (not all that new really) smartphone.
I immediately started to see the funny side, and walked into the bathroom to clean it with toilet paper (or something as we are out of tissues). While cleaning it off, the phlegm smudged on my phone and looked horrific. I stopped seeing it as funny and almost threw up onto my phone. It was just sitting there. Phlegm. On my phone. OMFG.
This wasn't as bad as many other posts I've seen on this sub-reddit, but God I felt stupid.
TL;DR: | If you need to cough, and you've been sick recently, don't do it with your phone in your hand. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What's your worst experience with bullying? Whether you were the one being bullied, bullying others, or just a witness, I wanna hear it.
POST: My family didn't have a lot of money when I was growing up, not that we were dirt poor but my mother, who was raising 4 children on her own, had to work everyday, generally from right after we went to school until we were in bed asleep, so we were responsible for chores and keeping the house in an orderly manner. We were all responsible or our own things, which included laundry, needless to say I neglected to do mine more often than not and when I did do them I would usually forget then in the washer and that would leave them with a mildew smell, well in about 6th grade I went to school like any other dy and my clothes weren't the freshest smelling, before class when everyone was in the hall, a few of the "cool kids" came up to me and proceeded to spray febreeze all over me. Not just on my clothes but all over my face and in my mouth, they didn't relent until their cans were almost enpty and my eyes were burning so badly tears were streaming down my face. Since this was before class, the majority of the school witnessed the event (I went to a very small school) and if they hadn't seen it, they heard about it within the hour. That is something I didn't live down for years, which seemed like an eternity.
TL;DR: | Sprayed in face with febreeze in front of (almost) my entire school, took a long time to live down |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: I just stopped two teenagers from fighting and it made me feel old. I'm only 24.
POST: I was walking with my daughter and two teenagers were about to start fighting. One white kid with a yellow shirt (Kid is extremely ill mannered since his family lived in our complex and were constantly being warned by the complex people. His father is a dirt bag.) and a spanish kid with a green shirt. Green shirt had several of his friends egging the fight on. I didn't want my daughter (2 years old) to see them fighting so I yelled out "HEY....NO." They both glanced at me and looked back at each other. Green shirt had his arms up, however both kids seemed like they didn't want to fight. I walked a bit more and then yelled "If you're going to fight, go do it somewhere else." Yellow shirt yells to me "Make us! This is our problem!" Which I thought was pretty funny, but I continued to walk away since my daughter is more important then two little brats. The other kids immediately yell at Yellow Shirt, "Hey respect your elders! You're stupid." I got upstairs and watched to see if they would start fighting and they didn't. Yellow Shirt tried shaking one of the other kids hands and he shooed his hand away. They all then left on their bikes. I kinda wanted to see the kid get his discipline, but I guess I prevented it.
TL;DR: | Two kids about to fight, until I yell at them to stop. Made me feel old. I know I'm not. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Met someone a few months ago...get a couple days ago...
POST: Ages: 23-24
I met someone at a party a few months ago but she had a boyfriend at the time. We shared the same ideals and agreed on alot of things, had an awesome time with her. She sends me a text a few days ago (Monday) saying that she broke up with her BF a few weeks ago and is really sad.
I'm not really sure what to do, I do like her, she's quite attractive. I don't know if she is just looking for a friend or something else.
I've only met her that one time at the party and maybe spoken to her a couple times in between.
TL;DR: | met a girl few months ago, she txted me she broke up with her bf and is sad; what should I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: There is this girl [17] and I [17] told her that I like her, after I was really sure that she does, too...
POST: Having heard lots of naughty comments for me from her best friends, them telling me to "kiss the girl -I like- so that she shuts up" and many more, like, everytime I'm out with her and her friends, she turns her back to them so that she speaks to me. Anyway, after a party we had at a friends house, I told her I really like her, that she is an amazing girl and asked her if she wants to be my girlfriend. The next day, she told me that we need to forget everything from last night and meet up, so we discuss alone. I obviously, wanted a meeting, but as students going to different schools, we barely have free time. That day we talked for about 2 hours (via facebook), about the fun parts of last night's party. The next day, she logged in to facebook only for 40 minutes (usually she spends about 1-1.30 hours) and didn't talk to me. Today, the second day from then, I asked her if she could meet me at wendesday afternoon. Said to me a cold "no".. Then I told her, to tell me when she will be free and replied with "kk"... Haven't talked since then.
>I think I love her, /r/dating_advice .. She, showing me that she likes me, and I loving her, I was happy. Now I feel bad.
What should I do?
TL;DR: | I told a girl, who I thought like me, that I really like her and now she doesn't talk to me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Have you ever met their "enhanced" love of your life?
POST: I was thinking of a peculiar yet wonderful situation, let me explain:
Imagine you are dating / living with / in a marriage with the "One and only love of your life / soulmate" - The type of love people write songs about, and the type of love that is difficult / near impossible to replace. Romeo and Juliet type of love.
Now lets say this relationship goes sour, and you break up....
Sure you will most likely find another partner, but what I am asking is:
Has anyone found anyone so similar to the first love, in terms of looks , personality, vibe, fun, sense of humor etc, and definitely a combination of these virtues. AND (BIG AND Here), even better!
This hasn't happened to me, but if it did I swear I think I would explode from joy.
SO:
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TL;DR: | Ever had a "love of your life" broke up - found an enhanced clone - laughing at the moon with joy! |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: My Workload in the office doubled after co-worker quit - What is best way to ask for raise?
POST: Hello Reddit, here is my story: 2 person IT dept; me and Other Guy. Other Guy gets fed up with new boss's uselessness and stops doing any work. This goes on for a month, on the verge of getting fired Other Guy quits. Boss tells me I'm doing a great job, better than Other Guy every did (he was somewhat useless from the beginning) and informs me I will also be doing Other Guys job from now on. Tons of work, busy doing own job I was hired for, fixing Other Guys mistakes AND doing Other Guys job.
Kicker: Other Guy showed me his paycheck before he left, he made triple I do. Was with company for 5 years. I have been here 1 year.
QUESTION: What is the best way to ask Boss for raise?
TL;DR: | coworker making 3x I do quit, I'm stuck doing own job and coworkers job. How to ask for raise? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Has anyone's teachers done something awesome?
POST: I'll start.
In middle school, I had one awesome teacher. I'll call her Mrs.V. Mrs.V is in her 60's, and has lived in Korea and China. She had to deal with a lot of rude students over the year, so I was nice to her and sometimes smacked a kid.
One day Mrs.V, knowing I liked anime at the time, asked me to teach the class one day, because finals were over and no one cared much. I was to teach, "Anime and How it Reflects Japanese Culture." I was excited, and got to miss most of my classes that day to teach.
During the 2nd class the kids were acting up and talking, so she told me o give a pop quiz. Only one kid got a 100.
TL;DR: | BAMF 60 year old teacher let's me teach class, I give pop quiz, 1/30 got a 100. >:] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: It's been a year and I [18M] am still in love with a girl. I could use some advices.
POST: It's been a year now that I abruptly ended a relationship with my friend [18F], who I have been talking to for three years. I felt really close to her, she did too, but didn't see me as her boyfriend. I wanted to be that person to her, she knew it, but we both kept things still.
I tried clearing things up a few times, stopped talking to her for a few weeks but eventually came back to her. She did the same, we needed each other.
Last year, I figured this relationship was too "toxic". It distracted me, gave me false hopes, and didn't lead to anything. It was the right decision, for me, to stop talking to her. She always felt like she didn't care about anything. If I stopped talking to her, then fine, she would move on.
However, we went to the same school during last year (until a couple of months ago). I kept seeing her around, and it kinda made me suffer. I couldn't be part of her life anymore.
The reason I'm asking for your help, is because I always resisted the need of coming back to her until now. I feel like I need someone close to me. I have nobody.
I'm sure she's very upset with me but the look in her eyes makes me think I still have a chance. Maybe that's just me over thinking. Maybe I'm trying to convince myself. The truth is, I never had someone so close to me my whole life and I'd like to get her back.
TL;DR: | Went away from a very important girl a year ago, I'd love to talk to her again. Not sure how. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (24/M) Just had a short term relationship end over the weekend because she (22/F) doesn't want a relationship now. Any advice?
POST: I (24/m) had a short term relationship end over the weekend because she (22/f) doesn't want anything serious now. We only dated for about 3 weeks but our dates were always fun and we had great chemistry. Everything felt very natural and effortless and was hoping it could turn into something more serious. She's about to graduate so I understand her position but I'm still having a hard time.
Has anyone else gone through something similar? Am I crazy if I want to hold out hope that it could work out in the future or should I cut ties and move on?
TL;DR: | Dated girl for 3 weeks but it didn't work out because of timing. Do I hold out hope or move on? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26M] with my wife [25F] of 7 years, broke up because of my cheating and afterwards she attempted suicide
POST: We had great time and years. I love her from the bottom of my heart, but I still ended up cheating her several times.
We had our problems. I was not happy with the sex and my wife wanted to be with me all the time and didn't like if I spent time with my friends. I ended up not giving her the attention she deserves. I'm totally to blame for the cheating. After the last time I decided that I had to break up with her because I couldn't control myself. I told her everything.
We broke up even though she wanted to try and she got very depressed. Her whole life was destroyed from her perspective and it was a really nasty break up. She took the dog and her work is very stressing. 6 weeks passed. We met a couple of times. After a while of not hearing from her I asked if she was ok and she told me that she was in psych ward. I went to see her and learned that she had tried to kill herself several times before seeking for help.
I'm totally devastated. It feels like I almost lost the most important person in my life and I want to be good for her and make her feel good again. I feel like I want to be with her and protect her.
I love her and I don't want to cheat anymore. I don't want to lose her. What do you think I should do?
TL;DR: | Cheated wife, broke up. Wife tried to kill hersef and now I have huge regrets. What should I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: M[21] trying to start something new without hurting recent ex F[21]
POST: I broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years about a month ago. We're both at the same university and in about a week, she's moving away. I'm moving a week after that. We had been drifting apart, and I initiated the breakup. In the end, she needed the relationship more than I did and has been having a pretty tough time. We've been in touch at her request, but our interactions end up being emotional for her.
I'm only here for another two weeks, but I recently ran into this girl I've had a small crush on for the last few years. We've been texting back and forth and she's been flirty. I'm interested in pursuing a short fling before we leave, leaving open the possibility of something more serious down the line.
During the breakup, my ex asked me to give her a heads up if I was going to get involved with anyone anytime soon. I agreed. (Why did I do this?!?!) Should I tell her about this? If so, how do I tell her in a way that isn't rubbing it in that I'm over her and is instead giving her a heads up before she finds out from other people?
TL;DR: | My ex-gf is still hurting while I'm ready for something new. How do I cause the least pain? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I want to pursue a relationship with my soon to be ex-GF's good friend but I don't know how to do it with "consideration" for ex-gf's feelings.
POST: [16M 16F & 16F]
[I posted here a little while ago about issues I was having with my GF]
Long story short I'm really tired of dating someone who just wants to nag me all the time. I already live with a 50 year old woman, I don't need to hang out with one.
Anyways, I'm sort of into one of her friends and I'm thinking about asking her to homecoming. I plan on breaking up with my GF on tuesday but I want to ask out her friend soon before another guy does. Any idea on how I can approach this situation without looking like a dick?
TL;DR: | Want to ask soon to be ex-gf's friend to homecoming. I don't want there to be any drama. Help? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by dropping my laptop
POST: This is my first Reddit post and it happened months ago...
I normally like to have my laptop on my bed while play games (serves multiple purposes like charging my controller). I was playing destiny and for the lack of matchmaking for raids I had use a site for hooking up with other players. I got into a group and it was getting serious (since I was performing badly) and completely forgot about my laptop. Little did I know, I pushed it off the bed and it landed on the charging cord (or the male) jack. Good thing it was it was still working. So after the raid (my performance did go up) I decided to watch Netflix which drained my battery and made my laptop die. I tried charging it but there was damage on the plastic. Apparently it severed the connection between the male and female jack.
TL;DR: | Don't "accidentally" drop or push devices off your bed (it may get back at you may not like it) |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Abandoned Things In My Apartment
POST: I recently moved into an apartment in Madison, Wisconsin. I was supposed to be roomates with a Russian man (who here so after shall be referred to as "the Russian"), but he ended up moving out right as I moved in, using his security deposit to pay his half of the last 2 months on the lease. It's pretty impeccable timing, since I now have an entire apartment to myself for half the price. He's bounced out to Florida pretty quick and left a lot of his stuff around the apartment. The Russian claimed he would send a friend by with a van to pick up the "last of it all", but nobody ever came. The issue is, there are still quite a few things left behind including: a bike, different liquids for mixed drinks, a cash register, plates, 2 blenders, a food processor, 2 queen sized box-springs and frames, a futon, a TV stand, a broken flatscreen, and a pipe that (by my keen smell detection skill) was used for weed. Usually I wouldn't try to claim any of this as my, but the Russian was EXTREMELY nonchalant about leaving, and implied that his parents payed for all this shit anyways. I guess my question is; when the lease is up, what do I do with all of this stuff? Who does this belong to when the lease is up and when is it considered abandoned?
TL;DR: | Russian left all his shit in my apartment when he moved. When do I sell it, and how (legally)? |
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