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SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 M] with my FWB [24 F] of a few months. How do I prepare for it to end?
POST: Reconnected with a friend from many years ago. We were never close, just knew each other. More of an acquaintance really. Anyways we both found each other attractive. Both are in odd places in life and both agreed that relationships are not what we want out of life right now and started hooking up. We agreed that we arent exclusive. We also agreed that if anyone develops feelings we would let the other know and end the arrangement.
When we hang out we dont pay for each other, but overall it evens out. Shes been buying me gifts here and there. Some clothes, shows up with food and snacks, and a videogame (which she got as part of a deal when buying for her brother). I havent really got her anything, except tickets to some show that I got for free and gave to her. I cant tell if shes starting to catch feelings. When we have sex its very passionate. We have great chemistry and afterwards sometimes I find her looking at me with "those eyes", but that could just be the post sex euphoria.
I know that in due time this will have to stop. Ive never been in a situation like this before. Ive had partners that was strictly sex, but not someone where I also had a friendship. I believe I will be ok when it ends, but its very important to me that she is as well. How do I know when the end is coming and how do I prepare for it?
TL;DR: | FWB situation. Shes cool and really nice. How do I prepare for when it ends so she is ok? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Any Date Ideas in Phoenix, AZ?
POST: As soon as I can work out travel arrangements, a lady who I care very much for will be visiting me here in Phoenix (I live near Scottsdale) where I moved not to long ago. As such, I don't know much about the area and was hoping to find some ideas here where I can take her to dinner/go out to see a show/do a day-time (or full day) activity/hangover recovery stuff/etc...
I am intentionally not including any specifics about our interests because I hope to get a wide variety of responses in order to find some unique activities that we would not have thought about or have the opportunity to do back home (we are from California). We are both in our 20s, are open-minded about trying new things, and have no lifestyle constraints that would be notable here.
Any suggestions would be really great and I hope to provide feedback if you have any questions, I really want to show her a good time here so that she is excited about coming back.
TL;DR: | Where can I show my girl a good time in Scottsdale/Tempe so she will be more likely to revisit? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by having a dollar in my pocket when a drug dog game through.
POST: I'm in the Navy working out of an aircraft hangar and today we had the MAs (military police) come through our command with a drug dog. Standard stuff, well the dog comes up to my desk and he's starting to sniff pretty good, he starts smelling my pocket when all hell breaks loose in this dog's world. He's barking, freaking out, practically shits himself. The MA freaks out also and grabs me and tells me to empty my pockets. So I pull out the 3 bucks I had.
He calls superiors and cuffs me. Seriously. So I'm waiting around for about 2 hours to finally have his Chief explain that most money has traces of cocaine and that it isn't an offense at all and to let me go.
To clarify, I don't do coke, but I was freaking out the whole time regardless. All that was going through my head was that I'm fucked because this is technically "evidence." I had no idea that dogs could even detect that the dollar could have been used for coke who knows how long ago.
TL;DR: | Drug dog freaked out because I had a "coke dollar" in my pocket. I was detained but released. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [21/m] My not sure whether to break up with GF[19/f] or not
POST: I have been in and out of the dating world, but I have never been single for more than 2/3 weeks. Recently my GF broke up with me after a near perfect (seeming) relationship[4 months worth]. Then, after deciding to be single and finally becoming ok with it, I hear that she wants to meet me to let me know why she broke it off. She has no reason why we should be apart and we get back together.
Here I am a week or so later and feel weird. I had closed off my heart to her and I have never gotten back with a previous girlfriend before so this is hard. I don't feel quite the same as I did previously and don't want to continue if I keep being so uncertain. Also, I am about to be a SR in college with no plans for staying here and she will be a JR. Reddit, what should I do?
TL;DR: | = Got back with GF after dumped, feel weird, leaving in 8 monthish, not sure if I should continue. |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: 100$ to spend on shoes. Need advice.
POST: Just turned 40 this past summer. I weight about 210lbs. I ran my first 5k in October and was happy with how I did but would love to place in the top 3 for my age bracket. I've been using C25k free with Nike + apps while listening to pandora. Makes my jogs much more exciting if you will.
But anyhow with Christmas right around the corner I need to let a few people know what I want as we spend around 100$US on each other. I live in Minnesota and the past month have had to jog on snow and ice quite often. I have some cheap running shoes and would like to upgrade. Any suggestions what to get to train with now and eventually in the spring what would be a good shoe to run more 5k's in for about the same price. Thanks
TL;DR: | Need to know a good shoe for $100US to train with in Minnesota weather. (snow/ice quite often) |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: How do I keep myself running?
POST: I had gone through some depression issues previously and my doctor took me off my medication, and instead advised me to get some exercise every day. So I began running. It was a pain in the ass, but I forced myself to do it for a few weeks, and eventually I was able to run a mile without stopping in about 15 minutes (I haven't done real physical activity since 9th grade gym, three years earlier, so it was an accomplishment for me). Then I stopped doing it around easter. Recently I kinda slipped with some emotional issues, and I know running and exercising will help again.
TL;DR: | I'm a lazy sack of ass. How can I keep forcing myself to run until it I don't fear it anymore? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by leaving my cheez-it box open.
POST: So I work the night shift at my job so I get home around 630AM, do stuff untill noon, then sleep the rest of the day. Well, many days I'll spend some time on the computer, and like to snack occasionally. Yesterday, I left my cheez-it box open before going to bed. Today, I get home and hop on the computer, and the sun hasn't come up when I sit down, and I occasionally grab a cheez-it or two from the box. About a half hour into my computer session I get an itch on my arm, then my back, and realize soon after, I AM SWATTING AT ANTS. Since it's dark out, I turn on my light to see that I had been grabbing from a cheezit box full of ants crawling all over them, and some had also gotten on me. Nearly thew up realizing I probably ate some of them with the cheezits. Threw out the cheezits and bombed the f*** out of my room with pledge. Hopefully they're gone.
TL;DR: | Ants got in my Cheezits. I grab for cheezits in the dark. Ants on me and probably in my stomach. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] and a [20 F], and think I have been catfished for the past year and a half, please help.
POST: I don't remember how her and I got into contact, one day she just happened to message me on Kik, and we started talking and it took off from there.
Everything felt so real, so much chemistry, we moved on to FaceTiming and phone calls, we got very close, everything was amazing. But whenever we would plan to see each other, something big would happen on her end, either she would get sick, someone she cared about would, some kind of excuse would come up.
I cannot find any information about her anywhere online, but from things she's told me i've pieced together how improbable she is who she says she is. I fell hard for her and I feel like an absolute fool now. I don't know how to confront her or what to confront her with. She has been treating me quite badly the past few months and I had been very unhappy with her, but I love her and I don't feel like I can leave her.
Can someone please shed some light, or give me some insight on how to deal with a situation like this rationally? And how to not beat myself up for falling for something like this. I just don't understand why she would lie if she got nothing out of it.
I'm not sure what else to add, I just don't know where else to ask because I feel like most of my friends would just brush it off.
TL;DR: | I think I got cat fished by a girl I've loved for a year and a half and I'm not sure what to do! |
SUBREDDIT: r/travel
TITLE: Ok travel, I almost booked a flight yesterday for 76 dollars from New York City to Frankfurt!
POST: Yesterday I was out and about for most of the day so I didn't really have anytime to check my facebook or twitter or anything like that. Well turns out a few hours after I left a fellow vagabonder friend of mine posted "NYC to Germany for 76 dollars on momondo.com one way on april 7th" I checked the exact criteria and sure enough he was right! I jumped through all the hoops and when I submitted it was already sold out. I realize flights like these are probably only good for a few hours, but /r/travel needs to start posting deals like this!
These kinds of opportunities happen all the time but most fly under our noses. It's time to collectively spot great airfare. Yes, I know about cheapoair.com and all of those sites.. I'm just bummed that I missed out :(
TL;DR: | IF YOU SEE A GREAT FLIGHT, BOOK YOURSELF A TICKET, AND THEN COME SHARE ON HERE! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I caught my mom [45+] cheating on my dad [45+]. I'm still a teenager. What should I do?
POST: I came home earlier than usual one day after school and found my mom home (usually at work at these times). She was clearly cybering with someone over the phone but I managed to sneak upstairs without her knowing. I pretty much sat in my room and ease dropped on their conversation and it became evident that my mom was not talking with my dad. At some point I barged into her room to end her conversation with the other man because I became so fed up (not sure if this was the right move).
I told her that she had to confess my dad (who has been working overseas for almost a year now) and my sister. I also told her that I was disappointed and that this wasn't fair to me (again, not sure if I should've said that). She said that she would, but she didn't seem remorseful about it.
I'm 16 years old and my sister is in college. I'm the only one currently living with my mom, so things have just gotten super awkward between us.
I've been suspicious about my mom cheating ever since my dad left to work overseas, but now it's finally obvious that she is. My dad's the breadwinner for the family, and I'm afraid my mom might take off with the money. I'm still just overwhelmed by this. Should I tell my dad or let my mom do it?
TL;DR: | My mom's cheating on my dad. I'm only 16, so I don't know what to do about this. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I want to hear your "this is so crazy I couldn't make this up" story. Here's one of mine.
POST: When I was a freshman in college, there was a blonde boy named Josh I had a huge crush on but was too shy to talk to. One fall afternoon as I walked back to the dorms a baby chipmunk waddled up to me and, when I put my hand on the ground, into my palm. I carried it around campus all day playing with it, named it Monk, (original, I know) and I was planning on keeping it as a pet. Eventually I saw Josh and walked up to him to show him Monk and let him play with him. As Monk scrambled around on Josh's shoulder, we started flirting and I asked him if he wanted my number. At the exact moment, Monk slipped off of his cotton tshirt. I stuck my hand out and caught him in my palm but Josh, as a knee-jerk reaction, brought his hand down sharply and basically karate-chopped Monk in the neck. I started to cry as this baby chipmunk's body distorted in my palm and his breathing became ragged. This whole time, Josh is standing there saying, "Oh god oh god I killed your chipmunk I'm so sorry oh god." He just stood there dumfounded until I couldn't stand it and I had to ask him to kill it for me. I passed Monk gently to Josh and walked away wailing as he put the chipmunk on the ground and stomped on it. I never talked to him again.
TL;DR: | the boy I had a crush on karate chopped my baby chipmunk and had to stomp on it to kill it quickly |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (18m) get overprotective and jealous easily with my girlfriend (18f) of 4 months
POST: My girlfriend and I have been dating for 4 months now, and she's perfect. She's smart and pretty, sarcastic, and knows when to take me down a peg. She's the perfect person for me and I say that wholeheartedly.
I recently realized that I get jealous and overprotective easily (I try to keep it locked down and it's been working so far). I even told her of my tendencies to do so and she told me that we should try to work through them. I looked at other posts here and I think it's because I'm really insecure about myself: physical appearance isn't great and I can be obnoxious sometimes.
I guess my question is how to be less jealous and overprotective, or be less insecure about myself. I'm considering going to the on-campus therapist just to get his/her opinion on the issue.
TL;DR: | How do I be less overprotective/jealous with my girlfriend, and is it a result of my insecurities? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: GF (16) thinks she's replaceable
POST: So I've (M,16) have been dating my gf (16) for about two years however we've broken up several times in that period, as teenagers often do, over stupid reasons. Anyways, our most recent relationship has been going on for just over 4 months.
Today we had a talk after some events occurred and she basically explained to me that she thinks that she's "replaceable". She thinks that I could go out and find another girl like her, or better than her, even though I love her with every part of my being.
I love her personality, her looks, her open mindedness, her friends, our sex life is fantastic. Honestly I couldn't see myself happier with anyone else. Yet every time I tell her this she says that "I'm lieing" and that she's no better worse in fact, than the next girl. I put a lot of effort in to this relationship but I don't really know how to fix this... It's been a common theme throughout even though I've been trying to tell her she's perfect. What can I do? What can I tell her?
TL;DR: | gf of several years doesn't believe me when I tell her she's irreplaceable. How do I convince her? |
SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: Continuing my education in a not-so-average field. Should I follow my dream or trash it?
POST: I am graduating this Spring as a literature major with a minor in Holocaust and Genocide Studies. My true calling concerns my minor more so than anything else. I want to continue my education with the Holocaust and Genocide program at my college but I am a little hesitant. I was already accepted into the program but lately, I've got to thinking: what can I really do with this? I am interested in educating others about the Holocaust, whether through a teaching position (have no experience) or as a tour guide as a museum. I wouldn't mind working for archives, either.
TL;DR: | A soon-to-be Holocaust and Genocide graduate student. What can I do with this, if anything at all? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by asking for an old friend's number
POST: Back in high school, my immature self had a crush on a girl mainly for her large breasts. We were good friends and enjoyed each others company, but lost contact when we went to different colleges.
Fast forward four years to last night, I bumped into her at a local bar in the town we grew up. We had a few drinks and nearing the end of the night she says "We should hang out again tomorrow". I agreed and handed her my phone to put her number in. When she started to punch her numbers into my phone, her facial expression changed. That is when I remembered that I already had her number from high school saved under 'Showme Yotitties'. I'm probably not going to call her today.
TL;DR: | Had a old friend to punch in her number in my phone, already had it saved under 'Showme Yotitties' |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Ex-bf ordered things online in her name(my gf),is now in huge dept (10-11'000 $)
POST: Hi
keep in mind, we both Live in Norway, so the laws may vary a bit, anyways my Gf, had a Bf who ordered huge amounts of things off the internet in her name, now she's in dept, and has to pay everything.
the thing is, this happend a while ago. she cannot prove that he ordered it, because he was smart enough to erase every evidence that linked back to him, and the dept collection service doesn't provide what things he ordered.
so the thing is... she needs evidence, is there a smart/cunning method to make this bastard pay up? all im guessing is getting a audio recorder and casually make him spill it out, but im just wondering if there anyone out here who have had the same problem as her?
TL;DR: | My gf's ex ordered a shit ton of stuff off the net in her name, now she is crippled in dept. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Every time I get blacked out I am super happy and nice.. to everyone except my girlfriend (20M/20F)
POST: This has been an ongoing problem and I don't know why it happens, but every time I get very drunk I get irrationally angry at my girlfriend, and noone else. We're both greek and like to party together and have been together for a year and a half, but this is putting a strain on our relationship. I am definitely cutting down on my drinking, but I genuinely just don't understand why I get so upset at her and only her every time it happens. Yesterday I punched a hole in the wall and pushed her onto her bed before leaving (or so I am told), and I am both disgusted with myself and confused because I am generally a pretty easy going person. Help please/
TL;DR: | Every time I get blacked out I am super happy and nice.. to everyone except my girlfriend (20M/20F) |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I [29/f] am having doubts about my relationship with my boyfriend [32/m] of one year. Need Advice on how to make this relationship work.
POST: I have never been in a serious relationship before, so when I finally met someone that I thought I would be compatible with, I immediately jumped at the opportunity. Fast forward to almost a year later, and I am having serious doubts about this relationship. There has been nothing wrong with the relationship--we have lots of fun together, great communication, great sex, etc. It has honestly been the best year of my life, but I can't help but think that I may be settling. I never went through the "honeymoon" phase in the beginning; never got butterflies when I saw him, never fell madly in love.
The fact that I never "fell in love" or had that honeymoon phase has made me wonder if I am settling. I have come to accept that he is not the man of my dreams and keep telling myself that life is too short to be picky. The fact that I am almost 30 years old scares me and has convinced me to do anything to make this relationship work. I care about him deeply and want to fall in love, but am at a loss on how to do so. Any advice would help.
TL;DR: | I [29/f] am having doubts about my relationship with my boyfriend [32/m] of one year. Need Advice |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (20/M) need advice on how to keep my mind off her (18/F) after breaking up
POST: It's been 10 days since we "officially" broke up, but that was just the day when we had "the talk", there'd been an argument a week or so before and we hadn't really spoken or seen each other for that time either
I'm a student at uni, so I have a lot of free time, before I would just spend it with her and we'd watch a film or hang out somewhere
But now we aren't together I have literally no clue what to do, it just leaves me feeling so lonely and bored and I end up wishing she was here, just to keep me occupied if anything
Don't get me wrong, I have friends, but because of differing lecture times we don't really see each other during the day. I enjoy the evenings/nighttime where we hang out and drink/mess about, but that's only a tiny part of my day
I've tried out a few societies but haven't really found them interesting or enjoyable
I used to be able to just play video games or watch tv all day, but now I don't enjoy doing those activities alone (I've tried, but I just end up stopping after 5 minutes or so)
So I guess what I'm asking is if anyone has any suggestions for hobbies or whatever I guess, because I'm pretty certain the only reason I'm letting myself get so hung up over this breakup is because I have nothing to do to keep my mind off of her.
TL;DR: | Can't stop thinking about ex, need advice/activities to keep my mind off her so I can get over her |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [F19] boyfriend [M20] is angry at me because I said I only date guys over 6' tall. Am I in the wrong?
POST: Two nights ago I was at a restaurant with some friends and he was in the neighborhood so he stopped by for a few minutes. We were talking about guys, as we do and we were on the subject of height. I said that I wouldn't dare a guy under 6' and pretty much all my friends agreed. He said he had to go after that.
Later that night he said he was sleeping on the couch because he thought it was a "disgusting thing to say." Last night he slept on the couch too. I don't see why he's so angry with me. He's 6'4". His best friends pretty short, so that may be it. But, it's not fair of him to be angry at me because I like tall guys. Plus it isn't just me, pretty much all girls like tall guys.
I haven't apologised because I don't think I did anything wrong. Do you think I am wrong? I was just stating my opinion. There's nothing wrong with short guys, I didn't say that, they're just not for me. I think it's unfair of him to be angry at me.
TL;DR: | My [F19] boyfriend [M20] is angry at me because I said I only date guys over 6' tall. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I'm helping a girl stop being suicidal, and she seems to be getting attached.
POST: Well the title sums it up pretty well, I have a friend who's gotten really depressed and admitted to me that she's tried to kill herself and still thinks about it sometimes. She told me that she's been raped and abuse since she was 9. After I convinced her that I did not want to rape, hurt, hit, or in any other way harm her, I've been able to cheer her up and seem to be making progress. I'm by no means A professional, but I am in school to be a teacher and run into similar situations with my students that I've been able to get through and help them. The difference is that they've always seen me as an authority figure where this girl sees me as a friend. And I feel that the longer this goes on the more attached she's becoming. I get text hearts from her, she tells me she loves me, constantly complimenting. So, I don't feel that way, obviously, but I feel like rejecting her would not only undo my work so far, but possibly make it worse than it was to start with. So, Reddit, fire away.
TL;DR: | Made a girl not want to kill herself, now she wants mah body(okay, maybe not that quite yet). |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [29f] ex [38m] responded to an email I sent 3 months ago
POST: A bit of background: Dated off and on for 4 years. We broke up 5 months ago. It was messy, long distance toward the end, and he cheated. I got angry and told him to f*** off. Have had no contact for that 5 months. Except for an email I sent about 2 1/2 months ago asking if he had called me, that's all I asked.
Today, I got a message on Facebook from him. He said "no, I didn't call you. I told you I wouldn't bother you and I meant it. So I hope you are well. Take care." 2 1/2 months later, and sent through Facebook, not replying to the actual email I sent?
I'm wondering, does this sound like he is testing the waters and trying to talk to me again? Or is he simply just replying to my question? I can't tell. I feel bad about how we ended things, he was very angry. So I just don't want to jump to the wrong idea and respond inappropriately.
TL;DR: | my ex responded to an email I sent 2 1/2 months ago, and I want to know if it means anything. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My mother [50ish] won't let me [f22] see my little sister [10] unless I cut my hair.
POST: I've had long hair my whole life because my mother didn't allow me to cut it. I finally recently cut it into a cute fauxhawk. I go to school out of state, and I was skyping with my little sister and mother and showed them my hair. My mother didn't say much, but she later called me and informed me that she doesn't want my sister around that and I won't be allowed to come see my sister this summer unless I cut my hair into a pixie cut. The real reason is that she thinks it is dykey (I'm not gay and I would be visiting with my boyfriend, so it's not like she thinks I'm actually a lesbian) although she wasn't straightforward about that.
I know I could just cut it and it would look good but I don't want to encourage her to think she can use my relationship with my little sister as leverage to do whatever she wants... especially something as minor as a hair cut.
I told her I thought she was being manipulative and cruel but she hasn't responded.
What do I do?
TL;DR: | My mom thinks my hair makes me look like a lesbian and won't let me see my sister until I cut it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 F] with the guy I'm seeing [26 F] seems/says he's super into me, but takes FOREVER to text me back.
POST: EDIT: title should say 26M
I've been seeing this guy for a month or so. We met through mutual friends and I am really into him. We have crazy chemistry and get along super well. Since we met through mutual friends, and those mutual friends happen to be his room mates I know for a fact he's not seeing anyone else.
We see each other once or twice a week, and at the end of every date we make plans to see each other again. Here is the problem, he usually takes HOURS to text me back.
This doesn't happen in the hours close to meeting up, but pretty much every other time I text him it takes hours for him to respond. Anywhere from 30 mins to 8 hours. It drives me insane because I can see he's active on facebook.
I truly believe he is into me, but am I wrong? Typically I believe that saying "if they want to talk to you, they will".
TL;DR: | guy I'm seeing acts/claims to be into me, but takes up to 8 hours to text me back. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My(m26) friend (f20) recently had sex, have only known eachother for 2-3 weeks. Says she wants to keep what we have but not be in a relationship.
POST: I'm probably going to sound like the bad guy here. But here it goes. I met this girl in class recently, and she was super flirty with me. I knew she was younger but i went along with it. Eventually asked her on a date, went out a few times..and then had sex. Once one night and then two times another night. Recently I asked her to be my girlfriend and she said yes.
Texts me a few days later saying the age difference is big and shes not looking for anything long term. Wants to keep doing what were doing but without the relationship...is she trying to say she wants to sleep with other people but also keep sleeping with me? I might be looking too deep into this. But i'd figure i'd share here and see what others say.
After she said that I said a brief "Oh wow, thats unexpected. Alright then. Have a good one." And havent talked to her since. Any insight?
TL;DR: | met this girl, dated, asked her out, said yes, now she wants to be friends with benefits. why? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: She [21 F] is finally single. How do i [21 M] tell her that i like her?
POST: i have a crush on a close friend of mine. we have been friends for over 5 years now and even lived together in a flat for a year. shes had two boyfriends in that time.
recently her latest boyfriend left her and i want to ask her out. i am not sure if she knows im into her, but some of my friends do. they even made jokes sometimes of how cute of a couple we would be. i never tried to flirt with her, out of respect to her boyfriend.
should i give her some time after the breakup? i am scared that if i wait too long she will find another one.
another thing is i never had a girlfriend (never realy wanted one) and dont know how to aproach girls. i get along well with her but only on a friend level. how do i get her to be attracted to me? as i said i never tried to flirt with her and dont know how she would react to that.
TL;DR: | i have a crush on a friend of mine, and she is finally single. how and when do i approach her? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What's the deal with Woody?
POST: I missed, like, 3 hours of reddit and all of a sudden people hate Woody? Every AMA I have read from a celebrity has been, more or less, a plug for something (preemptive
TL;DR: | The Internet is a tool and you are too, I'm off to r/gonewild, have a good night. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I don't know what to do. I was just told my hours were cut from 32 to 0 next week. But I'm not fired.
POST: Reddit, I need this job to pay off my Bachelors. I'm almost there!
I've been working at a hotel for 4 years now, fiercely loyal. I was Employee of the Year in 2008 and Employee of the Quarter several times.
Recently, new management came into play. General manager loves me. My direct manager doesn't, apparently. A birdie told me, behind closed doors, that my manager cut my hours to nothing next week, and to expect close to nothing or nothing weeks after that.
Why this happened? A memo went around with all of the department staff's name on it. Next to the name it said
>CIRCLE WHAT YOU WERE HIRED UNDER: FT or PT
I circled PT. Apparently anyone who circled Part-time has got their hours cut to next to nothing. People who circled FT are mostly brand new staff. I don't know why I circled part time, as I was hired for Full-time and eventually decided Part time was a better fit.
I called in sick this Monday, so it could be as a punishment?
The problem is, the schedule won't be officially released until tomorrow. I can't go to my manager today because the person who told me this information would be found out. Management has not spoken to me about this, asking if it's okay. This is not about crunching numbers, either, as no salaried manager is taking my workload.
TL;DR: | Manager cut hours from 32 to 0, but I'm not fired. We have a corporate office, should I go to them? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 32M (me), 28F (wife), and 24F (3rd party)--the infatuation table turns
POST: I was completely infatuated with my wife's friend (24F). 24F and I got flirty one outing and a bit of fireworks happened. Some non-physical boundaries were crossed, but I didn't not physically cheat on my wife in any way. My wife found out about this, BTW. She was somewhat angry to say the least.
A couple days after, I had a moment of clarity and my infatuation for 24F was gone. I realized that my wife is my true love and the relationship we have is true love. You can say that the thrill of the hunt for 24F was over--perhaps, but that doesn't matter--I just no longer "want" 24F the same way before (fortunately). She is just a friend now--just as always.
However, it seems like since that day, 24F has developed something towards me. My wife told me that 24F has dropped hints to her that she wants me (not going into details on that). I assured my wife I love her, and that I have no feelings towards 24F. Then I explained that 24F is just infatuated with me, and that she will get over me soon.
I do enjoy 24F's company and like her as a person, and I think my wife does too. I asked my wife that she and 24F should remain friends... it's just a glitch in our friendship, and it will sort out itself in time.
Now, it's easy for me to avoid 24F to ride this out, but not so easy for my wife since they see each other everyday
TL;DR: | Wife knows wife's friend is infatuated with me. I can avoid her; wife can't avoid her. Wat do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: HSA Contribution Level - multiple scenerios enclosed
POST: I've done my primary research and cannot seem to find a definitive answer.
My wife has a PPO plan (she likes it and will not switch). I have the High Deductible Health Plan - I therefore have the right to have an HSA. My question is can I contribute the 'family' amount ($6,550) or am I limted to the individual level $3,330?
If I have to sign up for the Individual + spouse plan (cost of 65 more a month but employer dumps $1,500 [750 me + 750 her] on 1/1/14). I then should be able to contribute the max - and the additional cost is 0 because of the additional employer contibution of 750.
So, is there something i am missing. Will we get dinged tax time for her having dual insurance plans? She would have the PPO (her employer) and the HDHP (my employer)?
TL;DR: | Can my wife have a PPO and HDHP so I can contibute the family max to a HSA account |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Gf (22) walked into house without any text/call after I had to cancel our date to finish up some school work. M(24)
POST: We had planned to take my dog walking in the park, but I had really fallen behind in my online class. Working full time, school full time, and now a new gf (2months) has caused me to forget about my online class. I sent her a text before I got off work and apologized for cancelling. Everything seemed cool, but about an hour later she was walking in my house asking for me. After she had seen me working on the computer, she explained how she just wanted to say hi on her way to her sisters. I haven't had a real relationship in awhile and a lot of the previous ones have not been healthy. So, I was just curious if this is anything to worry about?
TL;DR: | M(24) cancels date with gf(22) for school work, but gf showed up anyway without any heads up. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me 26M with my 26M roommate & Friend. He keeps just disappearing.
POST: So I just moved in with a buddy.
He told me had a free room for about 6 weeks as his roommates were moving to go traveling and if I paid the rent it was mine. He really gave it the hard sell that night and told me how we'd spend a lot of time together, go out for dinner etc. All that kind of fun stuff, given I was moving to a brand new city with no friends in that of the country.
I pitched up, got settled, and it's been a weird experience. We work together on some projects as we're both freelance. Bar that I just haven't really seen him. Work has been fantastic, but about 4-5 times he's just walked out of the door and not said bye or where he's going.
He's had his on-off girlfriend over and that's been a little too graphic for my ears.
Then tonight we were supposed to go out and he ran out the door saying "I'll be back in 5 minutes."
TL;DR: | Moved in with a friend who made promise he hasn't kept. Bailed on me and has been really absent. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [21 F] little brother [18 M] keeps making jokes about my appearance that are making me self-conscious.
POST: My little brother and I have a harsh style of joking around, and usually I'm fine with it. A lot of non-serious "go fuck yourself" and basically the sort of stuff you'd expect a younger brother to do. But sometimes he goes too far, and when I ask him to stop, he gets mad and says I'm too sensitive.
Examples- he says I have an "egg-shaped head", and says I am fat. I once countered this by saying I was actually (weight) which isn't too bad, and he replied "there is no way you're (weight)."
If he "just" didn't stop when I asked, fine... but at the same time he has declared some subjects off-limits for me to joke about, such as him being a Brony. But when I ask him not to joke about my appearance, he rolls his eyes, says "whatever," says I'm too sensitive, and then does it again the next time we play-fight.
This is really starting to make me self-conscious that maybe I am fat and my head is oddly-shaped, and I really want it to stop, but I just can't think of anything I can do differently. What do I do?
TL;DR: | My little brother's "jokes" are starting to hurt my self-esteem; I don't know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20/F] have been having problems with my bf's [21/M] decreased sex drive. Please help!
POST: My bf and I have been dating for over 5 years now and the sex between us has always been great. Recently (within the past 2-3 months) I have been noticing a severe decrease in my bf's sex drive. We used to have sex 5-6 times per week, and now I'm lucky if we have sex once during the week. When I try to initiate, he usually says he's not in the mood or doesn't feel like it. He's no longer initiating either, and usually when we have sex, it's when I practically beg for it.
To further explain our situation, we both have just graduated college and are both still living with our parents. This makes it very hard for us to have alone time together because of all the people that come in and out of the house. I've asked him before if he was nervous or stressed, but he said neither of those were the cause of his decreased sex drive.
I've tried to talk to him about it, but he always just says he's not in the mood any more. Asides from this issue, our relationship is going (and has been going) very well. We get along well together and always have fun spending time together and relaxing. We rarely argue, but when we do, we fight fairly and don't say things just to hurt the other person. We are very open and honest with each other, but I can't seem to figure out what the problem is or how to fix it. Please help!
TL;DR: | I need a way to increase my bf's sex drive or figure out why he isn't interested in sex any more |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I asked her to be my gf but....
POST: I finally asked the person I liked for a long time to go out with me. She said she'll think about it. But almost a week now and she said she hasn't really thought about it and she doesn't seem all that bothered. I told her I'll be okay and won't be mad if she says no I will understand. I just want her to be straight with me so I can move on if she doesn't like me back.
What did she mean when she said she didn't think about it? Idk if she's just afraid to reject me since we're good friends.. Or just don't care... Idk what to think. It seems selfish of me to ask her to go out with me but I just had to or I'll regret not having done it my whole life.
TL;DR: | what does it mean when she said she didn't think about it? Not interested? Scared to decline me? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [30F] heartbroken. Seeing him [39M] eight months, felt real love for the first time, and it ended due to his alcoholism
POST: I just had a hideous meltdown of a breakup with the man I've been seeing for several months. It wasn't very long-lived, but it was intense and very supportive and loving.
Two weeks ago while on vacation together, he took off on a bender and ended up with some strangers in another town. I picked him up at 8am, drunk on the side of the road, and we got into an ugly screaming fight.
At first, he was texting all the time, wanting to talk and get help and make up, but I was too angry to talk. This week, I've been wanting to talk and find some peace, and he agreed to a phone call. It was a short call, but it was full of anger and defensiveness (his). I told him I thought he was an alcoholic, and he said that since he was a "functional alcoholic," it was no one's business but his own, and he didn't appreciate me giving him an ultimatum (ie, "I can't be in your life if alcohol is your #1 priority").
So that's it I guess. The warm, compassionate person I love is buried too deep in alcohol and depression to love me back. He is not willing to consider changing, and in the brief moment when he asked for help, I was too angry to act on his behalf.
How can I forgive him for choosing alcohol over love? How can I stop feeling like I failed him? How do I accept that this is the end and move on?
TL;DR: | I love him. He's an alcoholic. I feel guilty for leaving, and I miss him on his good days. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Am I being toyed around with?
POST: So, the lowdown: there's a girl I like. I had known her awhile back from some mutual friends, but then we had a class together and I really started to like her. We've hung out a few times and she seems genuinely happy to see me and spend time with me; she's happy to talk on the phone with me, she texts me and she chats on Facebook with me (she even told me once she had a dream that her and I were in a relationship, and she's sent me a couple text messages about me in her dreams).
But here's the problem: over the last few months, every time I try to hang out with her, she backs out at the last minute. Half a dozen times in the past two months, she's canceled our plans to hang out and I haven't seen in awhile. She has reasonable-sounding excuses every time but it's starting to make me paranoid. Why would she be so eager to text/phone/chat with me, but never want to hang out? It's baffling me!
TL;DR: | Girl will talk on the phone, text me and facebook chat me but will not hang out with me. What do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Relationship advice on me [16m] and my crush [15f]
POST: So it all started about a month ago when my friend set me up with a girl for formal (prom). She is a very nice girl, decent looks and all. We've met a few times, and i reckon that we got along pretty well. So we chatted a little bit on facebook, and a few conversations later I finally took the courage to ask her out for movies with some of my friends, and got her number. That all went pretty smoothly, that is until today.
She texted me this morning that she is apparently sick, and that she may not be able to join us for the movies. I am really confused by this situation. It seems that she is trying to avoid me by pretending to be sick. But if she's really trying to avoid me than she could've said no to me in the first place. So now I am in a state of confusion and distrust.
What should I do next? Should I trust her or not? I don't want to creep her out.
TL;DR: | planned a "date" with my crush. She may or may not be trying to avoid me by being "sick" |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: Lower Calf/Upper Achilles pain while running. Any ideas?
POST: I've always been fairly active (playing soccer, running cross-country, etc- all during high school), so running is not a new experience for me. I was less active in college, but still active, nonetheless. I graduated in December, and I have been trying to get into better shape via running. I'm in the Navy, so while I haven't been running as much, I am still fairly active. Other than the occasional sprained ankle, I've never had any sort of injury or muscle pain.
However, recently, about a mile or so into my runs, I begin to experience a tightness in my lower calf/upper achilles region. It's not an unbearable pain, just pretty annoying. I will usually just stick it out until I finish (maybe a bad idea?). I stretch pretty consistently, and I emphasize my calves. Any pain is usually gone within a couple hours after my run. I'm not sure what brought this pain, what it means, or how to remedy it. Any idea?
TL;DR: | About a mile into my runs, I get a tight pain in my lower calf, upper achilles. I don't know why. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by punching gf in the arm half-awake
POST: fyi: not amurrcan
I'm a jealous guy and i admit it so a couple of days ago i got one of those dreams that you don't want to have. It's about my gf cheating on me with a fuckin old guy who happens to be our ex-president(clue: j.e.e)
so the old guy and her had the thing going and I'm like a ghost standing by their bedside watching the whole fucking thing. how painful was that?
i was about to confront them but i was a ghost right? so i can't do anything and i am feeling the pain and i thought it was all real but the next thing was the tifu.
I was half-awake, I wasn't sure I'm still dreaming so I leaned over my back and the first thing i saw was her arm(she was awake browsing facebook on her mobile) so i punched it a bit hard so the phone hit her face and i just felt a really sharp pain in my thigh. she kicked me and it was really hard i cried a little bit and got awaken by her kick to my thigh and she's crying telling me it's the 2nd time i did it to her. so that's it folks
TL;DR: | Woken up by a kick to the thigh coz of a dream that led me to unknowingly punch my gf in the arm. |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: I don't know what to do about being on the outside
POST: I just moved to a new school and I found a group that I really wanted to be a part of. Now, the group in question organizes these sessions for tabletop games and the sessions are a very 'group only' sort of affair. A few months ago, I actually got invited to one and I was ecstatic. Unfortunately, I'm still a bit of an 'outsider'. On Wednesday, we have another session planned but the game that people want to play can only have six people and there are seven people invited including me. Several people have already commented how I'm not part of the 'core' group and that I shouldn't be invited at all. Should I just tell them I can't come to avoid the pain that is quite probably about to hit me? Should I just leave it and hope for the best?
TL;DR: | newbiee in a group, invited to a game, too many people invited for said game, may be ditched |
SUBREDDIT: r/pettyrevenge
TITLE: All actions have (petty) consequences
POST: **Background**
My teacher had assigned my class a group project (ugh) and my other friends already had already gotten partners, so me and my friend (we'll call her A) ended up getting partners who were not the best. D and T. D lived an hour away from school so it was hard for her to commute to help work and T usually didn't do much work.
**the revenge**
Me and A ended up doing most of the work. Writing scripts (it was a newscast) and calling everyone to do work. Towards the end of the project T ditched the film session, leaving me A and D without a person to hold the camera (we were in school and everyone was working on their projects). In the end, we ended up getting it done, and when posting it to YouTube, I wrote in the description our names. Except for T, I didn't capitalize it like everyone else's! AND I PUT IT LAST. MWAHAHAHAHA.
TL;DR: | my 'friend' didn't do any work for a group project so I put her name last and uncapitalized. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [19/M] So there's this girl..
POST: And the moment I saw her, I wanted to ask her out.. but, I decided to wait because I figured I'd make a fool out of myself if I were to just say, Hi, wanna go out? So I didn't. I decided to wait until the next time I saw her around campus.
Anyway, I had seen her around a time or two and was all, "She's pretty. I wonder if she's seeing anyone" but quickly dismissed it because I figured she probably was but today, I was standing out there having a smoke listening to music before I had to head up to class, and next thing I knew, she walked up to me, kindly nudged me on the arm and asked me if I had a lighter. Being the gentleman I am, I lit her smoke and smiled as she sat down behind me. And since that happened today, I've been thinking about going up to her in a casual way and saying, "Hi. Are you free this weekend? Would you like to have some coffee?" or something of the sort.
Am I just acting crazy or is this the right way to go about this? She's by far the only one I have seen that has peaked my interest. Any advice would be much appreciated
TL;DR: | There's a girl that I want to ask on a date and wonder if I am going about it the right way. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Been dating for 2 years 19(m) 20(f) and I don't know what I can do to make her forget about the past
POST: So me and my gf have been together for 2 years and everything was great for a long while. She said she needed space and put us on a break about a year ago and during that break I hooked up with a girl or two. We then got back together about 3 months later and when I told her, she freaked out of course and to this day she brings it up constantly. Keep in mind she also kissed a few guys. It then happened again over this previous summer. Same situation all over again. Now whenever we get into an argument, she throws everything in my face about how I didn't fight for her and I had more fun sleeping with other girls and so on. Now I do truly love this girl and I don't want to lose her but I can't help but feel like everything I do is wrong to her and all I'm gonna hear is bitching about it. What can I do to help this?
TL;DR: | GF throws things I did while we were on break in my face all the time. What can I do to help? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: m19 f18 not sure how to ask this
POST: ok so, dated 3 months, then turned LDR cause i went military. LDR for 8 months, tried to break up and she literally talked her way out of it. two weeks later broke up. one week later got back together. good for 1.5 months, broke up a couple days after Vday (weeks shy of 1 year) after a month of no contact she texts me, we talk and two weeks later she comes to visit, and i go home for a week here in a couple days (she wants me to go to prom) we aren't together, i haven't asked her out, and she just brought it up.
the thing is, i've constantly been telling her things like i love her, shes the one, etc etc bullshit. but i dont WANT to ask her out again. she's cool but we won't work out in the end. she just got admitted to college there so even longer LDR and, i party and shit and she doesn't know about that. so if i dont ask her out this week im home, idk whatll happen. if i do then fuck me right.
TL;DR: | ex wants me to ask her out, i dont really want to, how can i talk my way out of it |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 21/F unsure of my relationship with my bf 22/m
POST: I love my boyfriend's personality but physically I am not attracted to him. I am really athlete and he is slightly overweight. At the moment I am okay but I feel like I am settling. I feel like a terrible person but sometimes it just really bothers me and makes me upset with him. I have addressed the issue with him and it's something that we both view differently. To me it's more of an overall issue of values and lifestyle than his physical being but it also plays a role. Am I just being a bitch or is this a reasonable reason to reconsider? What should I do...
TL;DR: | I'm athletic and my SO isn't. Is this enough to end a relationship if there is nothing else wrong? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 M] stuck in the orbit of a [23 F] for months, tell me end it and move on.
POST: She's not my girlfriend.
I used the word orbit because we follow the same path every two months or so.
1. We start casually talking again after one of us breaks under an imposed (but never talked about) silence.
2. We meet up a couple of times for drinks or a movie ect. (We split the bills pretty equally, surprisingly.)
3. The texts start to ramp up again. Flirting is less subtle. I'm getting the emotional support and nurturing I'm starved for. She gets all of the benefits of a boyfriend without having to commit to anything.
4. I start to feel worthless because I realize she isn't interested in me — not really. Decide to go out and confront her on how I'm feeling, make her define our relationship or tell me it isn't going to happen.
5. I get drunk to drown the part of me that wants to stay codependent. She tells me she's tried dating someone else but thinks of me during/ tries to move on but keeps thinking of me/ tells me she thinks I could make her happy. I always believe her. We're hammered. We hook up.
6. She texts the next day saying she's not sure what that means. She needs more time. I stop responding to texts until I can't anymore.
Repeat forever.
I just moved to a new town and she's the only connection I have to a lot of the past. I don't know if we can ever be just friends, that hasn't worked out yet. I'm afraid.
TL;DR: | We're not dating, until we are. She is anti-commitment and my self-worth is too low for NSA. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm 24(M) she's 23. We are going on our first date on Valentines Day, have no ideas.
POST: Hey Reddit,
So let me give you a little background on my situation. I met this girl online last month. We hit it off right away and we text, snapchat, and talk on the phone all day and all night. I won't give any intimate details but we've both agreed that we are into each other and have been as intimate as we can without seeing each other. Also we know that we are telling the truth about who we are since we've talked via skype.
Anyway, I'm concerned that our feelings may change when we see each other and/or the whole thing may end up awkward. So Reddit, in my case what would be an appropriate first date on Valentine's Day? Dinner? Drinks? Coffee? I need help.
TL;DR: | met a girl online, we really hit it off and our first date is on Valentine's Day. Need date ideas. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I called in an accident to 911. How can I find out what happened?
POST: Yesterday I was driving home at night. I live on back roads, it was night, and I'm 19/F so I didn't want to stop since I was by myself. But out of the corner of my eye I saw a car in a fence. I didn't really get a good look because it was dark and I was focused on driving home. I thought I may have imagined it, but there were 2 black objects in the road I has to swerve around. I got home and called the accident in. Luckily, the fire department is only about half a mile away.
And now I'm really curious as to what happened. How can I find out?
TL;DR: | Driving home at night, saw a car in an accident, called 991, how can I find out what happened? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [21 M] gf [20 F] of 6 months is about to study abroad. I am ready for a breakup, but I want to do it in the least damaging way possible to avoid hurting her experience. How and when?
POST: We've been dating six months now, but I haven't seen her for the last two (since school ended) as we've both been occupied, though we have maintained regular contact. She has always been more attached in the relationship, and even while I did and do care for her a great deal, our last two months apart have revealed to me how uninvested I am in our relationship.
I am going to visit her for a week at her parent's, starting tomorrow, and then she will leave to go abroad for the entire fall semester on my last day with her.
Obviously ideally I would like to break up with her in person, but in this specific scenario I don't know that's the right thing to do. I can't just drive two days to her house and break up with her the first day. Conversely, doing it the last day before she leaves seems obtuse as well, and a good way to put her off to a terrible start. (Canceling the trip is not an option.) I'm considering giving it maybe two weeks so that she's settled in? My primary concern is controlling the amount of damage the breakup has on her experience.
TL;DR: | My gf is leaving in one week for the semester. When is an appropriate time to break up with her? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [26 M] get annoyed with my girlfriend [24 F] when waiting for a mid convo text for and hour only to find out she's posting away on fbook or other social media.
POST: I'm in a long distance relationship of almost 3 months. I can text at work but my SO can't. This is fine except when texts stop coming mid convo with no g2g reason. then after sitting around like an idiot waiting for a texts back see that she's posting her status and commenting back to people on fbook. I realize I shouldn't get so worked up over something small but it just seems like she could either just call after work or maybe text back before going to FB.
I'm probably just overreacting due to added stress from being in a long distance relationship. Is there valid reasoning to be annoyed???
TL;DR: | GF stops texting mid convo to get on fb for 15-30 mins. Should I be frustrated with this? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I, [25 M], just lost my virginity to the much more experienced girl [25 F] I'm dating. I'm not sure how I should feel about her anymore.
POST: I'm a late bloomer. I went through puberty when I was 18, kissed my first girl when I was 21. I never got that much attention from the opposite sex until I recently started coming into my own.
I started dating this girl about a month ago. We've been on 7 dates and we've always had a great time. On Saturday night it became apparent things were going to get physical, so I decided to be honest and let her know I was a virgin. This threw her off a little and she decided to tell me her number ...19. Oh. I was surprised but I didn't let it bother me in the moment. It happened.
I really don't want it to bother me but I can't get it out of my head. I don't know what to think about her anymore. How could I marry someone who's been with that many guys? If we have no future what's the point of dating?
At the same time I feel like I'm being immature. Who am I to judge someone's past? Shouldn't the only thing that matter be how she feels about me?
I recognize that I'm being stupid but I can't help how I feel. I just don't know if I should continue to see her and lead her on any longer.
Advice?
TL;DR: | I was a virgin. She's been with 19 other guys. I don't know if I should continue to see her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: At a crossroads here, Reddit. What should I do?
POST: I graduated from college last May, 2011, and started working for a company that I'm still at (11 months later) less than 20 days after graduating. I was fortunate to say the least. The company is great, above average benefits, and I could definitely see myself being here for more years if I got into a position I truly enjoyed. Right now I'm at this entry level position, but my co-workers that have the same title as me, have been doing this for 30-40 years!!! And to me, that is disturbing 1.) because this job gets robotic-like after a couple months and 2.) because I never want to settle and keep climbing the ladder. I recently just started a side business and I'm not sure how it's going to pan out but I'm now at a crossroads... My annum performance review is in 2 weeks: will I get a raise? will the review be biased? they might have a sales position for me (which would be the "position I truly enjoy") but I'd have to move to Chicago (from MA). Side business is steady but not sustainable enough to quit and go full-time. I don't know, Reddit. Any support, suggestions, comments, questions, criticisms?
TL;DR: | – at a crossroads at age 22 (almost 23) and not sure what to do next, career-wise. Help, please? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Need advice (21M)
POST: So my girlfriend (20) works in EMS like me, but for another company. She has a regular partner that she is very friendly with and came to me today looking very upset and admitting that she thinks her partner likes her beyond being colleagues. She doesn't feel the same way, but she's worried that the flirty sometimes sex-related jokes between them have gotten out of hand and she is "terrified of screwing our relationship up". Now we've been dating for very close to a year (happily). Her and the partner, however, have a very flirty work relationship and they occasionally text each other outside of work. This past week, her coworkers were talking about working with her, and apparently the partner and other EMT got into a competitive conversation (not argument because from what I heard it never got aggressive) over who would be next in line if she broke up with me.
Should I be worried here?
TL;DR: | GF of a year's work hubby is getting too friendly and I'm not sure if I should be concerned or not. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Even though I (20/F) am and always have been monogamous, I want to cheat on my boyfriend (19/M) of a few months, because he is religious and doesnt want to jump into sex.
POST: Otherwise, the relationship is amazing : i have never felt more valued, cared for and loved. In every other aspect, I would say it's close to an ideal relationship. We got through a lot of stuff together (I used to have mental problems, self cutting and such, now, thanks to him, I don't want to do those things anymore).
BUT. However much I appreciate him, I am not a virgin, and he is.
I have used sex for comfort and enjoyed it for it's simplicity. I love passion, it is intoxicating.
In the beginning, I wanted to be with him in that way. I couldn't think, because all I had in my mind was him, feeling him close to me.
But he doesnt want to have sex. He just doesnt, and it makes me feel betrayed, not wanted.
And there is the guy I've been seeing before him (it was a loose relationship), and he is trying to seduce me, and he is doing it very well.
I am torn here. I don't want to break up, I don't want to cheat, I don't want to destroy his faith. But I have needs. I am fighting myself here, just for him, and I'm not sure how long I can keep doing this.
And I think it's important to mention, that I have never ever wanted to cheat on any of my exes, since we had good sex.
TL;DR: | My boyfriend won't sleep with me, I love him, but I don't know how long I can remain faithful. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[16/M] really like this girl from my school but she has no idea that I exist.
POST: English isn't my native language so I really apologize for any grammar or logical mistakes. I really like this girl from my school and would really really like to ask her out but there are a few problems which stop me from doing so.
Firstly I'm absolutely certain that she doesn't know me nor we have any common friends. Second even though she is a year younger than me she is a bit taller. Third since we have move from classroom to classroom during breaks that my only small time window to talk to her or even see her.
Number two isn't that much of a problem but I really have no idea what to do to strike up a conversation with her so that she knows I exist. Normally I am a quite straightforward person but unsure if showing that I am interesting in her at first is gonna make her reject me. Since she doesn't know me I'd like to befriend her first just so we get to know each other better. I neither have her Facebook, any friends who can introduce me to her nor know any of her friends.
TL;DR: | I'm head over heels for this girl but she doesn't know I exist. No idea how to become her friend. |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: How to *actually* get over a bad breakup
POST: Facts:
I'm male, straight, 20
I broke up with W, 20, last August. We had a 4 1/2 month relationship. She was my 2nd girlfriend, 1st sexual partner. I was her 3rd boyfriend.
It suffices to say that it ended badly. Really badly.
I tried the 'rebound girl' thing. That lasted 2 weeks.
Last week, almost 4 months after the breakup I went clubbing, got drunk and basically talked to everyone about W. The strangers I met were pretty cool about it but seriously...
I need to move on.
Seriously move on.
I know the usual advice around here:
lawyer up (no need)
delete facebook (again, no need)
hit the gym.
I replaced 'hit the gym' with 'go swimming' but I think there must be *more* stuff you can do to get over someone.
More importantly, I am an introvert (i really enjoy spending time by myself) so how do I deal with this?
Also, during the break up I said and did some really mean stuff. No, I never called her a bitch or anything but I was a complete asshole / I went nuts.
How do I forgive myself for that?
TL;DR: | had gf, bad breakup, trying to get over it / move on / I wanna 'feel ok' in my own skin. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I [18/M/UK] broke-up with my GF, then begged to get her back. What do?
POST: I'd been going out with this really cool American girl for a little over a month. I guess we were boyfriend and girlfriend. Anyway, I haven't seen her in a week or so and text her asking when she's free. Turns out I probably wouldn't see her for another week or two, because she was going home to see her family and friends. I get frustrated and impulsive and break-up with her. Maybe a few days of no contact go by. Then we start messaging again. Fast forward to her return from the States and I meet her. In the meantime, I've had a massive falling out with my vindictive, manipulative 'best friend' who introduced us. I say I don't want him to have anything to do with us, because he was interfering. But he's gotten into her head, so she thinks I'm being paranoid and jealous. I thought we were getting back together, apparently not. A few days later I text her 'Will you give me another chance?' and all that rubbish. She says no. It's been two weeks and I really, really miss her. Like, I've become self-destructive. How can I get her back?
TL;DR: | break-up with gf, break-up with best friend, pretty much beg for gf back. no. engage self-destruct. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: am (21/f) i just not cut out for long distance?
POST: i've been dating this guy (26/m) for ~ 3 months. In a month, I'll be moving back to school which is 2-3hours away while he will be in the area. Last week, he left to visit his family in the east coast and won't be back for another couple of days. I haven't heard from him in 2 days and i'm starting to get anxious.... i don't know what it's going to be like when we start our LDR in a month so i'm starting to think that maybe i'm just not cut out for LDRs. Should I cut my losses and get out now?
TL;DR: | haven't spoken to my bf in 2 days, starting to feel anxious and am not sure we'll last in a LDR. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [28M] met a girl [27F] and I want to keep her close since I'm overseas but I'll be back in 2 months
POST: I [28M] met a girl [27F] about a month ago, we went out 3 days later and that weekend I left the country because of my work. I told her that I was leaving and she was surprised but intrigued with me (her words).
We really get along well when we met, during the date and later since we keep texting.
Two weeks ago, she told me she decided to get back with her ex, and last weekend she told me she wanted to be with me.
Texting is not a deep way to know a person but thats what we have at the moment.
I haven't added her to FB or any other social site.
How do I keep her close since I still have 2 more months to travel back to meet her in person?
What type of conversations can be held via text message?
TL;DR: | I [28M] met a girl [27F] and I want to keep her close since I'm overseas. * |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27F] friends say I use my phone too much when we go out [Non-romantic]
POST: I recently got upset because I was scolded for using my phone when socializing two of my friends. I really didn't think I was being rude or anti-social because they didn't tell me till later that they were found the behavior upsetting.
I try not to be on my phone all the time, but sometimes when I am not hanging out with my boyfriend, I like to chat with him.
I feel like I didn't react in the nicest way to them pointing it out, but it definitely bruised my ego. Now I am unsure how to move forward without feeling uncomfortable.
TL;DR: | Bruised ego. Friends say I am on my phone too much in one-on-one or small social situations. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [34 F] with my SO [35 M] 1.5 years, I am becoming lost in his insecurities...HELP!
POST: Lack of love, desire, sex is not our problem. We love each other very much. But, his insecurities are taking over my life and I'm starting to feel resentful. Not good enough for me, I'm going to leave him, I'll be unfaithful and on and on. I've been trying to figure out how to love him without sacrificing my own life and have not been very successful. I've really lost who I am in all of this constant reassurance and walking on eggshells. He's working on making changes and I fully support his efforts. But, I'm worn out and feel like an isolated wreck of a person.
So, people who are in successful relationships with an insecure partner, how do you do it??? AND, insecure people who are in successful relationships, what does your partner do well that makes it all work for you? I'm really looking for advice on what to do here to make things better.
TL;DR: | I love my SO, but his insecurities are turning me into someone I dislike and I want to fix it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: do i look dumb for facebook breakup?
POST: My ex broke up with me - we dated three months. However, they never unfriended me from facebook. I am now completely over them and moved on so i don't mind getting the occasional updates. However someone brought up to me that I should unfriend them because it reflects badly on me to stay friends when *they* broke it off. I post regularly so I find it weird that they haven't unfriended me at this point (I usually am unfriended by exes if they break up with me). I care because even though I don't have feelings for them, I perversely want them to see how well I'm doing, yet I also don't want to seem like I'm still pining for them. Advice?
TL;DR: | does it reflect badly on me to not unfriend an ex, even if i don't have feelings for them anymore? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Did I do the right thing?
POST: I just recently broke up with my girlfriend of 1 year. Last night we decided to still be friends, and had a nice long talk about things I could change. Well she tells me about a guy she has started to "date" and I ask his name and how old he is. This morning I decide to run a background check on this guy and turns out hes a convicted felon, for enticing children over the internet. This conviction was drop and he has a less "serious" injurying a child felon. I decide to tell her and she freaks, tells me this guy isnt the same guy. His name is very unique and in fact a guessed his middle name because of this court document. The age also adds up. Granted I dont have hard proof because he didnt have to sign up for the sex offenders thing, but I have a strong feeling its the guy. Shes also 18 and he was originally after her friend but her friend wouldnt have anything to do with him, so shes basicly his second choice. I care for this girl and dont want her to get hurt. So reddit, think I did the right thing by telling her?
TL;DR: | Ex likes a possible pedofile, I tell her, she doesnt belive me. Did I do the right thing? |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: I wish I had never gone to law school, but I can't stop now.
POST: I am a year and a half into law school, and I know now that law school that isn't for me.
I would give anything to go back in time but I am already going down this path and feel like this is a train I can't stop. In three weeks time I'm going to be almost $90,000 dollars in debt because of law school with no real skill set to ever be able to pay my loans off if I were to stop now.
My only option is to keep going... putting myself deeper into debt and continuing with law school (and ultimately becoming a lawyer). The only way I will ever be able to pay it off by becoming lawyer.
I hate myself. I've become exactly who I didn't want to be, afraid to be true to myself, crippled by fear and money. I didn't think I would live some extraordinary life, but I thought I would at least live knowing I was doing and being who I want.
TL;DR: | I loathe myself for doing something I hate (law/going to law school) and am too in debt to stop. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [29 M] with my Stranger [26 F] 1 night, One night together... how get to know her
POST: It is easy.
We were at a congress, we drank, we end up together in her hotel room. We had sex...
We slept together i hug her... It felt so... so right...
I had a speech the next day in the same congress so i got up early.
We kissed in bed... a lot. She woke up to say good bye... All time kissing and smiling. We gave each other our phones...
Some hours later... we took a coffe together... Later... she had to leave towards her city...
I have tried to talk to her since then (a week ago) using whtsapp or even called her... She does not answer my messages... She didnt answer the phone...
I know you all will tell me... forget tht girl... But i felt something was so right between us...
Any clue to make her... i dont know... answer? Talk? I just wanna have the chance to get to know her... :-S
TL;DR: | Met a girl for one night. Was really good. Now she doesnt answer me/How can i get to know her??!! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Did I (F22) cheat and should I tell him (M22) if we are technically not in a relationship?
POST: My best friend (M22) and I started being more intimate, (yes, he made it out of the friend zone) for 3 months now. And I love him, on almost all levels, but I am have a major commitment phobia. He is well aware of it and has been going slow, however because I also have the sex drive of a 16 year old boy, sex is involved muddying the water of what is really going on.
When things started to get intimate we sat down and had a talk about what the relationship is and means for us, and came to the conclusion that because there was a time limit (graduating college and both moving elsewhere) we weren't going to make it official and let whatever happens happen.
He told me that after graduation he knew I would be the promiscuous person that I am and told me he didn't want to know about any endeavors until we were back to the friends that we were (He literally knows everything about my life).
I went on a trip this last weekend and got wayyy to drunk and slept with a guy. I know drinking doesn't count for an excuse which is why I feel so guilty. I can't eat, sleep, think about anything other than what a horrible mistake I've made. In a very unfortunate way, it made me realize how much I want to be with this guy, how perfect he is for me, and how I just ruined it all by doing this. Is this cheating, and should I tell him?
TL;DR: | Did I (F22) cheat, and should I tell him (M22) if we are technically not in a relationship? |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Utterly Alone and Not Sure How to Cope
POST: So I just moved to Los Angeles for a job. I'm 23 years old, female, and I feel completely and utterly alone. My company closed a month ago and in light of it my boyfriend and I both chose to move to Los Angeles where our industry is. He was given a job offer at another company. He then broke up with me the day before he left and a week before I left.
I have one friend here but she is incredibly busy with her own job and goes home to San Diego almost every weekend to deal with family issues. Other than that, I know no one in this city.
At my job all of my coworkers are at least ten years older than me and are not really at the points in their lives where they want to socialize with a 23 year old "kid". (Yes I did ask).
I know it's a culmination of me feeling like I've lost all physical contact with friends, lost my job, lost my boyfriend, moved away from my family, and am now in a strange place and in my first apartment by myself where my room mates also prefer that no one in the house talks to each other.
The loneliness and the silence is debilitating. My company is now sending me to Canada for three weeks to train and I'm excited, I am, but I have this paralyzing fear that I'm going to spend yet another three weeks completely alone and it has led me to cry every night for the past two weeks since my move. I don't know what to do.
TL;DR: | I moved to a new city where I know no one and my boyfriend broke up with me and now I'm alone. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I [20/m] can't seem to get off when my girlfriend (19/f) gives me oral.
POST: Right off the bat, please understand that my girlfriend and I are waiting to have actual vaginal sex, but we're okay with just about anything else.
That being said, we've been dating about 3 months and have started to give each other oral/hand stuff. I'm completely new to this, but I'm a fast learner.
I've been able to get her to orgasm just fine, but even when she gives me the most incredible blow jobs, I can't finish. I'm worried she will start to think she's not doing a good enough job and get self-conscious. They're awesome, I just can't get off.
I've decided to try /r/nofap so we'll see if that works, but does anybody have any other advice?
TL;DR: | I started receiving oral sex for the first time, and it's great, but I can't see to finish. Help? |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Best Home Mortgage Refinance?
POST: Currently at 4.125% 30 Year Fixed. House has appreciated apx $80k in the last 2 years. Goals : Remove PMI, Reduce rate to at least 3.5%.
Reason for post - I have seen hundreds of refinance posts, I have participated in many of them - I have searched for "refinance" - but there doesn't seem to be much consensus on "the best refinance" company out there.
I checked with my credit union - their rate is not the lowest I can find, nor are the fees. I checked with my current mortgage lender - their rates are lower than I can find at most places, but they want me to pre-pay for the lower points to the tune of $8600.
Went through a mortgage broker on our last home - he was a really nice guy - made the whole purchasing process a lot easier than current house was - but in the current "sellers market" I am afraid a broker or a service like www.lendingtree.com would line us up with hidden fees or add-on rates for their "spiff program"
TL;DR: | Is there a wonderful, easy to work with, low/no fees, great low rate refinance company out there? |
SUBREDDIT: r/travel
TITLE: Places to stay in Chiang Mai/Phuket/Krabi?
POST: So we booked Le Meridien in Bangkok for a couple of nights while we unwind from the flight. We are taking the train to Chiang Mai. After looking at some of the hostels, I am not sure they are up to our standards (which aren't all that high). So, does anyone in [/r/Thailand](/r/Thailand) know of a good hotel, or even hostel, that is clean, close to the touristy things, and reasonably priced? We are looking for under $50/night.
We are looking to get massages often, do some trekking, do the elephant deal, maybe some zip lining, check out the markets, temples, and more. Also, we are going to be taking a day trip (most likely) to Chiang Rai. We don't necessarily want to be right in the MIDDLE of the touristy stuff, but within walking distance would be nice. Does anyone have any recommendations for us?
Side Note: We are flying to the south (Phuket area, staying in Krabi most likely). Any advice on places to stay down in that area would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
TL;DR: | Looking for a place to stay in Chiang Mai, and down near Phuket/Krabi that doesn't suck. |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: It's no ultramarathon but it's the furthest I've ever ran and I'm proud!
POST: Had a few nights out on the town recently and I think an overriding feeling of guilt gripped me this morning when I got ready to go to work. I packed my shorts, my Mimimus T10s, tshirt and a pullover in my bag, bought a single ticket on the train forcing myself to run home (~9.5miles). I'm so glad I did it, I feel great (albeit shattered). Managed to cover 9.48miles in 1hour 14mins 11secs, which I think is pretty good going for an irregular runner, I enjoy running but admittedly I'm lazy and I prefer team sports to get my cardio fill. I also managed to PB my 10km time too!
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TL;DR: | Ran 9.5miles for the 1st time, took 1:14:11, PB'd my 10km time, not a regular runner. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [22 M] father [53 M] is plotting to steal/ruin me
POST: Some background before I get into what I've uncovered. My father has been out of prison 4 years now, and I have supported him from day one. He is currently living with me, I've provided him with endless money, support and guidance since day 1. I've worked hard since 16 and run a small business which does very nicely for me.
This past week my father has been acting very strange. Deliberately causing friction. The atmosphere has been very tense and I've been unable to work out why. Tonight his phone went, I took a look, to cut through all he bullshit he is plotting to clear me out and run away with a woman he's known for less than a month. I'm sitting here in complete shock, and I cannot express my anger. Honestly I don't know what to do, I've backed him from day 1, made a lot of sacrifices to support him at such a young age and picked up the many times he's fallen. I am beyond distraught.
The only thing stopping me from dragging him out right now is that he's my father.
TL;DR: | Found out my dad is plotting to clear me out and run off with a woman. Don't know what to do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Is it normal for girls (21f) to tell me (m23) to do stuff with OTHER girls?
POST: So I just wana know if this is part of the norm that girls would tell guys to go do stuff with another girl because they cant go themselves
For eg, I tell this girl to go dinner. I would see this as something special between me and her. she cant make it and asks me to go dinner with this other girl. Immediated I feel upset.
Now, It doesnt have to be dinner, can be anything.
So i just wana know whether this just strike people as a normal thing to say without any implications because it sure hurts my feelings.
I know a bunch of comment is gona say "shes not into you etc". what im looking for though, are points to think why this can be a normal thing.
TL;DR: | Feeling upset coz girl i like tells me to go find other girls to hang, is this normal thing to say? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[23m] worried about my girlfriend of six months[21f] leaving me for a guy she met at work.
POST: So for about a week and a half now, my girlfriend has been texting this one man, we'll call him Jim, every day.
She texts him when we're in bed or when we're just hanging out. She smiles at all his texts and looks up at me with a frown. Cheating isn't possible, as we spend too much time together, but thoughts of cheating?
Is she maybe thinking that she should leave me for a more successful and stable person? How do I talk to her about it without it becoming an argument?
Thank you whoever read this as I've needed to voice this and have nowhere to go.
TL;DR: | Afraid my girlfriend of half a year is thinking of leaving me and idk how to talk to her about it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Need to lose ~10 pounds in >2 weeks, any help?
POST: I need to lose about 7-10 pounds before thanksgiving and would really appreciate some advice. I weigh about ~160 as of now. I've been running a lot, usually jogging/running for about an hour almost everyday. At first this really brought my weight down well but I've been basically stuck at 160 for a week now and am getting a little desperate.
I think my diet is pretty good, I've been eating less and I've been avoiding junk foods and the like albeit still eating small portions of chicken and other dinner meals the like but now I think I'm just going to go for vegetables and fruits for the following weeks.
Including my runs, my workout also includes working out my upper and lower body in 2 day intervals but I've been going easy on lifting because I don't want to gain too much muscle weight.
Are there any workouts you guys can suggest or any diet plans I can try out because I'm getting very frustrated with my results. Thanks for any help!
TL;DR: | I need to lose 7-10 pounds in 2 weeks, been running a lot but that doesn't help. Any tips? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Grrr...dry socket!! This seems to work, DDSRedditors am I doing it right? (Since I can't get in until TUESDAY)
POST: Rt Top 1st Molar got pulled Tuesday morning. Friday night, about midnight (I work 2nd) and this thing is killing me. I have been taking Amoxicillin before the yank and gently rinsing with warm saline, (of course I ate ALL the Vicodin) I don't smoke so nothing that would normally cause a dry socket, unless I tried to suck on a straw too soon....
Anyways I remembered from having this with my Wisdom Teeth that they packed it with a strip of something akin to clove oil. So my Mountain Witch Grandmother showed me I could probably do the same thing: I took a clean 2x2 gauze and dampened it, sprinkled generously with cloves, and rolled it into a little poultice and tucked it into the space where that bastard was. Shut things down nicely in seconds.
So far, about 5 mins on dulls it down about an hour. Hell, any relief at this point is a gift. Does this sound safe enough you'd pass on to your patients until they can get in?
TL;DR: | A small poultice of cloves will dull toothache pain, awaiting 4 out of 5 Dentists to approve. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [28 M] lost my feeling after i met my LDR GF [22 F] in person, i feel like shit.
POST: I've been in a long distance relationship for over 2 years now with my gf. I'm currently living in California and she lives in Cambodia. So approximately 3 months ago i went to Cambodia to meet her in person. Note that we have been skyping [ voice and video chat ] on and off over 2 years.
Reason i waited this long to see her was because of my work and school schedule wouldn't allow me to. So there i was, in a country where i don't speak the language at all. I was there for 2 weeks and for the whole 2 weeks we didn't really go anywhere because she couldn't handle travelling by car/flight too much (she would feel sick even by taking taxi drive for 30 mins).
She introduced me to her whole family when i was there and we also had sex for a couple times (It was both my and her first time). A week in, i suddenly lost interest in her but we would still have sex every now and then. Now that i'm back in the US, i feel like shit that i took her virginity and now i don't even have a feeling for her anymore. I didn't tell her how i feel. I don't know what to do, should i stay with her or should i just break it down to her that i don't have a feeling for her anymore?
TL;DR: | Met my LDR GF, lost virginity to each other, now that i'm back home, i lost my feeling for her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I [F/20's] have problems with my SO [M/20's] intimacy
POST: We have been together for 4 years. Everything else is great with our relationship except for intimacy. He can go several weeks without any sexual contact, but I love sex and I want to make love probably everyday (or at least every couple of days). Its not just the sex though. He loves hugs a lot and can get his intimacy from that. I love hugs, kisses, make out sessions, and sex. He doesn't care for kisses and when we have sex, it's great. When we discussed this several days ago, he got very upset (he has unmedicated anxiety that isn't a problem most of the time) and defensive but I reassured him that everything was fine and I just want more intimacy and I thought it would be good for us. I thought it would get better after our talk, but its just the same. I tried mentioning it yesterday but he said he was too tired, but then stayed up for another hour watching a show. I just want that playfulness we had when we first dated, but I just don't know what to do.
By the way, he is not cheating. We spent all of our time together and he has gotten cheated on before quite badly and wouldn't do it to anyone else. Trust is not the issue.
TL;DR: | SO isn't as intimate as I am and I don't know what to do and I feel like I am to blame. |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: 16F broke up with me, 17M, I want to get back, she isn't sure about the whole thing. 1 year relationship, what can I do?
POST: Hey guys, I'm in a tough spot right now. A little background, we've been dating for 1 week short of a year. We took a break last summer and it didn't work for either of us and we got back together a few weeks into school. It's been mostly good, with a few bumps but nothing too big.
On Easter my girlfriend and I broke up. She was having some problems so we we're talking on the phone and it came out that she hadn't been happy lately. She also said that it wasn't just me, but that's she's felt like a zombie lately, no feelings at all. So it ended up in a breakup, but I don't think she was very sure about it.
We talked again last night and she still didn't seem confident about it. She just said she needed to be on her own for awhile and that she wasn't happy. Is there anything I can do to help myself? I don't really want the advice saying you're young, get over her. It just doesn't work with her and I know I want to be with her. Thanks guys.
TL;DR: | 16F broke up with me, 17M, I want to be with her, what can I do? Been together about a year. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: How do I be bad for her?
POST: Sup, SO and I are going through a rough last few weeks. I think as I am getting my life together more and more we are working through things. We sort of on a break from each other but still hangout a few times a week etc. It's complicated. None the less she recently told me that she likes who I am becoming but that I need to be more, "bad." I am not at all sure what that means. I am a safe, patience, loving guy who does nothing bad in terms of breaking the law or anything. I don't think she means anything sexual either. We are going to go to a party this weekend together and I plan on partaking in underage drinking. Not that I am going to get smashed or anything but might have a few. This is completely out of my normal zone and I think maybe what she wants is for me to be a little more risk taking like that. Not sure. Help. I am just a "too nice" kind of guy.
TL;DR: | SO wants me to be bad, not sexually. How do I be more "bad" without lighting myself on fire. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Experienced professionals: what makes a good cook?
POST: Alright, so I need some advice.
First of all, the snowflakery: I'm very passionate about Italian cooking. My dad is Sicilian and I started to cook at a very young age learning from my Nona. Everything about Italian cooking makes my heart soar.
That said, I've worked at two Italian-American delis and pizzerias, one upscale and one notsomuch. I'm a very hard worker, but I get tense, I can be very quiet, I tend to be detail-oriented and can get lost in what I'm doing, and I know I don't have that special something that I admire in so many of my coworkers. I also feel very out of place and singled out much of the time because I'm female. Plus, I'm pretty sure you need to be a special kind of goddamn insane to work in any sort of kitchen (mostly I'm referring to the 18 hour days I've put in).
So what makes a good cook? What traits have you seen in the coworkers you admire? Is hard word and passion enough? I feel like the things I listed might indicate I should take my passion home with me and leave the professional cooking to the laid-back extroverts of the world.
Sorry about the length here, this has been eating at me for a while. I appreciate your advice and input.
TL;DR: | I love to cook, but I'm not sure I'm cut out for it. What traits make a good cook? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (34f) husband (50m) gets upset when I want to go out with friends. How often is too much?
POST: He has never liked me going out with friends. When I want a night out he puts on a sour face and complains.
I do not go out often-- maybe once a month or every two months.
However, over the past month l've had various social happenings and I went out last week and the week before (the first to a movie with a friend and the second a dinner with a couple girlfriends). Tonight a friend suggested going out for a bite.
I would love to go (rather than go home and watch tv all night with husband-- which is the only plan we would have) but my husband just berated me about how it's the THIRD time I'll be going out and he doesnt want to be a "babysitter" yet again (to our very independent teen who really doesnt need anyone watching her).
How often is too often to go out with friends when in a relationship? Am I overdoing it? This isna regular occurrence for me, but the fight is one we've had again and again when i want a night to myself.
(Oh, he's going out with friends tomorrow-- but said it's not the same because it will be all guys at someone's house playing cards-- whereas my outing is "fishy" because I'll be at a pub/restaurant in mixed company out in public)
TL;DR: | husband gets mad whenever I want togo out with friends. Am I overdoing it or is he in the wrong? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [15M] got rejected by my friend [15F], need advice.
POST: I met this girl (let's call her B), 1 year ago. We spent time generally messaging, also spent time with her in school. I thought her as a friend, when I started talking to her I had a crush on someone else, which I asked for a date and got rejected so no problem with that. But then I started developing feelings for B. I usually connect people easily so I started liking her. So time passes, I decide to ask her out. So I ask her out, but she says likes someone else, and I say it is ok. But then we go some kind of no-contact, we used to chat everyday and say hi to me school, but she isn't saying something anymore. I am actually ok with her rejecting me, but I don't want to lose contact. So should I talk to her, or can't be friends with her anymore. It feels like we know each other long that can't go no contact anymore. I need advice.
TL;DR: | Asked a friend out, got rejected. We don't talk any more. Don't want to lose contact, need advice. |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: My fiancé told me things he shouldn't have.
POST: My fiance told me, this past Thursday night, that his dad, who is a white collar criminal (creative accounting), and sociopath that he should "trade up" and dump me, and get with my sister. I am 37, she is 34. Why would he tell me this? I am so upset. My mom was always second place in my father's heart (now deceased, thank God), I was even named after her, my dad's love "Melanie". I have always gotten inklings of it, growing up, with my grandmother always telling Dad that he should have gotten with her, in my mother's presence.
TL;DR: | My father in law to be told my fiancé to dump me for my sister. I'm angry that he even told me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my GF [22 F], we've dated five months, she doesn't like me hanging with girls. She's hanging out with a guy she just met, I met her the same way.
POST: My GF has told me multiple times that she gets jealous, and at one point said that I shouldn't hang out with a girl I've known for years. I didn't. Now, she is hanging out tomorrow with a guy she just met at a youth retreat thing last week
One other thing that factors into this is that I met her while she was still dating someone else. She broke up with him right before we started hanging out which I was initially uneasy about but I went with it.
She says she should be able to make friends while we date which I have no problem with. I have a problem with her hanging out one on one with single guys however. Am I over reacting?
TL;DR: | GF is hanging out with a single guy she just met, I met her the same way. Should I be worried? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: How to move past friend, to dating phase?
POST: Some context. 20 y/o Sophomore transfer student (m). Virgin.
Their is a girl I really like spending time with and we have spent a few small sessions alone but nothing major. I know she likes me at least as a close friend, but I am not sure if she would date me. She is taller than me by several inches which might make it awkward for her. We have known each other for going on 2 weeks now. What made me realize how much I desired her was a night that we went out drinking with a group of friends. We hugged and cuddled so much that I knew I wanted to be with her. Since then I have been super hesitant mostly due to a lack of knowledge on telling her. Our social group knows I like her and I am trying to find a way to ask her out on a date without the group around but in person.
TL;DR: | What do I say when I am ready to ask a friend to date me? How should it be done? Etc; |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[21M] went on first date with [18F] that I met at a party.
POST: I met this girl at a party about two weeks ago and went out yesterday. When we met, we went and had a quick beer. I thought I was doing well, I kept eye contact, and we had a pretty good conversation. We hung out there for about 30 minutes until we decided to smoke a joint she had. After getting high I started mumbling my ways through words, and kind of acted like an asshole.
For example, she was talking about palm reading and how she can do it, I started talking about how i think its bullshit; I should have just let her read my palm. I also wasn't expecting her to want to get dinner, so when we went to a place of her choice and she got a meal, I didn't have the money to pay. I didn't eat myself, but it still felt like an asshole for not paying.
We did get along though, we kept talking for about two hours and we have a lot in common. She just didn't touch me or hang around to catch the bus with me. She just said "it was cool hanging out with you" gave me a quick hug and didn't really react to when I gave her a kiss on the cheek.
I'm a bit conflicted about if I should ask her out again. It didn't go horribly, but she didn't seem that into me. Did I fuck up to an irredeemable level by not paying?
TL;DR: | Met a girl, had an okay convo, got high, had a not so nice convo, didn't pay for dinner. |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: I comfort eat, and what I eat depends on what discomfort I'm trying to mask. Is this about self control?
POST: Not sure which subreddit so posting here.
If it's physical pain, general weariness at life, I like a little high calorie, rich savoury food (think English breakfast, other fried food).
If it's more emotional discomfort - feelings of frustration, self doubt - then I will go with cereal / muesli bars.
If I am at the I don't know wtf to do stage, then it's chocolate bars.
If I'm honest I beat myself up quite badly about 'not being able to control my urges', but I am approx 72kg, 180cm, with a 34" waist, reasonably active (dance salsa, go to the gym once or twice a week plus other stuff like hiking and climbing occasionally) so in no one's book 'overweight' or very unhealthy.
I do struggle with some depression, and recently anxiety.
Basically it feels like there are things that I want to talk about but often I don't (I don't know how or I'm scared of talking about them because I never have) and I compensate by comfort eating.
Does anyone else do this, or exhibit some other kind of behaviour to mask or compensate for expressing or being their true self?
TL;DR: | I just ate a chocolate bar and I just feel so down on myself, like I'm incapable. Just incapable. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (23) bf (29) doesnt fap anymore?
POST: We've been together for four years, living together most of that time.
We have sex every other day, usually in the morning before work.
He used to fap all the time. I'd walk in on it. And he knew how uncomfortable it made me.
He said he wasnt gonna do it anymore, a few months ago. And instead, we tried new things and had even more sex than before.
Some mornings hes too tired or I dont wake up when he does to get ready for work..but he says he still isnt doing it.
He doesnt like me to comment on it when I try telling him its been a few months he says I know and dont keep track because that's weird.
Wondering if guys really can go from porn all the time, to never? He said its just boring and fake and he doesnt want to waste his time on it anymore.. just wants to use everything he has on me.
Hes a one time a day guy, so when we've had sex I'm confident he didnt fap, but on days we dont..used to be the days he'd take care of himself but now he says he doesnt. Doesnt have to say it anymore though, because its just a given.
He tells me he isnt and hasnt done it in forever, like when he said that he was gonna stop, that was the last time. I believe him I just wonder how many other guys have done that..just quit cold turkey on porn lol. He looked at the nofap sub and hated it lol.
Opinions on this?
He gets defensive like I'm accusing him of still doing it..
TL;DR: | SO used to fap all the time and hasnt in months, how common is it for that to be true? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I, (18M), met a (18F) at orientation. How should I proceed?
POST: I, (18M), met her (18F) at college orientation a month ago. We were next to each other, and she spoke to me first, then we hit it off from there. I was direct by giving her my phone for her to put in her number, which she did without hesitation. I texted her after orientation, then I didn't really have any good reason to text her again. So at the end of august, there's another mandatory orientation. There's no guarantee I'll see her, but I want to see her again. How should I do this? Should I text her, reminded her of the event, and also telling her to find/sit next to me?
TL;DR: | Met girl at orientation, and I want to see her again at the next one. How can I make this happen? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How can I keep my brother from looking through my computer?
POST: Long story short, in 2004 I bought a laptop computer. It served me valiantly for years until last year when the power adapter decided to die. I went to the store to get a replacement and it was over 100 dollars. I said fuck it and ended up buying a new MacBook since my Toshiba was so old.
I left the Toshiba at my parents' house before I ended up moving a few states away. My brother is recently back from overseas and is staying with my parents. He asked if the Toshiba still worked and I (for better or worse) told him the truth: it does but it needs a new adapter.
So here is the problem: I have photos and files on there that are very personal that I don't want him to see. They're in a relatively obvious spot so he'll almost certainly see them if he logs on. I never made an attempt to hide them better because I didn't anticipate what happened, I have been too cheap to buy a new adapter and I didn't think he'd ever ask to use it when I wasn't home.
Is there anything I can say to get him to not use my computer without it becoming ugly?
TL;DR: | brother wants to use my computer which has shit on there that I don't want him to see, what do I do |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: My dog, Minnie, stood by my side and helped me get through the worst hangover ever. What's the absolute best thing that your pet has ever done?
POST: Like I said, my little dog (part chihuahua, part jack russell. I think.) helped me get past the worst hangover I've ever had this morning. I was still throwing up this morning and she comes into the bathroom and watches me get all the bad stuff outta my system. After I was done puking, I laid down on the floor and closed my eyes. My dog, being a miniature Einstein, starts licking my forehead to keep me awake. Now, I know she's not ACTUALLY smart enough to be preventing my asphyxiation, but somehow she timed it perfectly and right as my eyes opened back up I sat up and lunged for the toilet to have another go at blowing chunks. Good puppy.
TL;DR: | My puppy nurtured me back to health and prevented my own asphyxiation. Inadvertently, of course. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] stuck on my ex [21 F], from 4 years ago in a relationship lasting 3 months
POST: I want to be brief because there is so much I could say and it is hard for me to talk about still.
We were best friends for 2 and a half years. We did everything together. We decided to begin dating and had a fantastic time. We both loved each other very much and she was so comfortable with me that she said she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me. I didn't do anything wrong nor did she. One day she just called and broke it off. We stopped talking and ended up going to the same college. We're still nice to each other but I haven't talked to her/seen her in over a year.
I still think about her at least once a day. It's been 4 years and I don't know why I'm stuck on her. I don't know what I did wrong. I'm scared and lonely and hiding it behind controlled anger, always wanting to burst. I don't know what to do. The worst part is she is not the same person she used to be.
I miss her. Please come back to me.
My question is how do I move past this?
TL;DR: | Girlfriend 4 years ago broke up out of the blue. I miss her but want to move on. How do I do this? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [23F] boyfriend [27M] of six months doesn't seem to want to have sex with me.
POST: My boyfriend and I used to be FWB before the inevitable happened and we would have a lot of sex. Now that we are dating, we hardly have sex. We both have a lot going on in our lives and are considering moving in together, but his not being physically attracted (or so I think) to me is weighing down on me. I've tried to talk to him, but he beats around the bush and does not give me a straight answer. Today, I sort of snooped around his computer (my first mistake) and saw that he has recently watch quite a bit of porn. Reddit, please give me advice!
TL;DR: | SO and I used to have a lot of sex, we don't anymore. Found porn on his computer. Help. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (25F) boyfriend (26M) is a terrible kisser.
POST: Hi, relationships.
My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and we have a great relationship and an a amazing sex life. I have no complaints whatsoever except for one thing. He is the worst kisser ever.
It didn't bother me at first but recently it has been getting under my skin a little bit and so I thought I would post here to get some fresh perspectives on it.
He is fine when it comes to quick pecks hello/goodbye, or random little kisses throughout the day but when it comes to kissing during sex it's awful. He goes way too fast and shoves his whole tongue in my mouth, and because he's going at warp speed we end up out of sync and with slobbery faces, so we don't end up making out for long. The problem is, I love kissing him! Especially during foreplay, making out is a huge turn on for me. I just wish he would go slower and not give me a dental exam with his tongue.
I have tried to tell him this a couple of times and for the first few minutes of making out he will go slower and gentler, and then it starts to go downhill again. How can I approach this subject with him without hurting his feelings? Help!
TL;DR: | Boyfriend is a lousy kisser. How can I tell him/help him to get better without being too mean? |
SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice
TITLE: Not sure if overly imposing my ideas upon her.
POST: Woman of reddit,
I need your help QAQ
I[19] met "her"[17] through a mutual friend at a convention. We soon found a common topic and have been messaging almost every night and meeting up for movies occasionally.
Whenever there's something that goes wrong or a situation she needs advice in, I seem to be the only person she consults. She's not the $ type of person, often rejects when I offer to buy her stuff(without a reason, only when she mentions she likes it). We're not a couple or anything. I've asked her for a relationship once, but it ended in a week as she felt that she wasn't ready for a relationship and neither was I. After that, we have been continuing our friendship as per normal, doing stuff together for close to 1.5 years.
We suddenly stopped talking for a month(for no apparent reason)
and she PM-ed me on facebook for advice.
I'm terribly confused and decided to play the silent game having seen the problem as I wasn't in the mood to talk to her since she hasn't contacted me in a month.(She often initiate the conversation) We're both shy person.
TL;DR: | I[19],Her[17] been friends 1.5 years.We go out occasionally, PM on facebook almost everyday |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I (23f) hold out on sex with a guy I am interested in having a relationship with?
POST: The question now seems to have a pretty obvious answer. But I'm serious. I've never been in a committed, long-term relationship. It has turned out to be no more than casual sex with nearly every guy I've seen.
Admittedly, I have had a hard time saying no. The longest I've held out on a guy is a week or two. I have justified this to myself that "with the right guy, it won't matter if I give it up right away. He'll be the *right* one, and will like me for *me*." Plus I put myself in the situation (ie. his house alone) which makes it that much harder.
I'm just done with casual sex. I want to meet someone. I want a relationship. I just don't know how to go about finding one.
My brother's say to hold out on the sex. They swear by it. I have yet to see if this works (haven't exactly tried it). Is that what it is, though? To simply not give up the goods? Or is there something wrong with me?
TL;DR: | I've never "held out" on a guy and am wondering if this is why I haven't been in a relationship |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Wife [27F] wants to leave me [27M] for a guy [23M] she met online.
POST: The quick synopsis:
We've been together for 9 years (4 years dating, 3 years engagement, 1.5 years married). We've only been living together after we got married.
After our latest argument, we got angry at each other and told me she doesn't want love me any more and wants to leave. After 3 days of talking, she finally told me that she wanted to leave for a 23M living a different state. She only communicated with this guy via her online video games and its respective forums. I kicked her out and is now living with her mother. She's looking to find her own place and then meeting this guy.
I feel betrayed. I have a lawyer set up for our separation agreement.
What I want to know is that since she hasn't met the guy yet, would it be right/wrong for me to continue. I still have feelings for her and believe this guy is just preying on her vulnerable state.
TL;DR: | Wife[27F] wants to leave me[27M] for a guy she met online and are not in the same state. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [25m] FWB [23f] of 6 months won't have sex with me "right now" since she's "gone gay these days".
POST: I've known this girl since college and we became close. Eventually a sexual relationship formed. After a few years apart we meet again and behind a friendship filled with casual sex. I always knew she was bisexual and didn't care because she seemed pretty interested in having sex with me regularly.
She had me over two weeks ago and this week when I suggest we have some sex she tells me she doesn't want to fuck me "right now" and has "gone gay these days".
My question: I get that we are both using each other for sex to some degree. But am I being used only when it's convenient for her?
TL;DR: | bisexual FWB has "gone gay" and can't have sex with me "right now". Am I wrong for feeling used? |
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