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SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Time For Change..
POST: Hello, Reddit... 20 y/o female here...
Basically, I got on the depo provera birth control shot when I was in High school, and between the ages of 15 and 18 I went from 125 lbs to 225 lbs. I felt awful, so I got off the shot. In my first year of college, I lost 30 lbs without doing anything--just walking around campus, I suppose. I gained a few pounds over the summer because I stopped walking places and ate a lot of junk....
I just finished my second year of college. I am finally feeling the motivation and inspiration build, rather than self pity and excuses. I am ready to begin my transformation. I am sick of all the names I try to label myself to feel better... "BBW", "Vuluptious", "Curvy", and a more recent favorite, "hourglass with a little extra time". There is nothing wrong with having curves, and I hope to keep mine for the most part... but the rest, it's time to get rid of.
SO, the point of this post is, though I feel motivated right now, I am terrified that it won't work or I will fail.. I am terribly addicted to soda/coffee, and to make things worse, I work at McDonald's. I guess I am looking for some helpful stories or tips/tricks that have worked for others.
TL;DR: | I got fat in high school, lost some in college, and I am ready to keep going; how to stay on track? |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: What to do?
POST: Hi reddit, 18 yo female here. I am very confused. I was in a long distance relationship with a guy (22m) for 4 years and we finally ended the distance last March when he decided to move here. Everything was great for the first month....we were like a new couple. Since then we had been arguing everyday and we just weren't happy together. Things became a bit violent with him ("accidentally" kicking me, throwing a garbage bag at my face) so I decided to end it. This was a month ago. Since then I have been okay, hanging out with my friends, just living life while he sat at home upset 24/7. What else was he supposed to do? He doesn't have many friends here. Anyways...he finally decided that he may move back to the Netherlands and if I really feel that I love him I should show it. When he told me this, my heart sank. I am not sure if it's because I really do love him or if it's because he is all I have ever known. What do I do reddit? try to work things out or let him go back to the Netherlands. I would love some advice.
TL;DR: | Ex bf of 4 years may go back to his home country, I am not sure how I feel about it |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Regifting a good idea?
POST: My (44f) bf's (27m) mother (46f) gave me a pair of Ugg boots for Christmas. I have never cared for Ugg; thus I have never wanted a pair. My daughter (12) has been asking for a pair since she was 8, but I couldn't justify spending that amount of money on still-growing feet. She now wears a 6.5 while I wear a 7. The Uggs are 7's and should fit her. Is it wrong for me to give her these boots, which I will never wear? My bf's mom and I get along great, and I don't want to do anything that would hurt her.
TL;DR: | Is it wrong to give my daughter the Uggs my bf's mom gave me for Christmas since I don't like Uggs? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Do you remember where you were and what you were doing when you first heard reports of the 9/11 attacks?
POST: I was 8 at the time. I remember that my mom was going to let me and my brother stay home that day, but then we started misbehaving and my mom said we were going to go to school.
Before we left (about 8:50-9:00), I remembered seeing a report about the towers and seeing a lot of smoke. As I was watching, I remember seeing live footage of the second plane hitting. After that, my mom rushed us out the door and took us to school.
No one in the school had heard of the attacks and they weren't mentioned at all. I went to my 2nd grade class like normal.
Before I went to recess, I told my 2nd grade teacher, "They attacked the towers." (Why I didn't tell her that before, I can't remember)
After I got back from recess, all of the teachers were in a frenzy and my 2nd grade teacher was crying in the room with the TV on.
I didn't understand any of it, so life went on normal for me, but I was pretty confused as to what happened that day and haven't thought about it much until recently.
TL;DR: | I was about to go to school and I saw the 2nd plane crash into the WTC on 9/11/01 |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] with my ex-girlfriend [19 F] 3 weeks, ex wants me back.
POST: (Posting for a friend)
Dated girl A for 18 months. Eventually things turned sour, she got back into class A drugs, after 18 months off and then started being really secretive. I wasn't happy with the relationship towards the end up still loved her so didn't want to let go. Girl A broke it off because she wanted to be "free" and enjoy being young.
Girl B is gorgeous, really ambitious, super nice and generally really understanding. I've been talking to girl b for a few weeks and seen her a few times. We get on really well and shes so lovely. Girl A has started being nice again and said she wants me back and made mistakes and is turning her life around. I still have feelings for girl A, i've never felt so comfortable around someone but shes jobless, doesnt really have any ambition and is a bit rough round the edges. Girl B, is awesome, has her life all sorted, is prettier, she has everything.
TL;DR: | Do i go back to my ex (who may have turned a corner) or do i carry on with the new one? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Why do I (26m) keep getting passed over?
POST: I'm intelligent and articulate, despite not having gone to college yet (life circumstances have prevented me from pursuing post secondary education so far). I'm reasonably attractive and athletic; I pump iron 10-15 hours a week, every week, and have a healthy diet overall.
I love to cook. I have a fulltime job and keep a tight budget. I'm up front, honest, but never cruel. I don't cheat or sleep around. I don't party, do drugs, smoke, or drink. I'm supportive and loyal almost to a major fault. I may not be funny, but I have a quick wit. And I am willing to give everything while asking for little.
So why am I constantly getting cast aside for some other flavor of the month or passed over altogether? Because I'm bipolar (the only "tell" I have in day to day life off reedit is that I tend to be glass half empty)? Because I'm not pulling in 60k a year or have a degree from Harvard? Because I live with my dad while I save money to move back out on my own? Because I'm a divorcee?
TL;DR: | why am I a non-option when I should be meeting most of the criteria of desirability in a mate? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My gf [18 F] of 3 months just told me [19 M] , that she asked my best friend to send her nudes.
POST: So I've been going out with my gf for a little over 3 months and I am the first person she has ever had sex with. At 1 point I brought up the idea of us having a threesome with one of her girlfriends after she watched us having sex once. A couple months went by and lo and behold my best friend who lives right across the street from me broke up with girlfriend of 10 months. The same day this happens she brings up the idea of us having a 3 way or even a 4 way with my best friend and her best friend as well as setting them up together. I was a bit apprehensive and told her I was unsure. However today she told me she asked my best friend for nudes and he sent her pictures of him erect in underwear. She said she did it because her friend told her I was flirting with her which isn't true I only ever text her to ask where my gf is or sending her a group message to her and my gf. I honestly don't know what to do i just feel incredibly betrayed and feel like I have no one to talk to about it since she did it with my best friend.
TL;DR: | My GF asked my best friend for nudes. He sent suggestive picturtes and I don't know what to do now. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27F] with my cousin and close friend [25 F] of a lifetime, I am supposed to be the Maid of Honor at her wedding, but just found out I'm pregnant and due two weeks later.
POST: My cousin who we will call Dana can be a rather overdramatic individual, but so far she's been chill about everything with the wedding. We went to the same college and were roommates for one year in an apartment nearby campus. We're still very close. She asked me to be her Maid of Honor, and I accepted, I was thrilled.
My husband and I found out we're having a baby right after the wedding, two weeks later in fact. Given that I will be nine months pregnant at the time, and that there's even a chance I'll be doing one of a hundred things like in the hospital, going into labor, on bedrest, etc, I will obviously have to drop out of the wedding party.
What is the politest, nicest way I can convey this to her? I want her to know I'm still going to be supportive and try to help as muc has possible, but I will have to focus on the bun in the oven instead of her.
Thanks, /r/relationships!
TL;DR: | Am pregnant, can no longer be my cousin's MOH, and need to figure out a way to tell her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/weddingplanning
TITLE: Wedding is on Saturday...and everyone is sick :-(
POST: I just need to get some complaints out and some reassurance. I (stupidly) flew to my sister and her fiancee's joint bachelorette party two weeks before our wedding. When they started planning it, I voiced concerns about it being right before our wedding but they did it anyway. I wasn't even thinking about the possibility of getting sick from the airplane, just about making myself stressed. But sure enough, I flew back on Saturday the 30th and was sick on the 31st.
I'm getting better, but still coughing a lot. Now FH, who has been pretty okay so far, is saying he thinks he's getting sick. And when he gets sick, he gets SICK. MOH (my sister) emailed this morning. She's sick too and has lost her voice. Another bridesmaid gchatted me, says she's sick too.
AHHHHHH!!!!! Why is EVERYONE sick. I am so afraid this will ruin everything and the most important people in my life will be miserable at the wedding. I knew SOMETHING would go wrong at some point, but now I'm feeling like this something is going to cause people to not have fun.
TL;DR: | I'm sick, FH is probably getting sick, MOH has laryngitis, bridesmaid is sick. FML. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by reading TIFU
POST: TIFU by actually sifting through some of your endless dribble. I have another four letter acronym for most of you: STFU. It is clear to me now that the vast majority of posters in this sub are 15 years old.
I don't hold your age against you. Every great human being was once the stupid, stupider, or stupidest teenage lump of flesh. But the single incidents of idiocy put on display by the reddit users in this subreddit is orders of magnitude greater than the aggregate bum-fuckery of the stupid, stupider, and stupidest teenage lumps of flesh from the past. And the one thing, the ONE THING that makes the stupid shit that you do today so much worse than the stupid shit that we did when I was 15, is that you share it for the sole purpose of feeding your own narcissism. And the worst offense about sharing your self-inflicted gun shot wounds (besides the fact that you are all living proof that our education system is fucked up beyond repair) is that they aren't even funny. Hell, most of them aren't even real. So, not only do you sound like a bunch of complete pussies, but your written communication skills are atrocious. That and the stories which you are making up are boring as shit. Thanks, assholes, for wasting my buzz.
TL;DR: | TIFU by wasting an hour reading fake shit, written by 9th grade drop-outs, that wasn't even funny. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I like my boss. What do I do?
POST: So I have (in my opinion) a really cute boss. Normally, I would not have thought anything more of it but a couple of months ago I started to develop feelings for her. We get along so great, love similar jokes, activities etc. Seeing her puts a smile on my face. Flirting unfortunately goes over my head so I can't tell if she is flirting with me or we are just having a good time. she always seems to smile when I enter the room, we always laugh and have fun together. I get to have 2 hour meetings with her about how I am doing at my job. We also get to talk about our lives. Should I tell her that I like her and risk making things awkward? or should I keep it to myself and let it bother me?
TL;DR: | My boss and I get along great. Don't know if flirting or just having fun. Do I tell her? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [25F] My housemate's [40sM] dog keeps giving fleas to my cat and he won't treat her or do anything about it?
POST: Hey reddit,
This is more of an interpersonal problem-solving issue than anything, but anyway, I share a rental house with 3 other people. Two are a father and son. We all occasionally hang out/make dinners together, have spent time together on vacation, etc.--so it's not just a business-transaction type roommate arrangement.
To make a long story short, for months my strictly indoor cat has been getting fleas. When I noticed, I treated her with Advantage, vacuumed the sh*t out of everything in the house, put down diatomaceous earth (safely!), baking soda, etc etc. Basically doing everything I can to control it. I told Housemate that if my cat had fleas, his dog probably did too, but he swore she didn't.
Point is, it has been months, it is winter, and I think that a) Dog obviously has fleas and b) they are living in the carpet or plush things and coming out and feeding on her. They couldn't survive off my cat because she had taken Advantage. He refuses to take Dog to the vet and when I tried to take her (we have the same vet and they know me), they wouldn't let me even get her checked for fleas because I need to be on the list of 'owners' for her to get her an appointment.
TL;DR: | Housemate's dog has fleas, keeps re-infesting my cat, won't do anything about it. Wat do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [26 M] suggested that my gf of one year [25 F] and I should do our laundry separately. She gets sad and thinks I'm distancing myself from her
POST: Background: we live in an apartment and just got a washing machine installed. I figured that since washing will now require considerably less planning, and can be done whenever, there's not really a reason anymore to take turns doing eachother's laundry.
My reasoning is that we could eliminate an unnecessary source for potential conflict by simply doing our own laundry whenever we feel like it. Right now there's a whole lot of "Who's turn is it? How do I wash these? I need clean clothes, when are you going to do the laundry?" going on. Not to mention that her laundry is about twice the size of mine (although I didn't mention that to her).
Basically all upsides with zero downsides. I don't want separate lives; I just want our household to work well. Yet she feels hurt by the mere notion.
TL;DR: | Am I a cold hearted douchebag for suggesting we do our laundry separately, or is she overreacting? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [Breakups] Me [19M] with my Ex-GF[23F]. She cheated on me and looking for revenge.
POST: Hi guys,
My problem is I was with older woman. She told me that she loved me and we would be together forever etc. But after couple of months she just cheated on me and she broke up. It would be OK, unless after breaking with her new ex-bf she wanted me to be her friend. It wasn't fair for me, so I told her I wouldn't stand it. Now she is looking for taking revenge on me (e.g. she gossips to my friends, telling them weird thing about me) and I don't know what to do and how I should react.
TL;DR: | My ex-gf cheated on me and now she's trying to take revenge on me for not being her friend. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I [20 M] deal with my roomate's [20 M] inappropriate behavior?
POST: So I am in my junior year of college. I am living in a suite with 3 other guys one of who is my roomate. Lets call him Kevin. I have been friends with Kevin since freshman year and he is a really great guy generally.
However, I do have some issues with him as a roomate. I guess the first issue and probably the most common one is that he snores a lot which keeps me up at night. I have insomnia so this is a serious issue. Kevin is overweight so I think he has sleep apnea. If any of you have tips for dealing with this problem please give them to me.
They more delicate issues I am having with my roomate is masturbation. He has twice tried to jerk it in the room when he knew I was both there and awake. I had to tell him to stop both times. Also he will deliberately leave the room and fake closing the door (he closes it as far as he can without the auto lock coming on). He will then rush back in the room after a few minutes. He always makes some excuse that makes no sense. Friday he did this 3 times in 10 minutes. I don't why he does this.
So any advice for dealing with these issues would be nice.
TL;DR: | My roomates snores loudly and I'm an insomniac. Also he masturbates while I am in the room. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Please help! I [16F] want to cut ties with my toxic family as soon as I turn 18. How can I achieve this?
POST: ** **Note**: I'm going to put "family" in quotation marks because, honestly, we are anything but. But they are my biological "family", unfortunately.
**Background:**
I am currently a junior in high school. Technically, when I graduate I'll only be 17. However, only a little while after that, I'll turn 18.
I don't want to get into specifics of my situation with my family because I have friends that use Reddit and I don't want to cause alarm. But to get an idea of what I'm dealing with, I've been physically harmed by every single member of my immediate "family" at least once (including me, we are a "family" of 5. I am the youngest. I'm currently fine, though for those who may be concerned). This is just one of many other things, there's also emotional abuse.
**Issue at hand:**
I've read countless stories on here and other corners of reddit about how people were able to move out and get away from their families as soon as they turned 18. I need to be able to do this.
How do I plan this out? How do I become financially independent from my parents? How would I pay for college? If any of you have successfully done this, can you share with me how you did this?
*Please* help me Reddit, I don't know how to do this on my own.
TL;DR: | I want to move out and cut contact with my "family" when I turn 18. How do I go about doing this? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I [22/M] don't always feel emotionally attracted to my girlfriend [22/F] and I'm not sure what to do...
POST: We started dating about 3 months ago and overall, the relationship has been good and things have gotten pretty serious. She's one of the kindest people I know. I could write a laundry list of reasons why I should feel more emotionally/romantically attached to her than I actually do. It's nothing about the relationship itself that makes me unhappy -- she's truly a great person, we get along well, I'm physically attracted to her, we share the same values, she's got a great family, etc.
It just seems to me that no matter how many reasons I find to fall in love with her, my emotions are always a few steps behind. I'm not totally happy in the relationship because I can't figure out how I feel, but I think that I'd be even more unhappy if we were to break up. I don't know whether to have a serious conversation with her about it, to just give myself some time to process everything, or where I should go from here. Am I being selfish? Am I just emotionally exhausted? Any insight that you'd like to offer?
TL;DR: | I'm struggling to love one of the most lovable people I've ever met and it keeps me awake at night. |
SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice
TITLE: My exgf who left me after a period of me treating her bad when i was depressed messaging me saying she really misses our friendship
POST: We broke up 8-9months ago now. I was distraught for a long time, made all the stupid first time deep love mistakes of begging/pleading.
The whole period since breakup has been very hot and cold. I still love her insanely but what she put me through at my lowest point i don't think i could get over, despite how awful i was during our last few months.
Everytime we see eachother i'm either too polite or i pretend to have not seen her. Things have very much been awkward.
She messaged me today moaning about insulting her about her hair colour when all i said is i preferred it the colour she had it when we were together, that she wants it to be civil and that she really misses the friendship.
I can't do this though, because i love her. It's too hard. Worst thing is though we live in a small town with so many mutual connections its unreal.
TL;DR: | I love this girl but friends is too hard for me, i don't know what to do and i can't avoid her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU - by not knowing what fisting meant.
POST: this happened years ago but hey i recently joined reddit. I was around 15 and new to America so I was quite unfamiliar with sexual references and American slangs. In my class we were actually discussing public transport problems relating to young people not giving up their seat for the older travelers.
I stood up to share an anecdote which involved violence on a train which happened when an old lady started beating a young guy for not standing up for her. I proceeded to say, "to make the guy leave, the granny started 'fisting' the poor guy".....
The entire class burst out laughing and the teacher was shocked that I said that. I awkwardly asked whats so funny and that seemed to make it much worse. It was horrible given that i was new in school. I had no idea what fisting actually meant until after they told me; i thought it just meant to beat someone up.
TL;DR: | I put the image of a granny 'fisting' a guy on a train, in everyone;s mind by accident. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22 F] am SO BAD at making/keeping friends...what is wrong with me?
POST: I'm not mean to people or anything so I'm confused about what it is about me that people don't seem to like or are put off by.
I'm pretty silly, and weird, and I have a unique sense of humour. I get the feeling that people would just prefer if I was more normal, but I could be totally wrong cause....
I am really bad at reading people. I don't actually have any idea how people feel about me unless they tell me, and potential new friends don't usually share that right off the bat. Part of the reason that I feel like people don't like me is because they do not seem to act the same way towards me as to other people that are friends with.
But, I actually don't really know what a "friending script" looks like. I'm not sure what the normal sequence of events/actions is for making friends. All I can tell is that my non-romantic relationships seem really different than those of my peers.
Most of my non-romantic relationships don't go past the acquaintance stage. I'm just so lost because I would take further steps to make the acquaintances into friends (if they were willing of course) but I don't know what those steps should be...and I don't want to guess and put people off even further by doing the wrong things.
I really appreciate any advice people have. Criticism is welcome.
TL;DR: | I'm a weirdo, and I don't know how to make friends. Or maybe everyone just hates me. HALP. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Can't tell if she (F, mid-20s) is flirting/interested in me (M29) or not
POST: The gist of it is this: there's a girl that I'm interested in that works at a restaurant around the corner from my office that I've been going to a few times a week for lunch for the last three weeks or so. When most people go up to the counter to order she's friendly, but she rarely goes beyond confirming their order and thanking them.
With me it seems different. She'll ask how my day is going, how my weekend was, and tell me about her days off (most just about the evening, having drinks, playing pool etc) when I reciprocate. Now normally I'd chalk this up to her being friendly with a regular, but then last week I got a note.
Normally she doesn't do food preparation, but for some reason last Tuesday she made my burger and commented to me how she'd made me the perfect chicken burger (I made a stupid comment about being disappointed if it wasn't, but let's not go there today). She also wrote on the top of the wrapper "This chicken loves you. Enjoy :)".
My initial thinking was sure, she's gotta be into me, right? But to be honest this is the sort of thing I'm terrible at. All of my past relationships have been started through mutual acquaintances so knowing if someone was into you to get things started was never an issue. Add to that I don't even know her name, and I start thinking I'm just reading too much into this.
TL;DR: | Girl at restaurant I frequent chats me up/writes me notes, but I can't tell if she's into me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [16 F] and my Boyfriend [16 M] have nowhere to go, help?
POST: We've been friends for years and have been dating two months, and really, really like each other.
We go on formal dates every week, and have a lot of fun going to the park and to museums and doing homework together.
Then, at the end of the date, we try and kiss, like any couple would.
We've been caught four out of the six times kissing in his car by friends or family. It's not like we do it out in the open, we always go park somewhere discreet, but then get shit for it from everyone afterwards. I go home and get yelled at for being a slut, he gets yelled at for being out too late or just teased in general.
I live 30 minutes away from him, so going to each others houses is out of the question.
It's not like we're a bunch of horny teenagers, but we've never been able to kiss or cuddle together because of lack of a place to go.
TL;DR: | We have nowhere to go to be together except his car, and even then people find out. What do we do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22 M] with my coworker[20F], Want to ask her out but not sure how to go about it.
POST: so this is an update from a previous post that didnt get any comments but got a few up votes, so... here's the link to that last post :
TL;DR: | I like a girl at work, think she may be in to me too, not sure if i should ask her out. |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: I gave a speech today
POST: And didn't panic or start crying.
I have taken a handful of classes in which I had to give a long speech and I would imagined myself doing well, but the writing was difficult, even if i did a lot of research I would get lost in it and not know how to give the speech. So my speeches were terrible panic for me..once I ditched one, took an incomplete for the course. Last time, I was 45minutes late for class and hadn't finished it, it was supposed to be 15 min long but I only gave 5 min and dropped my note cards, and was humiliated.
But today I gave a speech and even though I was nervous and not entirely prepared again, I stayed focused and I finished it. I didn't have a panic attack or cry or leave the room. I paused a few times to gather my words but I said everything I needed to, and I didn't feel dread. I was calm and focused even though my posture was leaning into the podium. It wasn't perfect, but for me it was a vast improvement from the last few years of just reacting to stressful situations.
So...yay.
TL;DR: | Gave a full speech calmly, didn't cry or panic even though in the past I have done that a lot. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I've [19 F] recently got a relationship with a guy [19 M] with Asperger's Syndrome.
POST: I've recently just got in a relationship with a guy that has Asperger's and I really want to make sure to make him comfortable, and I want to be aware of what to do/not to do.
I've known him for a while and began to hang out with a lot, then found out from a friend that he has Asperger's. It doesn't bother me that he has it, because he really a sweet guy and I've fell in love with a lot personality traits, but I want to make sure how to handle certain situations ect.
I have read quite a few articles about what to expect when being in a relationship with an Aspie, but I'm still wondering if anyone has any tips and ways to keep a stable relationship with him.
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TL;DR: | ):Any helpful advice, and things to be aware of, while dating a guy who has Asperger's Syndrome. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Any ideas why I [18M] keep seeing the same girl [19F] in my dream?
POST: Not sure if this is where I should post this
So, this girl [19F] I used to date a long time ago [5 Month Relationship] but I wouldn't really consider it a relationship mainly because we basically didn't act like we cared about each other. After we broke up we slowly drifted apart and no we don't talk at all
Anyway all of a sudden, she keeps popping up in my dream, and it's the same thing each night, hugging me and then kissing me on the cheek flirty stuff like that..
Anyway it's kind of awkward seeing her in a dream all of a sudden and I have no idea what it is.. Any ideas?
TL;DR: | a girl I used to date but no longer talk to or see appears in my dream, dafuq does this mean? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Is it possible? Read and tell me..
POST: Imagine a place, a place where everyone, be they black, white, yellow, Jew, christian, Muslim or other, can take of the cape of responsibility. A place to relax, enjoy and grow as a human being.
Some people have that, they can do that in their home. But most of us don't have that luxury.
Let's take me for example;
When I grew up, I had to take care of my four siblings, I fed them, clothed them, got them to school and back, in short; I had to be a parent. At the age of 7.
I'm not complaining about that, I did what was necessary. But I remember that feeling I had when I just wanted to get away. To drop it all for just a couple of hours. To be ME. I never got that.
Today I'm all grown up, and I might just have the opportunity to give that to someone who's in those shoes today. In my mind it's my responsibility to give them that respite. To give them the opportunity to do something new and exciting.
My question to you, reddit, is this: What's your thoughts on the matter?
How do you propose I make this into reality?
TL;DR: | I want to start a youth center for kids who need it. Now don't be a dick and read the damn text! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Broke up with my [24/M] boyfriend [22/M] of 11 months...not sure if I made the right decision.
POST: There's a myriad of factors that led to this, many of which I'm not even capable of explaining because I honestly don't understand them.
To start off, we had a great relationship. We very rarely fought, we always had a good time, and we got along great.
I guess the crux of the problem was that we weren't super intimate. I never really felt "love" for him, and frankly I didn't enjoy the sex very much. This is probably entirely my fault. I've just never been a very intimate person. Everyone talks about "fire" in their relationships, and I just didn't feel that. That's really the biggest reason I broke up with him. My biggest fear is growing old and regretting a long-term relationship.
So I finally decided to cut it off before it became too difficult to do. And now... I don't know if that was right. When I think about it, my chest hurts and it feels like maybe doing this is the thing I'll regret. I truly liked him, and I enjoyed being with him and spending time with him. I don't know if I want to spend the rest of my life with him, but I feel empty right now. Maybe he was something I needed at this point in my life.
TL;DR: | Am I just scared of change, or did I not realize how I felt about what I had until it was gone? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Girlfriend[f/21] 4 problems
POST: 1st problem:
I posted this online a few days ago.
I have told her yet that I want to go with my parents to Italy. How should I tell her without hurting her too much?
2nd problem:
My girlfriend always complains and gets mad because I am an open person and don't really have big opinions (she calls me wishy washy) about anything. I am really laid back and get intimidated easily when someone's opinion clashes with mine. So, I'm not confrontational. However, my girlfriend has applied to her master degree in English and likes to voice her opinion on subjects (usually about colonialism, Natives, and race/gender). We were talking through text about how 'helping' in other countries sucks because of colonialism and the people helping feeling superior. (basically this article: I had a different opinion than her. I think it was pretty ignorant, but I was like not everyone is superior and some people do things with random acts of kindness. It got to the point where she told me she can't date me anymore because she is going to masters and is going to specialize in these topics. She also said that I was ignorant. What should I do? Should I say sorry? Any advice?
TL;DR: | 1st problem: gf says I'm privilege and doesn't want me to go to a family trip to Rome for 2 weeks |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, I really need your advice right now. Please I need your help
POST: I've been dating this girl for a while now, and we're kinda serious about our relationship at the same time we're just having fun with it. For the past weeks I've been doing a lot of you can say "romantic" gestures for her such as, surprising her with gifts, cooking her dinner and what not and she's always appreciative about that....well at least I hope so. The problem is I don't feel it, sure she says "thank you" and "that's really nice of you" but it seems that she doesn't return the favor, as far as I know anyway. Right now I can't sleep because I keep feeling unappreciated, I want to bring this issue up to her but I might look like I'm being petty or just doing all those nice stuff because I want something in return, the case I don't but I can't help feeling this way. So what do you think I should do?
TL;DR: | I want to tell my gf that I feel I'm not appreciated but don't want to look like an asshole. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Does anyone else do this strange crap with words/sentences?
POST: I have a strange mental habit relating to words. Sometimes it's a word or sentence I see on a sign or pick out of a conversation or song, doesn't really matter.
I'll rearrange sentences from least amount of letters per word to most, with words with the same number in alphabetical order. Apostrophes count as half a number ("don't" comes after "that").
Example: Let's go to the tire store today. =
go to the tire let's store today
I also have 'alternate' letters for pretty much every letter and I'll change certain words to this 'new language' in my mind.
A=O, B=P, C=G, D=T, E=U, F=V, J=K, L=R, M=N, S=Z, W=Y,
...And the other way around
I see these as 'hard' and 'soft' version of sounds.
Example: person becomes 'bulzam' and alphabet becomes 'orbhopud' but since V is the opposite of F, it's a V sound... Like 'orvopud'.
I also say words backwards in my head, but that's a different story.
Anyone do anything similar?
TL;DR: | I rearrange words/letters/sentences in my head randomly and I think I might be crazy. Am I? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How do I become super wealthy and successful?? I'm educated and have serious ambition.
POST: I'm 20 years old and currently attending college. I have several investment ideas that I want to expand upon in the near future. I want to be a known figure in the technology industry within the next 5-10 years. I am currently enrolled for my BS in Computer Information Systems, and would like to pursue my MS in Management Information Systems. Is there anyone out there that has some investment/business tricks up their sleeves that are not very well known yet always come back with some sort of a positive return? I have two other friends that are both very intelligent in the computer systems area and are great at programming and web development. I would like to get them involved so that we can multiply our knowledge to become more successful and create greater technologies and spread ideas and knowledge throughout the globe. So, fellow redditors, can you help us out??
TL;DR: | I want to become rich with two other computer guru's and we have tons of ambition, how do we do it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] and my girlfriend [21 F] just broke up after 2 years and I don't feel anything.... why?
POST: So we have been dating for almost 2 years and I love this girl. I'm pretty serious about relationships like if I cannot commit 100% or see a future with the person I won't date them.
I went to work at a summer camp for a month in July and since I got back in August our relationship has been different. It was absolutely amazing before. We never had fights or anything and we could always talk anything out with civility. But since I've gotten back its been very tense and she seems like she's never happy and fun like she used to be. Anyway she immediately could tell I was bothered by it and we talked about it a lot.
This past week was really bad and we talked about it yesterday and today. I don't want to leave her but I'm not 100% committed to it anymore, I've been unhappy with it for a month and I didn't want to hurt her feelings so it was incredibly hard to tell her that I didn't think things were going to get better. When I finally did, I teared up a little. She has been crying since we first talked and I haven't cried or felt much of anything like remorse since it happened a couple hours ago. I still love this girl so much but I don't feel anything about us breaking up and I don't know why.
TL;DR: | Broke up with long term gf and I don't feel sad to see her go or happy to be done with it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [21F] of 5 years. She has been asking for an engagement for a year now, I'm still in school and not ready for it.
POST: I have been with my lovely girlfriend for over 5 years. We both agree it is a long time and but she is strongly persuing to get engaged, though I still have 1 year of school left till I get my degree. I have always believed that a man is not ready to get engaged or married til he has a steady job to do so.
This topic has been explored hundreds of times between us, but I continuously explain that the reason why other people get engaged and married so early is because they met eachother older.
We don't live together yet so we call eachother a lot, she would ask me at least 3 times a day in the recent week. I am so tired of explaining that I am not ready.
I mean....I do want to get married in the future, but doesn't a true relationship do not require a piece of papers and a piece of metal circle? In my mind, true partners will not care about anything in the physical world, they take care of eachother no matter what the physical conditions of their lives are.
TL;DR: | What do I do if I'm not ready for an engagement, but my gf continuously ask me for it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My GF [28F] feels I [32M] don't ask her enough personal questions.
POST: My girlfriend [28F] and I [32M] have been dating for about 4 months now. Recently after sex, she casually mentioned that she feels I don't ask her enough personal questions; as if there is a barrier between us.
This caught me off guard and came as a total shock. We seem to have great chemistry and have no problem conversing for hours. Sex is fantastic, and we don't seem to have any intimacy issues. We both have been completely honest with one another all along, and already know a great deal about each other. Further, we both on the same page, and want to further our relationship.
I asked her if she could provide me with an example, and she couldn't. I have no idea what she is possibly looking for. I know there is some sexual trauma in her past, we've talked about it once before. I don't really bring it up, because I don't want to delve into something that only brings up pain. I figured she would open up more about it when she is ready. I asked her if she was referring to this particular matter and she said no.
Any ideas? Am I reading too much into it?
TL;DR: | My GF [28F] feels I [32M] don't ask her enough personal questions after dating for 4 months. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I [21/M] recently broke up with my GF[21/F] of 3 years in a very bad way. Want to apologize her. Need help.
POST: So, recently I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years only with facebook. It was messy, I was angry on her, I was afraid to end it, I was not nice, I did not write it in nice way, let's say I fucked it up (but I did say no rude words or anything, it was just not nice). We had lot of issues in our relationship recently and I realized that I not love her anymore and she is not the person I want to be for the rest of my life. But I quite like her, she is good person, and she does not deserve this kind of ending.
I am afraid that she might also fail this semester in school, because of that, I was told that she is extremely sad and depressed. I'd like to help her, to leave good last impression, to tell her it was not her fault and to carry on with her life and to be happy.
I was thinking of letter, with something like "I am very sorry for things that happened [the break up thingy], I failed in that, I regret it very much. I am glad that we could be this long together, failure of relationship was my fault and you did your best, good luck in your next relationship and if you ever want to get in touch again, we can"
I also want to attach a treats and toy for her dog, 'cause she loves her.
What do you guys think of it? Any help will be appreciated. Thanks a lot in advance.
TL;DR: | fucked up breakup thingy, made my now ex gf sad, want to send her letter to ease her pain. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [18M] Does she [19F] want to be chased or is she blowing me off?
POST: Sorry for posting yet another inane teenage crush question, but this is ruining my weekend. Since my dad is useless at these things thanks to arranged marriage, here I am. Have mercy.
So there's this girl in my class that I was almost completely sure was into me. I was getting "that vibe," and we liked a lot of the same stuff, she laughed at my dumb jokes when no one else did, etc.
When I finally did ask her out, she said sometime later for sure, but she was distant, didn't say when, didn't offer or ask for a number, and kinda walked off. Distinctly felt like I was getting blown off. I said alright but was actually close to shitting my pants like a 98 year old after chipotle's. Good thing I didn't drive home, or people woulda died.
Next class, she didn't act weird and was still friendly, but she was the first one out the door. In normal circumstances, I would consider it a pretty clear sign to forget about it, but she had implied in the past that she was hard to get close to and required a lot of pursuit, so I'm confused.
There's another girl in class who's really hot, and I'm 100% percent sure she likes me (I know I'm batting a zero right now, but have faith), and I was thinking of flirting with her instead. But I don't want to mess up my chances with the first girl. I *really* like her.
TL;DR: | I asked her out, she gave a vague yes that felt like a blowoff, should I keep going or move on? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (21m) like my bestfriend(21f), what do i do?
POST: I've known her for 6 years now and had always seen her as a friend. 9 months ago we went to Cancun together with a group of friends and things changed after that. I start to think of her differently, in romantic ways of course, and i am positive she feels the same.
However, i never made a move because the same old "what if it does not work out and we can't be friend" mindset kicked in. I was treating her the same but feeling differently after we got back Cancun and that worked because we both were not seeing anyone, so it did not occur to me that things might change.
Just 2 weeks ago she started seeing a guy who is 27 years old, and it really bothers me. I started to ignore her texts and calls or just answer in minimum. That made me feel childish so eventually i decided that i should man up and tell her how i feel. Yesterday we finally went to dinner with another friend (i was going to tell her when i take her back to her house). They started talking about the guy she is seeing such as they made out and he was a nice guy. Sittig there listening to this killed me, and i believe my face reflected how i felt inside. I just dropped them off right away after dinner and did not bother to talk to her.
TL;DR: | i like my best friend but was couldn't man up and tell her, now she is seeing a guy, any advice? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How can we [m21][f22] strike up some passion again??
POST: I [f22] would like some more passion from my boyfriend [m22]. We've been together for almost 8 years and we've hit a bit of a rocky point in our relationship. I'm guessing that stress isn't helping (my family recently moved away and he's not doing well in school), but it's to the point where he doesn't even really want to kiss me. I've talked to him about it but he just says that he doesn't like the idea of it and he only wants to do it because I like it. We don't ever make out or anything more. Really, if I'm lucky I'll get a couple kisses (that I usually have to ask for) and that's it. I know he loves me, and he says it all the time, but it's been a couple of months and I need some attention! So, how do you guys keep some passion going or what do you think I should do?
TL;DR: | boyfriend [m21] doesn't even want to kiss me [f22], so how can I get that to change? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How do I get myself to get shit done? How do you do it?
POST: It has become somewhat of a problem to me. I know I will get in trouble (read: sacrifice sleep or a better grade), but I actively seek distraction in order not to get shit done (and by that, I mean mostly university assignments). The saddest part is that I don't even enjoy it. I don't do anything fun, like playing games or the piano, and I even use it as an excuse not to socialize, because I think I'm just about to start, but then I don't. Mostly I will read stupid stuff on the internet, and it's not even reddit's fault, I would always find something. How can I motivate myself?
TL;DR: | I'm unable to get shit done, and don't even do fun stuff. I just don't do anything at all. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (27/m) can't enjoy sex with my new gf (20/f)
POST: So I've been dating this girl for about a month. She's the first girl I've been with regularly in a couple of years. I love hanging out with her, we have things in common, we have good conversation... but I can't have sex with her. It turns into intercourse for 10-20 minutes, her getting off, and me giving up. I've absolutely never had anything like this happen to me. I don't know what to do, and I don't know how (or if) I can talk to her about this.
I put all the effort I can into making sure she's happy, but I know that she feels weird because I always just stop when she's done. I know this sounds ridiculous, and I'm probably posting this in the wrong place (on a throwaway), but I'm at a loss. And it really fucking sucks.
TL;DR: | I can't get off with my gf, who i'm pretty in to. she's suspicious, i'm depressed. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I am a [23 M] and I have never fought for a relationship. Am I wrong to just let go when an SO wants to end it?
POST: I have dated since college and been in 4 serious relationships. But every time one is coming to an end or they want to break up, I say okay and check out emotionally immediately. I have been told by ex's and friends that apparently this is not what a woman always wants when they break up with a guy. They tell me I am or they want me to fight for the relationship and try to save it.
What kind of game is this? I can't help that I can cut off feelings for someone when they tell me they don't think it is working or something like that. apparently it hurts more that I leave without a tear or sadness when they tell me in person. Even when I feel deeply for them or love them, I just check out right then and there. Am I wrong to do this?
TL;DR: | I am 23 M and never fought to save a relationship even if I loved them. Am I wrong to be that way? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What was the best sex dream you've ever had?
POST: Inspired by the lucid dreaming AMA, and all the questions regarding sex in dreams, I was wondering what everyone's best sex dream was. I'll start.
I was sitting in a movie theater alone, with a tub of popcorn. Sitting in the same row as me were two GORGEOUS college-aged girls, who kept looking and giggling at me. I can't remember what movie was playing, but I think it was something like a pixar animated film. But then all of a sudden...BAM, hardcore porn on the big screen. And who was this adult movie starring? Why, the two hot gals sitting just a few feet away from me of course.
I watched intently as the two women gorged themselves on a huge member, like dedicated professionals. Then the shot panned out a bit, revealing the male actor to be none other than myself! Watching myself get serviced got me pretty turned on, which led to the two girls in the theater coming over and re-enacting what was happening in the movie, sex-ception style.
TL;DR: | Double-threesome in a movie theater was the best sex dream I've ever had. What's yours? |
SUBREDDIT: r/cats
TITLE: How to treat feral cats that you want around?
POST: I live with my boyfriend occasionally and recently his apartment complex has had apprx 6 cats come by. He is allergic and can't have cats, but he is happy to help me keep the cats company so I can sorta have a cat of my own.
However, I have heard many stories from searching on reddit about feral cats and the problems they pose. I really wanna keep them around because I loooove cats, but at the same time I do not want anything bad to happen (my boyfriends dad owns the apartment complex, so if I did something bad it would stick around a while).
Any suggestions? Should I feed them? I gave them some old tuna cans we had eaten out of a few days prior and some old chicken, but nothing besides that. Do they pose a danger as far as diseases? Should I avoid them?
TL;DR: | A few feral cats were around my bf's last night and I wanna befriend them. Is this a good idea? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I just found out that my alcoholic mother is also doing drugs behind my back. How do I talk to her about it?
POST: So here's the deal: I'm fourteen years old, she's the only person I live with and really the only person who will take care of me. I've had my suspicions about it, but I always brushed it off because she talks about drugs as if she hated them. Last night my brother stayed with us, and he told me that she was smoking something, probably marijuana. Later I saw here holding a little pipe thing and trying to hide a ziploc bag of something behind her back.
She's always been a severe alcoholic and I've tried talking to her gently about that (she won't listen to me though), but this has crossed the line. If something happens to her and she can't take care of me, I have nowhere to go. I might be able to stay with my father for a few weeks but that's it. I'm sick of watching her throw her life away, I'm sick her spending her money on beer and cigarettes so I have no food to eat, and I'm sick of crying myself to sleep at night because of all this.
My best friend suggested that I threaten to call the cops or move out... But in both situations, I don't know what would happen to me. I'm just so upset and confused. I could really use some advice.
TL;DR: | My mom is doing drugs and I want to talk to her about it, but I don't know what to say. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by asking for taco bell
POST: So last night I was at home talking to my boyfriend on the phone when he said he was coming over to hangout. So before he left I asked for taco bell. His first reply was no but i talked him into it. I wait awhile then i hear him in the driveway, i let him in and instantly go to my food, at the time I was so happy to be with him. I get my 2 Doritos locos tacos out of the bag and destroy the first one in almost a minute. I then go and get my second one I open it up and it looked delicious. Until i took the first bite, it tasted very strange in a familiar way, then i take a second bite and I see sour cream dripping out and something else in it. I then look to my laughing boyfriend and ask him what it is. He said it was nothing and to continue eating it. I put it down and look him in the eyes and tell me. He finally budged and told me that he was horny in the car and shook his creamer into my taco. Needless to say i was furious, he was still laughing about it and said "You swallowed that now to can swallow when you give me a bj" I then made him leave and broke things off with him this morning.
TL;DR: | Asked bf for taco bell, bf was horny in the car ride, ate a Doritos locos sperm taco. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: We (Me=M18, Her=F18) don't talk for months at a time, I want to talk. But I think she's moved on.
POST: Holla! Throw away because she is an avid Reddit user!
So yeah, just as the title explains. My friend (use that term loosely) and I don't talk anymore. I've known her for 3 years and for the first two years, we talked on a regular basis. Talked about everything, everyone, divulged secrets etc. Then one day, I became less scarce and distanced myself because well...we kind of ran out of things to say. I found it hard to maintain a conversation because we had talked about EVERYTHING! Anyway, after that, we talked maybe...once every 2 months? Usually she initiated and i'd cut it short because, once again, nothing new to talk about.
With that out of the way, she got a boyfriend and i'm really happy for them! :) I met him once and he actually used to go to my old school! After that, we talked very rarely. I'd love to talk to her more regularly but the thing is, since we usually talk so...'spaced', i'm sure she'll find it odd if i talk to her on a regular basis.
I've got mixed feelings because she wants to bring me along with friends to Spring Break. So i guess that's a good sign...?
So yeah. My two things i would like sorted out are...
1. Is it too late to start talking again?
2. What do i do in terms of the content of our conversations? Nothing new really to say...
3. Anything else i should do?
Thanks <3
TL;DR: | Friend and i that used to be close with, haven't talked for a while and want to talk to her again. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, I feel that my work hours are becoming increasingly unfair; I've sat down with my managers, but they say that there's no alternative due to us being short-staffed. Do I have any other options, or am I stuck with a 6 day work week?
POST: First of all, I am the only one in my workplace that works 6 days a week, everyone else is given a full 2 days off.
I don't want to sound like an ungrateful person, I'm not unhappy with my line of work, and I know I'm lucky enough to *have* a job right now... I just **hate** these hours.
Here's a link to just my [current schedule](
Staff is allowed either a 30 or 60 minute break if they work **over** 5 hours in one day, in accordance with state law.
Including myself, there are 6 of us that work ~32 hours. There's also 3 assistants who work 20 hours (sometimes up to 30).
We are open all week, from 7am-12am Mon-Fri, 9am-6pm Saturdays, and 12pm to 6pm Sundays.
As a last note: the higher-ups say that we can't afford to hire any more 32-hourly staff, due to impending budget cuts.
TL;DR: | I hate my schedule, my managers can't/won't change it, what can I do? (quitting aside) |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I tell her or leave her?
POST: So I'll start by saying that I'm 35 and i went back to college to try to better my life. I look really young, like 22, so everyone assumes I'm that age and i don't really advertise my age.
I've been seeing this girl who's 22. It just started as casual sex and hanging out. I've gotten to the point that I really, truly love her. She doesn't know my real age and thinks I'm like 25.
I broke up with her last night but i really think she's the one. I've never hit it off with someone like I have with her.
She's made comments before about older men and it's not good. She's not in to men my age, but she must be because she loves me. She is begging me to stay but I've yet to tell her the truth.
My question is: Should I just walk away since I've been deceiving her or tell her the truth?
TL;DR: | I'm 35 and she's 22 and she doesn't know my real age. Should i tell her or leave her? |
SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: Turning down a job I've already accepted
POST: I got offered an entry-level job last week at an insurance firm in a city about an hours commute away from me, through an agency. Before I'd heard back from this job, I got an interview for another job and agreed to attend on Wednesday. I then heard back from the first job who offered me a position and I accepted it.
I'd much prefer to have the 2nd job (the one I have an interview for on Wednesday) because the hours are better and it pays more, with much less of a commute. There are 3 people including myself interviewing for the job on Wednesday so it's by no means guaranteed, but I'm not sure what to do. I want to let the people at the first job know that I can no longer accept the position, but I'm due to start a week tomorrow and want to give them as much notice as possible. I won't find out if I have the 2nd job until the end of the week.
Where do I stand with telling the 1st employer I no longer wish to accept the job? I feel terrible, the guy that interviewed me was lovely and the lady at the agency has been really helpful but ultimately the 2nd job is much better for me.
TL;DR: | Accepted a job but have an interview for 2nd job which i'd prefer. Not sure what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskDocs
TITLE: Is it safe to take Trazodone with Aleve?
POST: **Very simple question**: I have had serious sleep troubles the past week, I found an old bottle of trazodone in my drawer. I quit this med back in August but the pill bottle says it doesn't expire until July. Today, on top of sleep deprivation I have also been having flu like symptoms and a very bad headache, so I took some Aleve at 6PM tonight. I was wondering if it would be safe to take half a Trazodone tablet (50mg) after taking the Aleve earlier this evening? I am also on Valium(5mg, twice a day)
If you would like a more detailed medical history I can provide.
TL;DR: | Can I take 50mg of Trazodone (and 5mg Valium) after taking an Aleve tablet 2 hours before? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I met this guy on ChatRoulette...
POST: So a few months ago I began talking to this guy on Chatroulette who happened to live near me. We spoke for 5 hours straight. He gave me his number.. we kept talking for another month and then somehow got disconnected (our phone #'s changed).. I was really hurt cause I thought he didn't wanna talk to me anymore.. Talking to him gave me a really different feeling, a comforting yet flattering one. We always talked about meeting up but stuff always came up so we didn't.
Anyways, I saw him on skype recently and we talked again after 3 months. He told me he "wants to be with me" etc. etc... but barely replies to my messages (sometimes he says he didn't get my msg).. I don't know what this feeling is. I think I might be in love.
I feel crazy typing this and I don't even know what I'm asking. I guess I just need to let this out.
TL;DR: | I think I fell in love with someone I met through chatroulette and now I don't know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend's rarely in the mood for anything except cuddling. We've talked, but we can't reach an agreement.
POST: Details: We've been together almost a year and we've gotten fairly physically intimate, but she's only rarely in the mood for fooling around. If we kiss, it's maybe once a week, sometimes less and more intimate things happen usually less often. I've talked to her about it a bunch of times, but we've always reached the same impasse that she doesn't want to fake wanting to be intimate. Is there something I can do to get her in the mood more often? Or is there another solution to this that we've overlooked?
TL;DR: | Girlfriend's a cuddler and that's good and all, but I need something more from time to time. |
SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice
TITLE: I (30M) want to tell my girlfriend (33F) I love her...too soon??
POST: I (30M) have been with my girlfriend (33F) for about 5 months now. I know that I love her but I don't know / can't tell if she's ready to hear that from me yet. Her last relationship was pretty "toxic" from what I've heard - she's mentioned a couple things and her friends have mentioned a couple things but I still don't have a super clear idea as to why it was so bad. Anyway, that ended for her about a year and half ago. For me, It's been longer since I've been in something serious - 2 1/2 years or so - so I think because of that we're just moving at different paces emotionally. She's taking me to meet her parents in a couple weeks and we have a trip planned together for December as well. I know she likes me a lot and she does things to show me she cares - but knowing her I don't think she'd be the first one to drop the L-bomb. I don't want to wait too long to say it, but don't want to rush it either if it's too early and scare her away. Do I just be honest with her about how I'm feeling right now, or wait longer and see if I get more confident about getting the "I love you" return?
TL;DR: | I know I love my girlfriend, I don't know if she's there yet. Should I tell her now, or wait? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, what is the most generous thing you've ever done for a complete stranger?
POST: I was at the fair one day, and I saw this couple walking by, and as they were going by, I noticed that the girl had dropped a small purse that was hanging over her shoulder, and she hadn't noticed. I quickly lost sight of them, as the fair was full that day, and so I gathered all the stuff that fell out (an iPhone, and about 250$), and I went on a 2 hour search to find the girl. I found her outside talking to a manager with her makeup running because she lost her boyfriend's phone (who broke up with her), and then here I come, carrying the lost items to her. I gave her a ride to her house, and her father thanked me, and about 2 weeks later, I asked her out on a date, and she said yes. 8)
TL;DR: | I found a girls stuff, chased after her for 2 hours, gave it to her, and now am dating her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: How should I manage my tax return?
POST: I just filed my taxes yesterday and will be getting $3,700 combined refund. I am in a tough place as of late, between finishing up school and not having a steady job I am forced to live week-to-week. Here's a summary of my financial situation:
$20,000 credit card balance (eek!), $550 left on a vehicle loan, $2,500 on a personal loan, $0 in my emergency fund, and about $700 in monthly bills other than those already mentioned.
My intentions are to pay off my car loan (freeing up $225/month), put $1,000 in my emergency fund (and keep it there), and putting $1,000 on my credit card, leaving me with about $1,150 for me to have access to while I am finishing this semester (and to go out for one nice meal with my s.o. - we never get to enjoy fine dining). How does this sound? Should I refocus my funds in another manner? Thanks in advance for any comments/advice.
TL;DR: | I am broke, with a ton of bills, and I want to manage this $3,700 appropriately: Discuss! |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Is anybody else out there terrified of life?
POST: Don't get me wrong. I love my life. I have a good one. And I love myself. For the most part, things are good. I have a great job, 2 dogs, a beautiful and wonderful girlfriend, lots of things, a big heart & a sharp mind, a great family, good friends and relatively good health.
But man, I'm freaken TERRIFIED. I'm scared of losing my loved ones. I'm scared of dying myself. I'm scared of some things *worse* than dying, like sickness or injury or prison or slavery. OK, slavery's a stretch lol but it could happen, who knows? I have a very frequent feeling of dread and despair, even though life is good. I used to be really depressed, but I've learned to live relatively happily... I just can't shake off this this feeling of looming, nebulus doom. All the while, I'm pretty happy haha it's confusing.
TL;DR: | It's all so happy and so sad at the same time. I don't know which one I should be. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [18m] I have issues with a specific jealousy that I really want to overcome!
POST: My gf of 8 months is my first long term girlfriend. We're crazy about each other, we trust each other completely, and I really love her. She was my first time, but she had a long term bf in high school that she lost her virginity to. I don't know what triggers it, but I'm really jealous of him, even though she shut him out of her life (for her own reason) and she assures me I shouldn't be. We've talked extensively about it and she tries to make me feel better, and I really have tried to get over it, but I just can't seem to let go. Just the idea of her with someone else makes me feel sick, and I know it's stupid, because she really is faithful to me and I have nothing to worry about. I just want to get over it, and she's really tried to help me, so I know it's my problem. What can I do to get over this, since it doesn't even have relevance to our relationship other than me being hung up on it? I could really use advice, because otherwise our relationship is perfect, and I don't want my pettiness to hurt that.
TL;DR: | gf was my first, but not hers, and I'm jealous of the last guy even though he's out of the picture. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25f] and my bf [25m]. He is SO tight with money
POST: My bf is so tight with money. I am very lax with money and I would just throw in 10 bucks extra without caring because it would normally cancel out through the course of a relationship (two years now). He will accept me doing this but when he is paying he'll charge me down to the nearest penny.
Best example: I drive to see him, he takes public transit to see me. We split the costs of the bus/train, and the petrol. When I realized how tight he was, I said actually there is wear on my car, tires etc, so we need to take that into account, and he refused. He will not pay for anything extra than he needs to. I am surprised he even tips. He complains everywhere he can to get money off. Also he will do stuff like come to my apartment and use my toiletries and food, but I always have to take my own to his.
His background is poor. Maybe this is a factor. His mom is out of the picture now but for his celebration dinner for graduation from college, he had to pay for himself. She would charge him rent whenever he visited her from college. When my sister lived with me for two months, he was having a fit that I didn't charge her rent.
How can I make him chill out? Or do I need to get out my calculator?
TL;DR: | Bf is tight with money, I'm not, and I now feel like I'm being... taken advantage of? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I, awkward [23F] kissed [22M] friend and classmate at a party, not quite sure how to deal with this situation
POST: We've been friends for over a year, we get along really well and I've always been a little bit attracted to him. Same sense of humor, same interests, same college course but we're both quite shy and I'm very awkward. Anyway we both got very drunk at a party three days ago and he kissed me and told me he likes me... As this was a drunk thing i'm really not sure what to make of it, or if that's even how he really feels. He texted me yesterday asking if i had recovered but i'm still full of anxiety about seeing him in class tomorrow. How do I deal with this situation? especially considering the fact that we're two people who are probably likely to avoid talking about what happened in great detail.
TL;DR: | Got drunk, kissed guy i see everyday, need guidance on where to go next so that I don't fuck up. |
SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice
TITLE: Any ideas for a red color or themed Christmas present, under $30, and nerdy/geeky for a guy?
POST: I have recently been put into a pollyanna (secret santa) with my cousins. The name that was given to me (I wasn't there when they picked names out of a hat) was a cousin through marriage. I honestly do not know much about this guy and I am stumped on what to get him. He is in engineering or computer stuff. He is into Star Wars and Star Trek and is generally a nerdy and fun guy to be around; however, most of my interactions with him have been few and far between and only last at most 2 minutes. I also know he and his wife (my blood relative) have a baby on the way. I need ideas on what to get him for Christmas. The limit is $30 and the theme is RED. I have looked through thinkgeek already and not much is red, cheap, and fits into something I think he would like.
TL;DR: | Christmas present ideas that are under $30, the color red or red themed, and nerdy/geeky for a guy. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Ok need advice, am i over reacting over a joke?
POST: Ok i was shopping with my GF of 2 years. we are both 28 and in a serious relationship.
We are shopping in a department store and walked past some baby clothes which me and my GF start looking at. She then started laughing out loud and obviously thought something was hilarious, so i asked her what was so funny. she brushed it off and said "its nothing". i was curious and asked her again "come on tell me".
So she turns to me and says "it was funny because you wont be the dad".
So it caught me off guard and now im really confused. I got upset with her and ive kind of been questioning the whole relationship since it happened. I have talked to her and asked her why she thought of it and why it was so hilarious to her and she just keeps saying "i dont know". Any advice for me ? how would this make you feel? am i overreacting?
TL;DR: | I am upset over a weird joke, am i overreacting or was this really as nasty as i think it was? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [21F] boyfriend of 5 years has a weird tumblr [22M]
POST: Hey everyone. This is a throwaway because my boyfriend reddits.
My boyfriend and I just recently moved in together. I was using his phone to do something and I clicked the little button on the phone where all your open apps are up to close the app and I noticed that my boyfriend had a tumblr open.
Yes, so I snooped. I was definitely curious to see what kind of things he would be blogging about. I figured maybe some Doctor Who, maybe some Fallout things, and I got something that was way, way different.
He's never posted anything, but all the blogs he follows are fringe fetish blogs. Like, chicks pooping in the woods, naked grannies, that sort of stuff.
And then I clicked to see the posts that he's liked and they're all scat, elderly-women related and I would think that maybe this was just kind of a prank set up by some hilarious friend but in the few posts I scrolled past I also saw an Arrested Development gif so it's obvious that he's liking these things himself.
Our sex life is completely vanilla. Like, the craziest thing we do is light choking. All of this stuff has completely taken me off guard.
My question is, what do I do? Should I just never open this box of worms ever again and just forget it? Should I ask him about it?
TL;DR: | My boyfriend has a tumblr for scat and granny porn. Don't know what to do with that information. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by going too fast
POST: I was at a family reunion last Saturday and it was nice talking to cousins and such at some park. Hours later, before we are about to leave, I race one of my little cousins (highschool age) 100m or so. I kinda just did it so I could have an excuse to run as fast as I could, as I hadn't had the adrenaline thrill of running in a while (stopped track/XC in highschool). Well it started off alright, but after I went to high gear my body kinda got into an unbalanced rhythm and I took a tumble (this is on pavement/asphalt).
I do a vague combat roll and come up laughing at myself in embarrassment. I demand to finish the race (my cousin had paused) for my dignity and we do so. I examine my wounds after and I had some pretty bad lacerations on the palm of my left hand, with some light scrapes on my back and a little bruise on my hip. I walk back to the car after getting some napkins to prevent blood getting on the car, and got dropped off at my apartment a bit later (was a bit nauseous after the adrenaline wore off since I had a full stomach after eating).
Had to deal with sleeping in awkward positions and painful showers for a couple days but now its mostly been healed. May or may not post pics of injuries depending on how lazy I am.
TL;DR: | I think I can run. But too old! I get all the hurt. Now I no more run that fast. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22M] have been distancing myself from a good friend [22F] because I have feelings for her. How should I tell her about this?
POST: Basically, I've fallen for a friend of mine and haven't really been able to get over it. I don't have any reason to believe she feels the same way, and in fact I think she's casually dating someone else.
I haven't really been talking to her much for the past couple of months, and I feel bad about that. I don't want her to think I'm mad at her and also don't want to make her feel uncomfortable by dumping all of my feelings on her. I don't want to lose such a good friend, but I feel like that will happen after we graduate if I don't say anything. How should I handle this situation?
TL;DR: | How do I tell my friend that my unrequited feelings for her are why I haven't been talking to her? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17 M] with my FWB [17F] a week, wanted to ask if this is a good idea.
POST: Me and my bestfriend, who just broke up with her boyfriend 2 weeks ago have decided to to make our friendship a bit more fun. We've always been very close and love eachother, but not romantically. We have a great time together. I have more fun with her than anyone else, and I do not want to lose that.
We only makeout and cuddle, and then when we're done we go back to what we usually do, laughing with eachother and having a great time. Honestly, when we makeout, its amazing.
So anyways, what do you guys think? Do you think it should continue? Or should I put a stop to it?
TL;DR: | FWB with my bestfriend, its fun but I don't want to lose my bestfriend. What should I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: I Hate Spending Time With My Family
POST: I am a 30 year old happily married guy. But...
Long story short, I just spent seven miserable days managing a sick wife (who is normally very low maintenance, but became massively high maintenance due to her flu), overbearing parents, an asshole brother, a criminal father-in-law, a double-asshole brother in law. My wife was the one that wanted to take the cross-country trip in the first place, but she was so so sick that I had to do everything (packing all our bags by myself, cleaning out our fridge, have dinner with the parents, etc...etc...etc...etc...etc...etc...).
Then, after seven miserable days trying to be charming and funny and dependable... when we get back home all I get from my wife is a half-hearted, "thanks" before she goes straight to bed and I take out the trash and go to the grocery store so we have food to eat.
TL;DR: | seven miserable days being a good husband/son/brother/brother-in-law/son-in-law and nobody notices. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: What are some tips to help me (F/22) control my irrational jealousy?
POST: Hey Redditors. I need your help, this is really doing my head in and I'd like some advice on how I can maintain my sanity and avoid harming my relationship.
background: My SO (M/29) and I have been seeing each other for about 8 months. Its had its ups and downs but all in all I really adore him and I feel like he cares for me a lot. I'm going to be honest and say I can be prone to jealousy, but as a rule keep it pretty under control. However, one of my SO's close friends (F/32) really grinds my gears. She is nothing but nice and in my opinion a touch pretentious, but I knew early on in my relationship that she and SO had shared a drunken liason about 6 months prior to me meeting him.
I believe I can trust him, and have no reason question her intentions given she is in a long term (open) relationship and seems genuinely happy we are together. He's just told me they're going out for a drink after work, he's actually invited me. I think I'm being utterly irrational but I'm still gut-wrenchingly terrified of something happening between them if I don't go. Help me!!
TL;DR: | I'm a giant PMS monster, I dont trust my boyfriend even though I should. What do I do about it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Trying to raise money for Make-A-Wish Nebraska, will get a tattoo if we break $25,000
POST: Hello! I would have put this in /r/Assitance, but I'm not the one who needs help. I'm a comic book store owner trying to raise money to benefit Make-A-Wish Nebraska. We're selling door prize tickets to win a copy of Amazing Spider-Man #1 (value $4000). Last year, doing a similar event, we raised over $8000, which is great but I want to raise even more. Which is why this year I've agreed to get [This Tattoo] if we raise over $25,000. All the money raised will go to Make-A-Wish. Please help spread the word or donate if you can. Here's [The Donation Page] Not only are you helping kids, but you'll have a chance to win one of the greatest comics ever printed! Thanks so much for listening.
TL;DR: | Raising money for Make-A-Wish, will get a My Little Pony tattoo if we raise over $25,000 |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, what is the weirdest thing you got away with? (possibly NSFW)
POST: Im at work, and bored out of my skull, when my scumbag brain made me remember something I've never told anyone, and I'll never forget.
I was at a music festival with a bunch of friends. On the second night we all got hammered, and had a great night overall.
Next day, I wake up in my tent, the sun burning furiously upon my hungover head. I get outside, and fuck. I need to crap. SO BAD. I had to go, right at that moment. Buttcheeks clenched together firmly, I fast-walk to the bathroom stalls.
Unfortunately, there was a queue. There were about 50 girls and a handfull of guys waiting in line. Everyone knew that the guys in the line had to crap. So there I stand, full of shame, miserably hungover, and I cant wait for those 50+ people to finish.
I panic.
I walk into the field of tents, and I find a secluded little place where I cant be seen, drop down, and shit next to those peoples tents. I could hear a dude sleeping from inside the tent. I quickly pull up my pants when Im done, and get the fuck out. Nobody had seen me.
Major relief. I get back in the queue for the bathroom stalls, to whipe my buttocks.
I have never told ANYONE about this, even though it makes me laugh.
Reddit, what are your stories?
TL;DR: | Avoided crapping my pants at a festival, crapped next to a sleeping dudes tent, got away with it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: LDR gf [27F] is sad, doesn't want to talk right now, but says it's not about me [31M] when I ask. Giving her space, but is it possible it *is* about me?
POST: I mostly just want her to feel better, and I'd like to help no matter how I can. It's tough because I can't be supportive from far away. She won't tell me *why* shes' sad (she tells me she doesn't really know, but I don't believe that). She has a stressful work life, had a traumatic family event about a year ago, and does have a slew of things that could genuinely upset her, but I'm not sure why it would make her *sad*.
She said she doesn't want to talk now and I'm giving her space. I'll probably check up on her in a few hours (how long is too long to wait?). I love her and want to help, but I'm not going to annoy her if she wants to be left alone.
TL;DR: | gf sad, doesn't want to talk, says it's not about me, could it be about me anyway? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [31 M] with my wife [30 F] 4 years, me and my friend [30 F] made out should i tell my wife.
POST: I feel horrible already, for doing something this stupid.
me and my wife have a son together and i love them both, with all my heart really. i have a friend (Adriana) who's been with me, through everything in my life and has always stood by me.
me and Adriana went out and ate lunch and started reminiscing, she said she missed hanging out. she started complaining, a little about my family and how they just take up most of my time and she never gets to see me anymore.
well it was getting late, and i drove her home and we sat in the car talking more. she started crying saying how we used to be there for each other, no matter what but now it seemed like i wanted nothing to do with her.
i hugged her and told her it wasn't like that and she, was still my friend no matter what. we ended up kissing and from there it turned into us making out for a few minutes, until i realized what was happening and pushed her away.
this happened yesterday and i feel horrible, i realize now that it all looks bad. i just don't know if i should tell my wife, because i don't want to hurt her.
TL;DR: | i made out with my friend but don't know if i should tell my wife because i don't want to hurt her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [40s M] with my wife [40s F] 10+ years, she told my family that she thinks I am a porn addict. Is that appropriate?
POST: My wife told my sister that she thinks I am addicted to porn. Since my family likes to gossip, I'm sure that my entire family now knows what my wife thinks.
I feel that personal matters like this are private and should not be shared with friends or family outside of a marriage. If she needed someone besides me to talk to, she could have continued to discuss it with a couples counselor who we were already seeing (together and separately).
I know porn addiction is a serious matter that can affect a marriage but I don't want this question to be sidetracked by whether or not I am an addict. Please focus on whether it is appropriate to share personal information like this with friends/family outside of a marriage.
TL;DR: | Is it appropriate that my wife told my family (her in-laws) that she thinks I am a porn addict? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [M24] quick question about [F22] friend???
POST: Long story short. I met this girl 2 years ago, we became friends. She knew I had a Gf, I knew she had a Bf. We talk from time to.time and hung out a couple of times as friends.
Me and my Gf recently found out we were expecting and kept it secret until January. My Gf posted it all over fb and tagged me in it, so I thought everybody knew.
The girl (friend) then sent me a message asking if I was gonna be a dad. I told her yes and the due date. She basically didn't even congratulate me and just said that I don't even tell her anything and has not talked to me.since.
TL;DR: | Is she jealous and if so why because she has a Bf of 3 yrs. And we are just friends. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU By Vaporizing the Capsaicin in Chili peppers and almost choking to death
POST: Today I decided to make some Thai Basil Chicken for dinner. I make this dish often because it's easy to pair with brown rice/salad and also it's fuckin delicious.
Very recently Gordon Ramsey did an AMA where [he talked about his use of a microwave to dry basil leaves.] I know that some people recommend dried chiles over fresh ones for cooking so I decided to use my microwave to lightly toast a Thai chili.
The chili was only in the microwave a few seconds before I heard a loud *POP* sound. I quickly opened the microwave door because I was afraid that my chili had exploded all over the inside of my microwave and I was going to try and clean it up ASAP.
Fortunately the chili didn't explode, but unfortunately for me all of the moisture inside of the chili had become vaporized into a thick mist. Of course capsaicin, which gives a chili its spice, was also in solution within the water that had just evaporated.
By the time I realized the capsaicin inside of the chili had become airborne I had already taken in a large breath of it, inducing what I can only describe as a chemical-weapons-grade AXE-body-spray coughing fit. Luckily the kitchen sink was nearby to take a drink from, so I was able to regain my composure after several minutes. It's now been a few hours and I still have a slightly swollen, sore throat and an itchy face.
TL;DR: | Tried to Microwave thai chili peppers, ended up dusting my lungs with makeshift pepper-spray. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[23/m] was supposed to visit my gf[20F] of 1 year this weekend, but I made new plans after I thought we were going to break up...we didnt.
POST: So I told my gf I would visit her this weekend about 3 weeks ago, we live about an hours away from each other. But this past week we have been fighting almost non stop for days. And we both mentioned breaking up if things didnt change. This is the worst fight we have ever been in. I honestly thought we would either be broken up or still fighting this weekend. So when my friend asked if I wanted to roadtrip to Chicago I said yeah. A trip with best friend sounded an amazing way to end such a stressful week. So we now have plans to Chicago.
Today my gf and I finally got over our fighting, sorta. Now my girlfriend is upset that I won't be coming to see her like I originally said I would. We never had any real plans, I just said I would come visit her. Now I have concrete plans with my friend, and he would be very disappointed if I changed them now. Honestly if I visit my girlfriend we may just fight more and have a miserable weekend. But I think having a weekend of fun with my friend will be a lot of fun. But I see why my girlfriend is upset and feels like im ditching her..
TL;DR: | Made plans with gf, then with friend after thinking gf and I were going to break up. What do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [30 F] with my BF [28 M] 3 years, lied about getting me a birthday gift.
POST: I feel like this is a touchy thing to bring up with him because it makes me feel like I'm being greedy. However!
My birthday was a month ago and on the day of he had nothing for me. He said he had ordered me something from Amazon and it hadn't arrived yet. Um, ok, this happened the first bday of mine we were together and I know he's not the best planner.
Fast forward to yesterday when he's telling me about this gift he got his younger brother. That reminds me of the 'amazon promise' so I bring it up and says, "Oh, you didn't get that? They must have not completed the order...". Ok, now I know he's lying because of course he knows I haven't gotten anything because WE LIVE TOGETHER. At this point I dropped it because I wasn't sure how to respond without seeming greedy.
The problem is that it has been bothering me all day today. I'm not going to go in and look at his amazon history or email because I don't do that. But how do I bring it up?
TL;DR: | BF of 3 years lied about getting me a bday present, I don't know how to bring it up to him. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: If you had feelings for a girl friend, did you keep the friendship or end things? (F20s)
POST: I think my guy friend (m21) may have had feelings for me in the beginning of the year. From personal experience, do those feelings fade? I've been out of the country for 5 months and we don't talk as much as we used to (mostly on his end), so I'm wondering if he's purposely avoiding me.
We have been close friends for 4 years, but were never single at the same time. People used to always think we were dating (we were never physically affectionate). He has called me pretty in the past. He told our mutual friends that he met his "future wife" in college. But he sent me mixed signals throughout this time period. He would still treat me like a "buddy" or "bro".
I've been thinking about him non-stop for the past 5 months and I'm coming home in a few weeks. Should I stop wasting my time thinking about him? If he has stopped talking to me as much, does he not want to be friends anymore? I don't know how to bring it up with him. I think I should wait until I'm home and do it face to face.
TL;DR: | In love with my best friend, but afraid to be friend-zoned. He's sent me many mixed signals. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Is anyone here in the UK and familiar with property law?
POST: I live in a listed building in central London. My flat was converted from two rather large storage rooms (in the mid 80s) into the residence (1bdr flat on the ground floor) it is today.
In said bedroom they added a "built - in" closet when it was converted. This is where it gets sticky :
I've owned this flat for 6 years and never altered this wardrobe, yet now, I'm being sued (by the landlord of the building) for 'encroaching' and 'trespassing' on their land*. I've spoken with the ex head porter who says this built in wardrobe was always there (he'd been working here since the late 80's) and that no works had been undertaken in this flat since its conversion.
Unfortunately after checking the land registry, the plan indicates that the corner (where this "closet" is) isn't drawn in, however no one has raised any objections or complaints about this, ever.
I know no one could have just "added" this, as it would have been a massive job, which would have required applications and permissions, not to mention any one of the 24hr porters would have brought it up to their supervisor.
I'm getting the ex-head porter to sign a declaration of Oath, and I'm also chasing up the previous owner (who had it for a longer time than me) for the same thing.
Reddit, I'd there anything else I can do, are there any quirky laws I'm missing?
TL;DR: | I'm being wrongfully sued for a corner of my flat which is the built in wardrobe.. What can I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27 M] with my Wife [26 F] of two years, help, my wife has lost her sex drive
POST: My wife has lost her desire to have sex. For most of our relationship, we've had a great sex life, often times having it every day or more. Several months ago, things changed; Her business took off, and she ended up working 7 days a week. She's also had a ton of stress from wedding planning. Overall, I think stress has killed things for her. She's now working a lot less, but things haven't really been better.
Since her sex drive died, we very rarely have sex. She is typically only in the mood when she's ovulating. Otherwise by the time we are both home at night, she's too tired to really be into it.
I've tried lots of things to put her in the mood. She gets hour long massages from me several times a week, as well as a delicious dinner, and me doing house work when I can. I should mention I work two jobs, and work daily, for about 70 hours a week.
The lack of sex has been hard on me. It makes me feel depressed, unable to sleep well, and unable to think straight. My wife knows it's rough on me, and sometimes "is willing" to have sex with me but isn't actually into it at all. For me though that isn't enough, I feel she has to want it too. She wants to fix her sex drive as well, and is trying to drink a tea that is meant to help, but to no avail.
Any idea on what we can do?
TL;DR: | Wife no longer has sex drive. I think it's due to stress. What can I do to help fix it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/cats
TITLE: Poop stuck in my cats ass hair :(
POST: Hi!
My little Texas is a siberian cat and thou his pappers say medium length hair I would consider him a long hair breed (about 2 inches). His hair kept getting longer the older he got and now, at 7 months, it has gotten so long that he cannot properly poop. Or well, he can, but it gets stuck in his ass hair. We are using a litter box with sand which is supposed to stick to the poop but some of his poop never even reaches the the sand, it getts entangled in a massive jungle of asshair. It is very, very gross to pluck small turds from your cats hair. It happens almost every time he poops, has anyone had this issue and solved it? Is this a common issue? I'm thinking about shaving his ass..
TL;DR: | Cat has gotten longer hair and now poop gets stuck in his asshair. How do I fix this? Is it normal? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] want to talk/text to my crush [17 F].
POST: She's in my class and I immediately had a crush on her the first time I saw her. And suprisingly the first time I saw her on a party, we kissed, but afterwards she said she first wanted to get to know me better but that was like a month ago.
We're going out together this saturday. I don't live in the US and going on dates here isn't really what people our age do, it's kind of taboo i guess but well I've been asking for a couple of weeks to go to a party together and this is the first time she can. I have to say that we're not talking very much to each other on school and I want to change that so we can get to know each other properly. But how?
TL;DR: | Me and my crush are going on a 'date' this weekend but I want to talk more to her during the week. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: i(17M) was broken up with my gf(15F) after a 6 month relationship by her mother
POST: My gf wound up telling her mother a week ago that her and I were intimate the night before. She sort of overreacted and took a plan b pill despite no penetration, and told her mother everything. Her mother made her break up with me, and for a half hour was yelling at me(my gf and her mother). I was hysterical and when I saw her the next day she said she loves me and wants to make it work. A day ago I went to her place, apologized to her parents and everything was going well. Now today, I receive a call saying her mother saw us being too close and touchy when I came over and we have to break up again. What do I do? I love her so much but I can't live like this.
TL;DR: | I love my gf but her parents won't allow relationship, and now she's listening. What do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by not wanting to be bored
POST: So, of course this didn't happen today. It happened a many years (I must've been 7-9 years old) ago, and looking back on it, it is still super embarassing.
Anyways, I had a hockey game very early in the morning. After my game was finished, I was told I had to wait for my brother's game to be done, which upset me. Y'know, 7am, and now I gotta sit in a freezing arena!
So, being a kid I thought I could kill time if I found a ball I could shoot & stick handle around with. I go into my brother's team's changeroom, and find a tenis ball perfectly lodged in one of the bars on the ceiling.
This is where the fuck up begins... the ball is way too high for me to reach. All that's in the room is a bunch of empty hockey bags, a garbage can, and my hockey stick. No big deal, I'll just check if the garbage bin has anything in it, and if not I'll turn it upside down and stand on it with my stick to get it down.
So, here I am, moving the bin over to the ball. I turn the bin upside down, and all this barf just fell out onto someone's hockey bag! Oh my godness, I was so scared. I tried to clean it up, but it was still on the bag, and it smelled terrible.
I waited for the game to be done, heart beating super quickly. I apologize to the father with tears in my eyes, and he looks at me and says it's okay. I felt so bad, I just wanted to curl up and dissapear.
TL;DR: | Got bored at my brother's hockey game, wanted to play, got barf all over a dude's hockey bag. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Gf [19f] said something that made me [20m] feel weird. Am I being silly?
POST: So I was chatting over Facebook to my awesome gf of 11 months, and right when I am telling her I'm hopping off to go to bed, I get sent a message, the following being part of it.
"Even to the great lover of pretty dark haired women and breakfast food if he wasn't fictional I'm sorry but I would make it my life's journey to suck his dick his balls prob have a mustache"
It seemed like a really inappropriate thing to say, and my heart just sort of sank reading it. I highly doubt she'd ever cheat on me, and we joke sometimes about having a celebrity pass list, but all I can think about right now is her lips wrapped around Ron Swansons cock. That's the most ridiculous thing I've ever written but I guess it doesn't matter whose dick it is... It also makes me feel inadequate, as she constantly comments on how sex guys beards are, full well knowing that my hair line is confined to a tiny mustache and a neckbeard, and that im self conscious about it. So, am I being silly in all this?
TL;DR: | gf talked about how much she wanted to suck Ron Swansons mustachioed cock. Made me feel like shit. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] with my GF [18 F] 6 months, I feel like she no longer considers us exclusive
POST: We've been going out for quite a while now, but lately she's been really flirty/affectionate with other guys, both when I'm around and not. I'm really hurt by what she's doing. I've explained this to her, to which she replies that she loves me, but I've heard her say pretty much the exact same thing to other guys.
As far as I know, it has not yet escalated to cheating at this point, but I'm hurt because she's doing it, and especially because she sees it as totally ok and won't stop. I really like her and would prefer not to cut things off, but the constant anxiety and stress I'm feeling because of her is starting to really get to me.
TL;DR: | GF is being affectionate with other guys, I'm hurt, but she sees it as ok and won't stop. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I just found out that my girlfriend is messaging/spending time with an ex-FWB behind my back. Am I overreacting?
POST: Last night, my (24M) girlfriend (21F) of seven months was staying over at my place.
I know that this one guy an ex-FWB of hers is still after her, and after she went to sleep I stupidly checked her text messages. Sure enough, this guy has been flirting with her over text, that I expected. But I also found out that this past weekend she agreed to meet up with him for dinner. She never mentioned this at all to me. So I didn't sleep well last night and couldn't stop thinking about everything today.
I know what I did was wrong, and I do feel bad about it. But what I found has really upset me. When she left this morning I put on a smiling face but I was being eaten up inside.
I like to give people the benefit of the doubt and it's possible that nothing happened and the last thing I want to do is to ruin a good relationship because I'm overreacting. Still, I'm pretty hurt that she didn't tell me about this. I feel lied to. Am I wrong to feel this way?
TL;DR: | My girlfriend didn't tell me about messaging/spending time with an ex-FWB and it's really hurt me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Falsely Accused of Cheating
POST: My husband and I have been married for almost two years. For marriages, this is a very short amount of time for what we have been through.
We are in our early 20's. I'm a full-time student and employee. I'm sure that you can imagine the amount of time I invest in these things to maintain a 4.0.
He works, but has plenty of free time on his hands.
Tonight, I was accused of cheating.
I met a classmate at a coffee shop for a few hours to work on an assignment. That's all. Throughout that time, I was continuously receiving texts asking why I hadn't answered my phone. When I saw the light blink, I let him know that my phone was on silent and apologized. He proceeded to text regarding my whereabouts and when I would be home. This is regular behavior for him.
I have always been truthful and faithful to him. I'm just busy and tired, that's all. Regardless of how many times I explain it, it's never enough. I'm just trying to be successful. I don't feel that he genuinely respects what I'm doing. I can understand loneliness, but we have the rest of our lives ahead of us. I spend time with him as much as I can. This is just a lapse in time.
I don't know if I can keep up with this behavior. It's starting to become manipulative and catty.
TL;DR: | I work and study a lot. My husband is ticked off and thinks that I'm cheating. What would you do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by drinking one day old coke.
POST: So this happened last weekend.
So, it started with going out, having a blast. Maybe too much of a blast because i got borderline blackout drunk. You know the kind where you remember bits and pieces but not the whole night?
Anyways, closing time! So we went to good ol' McDonalds to get a night snack to bring home. Me and my friend take it home, sit down on the couch , eat it and drink some soda. I fall asleep and wake up the next morning on the couch. My friend always wakes up earlier than i do so he's tyding up in the kitchen. I sit up and look at the empty food containers and see i still have a good amount of coke left.
I take a couple of sips and it tastes funny, like watered down. I figured it must have blended with the ice. As im holding it, taking a couple of sips, walking over to my friend i ask, didnt i finish this last night? He shrugs and says, i dont remember. But im fairly certain i did. Thats when i went silent and poured it out when he wasnt looking, i remembered: at night i woke up needing to take a piss. Instead of going to the toilet i just straight up pissed in the little coke that was left and filled it up.
TL;DR: | Pissed in coke cup when drunk, forgot, drank a lot of it next morning thinking it was coke. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by teaching d=rt
POST: throwaway. Happened a few days ago. I was teaching a class and we did a question on distance = rate x time. We had to solve for the distance variable so I dictated "and now that we know the r and t, we want the d." The moment I said it I knew I didn't quite choose the best phrasing, but was hoping the kids (8th graders) wouldn't notice. Nope, half the class burst out in laughter. It was just frustrating because had it been with my friends I would be all over that shit and acknowledge the blunder and went with the joke, but can't possibly do that without risking my job for inappropriate behavior. So all I could do was pretend not to know what the innuendo was, but at the same time I did find it funny so I failed to hide my smile while telling the students to quiet down. So now I've shown that I did indeed know what the joke was, and went from fool who messed up to creepy fool who messed up.
TL;DR: | Said "we want the d" to 8th graders then subtly admitted to them that I know what d refers to. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: reddit, should you never tell a girl you like her?
POST: I'm a 22 year old guy who's kinda rusty, haven't dated since I was teenager (my last relationship was 1~2 years back in high school). I haven't had any problems with dating, just haven't met the right girl.
This past September I met a girl at school who was pretty cool, she's 19, a few years younger than me. I didn't really get to know her then due to time limitations. She also had a boyfriend at the time, but is now single and free to see other people.
Recently as winter-break has come upon us we've been getting closer. We've been talking a lot, (albeit online, but talking nevertheless). The more I get to know her, the more she makes me laugh and smile, especially during these would-be depressing times.
I guess the obvious move would be to ask her out, save I really don't want to through the internet (just seems distasteful). So alternatively should I just let her know I like her? (This so-called, making your intentions clear). I just feel it's contrary to the unwritten advice I was given as to, "Never under any circumstances, let a girl know you like her."
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TL;DR: | ) I like a girl I've recently met, should I let her know I like her or just ask her out? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26 M] with my girlfriend [26 F] 2.5 years, are thinking about getting married because otherwise she will have to go back to her country.
POST: We've had a great relationship for 2.5 years. We have lived together for 1.5 years. We have been talking about getting married for a while, but I've always put off the topic. I love her a lot, but I feel like I'm too young. I feel so scared about getting married, and feel cornered. If I don't go through with it then she will maybe have to go home and her parents will have a horrible opinion of me most likely... possibly preventing us from staying together in a long distance relationship.
She has been a great partner for the last 1.5 years and I don't want to lose her. If I was stuck here alone then I would become miserable. I've never made such a big decision. I can't really say... oh well we'll get married and if it doesn't work out then "oh well". It's a life long commitment and that scares me.
Please help me Reddit!
TL;DR: | Maybe getting married to a girl I love, and if I don't she has to go home and we might break up. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] still not over my [19 F] ex or 1.5 years
POST: My girlfriend broke up with me five months ago, and I'm still not over her. She was my first love, she said she lost feelings towards me, and wanted to be alone for a while to figure out what she wants. About a month later she started dating this guy (that previously tried to make a move on her while we were still together). She said she wanted to be friends but it was entirely up to me.
We met up over Christmas break to catch up, talked for a couple hours, it was really nice, and when I took her home I told her we can never be friends because its too hard seeing her and feeling the way I do about her still when she doesn't feel the same, and she broke down and cried for about 30 minutes in my car, but said she understands.
I've recently started seeing someone else (been on a couple dates) and she's a great girl, but I recently saw a "couple-ly" picture of my ex and her new BF on Facebook and I haven't stopped thinking about it since. Whenever I'm hooking up with this new girl I constantly think about my ex, and have realized I'm no more over her than I was 5 months ago.
Idk what to do to try and get over her, but I really hate feeling this way, I know its not fair to this new girl, but I can't help how I feel. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: | Ex broke up with me 5 months ago, I'm seeing a new girl now but can't stop thinking about my ex. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Do I have any chance with this girl?
POST: (All of us 17) Ok so my a friend (m) of mine (m) liked a girl in school. Over a text he told me she was one of the prettiest girls he's ever seen. being his friend I joking say I'm gonna send her a screenshot of what he said because he can't make the first move. He's calls me out and says I won't, so naturally I do send it to her. We had a nice conversation and she calls him cute. The next day I showed my friend what she said. My friend decided it'd be funny to send her a text says "I love you" from my phone. I Immediately replied "I didn't send that it was someone else". I wasn't mad because would've probably done same thing and it was funny. She replied "[my name] I know that it was you". What does that even mean? I haven't said anything to her since. It's been about a month now and well my friend lost interest a long time ago but now I've developed a crush on her but have no idea what to do. My friends cool with it but thinks there's no way I'd ever get a chance. Any advice on what I should do? I'm actually really do like her.
TL;DR: | friend messages a girl "I love you" from my phone. She thinks I'm weird and I get a crush on her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I said yes to a date but now I'm not sure if I want to go, but will go anyways
POST: I met this guy at the gym and he was very nice, and we sort of clicked. Then we texted each other the whole day, and I realized that he is much older than I thought (25 years older than me). It sounds stupid but he looked very young and he also told me he was 35. I already said I would meet him tomorrow, but I really don't want to go just to tell him that I am not interested.
We texted too much for me to just say no. And he seems to know things about me that I haven't told him. I'm scared he's going to hurt me if I say no to a second date, or if he'll just hurt me for no reason.
How does one politely break up with someone after the first date?
TL;DR: | I stupidly said yes to a date, changed my mind, and now I'm scared to say no after the first date. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me (20F) had a man talk to me last semester at my college and he said done weird stuff and also another male always tryed to walk with me everywher.
POST: So I'm sitting in my math building waiting for my class to start while playing my 3DS and this one guy asked to sit by me. I am a pretty nice girl so I said sure. But as he talked, he made me uncomfertable
He kept asking me if I was single, Im not, I have a gf. Then he kept saying sexual remarks to me, asking for my number, ect.
Another guy always walked with me and kept offering to walk with me to buildings but once again, I felt uncomfertable. It doesnt help that a friend told me "If it makes you feel better, the men acting like that means they find you attractive"
After that, I started to have a distaste for men more and I'm starting to get scared of men. It doesn't help the only male friend I felt safe around I had died last year
TL;DR: | Men are being creeps to me. How do I gain trust in men again and am I bad for feeling like this? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Need Advice! Me (m25) need some advice on whats going on with my relationship w (f23)
POST: Ok,
so my SO and i started seeing eachother about 2 months ago. i know it doesnt sound like long but ive known her for 4 years. ALWAYS been drawn to her. but shes had a boyfriend of 4 years. her and i got very close about 4 months ago and we both realized that there is something special there...a spark.
we didnt know that the other felt this way. so we continued to become closer and go on little lunch or dinner dates together.
finally we went on a trip with some friends and ended up cuddling the nights away and talking and it felt so right. she broke up with her boyfriend 2 days after we got home. its been an amazing 2 months. ive dated tons of women and have had some long term serious relationships and none of those girls come close to making me feel like she does.
unfortunatly she now wants her space... she says it all happened so fast and she needs some time to think about everything. She loves me. I know she wants to be with me. Im going to give her the space she wants and take a leap of faith.
i just want to know if anyone else has been in this situation. get out of a relationship and gone into another relatively soon after and how it worked out.
just nervous!
TL;DR: | met my soul mate... left her bf for me. now she needs her space for the 'mourning period' |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: Need n00b help ASAP!
POST: So, I'm one of "them"....I was shocked into doing a 5k with NO prep (4 days before, I ran 2.5miles two days before and didn't die), and ended up with a bloody ok time for never really running. (top 50% of 800 people, and age group!) So I'm doing a 5k in 1 day from now, after trying for several weeks to get my endurance up. I am doing good. I dropped below a 8min/mile which I think is good for me.
However, this is my problem: I walked around DC for 8hr last weekend, ran twice with HORRIBLE times/pain. I couldn't get past 2.2miles without wanting to die. My inner shins are in pain. What can I do? I don't want to fail at my first voluntary race!!! Should I do anything today? (last run was wednesday) Should I just rest and stretch very well for the race on saturday? Go slower than I think is normal, and push it near the end?
I'll read up on the C25K today and see if that has anything, but I'm obviously not able to adhere :)
TL;DR: | Have a race tomorrow morning, my shins are killing me. What do I do so I don't bomb this race? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Need some sex advice for having sex with an older woman.
POST: Hi Reddit,
A little backstory for you. I am a 25 year old virgin who hasn't had a lot of chances with women my age since I always come off as a more mature individual. I lacked confidence until I discovered nofap and noporn subreddits. My confidence is at an all time high however the lack of release had been killing me.
I decided to see if women of the cougar variety would be more receptive to my more mature attitude. Lo and behold a hot 48 year old cougar is willing to meet up with me on Saturday. What do I do? I know foreplay is important as well as a little bit of teasing before sex. However I feel like I am going to suck since I lack sexual experience and have been on nofap/noporn for just about a month now.
Any advice or suggestions? Should I just not care? I was thinking of telling her about my nofap/noporn and use the line "I may be quick on the trigger but I have got lots of ammo".
TL;DR: | 25 year old virgin who is on nofap/noporn worried about sex with 48 year old cougar. |
SUBREDDIT: r/college
TITLE: (Question) Do you pay back financial aid just like with loans?
POST: I've been going to a community college for a little over a year now, starting near the end of last September, while we should've started in August. Through this college experience, I was able to use 1 scholarship for $250 dollars and had financial aid to help me through. But alongside that, I had to take out a loan (split and used in two halves) to pay for my time during the summer because we didn't get financial aid during that time.
So now I'm here almost done with my class and soon to graduate, but following a conversation with my mom, I ended up being confused on whether or not I have to pay back the financial aid I used. I know I have to pay back the loan (which sucks, of course), but as the financial aid is "given" to you from the government (for lack of better word?), I don't quite understand if that's really how that works.
TL;DR: | Do I have to pay back my financial aid just like my loan, or is that more or less "my" money? |
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