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SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26F] with my group of friends [20s and 30s M&F] don't have anything in common with them anymore, but don't know how to make new friends.
POST: I've known my group of friends for the last 10 years or so, we met through a church youth group, but I only really joined the church because I didn't have any friends and this group of people the same age as me seemed so convenient.
I always had doubts over whether I actually believed the same things as them, but I didn't really have the courage of my convictions until about 18 months ago when I stopped going to church. I've been much happier since then because I don't feel like I'm being fake any more, but all my 'friends' seem to do is lecture me or try to engage me in churchy debates or encourage me to come to church with them for events.
I like most of these guys, although I'm not hugely close to any of them. I just wish they'd accept that I'm not going back to church, but I don't see that happening any time soon. So in the meantime, I have been trying to expand my hobbies and meet people that way. I joined a sewing class to meet people and learn new things, but they're all older retired ladies in the class.
I'd love to make some new friends to hang out with who don't look down on me for staying over with my bf.
TL;DR: | I don't fit in with my old friends any more and would love to make new ones. How do I do it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24M] fell for a girl I met on omegle[20F] she lives far away. Both college undergrads. Is there any way at all to make long distance work?
POST: Met a little over 2 years ago. Have never met in person but we talk for ages almost every day.
We both like each other but we live over 4000 miles from each other. Will be a couple of years before either of us has a degree.
I'm usually a very casual dater, I don't get romantically attached very often at all. But I've fallen for this girl hard. I've never really seen myself marrying someone someday until now.
I'm 99% sure the answer is no but right now my brain is flooded with oxytocin so if there is any way at all to make this work I would be extremely grateful to hear about how it could be done.
TL;DR: | met girl on omegle, fell for her. Need to know if long distance has any chance at all of working. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: WTF Did I Do?
POST: So this girl and I are pretty close friends at school, I like her, but I don't know is she likes me, but we are still pretty close.
Recently though, she just ignores me, and other times she just comes to me and starts talking to me like everything's fine. For example, my friends and I are talking at Brunch (High School term for "recess") and she just joins our conversation. I'm ok with that, but when I try to approach her or talk to her, she just loses interest in our conversation and tries to end the conversation quickly.
When I try to say "Hi" to her in the hallways, she just ignores me. Like completely. As if I'm invisible. On the other hand, we chat on Facebook 24/7. I don't think that she is embarrassed being seen with me, because we used to hang out at Brunch and Lunch.
At this point, I just don't know what to do I'm not sure if I'm being too pushy, she just needs time by herself, and I'm pretty sure I have not done anything to piss her off. Or she's trying to friend zone me, but I still want to reach a mutual consensus with her. Please help me put with my situation. Thank you!
I am a High School Freshmen male.
TL;DR: | I like girl. Girl is friend with me. Girl now ignores me. Why? Please read above :) ^^^^ |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Am I able to have my mom's boyfriend removed from my place if he doesn't live here?
POST: I'm a college student who lives at home for about another 18-24 months. My mom's boyfriend comes by frequently, and is quite the asshole. I'm rarely around but when I am home I pretty much keep to myself, but this guy feels the need to be highly critical of anything I do. I never initiate any confrontation with him. Most recently I came home to him complaining to my mother that I'm a bum and disrespectful, so I stepped in and it became quite the altercation- but nothing physical. However, he was threatening to fight me, but I told him that I'd just call the cops and get his ass kicked out. He laughed in my face, and said that it would never happen because I'm a bitch. So I'm curious, if my license shows I live here with my mom, and his does not...doesn't that mean I have some say in whether or not a guest is welcome? I live in Pennsylvania, 23 years old, and a male if that matters. I'm not looking to prevent him from ever visiting, but next time he gets threatening I would rather him just be escorted out by cops.
Oh and I'm a "disrespectful, bum" because I spend most of my time working or studying for the MCAT. Yet this guy is unemployed, gets high all day, and thinks he is the paragon of excellence.
TL;DR: | Can I kick my mom's boyfriend out if he doesn't live with us? Live in PA, I'm 23M |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I may be asking the wrong audience, but has ANYONE managed to overcome the overwhelming tendency to do nothing instead of anything?
POST: I'm not afraid I might fail. I'm not afraid I might succeed. I find extreme satisfaction and even happiness when I do things (even mundane things). I am otherwise in a state of semi-self-loathing as I sleep til 3PM, watch some TV, eat some food, browse some reddit, and go back to sleep.
I thought WoW was the problem, so I gave up WoW. I thought watching TV was an issue, so I limited myself to a few shows. My next idea is that reddit is the issue, but if eliminating WoW and TV didn't do it, why would eliminating reddit?
I know I want to do shit. I know I can do shit. I know I'll enjoy doing shit. But every single day... I don't do shit.
What life-changing experience do I need to suffer before my willpower kicks in and makes "happiness 10 minutes from now" more desirable than "Heh, he said FFFUUUU again"?
And how do I stop feeling like such a whiny bitch whenever I consider that my problem is some common personality flaw and not just me being a whiny bitch?
TL;DR: | I know I'm not even close to being in the minority on this point. Has *anyone* figured it out? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: The domestic abyss of a clean freak and Pigpen
POST: I'm a 28/f. I live with my bf of almost a year who is 26. I knew he wasn't exactly tidy when we moved in but I'm a weirdo who doesn't exactly mind picking up some slack in that area if I know it makes his day a little better. Well I've created a monster. Time to time he'll do a major chore but day to day he doesn't lift a finger. He'll undress and leave his clothes in a pile under his feet. I've tried waiting to see if he will get them on his own time but they spread like moss until you can't see the floor. He'll let dishes pile up all over the kitchen. Wet towels on the wood furniture (this ruins it). I've casually mentioned the problem or ask for a hand, he tells me I'm OCD, to relax, but the next time around its the same thing and I DO NOT want to nag. I can't relax in disarray so how do I show my man how important the little things are?
TL;DR: | how do I get my bf to not be a total slob without sounding like a whiny, nagging housewife? |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Is there anything inherently wrong with eating mostly fruit?
POST: Stats: 24/f, 5'4 and 150. I've always eaten healthy, but my main problem is overeating. As the weather gets warmer, pretty much all I want to eat is fruit. I'll have a huge bunch of grapes and a mango for breakfast, apples with cheese for lunch, and dinner is usually something of a wild card. I'm wondering: if I'm technically getting 1200 - 1400 calories a day, is there any potential risk to eating only fruit? Also, will I lose any weight this way, or will the sugars/carbs hold me back?
TL;DR: | If all I eat is a LOT of fruit, will I slim down, or just be a chubby girl who eats a lot of fruit? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by writing my English essay in Comic sans.
POST: Yes, i wrote my English essay in Comic Sans.
So my English Essay was about writing about a book of my choosing, i chose my favorite book [A Higher Call]
So in school i told my lad's that i will write my essay in Comic sans, their words was something of the lines off "What in the name off fuck would you do that for? it's one of the worst fonts" and i ignored them.
I wrote my entire Essay in Comic sans and when my teacher noticed i could see the disappointment in his eyes. if his eyes could speak they would say something along the lines of "Are you fucking kidding me? like..really?"
TL;DR: | Used Comic sans in my English Essay, disappointing my teacher.. ^^so ^^worth ^^it ^^tho.. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, please take care of my bunny this summer
POST: Hello Reddit,
I live in Denmark but on June 21st I'm going to Iran for a vacation. I really don't want to go but my parents have the final say and the said I'm going.
I can live with being in Iran during the extremely hot summer and even fast (since Ramadan is coming up and it's illegal to not fast). The only thing I have an actual problem with is my pet bunny here in Denmark. I can't bring him with me and I don't know anyone who can take care of him. Here's a picture of him:
He is absolutely lovely to be around and he loves to get his belly rubbed. He has no problems with kids at all. My younger brother who is 6 years old goes for walks with him, so he is also very controlable.
I don't know what to do, so Reddit I turn to you. Is there anyone from Denmark who could please take care of my bunny this summer or know anyone who can? I live fairly close to Copenhagen.
Naturally I will pay for any expenses there might be for his food etc.
TL;DR: | I'm going on vaction, could you take care of my bunny untill I get back? I live in Denmark. |
SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: Just a friendly reminder for those with nervous habits and making a good first impression in an interview.
POST: Hey everyone, I want to share a story that has really opened my eyes on my nervous habit: Nail biting.
When you are in a job interview either one-to-one or a group interview or an audtion, if you have a nervous habit, make sure you keep it under control. The possibility of you getting the job or losing is sometimes dependent on whether or not you make a good impression.
I had applied recently for a job in a [Magnet] status hospital. It also is one of the few hospitals that operates a [Planetree] patient centered view of healthcare.
Essentially, the premier, creme de la creme kind of hospital.
I had everything going well for me!
* I have an excellent resume
* I have great interpersonal skills
* I exude confidence
* I knew what the job entails
* I prioritize well in a high-stress environment
I got everything down pat, but it wasn't that I wasn't qualified for the position (it was Concierge), but that I had been unconsciously biting my nails and skin picking around the fingers. This was the single most defining factor in the job audition. I lost out on a great job that paid $20/hour, full benefits, etc. The whole 9 yards.
Since then, I've been so aware of my nail biting and skin picking that I haven't done so in 2 weeks, the longest time ever!
TL;DR: | BE CONSCIOUS OF YOUR NERVOUS HABITS! IT CAN MAKE OR BREAK WHETHER YOU GET A JOB. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddt - What have you out of pure conscience done resulting in you having to pay a huge bill?
POST: Today I hit a car while backing out of a parkingbooth. It was dark and I quickly inspected the car for damages and didn't find any. My car was in fine condition too, so I decided to just drive away. But about 10 kilometers (6miles) away and almost home, I felt so bad and decided to turn my car around and drive back into town. I inspected the car once more, and found a huge dent in it's rear bumper. Now I didn't think I could have caused it, but I did notice some cracks in the paint another place. So I left a note, giving my phone number and apologizing for hitting the car, saying I wasn't sure if the dent was there before my accident. Now it seems I have to pay for a new rear bumper.
TL;DR: | I hit a car in a parking lot, drove away, felt bad, drove back, left a note and now I pay. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Reddit, I messed up big time. Need advice...
POST: Last weekend, I got blacked out drunk. I ended up hooking up with a creepy dude that I've known for a couple of years. Problem is, I have a boyfriend. Well, like I said, I was blacked out when it happened and I didn't know that anything had even happened until last night when the dude shows up at a party at my house and tells my boyfriend what happened.
I have no idea what was going through my mind when I hooked up with him. My boyfriend is the first man I've ever loved, and sober me would never do anything to intentionally hurt him. It is hard because I truthfully have no recollection of it even happening.
I know that blacking out is no excuse, that kind of behavior is unacceptable no matter what. My boyfriend and I are stuck now. Neither of us know what to do. I love him so much and don't want to lose him. I've told him how I feel about him and I've apologized too many times to even count, but he is finding it hard to believe (which I don't blame him for). He's been cheated on in the past, so it has brought up some painful memories for him. Reddit, what do I do? How would you approach this situation? I don't even know what to say...
TL;DR: | got blacked out drunk, cheated on boyfriend, don't want to lose him, don't know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, have you ever slapped someone (with good reason), and did you feel damned good about it after?
POST: I was out a night with some friends, and an ex (a friend of same friends) who had recently been stalking/harrassing me online was there. I confronted him gently in an attempt to make peace, but there was no having it, he said some things that slowly put me into a rage.
I gave him a hard lash across his face and walked away. I could hear him shouting behind me but I kept walking, went back to our friends. He came up to me again and started "If you ever fucking slap me ag-" SLAP! Second one, in front of everyone there. It didn't land as good as the first, but it was the most satisfying thing I've felt throughout all of his bullshit.
TL;DR: | Ex has been harrassing me, slapped him twice, second time in front of our friends. Felt good. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by going AWOL
POST: So, I am a newbie here, pls spare me for any errors. :)
This happened today; I goto office at 9.30 am, for which I wake up at around 8.30. Yesterday night, I got very emotional, was missing my lab back home, so started the journey of going through pictures and watching marley & me, hachiko and so on and so forth.
I reached office on time, but I felt like a bloody zombie owing to the fact I slept at 5 am. So, it was all good till 12, now here's the fuck up. I went to Pizza Hut in the food court, had a filling lunch, on the way thought of reading some mag before gng back, so took a break on the sofa in the lobby of my building.
I was reading..When I woke up it was 5 o clock. I panicked, ran back to the office, my manager was super pissed, we had a request from a client that we had to complete by the end of the day. Now I am sitting in office, sorting out issues with the stupid code. It's gonna be a long day.
It's fucked up. I will sleep on time now.
TL;DR: | Slept late, went to office on time, went missing, now working, no redditing, long day! :/ |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by eating $20,000
POST: Unfortunately this didn't happen today, but rather seven to ten years ago. I just remembered and thought I'd share -
So about seven or so years ago I was at my grandparents house, enjoying "Camp Grandma and Grandpa" which was basically me and my siblings spending a month or so during the summer up at my grandparents house. For whatever reason I was there by myself and my two sisters didn't come with me. Anyways, I go to my grandfather's candy drawer and pull out one of those individual sized bags of M&M's. I open it up, and notice they're a little different from normal M&M's: They're all a base color of gold or yellow with little multi-colored flakes of candy shell on them. I asked my grandmother what was going on with them and she said simply, "I don't know, They're all like them. Just eat them!" I shrugged and then ate the bag. Over the course of the month I ate the rest of the little bags as well.
Later, after going back home, I noticed my parents also had a bag of M&M's at home. On it, it had one of those little promotions on it talking about 'Find Confetti M&M's in your bag, Win $20,000!' I realized then and there that I just ate $20,000. I have to say though, for how much they were worth, they weren't that tasty.
TL;DR: | Ate all the confetti colored M&M's at my grandparents house. Found out they were worth $20,000. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [m29] fiancée [f28] broke up with me, we are on fine terms, but how long should I wait to start dating again?
POST: As stated, my fiancée [f28] and I [m29] recently broke up a few weeks before the wedding. The first week was rough. But we ended on about as well of terms as we could. We are friendly and civil.
Question I'm wanting to ask is how long should I wait to start dating again? Is there any specific time where it stops looking like you just were not into the previous relationship at all and are not an asshole? I don't want to upset mine or her family by jumping into something too soon. I'm not looking for anything serious at the moment. I just want to date and if something grows serious then great.
I know I'm still young, but I'm wanting to settle down with someone that I can spend the rest of my life with and have a family.
TL;DR: | Fiancée and I broke up, how long till I can/should start dating again, I feel ready to. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My GF [33 F] and I [25 M] have been dating for 2 months and have quite the age gap. What challenges might this bring to our relationship?
POST: I don't have any major questions or issues to speak of, I'm just curious as to potential challenges we may face with our age difference.
Our age gap is 7 years 9.5 months. She's been a math teacher for about 6 years and I've been an engineer for just over 1 year.
We were acquaintances before we really started talking. We are both part of a large group of people who go country line dancing and go to country concert/ festivals so we have a lot of mutual friends and favorite going out activity.
It was Halloween night at the country bar that we really hit it off. She really likes the fact that I graduated from college and started a good career in my field. I think that with her education in math and mine in engineering, we think similarly. We're straight forward communicators with no beating around the bush. I think that is what gives us good open communication. Since we're only a couple months into our relationship, I know we are still in the honeymoon phase and still just enjoying each other's company. No real threats to our relationship, yet.
I know at some point our age gap will present a challenge for us to over come. I'm just curious if anyone has words of advice or an idea of potential challenges we may face in the future.
TL;DR: | GF [33 F] and I [25 M] have large age gap. What challenges/ issues might we face in the future? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I like a girl who guys like to flirt with
POST: I am a 16 year old male who has been single for about a year now. My last girlfriend was someone who I thought was going to be a keeper. She broke up with me. A couple of months ago (present day) I started to like a different girl. However, she talks to/flirts with A LOT OF GUYS. Including some of my closest friends. I don't particularly flirt because, to be honest, I'm not very attractive. So I always think (why would she like me when there are so much more attractive guys she is currently flirting with). The only time I can talk to her 1 on 1 is when were in class together. Otherwise other guys start flirting with her. So how can I get her to notice me and potentially start talking to me more?
TL;DR: | I like a girl who guys flirt with a lot. How do I get her to notice me and talk to me more? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, when can you remember being the most angry you have ever been?
POST: On Sunday, I dropped my pretty much new iPhone 5 in the toilet by accident. I was devastated, but to mine and my roommate's surprise, a bag of rice for 3 days did the trick. Besides a small watermark on the screen, my phone was back to normal. Fast forward to about 20 min. ago at a party, some drunken idiot knocks a red bull all over my phone. I almost went blind with rage as I picked it up, wiped it off, shook it out, turned it off, and immediately went home back to another bag of rice. I can only hope by my wildest dreams my phone comes back from this one, and in the mean time, I better not see him around or I don't know if I could hold back from smashing his head into the nearest wall. I would just like to know what I did for the universe to thrust this upon me, right after I came through the last time. I'm gonna go watch videos of soldiers coming home and Ellen Degeneres giving people gifts to justify my sobs. Please leave your story of horrifyingly ultimate bad luck. And don't kill me if this has been done before. :(
TL;DR: | Days after iPhone fixed, dumbass spills drink on it. Blind with rage. Yada yada. Kill him. |
SUBREDDIT: r/Dogtraining
TITLE: Can my dogs fear problems be fixed or am I SOL?
POST: One year old female GSD named Leah. She was "raised" by truckers who kept her in their truck 24/7 then she was dumped at a gas station. She's scared of men, especially loud men and quick movements. She's attacked my fiancé before because she was scared and cornered (fiancé walked up behind her to see what she was doing and she freaked). She's an angel when I'm around and she's my shadow, but every time I leave, she turns into a "bad dog". My fiancé doesn't help the situation when he yells at her when I'm gone. So now every time my fiancé even walks past her, she yelps, urinates, and runs away. My fiancé is fed up with it and wants her gone but I don't. I work from home and my fiancé is gone a lot so she's my guard dog. I contacted a dog trainer and they said they'd train her for $2,000. I'm sorry but that's ridiculous in my eyes. Is there an at home way of fixing her fear/submission issues? Also, anyone want to come help train my fiancé? ;)
TL;DR: | dog is scared of men, want to help her out and fix the problem, want an at home solution. Thank you |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Am I [21F] over-sensitive, or is my bf [22M] some kind of pedophile?
POST: I started dating this guy for almost 3 years. There have been ups and downs, but I can still say that we have a perfectly healthy and normal relationship. He's witty, fun and understanding; he's almost my first everything.
Since I am a very private person that gets very annoyed when someone touches my phone and my emails, I respect my bf's life and never really looked into his privacy. However, yesterday, when he was in the bathroom, I suddenly wanted to look for some of our photos in his phone, and started to browse his phone gallery. The newest photo was a photo of a lovely little girl (8 or 9 years old at most), in a lovely dress and flower crown. I had an "aww" feeling, especially when he has never showed any interest in neither marriage nor kids) and continued to browse the gallery. Now weird things happened: I found a lot of photos (around 30-40) of little girls (around 8 or 9 years old), in between normal photos, in this kind of style, all look lovely, innocent and angelic. They're not the kind of sick, sexual photos that pedophiles; they're the kind of photos that people would use for their wallpapers. It's totally understandable that there is 1 or 2 of them in his phone, but for 30-40, is it concerning?
TL;DR: | I found a lot (30-40) photos of lovely little girls in my bf's phone. Is it concerning? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: [discussion] Dog very injured and I'm emotionally terrified of what might happen
POST: So my dog turned 11 two days ago, we celebrated and he was so happy. I'm 18 now and we basically grew up together and of course have become attached. Yesterday my father went for a daily walk with him and a dog got out and attacked Willie (my dog). He wrapped his teeth around his neck and pushed him to the ground and repeatedly bit him. The dog wouldn't let go and my dad had to get between them to stop it. We took him to the vet and there were three large bites in him and the vet said that if he were a smaller dog he would be dead. So I'm sitting here with him, worried because I don't know what will happen. We are giving him his medication and pressing chargers on the owners of the other dog. I'm scared of losing my dog and I'm really not ready to say goodbye.
Sorry for the long post but I needed to get that off my chest. Here is a pic of the wound if you're curious [wound](
TL;DR: | My dog was attacked and I'm scared he's going to die. I'm really not ready to say goodbye to him. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Question about wetting the bed?
POST: Alright so I'm 18 and I had a really, really F'd up dream last night, and by that I mean just a mix of horror, weird you name it. Anyway, I got to a part of my dream where I just randomly starting peeing, and It felt to me like I hadn't used the bathroom in a year, pretty much a fire hose size stream, I soon woke up and immediately checked and I had indeed wet the bed but a very small amount. I've never wet the bed after like infancy before and I was just curious as to why in my dream I pee'd so much but in reality it wasn't a lot.
TL;DR: | Took a horse sized piss In dream woke up to find the actual amount of piss was hardly any, why? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Any advice?
POST: So there's an amazing girl I've meet. She's lovely ,and we've been talking for several weeks. Just over two. She has an impeccable taste in music, and movies. She has the most amazing sense of humor, and she's pretty much beautiful. She's witty, and down to earth. Around the third day texting each other we opened up , and threw our scars on the table. We talked a lot ,and she always compliments me on how I can make her laugh constantly. But recently I haven't been able to make her laugh as often. I feel like she may be getting bored of me. Any help? Maybe confidence is playing a role?
Okay here are something I shouldn't of left out.
* She can't go out. Basically her Mom is anal. (No guests either)
* She doesn't want a romantic relationship with anyone just yet. She's still getting over an ex.
* I don't want to be in the friend zone ,but can't just disappear.
* She has a lot of guys friends. **I don't want to be another guy friend**,but I don't want to lose her..
TL;DR: | Amazing girl I'm interested in. I don't want to bore her. Stuff we can do/talk about? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (20m) mom (42) doesn't like that i have a fwb
POST: So this happened today, my mom and i are pretty open to each other and we grew closer lately because we both went through some stuff. Im still living at home because i can't afford living alone. She helped me getting through a breakup/bad relationship and i gave her advice and comfort when she needed it. So today i set the rules with this one girl i have been chatting with lately. We agreed on a fwb because i dont really want a committed relationship (she neither) and she's not really my type but she's cool and normal minded and i want experience. She was the one who suggested the idea of a fwb. I told my mom this and she seemed pretty upset and worried about me because all those reasons that speak against a fwb (feelings/std/morales/self-worth/that the girl would go around and tell everybody) told her that we set the rules pretty detailed (i read a lot about fwb and dangers and the fwb also has experience with that topic). I know what I want and what im getting into (no pun intended), my fwb does too, but now I'm concerned about my mother. Its my life and I can do what i want, and I told her that her viewings on this matter are outdated, but i know shes upset and maybe a little bit disgusted. Do you have any advice for me? How should i continue with my mom? Can i change her opinion about unconditional sex ? Should I ? Anyone in a similar situation ?
TL;DR: | my mom doesn't like that i have meaningless/unconditional sex and is upset. Tips on how to proceed? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (18 F) Want to Stop Lending My Mother (40 F) Money
POST: I'm currently living with my mom while going to college. I work odd jobs and don't buy any unnecessary things, instead I'm saving for a car, my driver's license, etc.
I have one problem: my mom constantly borrows money for little things, like fast food or a new book or getting her hair dyed. I'm tired of this, especially since she never pays me back.
However, she also pays for rent and utilities. I'm thankful I'm living with her rent free, but I can't help being pissed she spends the money I save on frivolous stuff and doesn't repay me. Am I over-reacting? What should I do?
TL;DR: | Don't know if I'm over-reacting to my mom not paying me back, given she pays for the big stuff |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My[20 M] bestfriend[19 F] of 5 years, what do I do to sort my head out?
POST: Hey all,
First time i've wrote here, don't really know where to start.
So I met this girl back in 2010, when we were young, I was 15 she was 14 and we hung out, got real close and I had something that I felt was 'puppy love' towards this girl, she was shy, quiet, but opened up to me and we was the closest we could ever imagine.
Anyhow I didn't say anything as I was still young and nervous until I was what, 17? We had kissed prior to this once while were drunk at a family due as I invited her, nothing got spoken of about that night.
Once i'd told her that I liked her she literally just mind-gamed the shit out of me, she used to create fake accounts and such and talk to herself online and make me see it some-how, but things have changed now and I don't know what to do, she's a totally changed person ever since then and she makes me love her then makes me feel distant instantly and try to crave her attention.
I love how she was and I want her to somehow be that girl again but I don't know how to sort this out, there's a lot more to it than what is said there but I can't be making pages..
TL;DR: | Met girl while young, Fell in love with her, told her and she mindgamed the fuck out of me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[23F] with my BF [26M] 2 year relationship, I'm only in it because it is easy. I'm scared of breaking up.
POST: I have been with him for 2 years, it will be 3 in January. I also was in a 5 year relationship before him from the age of 15 to 20. I met my current bf a month after the break-up and started dating him. However, I no longer want to be with him.
I have never been alone. I want it, but at the same time I am terrified of it.
How can I break-up with him and not hurt him? What can I tell him? I feel like I'm being selfish. Part of me thinks I should just stay in it because it works fine and I don't want to hurt him. These feelings suck. :(
TL;DR: | I'm comfortable but not happy in a relationship. How do I break-up with him and not hurt him? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[18M] with my girlfriend [18F] 4 years; I don't know how to break up with her.
POST: My girlfriend and I have been together for 4 years and we've had numerous arguments, a few breaks, and some recurring problems. She has this thing about weed, so I don't do it. Of course, I've messed up and smoked; I've ruined some trust she has invested in me.
But lately (earlier this year to now), I've been getting tired of her bringing it up all the time when she has no reason to. She's brought up the fact that if I'm unhappy with her, we shouldn't continue, but I told her I'd make it work- I was truly happy to be with her and I love her. However, even more recently, I've been feeling disconnected from her. I don't want to talk with her as much.
She got angry with me for smoking hookah this year, and in order to keep her trust, I've been hanging out with my friends way less. This past week, she went to Costa Rica for a Senior trip. I used this time to think about what I want- to see if I still feel unhappy with her- and I don't think things have changed. The thing is, there are absolutely no problems right now. We kind of made amends and things were beginning to run smoothly again. I don't know what I should do. The title says I want to break up with her, but as I'm writing this, I'm having second thoughts
TL;DR: | I'm not sure whether or not to break up with my gf. If I do end it, I wouldn't know how... |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27 M] with my GF [24F] of 4 years. We broke up for 2 weeks and got back togeather, I told her I slept with another woman in that time, and now she's upset. How can I make her feel better?
POST: My girlfriend, Christie, and I broke up about 3 weeks ago over some stupid shit. Recently, we talked it out and worked out some problems and ended up getting back togeather. We were only broken up for about 2 weeks, during which time, we had no contact.
After we got back together, we had a long talk, and it came out that about a week after breaking up, I slept with some random girl I met at a party. Christie is really upset about this, and feels betrayed. I feel horrible for it, and I want to make her feel better. Is there anything I can do? Any advice?
Oh, and just to mention, I don't really have much recollection of that night, I honestly woke up in a random stranger's bed. I got pretty barred out on Xanax before going to the party, and literally the last memory I had of that night was like 10 minutes after getting there and saying hi to an old buddy of mine. After that I don't remember anything and have 0 idea hwat happened, I just know that the next morning I woke up naked next to some random girl.
TL;DR: | broke up with gf for 2 weeks, got geeked up, had sex with random girl, now gf is upset. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [F23] boyfriend [M23] came home with big cuts on his chest, but won't tell me what happened.
POST: We've been together for 3 years and have a great relationship. I'm just going to jump right in... He usually sleeps with his shirt off, but for the last 3 days he's been sleeping with one on. I didn't really think anything of it. Last night, in the middle of the night I rolled over and put my hand on his chest, but I felt something weird. When I started to pull his shirt up so I could look, he woke up. He asked me what I was doing, told me to get off. After bugging him a bit more, I got him to show me. He had two patches on his chest, that were covering cuts.
He said he got our friend to stitch him up. But he refuses to tell me what actually happened. "It's not a big deal, just relax." "Please stop asking, it's just a couple of cuts." I have no idea what to do. What the hell could have happened? There's three different cuts, with different angles, they definitely didn't happen at the same time - same occasion, just not simultaneously. Two cuts are like 3-4" and then there's a smaller one. The only thing I can think of is that he was mugged, but why would he keep that from me?
Nothing like this has ever happened before (obviously). I'm really worried and I don't know what to do. Should I just try and let it go? I've asked him like 30 times and he just refuses to tell me.
TL;DR: | My [F23] boyfriend [M23] came home with big cuts on his chest, but won't tell me what happened. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by chasing a dwarf in Asda
POST: Obligatory "not today, blah blah blah", but anyway here goes. The title is pretty self explanatory.
When I was about 3 years old, my mother took my me shopping to Asda (UK Walmart). I was always looking to play with people in my young age and I found a kid in the store to play with so I started to run towards him. However, when I ran to play with my new friend a horrifying revelation was made.
The "kid" was not in fact a kid but instead, was a male dwarf. From this, my father had to try and explain to me that his dwarf in his mid-30s was not in fact a new friend but a man that I wasn't allowed to play with while also trying to contain his laughter.
As you can imagine, the dwarf was probably quite scared, you know what with a hyperactive 3 year-old boy chasing him around Asda trying to play with him.
Looking back, we always laugh when the topic is brought up.
TL;DR: | When I was 3, I chased a dwarf around Asda (UK Walmart) thinking he was another kid to play with. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Since we've only hooked up a few times, I [m/21] don't know whether to "break up" with her [f/20] or just act like it's over.
POST: So I'm studying abroad in Spain right now, and I started hanging out with a girl from my program. I can honestly say I enjoy spending time with her. One thing led to another and we had sex twice. First time wasn't great. We were both tipsy, so I thought that might have been it. Second time we were both sober, but it still wasn't good. If I were studying abroad more than a semester, I'd think about trying to improve our sexual chemistry. But since that's not the case, I need advice on what to do about it. I feel like if I talk with her about, she'll think I'm a huge jerk and only wanted to sleep with her (not the case). But if I just leave it alone, she might think I still want to be with her. What should I do?
TL;DR: | Slept with someone I have no sexual chemistry with. Want it to be over, but still want to hang out. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: (USA/Missouri) Wife responsible for deceased husband's debts?
POST: My sister's husband died a week and a half ago (2nd marriages, both in their 60s). He did not have a will. He did not have any assets.
She long ago decided to hand over their financial affairs to him (he was retired, she works making $70,000 year) because it was easier than arguing with him about things. She made a decision to turn a blind eye to their finances.
Upon his death, she found out their house was almost in foreclosure, their car was ready to be repossessed. He also had credit cards with $20,000 debit on them that she did not co-sign for. Payday loan of $5000 at 115% interest she did not co-sign for. When we went by her house on the day of his funeral, found out her gas had been turned off for nonpayment. (We are thinking he had an illegal gambling addiction.)
TL;DR: | Is my sister responsible for debts her now-deceased husband ran up, that she didn't co-sign for? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Update 2: My [23F] bf [22M] might get fired for dating me. I don't know what to do to make this work. (Slightly misleading title)
POST: First post [here](
TL;DR: | bf broke up with me Friday morning. In a text. While I was in class. I don't know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] 1 year, unfair threesome argument
POST: She's developed a thing for a friend of her's, and I find the thought of them together pretty hot. We've talked about it between ourselves and decided that we want to try a threesome. The issue is that her friend has a boyfriend, and they're only okay with it if it goes both ways. I'm not okay with that at all. Now my girlfriend is mad at me and saying that I'm being unfair and selfish. I get that it may not be fair to her friend's boyfriend for us to do that, but not them, but to me he seems like the only one it would be unfair to. And if he's not okay with it then he can just say no, to me that balances out the fairness. I get that if I were interested in guys and she wanted to do something along these line with a guy it would be different. But the thing is to me, if we add her friend it's still a couple's activity. Her being with them isn't anymore, at least no for us. I just want to know if I'm really being unreasonable here?
TL;DR: | Threesome with her friend but I'm not willing to let them do the same with her. Is it unfair? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [24 M] have been seeing someone [23 F] for a few months. She's grown cold and distant, should I confront her or give up and move on?
POST: I have been seeing this girl for a little while now. We were friends for years, and friends with benefits when we were both single, but this most recent time we started getting together things were different. We talked everyday, hung out on our days off, threw around 'I miss you' and 'can't wait to see you' and other mushy things.
Things were going pretty good, but one day she started getting distant. There was gradually less talking, she didn't want to make time for me anymore, and when we did talk it was cold and snarky. Now it's not very often, I'm always the one to initiate it, and I really don't like being treated so shittily.
Things are done, that's not really the question I'm asking. I just wanted to know, if you were in my shoes would you confront her or just walk away and see if she tries to rekindle a friendship of some kind?
TL;DR: | The title says it all, should I talk to her about it or is it better to just take the hint and go? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My bf (34) and I (30) have arguments a lot about items in our future home. What did you all do?
POST: So my bf (34) and I (30) have been together almost a year and a half now and are getting close to getting our own place. But I have noticed we are polar opposites in many things when it comes to objects in a home. He likes wood floors I like carpet. He likes a water bed and I like a regular pillow top matress. There are many other things, but these are the two main things we have been arguing about lately. So my question is what do you guys do when you move in with your SO and both of you are opposite on some things in the home....what do you do to compromise? I jokingly said to my bf lets make a checker board pattern of carpet and hard wood floor. And don't say break up. Although some of you may think you should run the other way when you have disputes with your SO, I think you should try to work them out. We love each other and want to make things work.
TL;DR: | bf and I are going to move into our own place soon and can't agree on certain things for the home. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [17 M] broke-up with my gf [17 F]... What now?
POST: Last week I posted on here saying I was having issues with my relationship. I decided to go with some advice that suggested I talk to her about it and break-up with her if she can't change.
I did that, but she said she couldn't. We broke-up. I regret it... I now realize how trivial what I wanted was. (I wanted to spend more time together)
Here's where I am now, I want her back more than ever. I don't know if she'll want to get back together. But I also feel super guilty, because in the heat of the break-up I organized a somewhat-date with another girl. But I don't want the other girl, I want the original girl!!!!
Help! Do I ask for forgiveness for original girl or suck it up and go hang out with the other girl? I know what my hearts saying, but then again I tend not to make good decisions in relationship, what should I do?
TL;DR: | broke up with gf, regret it, should I pursue my ex or a new girl (but I don't want a new girl)? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by asking for a girl's number.
POST: I feel fucking miserable right now.
I was talking to a friend on facebook about what should i do to get closer to my crush, and asking for her number popped out.
She just happened to be connected, so i asked her if we could meet in some place in college, nothing bad.
So we meet, and she brings her friend, although she is far enough to most likely not hear.
So i ask for her number, and it just happens, she doesn't fucking know it.
Her sister just happened to be in the upper floor, and she screams if she knows it.
Pretty sure almost everyone there heard it.
Now, i fucking hate myself and want to die.
TL;DR: | Asked my crush her number, she didn't knew it and ended up getting embarassed to a group of people. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [15 M] had a really great date [16 F] on Saturday. Today a new kid [17ish M] flirted with her right in front of me.
POST: We had a really great time and really connected. She hugged me and texted me "Had a nice time, can't wait for Spanish ;)" afterwards. A new kid came to our Spanish class. He sat next to her where her friend usually sits, and flirted with her right in front of me the entire period, making me feel like shit. This conflicts with her friend making an offhand remark that suggested she really really fancies me ("she'll take it next semester if you're in it, I'm sure"). When I texted her "can't wait for musical chairs. Anything is better than this" in class she banged her head against her desk a couple times. We usually play musical chairs at the end of class, BTW. What should I do? We're not in a relationship or anything yet, but it still hurt me. Am I just being clingy? Should I say or text her anything?
TL;DR: | had a great time with a girl then she flirted with another guy right in front of me. What do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20/F] with my boyfriend [25 /M] 5 months are pretty happy but my past seems to worry him.
POST: so long story short when we started seeing each other he told me that he didn't want to know my sexual past since I had hinted that id have more than iv wanted. (didn't love myself and so let guys use me)
but now he brings up things he doesn't want to know but they always escalate as if he wants me to say no I haven't gone that far. let me explain. when we talk about being open to each other he use to say I don't want to know how many guys you've been with so don't tell me that. then it was I don't want to know if you've have a 3 some with two guys and this week was you don't have to tell me if you had an orgy or something like that.
I always say I understand what he means and I never deny anything even if iv never done it because im so ashamed of what I did and if I start telling him id have to give the whole truth. so what do you guys think? is he trying to figure out how far iv gone? and should I just come out with it or I wait till he asks?
TL;DR: | my bf tells me he doesn't want to know my sexual past but his ''guessing'' keeps getting worse. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22M] get some strong anxiety when communication is lagging in a relationship.
POST: This has been an ongoing issue that I want to try and mitigate, especially since I just started talking with someone [21F]. Whenever I am talking with a current or potential SO, my brain goes into overdrive when it takes a while for them to respond (Text Messaging, Phone Calls, Social Media, etc.) - especially if I can see they saw it but never responded. I automatically start thinking it is over and drawing conclusions that aren't warranted.
I got out of a very abusive relationship [20F] a couple months ago where she convinced me that my anxiety was my issue and I needed to fix it. I went to see a school counselor about it and they told me that my anxiety was warranted based on her actions in the relationship. I'm trying to find out how to control some of these reactions. I want to get this addressed before I ruin any potential relationships.
The person I am currently talking to [21F] is away on a trip currently and can only communicate when Internet is available. Social Media will tell me that they read it and I get knots in my stomach. I know she is in another country and is on a "vacation" but I still get worried.
What should I do?
TL;DR: | How do I [22M] deal with anxiety created from a sense of being ignored by a potential/current SO? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: F[22] Showing a lack of interest/support in something that means a lot to me M[24] Should I be upset/annoyed?
POST: I have been dating a girl now for 8 weeks and everything is going great.
One of my hobbies is Boxing, and I have been doing it for over 2 years now. I have a fight coming up soon, but my girlfriend barely shows any interest in it and has said she will not be going to it.. or any other of my fights. Her reasoning behind it is that she doesn't like violence or blood etc. I can understand this, as I know this kind of sport is not to everyones liking.
But I cant help but feel a little bit let down. I would love her to be there, and I have told her this. It is starting to get under my skin a bit and I don't like that she won't be there to support me.
I am just being selfish.. or do I have a right to be upset about this?
TL;DR: | F[22] Refuses to support or attend a hobby of mine M[24] 8 week relationship, should I be upset? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How does one get rid of an oder in a room?
POST: To begin with, I'm in a college dorm sharing a room with one other person. I clean the room all the time so its usually spotless but never touch my roomates stuff as i don't know if he would want me to or not anyways.
I leave my windows open day and night though and the hall door open to try to have this random smell go away, but it just never does. some friensd come in saying it smells like bad b.o or something like that, others say they can't put a word on what the smell is, just that it's awful.
So today after spending a long time cleaning, i made sure everything i had was fine and all that, but anytime i leave the room and come back, the smell is just strong. You get used to it, but it's not necessarily the best thing to have in a college dorm.
so
TL;DR: | room has some bad oder coming from a spot i don't know where, how do i get rid of the smell? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: How should i [M20] contact girl [F17] i met while i was drunk
POST: There's an event every year promoting my home town that goes on for a week. At the weekend people party and drink in the town park. The park is really crowded and you meet a lot of people. Yesterday I was at said party and I was really drunk. I don't remember much of the evening but I do remember this girl. We talked for a long time and my friend said we kissed. Then I got sick... And I puked.
Not long after that she had to go home because she had to catch her ride home. Later on my friend had to carry me into his car because I was too drunk to walk. When I woke up I had no idea how I got home and thought the encounter with the girl was a dream. I didn't even remember her name. I check my facebook and i had a friend request from her. I accepted the friend request.
I think i want to contact her but I don't know what to say and I can't find the courage. I don't know if she likes me now that she saw me puke but she did send me a friend request. I haven't been in a real relationship since I was 16 so I'm not good at this stuff. Im kinda freaking out here and I would like some advice. (also the girl is really cute)
TL;DR: | I met a girl, we kissed, i puked, she left, i would like to meet here again. im a mess. help me |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 F] with my friend [28 M], 1 month of knowing each other, how to get out of the friend zone?
POST: I met this guy at a singles retreat a little over a month ago. We've been keeping in touch through messaging. I realized I liked him right before we said our goodbyes at the retreat, when he told me he thinks I'm adorable.
I went to his birthday party last night and he told me I'm hot, funny, sweet, kind, and an overall amazing girl.
I didn't ask him to say any of that, and I asked him why he said that and he said because it's true. I was also the only person who even gave him a birthday card (after he said those things but I was going to give him one anyways) everybody else came empty handed.
Physically speaking, he's a bit chubby and bald, but I think he has the nicest smile and seems like an overall sweet guy. Me physically, I'm a fit and well endowed female.
I honestly don't know what to make of what he said. Is he interested in taking me out of the friendzone? How do I let him know I'm interested in dating him?
TL;DR: | Guy I am friends with told me he thinks I'm hot, hasn't asked me out, not sure if he's interested. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [26/M] girlfriend [26/F] of 3 years told me she wants to be married and pregnant by 30. What do i do?
POST: She told me this casually last night and I am freaking out. I have said all along that I don't want kids anytime soon and I don't plan on getting married before 30.
To be honest I don't think we can afford kids or a marriage either. We have over 100k in student loans between us and very little money saved. Her loans are worse than mine (higher balances and interest rates and her salary is lower).
I told her that I would want to get married cheaply and I caught some backlash on that, so I kind of backed off it. I don't think she wants anything too extravagant but when I say cheap, I mean cheap, like a few thousand bucks, ring included.
I don't really know what to do or what to say about this without it causing a fight. I really love her and would want to spend the rest of my life with her but we aren't on the same page here. Any ideas on how to approach the subject? any advice in general?
TL;DR: | Girlfriend wants to be married with kids on the way in 4 years. I don't think we can afford it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: Pulled Muscle; please help.
POST: Hi reddit, I am a cross country runner at my high school. Granted I am not very fast because I have been out of shape for most of my life, but I have trained all year for this next upcoming season. Unfortunately it is only the third day (which was planned for speed work) and I have pulled a muscle in my calf.
This happened while I was stretching after the run. The pain was excruciating, almost as if someone was grabbing my leg's calf and pushing it into my bones. I put ice on it immediately, and it started to help enough so that I could "walk," mostly limp, across the house (sucks that i have 3 floors to my house)
I eat a LOT of protein so the pain in the calf is pretty much gone. In fact while I iced it, I could feel the muscle moving rapidly to repair itself. However; there is now this really uncomfortable pain in the area right underneath my knee. Thank you guys a ton if you could help me.
TL;DR: | I pulled a calf muscle, and it hurts in the backside of my knee. How do I help this heal quicker? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I like to keep more work and personal life very separate. I act very differently at each. Anybody else do this/does it make me a hypocrite?
POST: So my wife works at a church, I'm a cop. I don't remember ever cursing in front of my wife. She would not appreciate it at all. When I'm at work however I'm dropping f-bombs left and right. People at church don't know my more rough and tumble side from being a cop and being in the army for 9 years. I also drink a lot when im doing army stuff, (in the reserves). Wife thinks I may have a beer or two. Army buddies don't know that when I go home I am a gentle non cursing, non drinking, dad who's wife is the worship leader of a small church.
Here is the thing, I like it this way. I like being able to get out and be a man's man , and be rough around the edges, than come home kiss my wife and kid and act like it didn't happen. Does this make me a hypocrite? I feel like I'm living a double life sometimes and am just waiting for worlds to collide, like George castansa. Anyone else do this?
TL;DR: | live one life at work different one at home. Am I a hypocrite? Do you do this? Advice in general? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23M] and Colleague [26F] Not sure if colleague "likes" me
POST: So I will keep this short as I've posted a lot here recently, am unable to copy in previous posts so feel free to have a look via my username.
So basicly I have a crush on a colleague and I think she feels the same way, we are meeting up for a coffee/tea Monday morning before work (I asked as a date and she neither confirmed but was happy to go as friends ATM)
So today me, her and 3 other people were sat around at work (we door knock so were sat on a grassy area before we started) and my crush offered round biscuits, when she got to me instead of just saying "biscuit"? Or do I want one she said " buscuit my love" and it sounded very natural like she meant it and didn't seem to blue or be embrassed about saying it.
Never heard her say anything like that to anyone else (more has happened before that so it might be worth you having a look at previous posts as I'm doing this via phone)
I'm tempted to start calling her milady and see if she picks up on this.
Should I?
Never had a girl call me this before, not even my ex of 3yrs, any thoughts?
TL;DR: | colleague called me "my love" I have a crush on her, think she feels same (better if you read) |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Issue with paycheck (Minnesota)
POST: I got a position through a temp agency to a manufacturing position about 3 months ago. Everything has been fine until last week. I work Monday-Thursday 10 hour days. Last week I was unavailable to work Thursday so I asked my boss if I could take the day off to come in on Friday (OT is available on fridays but is optional). Since I wasnt gonna be working Thursday, my paycheck would be the same as any other week.
Well on last Friday when I was working I got a call from the temp agency telling me I would not be getting my paycheck that day because of an issue on there part and said I would get it on Tuesday (monday was memorial day). I said that is fine and that was the end of the conversation. Got my paycheck on Tuesday (in full and with no issue) but today on Friday, my paycheck was about $50 short.
I called the agencys 1800 number since I discovered this after hours and they told me that because I got paid twice in one week, the taxes are higher which is why my paycheck is lower. This came as a shock to me because, 1. I was not aware of this and 2. My recruiter never mentioned it. Now I am $50 short because of there mistake. I can't contact her until Monday, but I wanted to know, if I can do anything about this legally? I worked for that money but my paycheck is $50 short because of there mistake.
TL;DR: | Workplace screwed up and paid me twice in one week, this caused me to lose $50, what can I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I Took Your Advice; What Now?
POST: i'm fairly shy (20M) and never really took the initiative on the whole dating scene. but after getting some good advice though this sub-reddit i finally found a pair and started talking to this girl i like (19F) and even managed a ice cream date with her tmr.
the thing is; i dont know whether or not she thinks its a "date"; or for that matter, even into me. she is fairly outgoing and loves to talk with everyone, but i find shes really quiet around me and barely talks.
also for our "date" tmr; any good tips or advice that would make my new found confident self be more outgoing?
TL;DR: | took you're advice reddit, how do i keep my confidence going and how can i tell if she's into me? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22F] have never really been romantically interested in anyone even though I would also love a romantic relationship. I feel so unusual.
POST: I'm not sure exactly how to explain it, but I've never really felt romantically interested in anyone. I've been asked out before and had little crushes before, but even when I've been asked out I've never felt it in return enough for it to feel fair. I've never reciprocated. I don't know what it is. I don't know if I'm asexual or just have some kind of self image issue that's preventing me from putting myself out there. I feel like I get "friend crushes" in like, I want to get to know this person and be their best friend, but never have been interested in hooking up with anyone. I've hooked up before but felt totally uninterested. I'm fairly certain I'm straight. But I just feel like this area of romantic interest is just not something I experience and feel like I am completely missing out on some kind of human emotion.
TL;DR: | I've never wanted to date anyone, even though I want to date!! Am I asexual or just picky?? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How can I move out of an abusive home?
POST: Thank you for opening this and wanting to help.
Long story short, I've lived with an abusive family all my life. My dad does the physical abuse (choking, shoving, pinning me against walls) and my mom has always done the emotional abuse (calling me a loser, stupid, telling me I'll never amount to anything.
I'm an 18 year old male, and I want out. I've put up with this shit all my life, and I just want to get out, be happy, and make my life my own. Here's the kicker though: My parents deliberately never taught me any life skills.
I don't know how to cook, pay bills, or practically anything that an adult needs to know how to do. I don't have a job because my parents don't allow me to have one.
The one thing I have is a personal drive, a fire under my ass, and I'm going to use it to do whatever I can to get out and prove my parents and everything they ever said about me wrong.
If you're still reading this, thank you so much for caring. Any direction you can point me, any advice you can give me, WHATEVER...it's so greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: | Abusive parents, not educated in life skills, need to know how to get out and get my feet under me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25/M] with my Mom [59/F] She tries to talk to me too damn much.
POST: I love my mom. Shes basically the only family I have. However this lady has no problem texting and emailing me literally all day. She just emailed me. I didn't respond, but by the time I had read it, I looked down and she was texting me. She texts me more than ANY girlfriend or fuck buddy I have EVER had. IT IS PISSING ME OFF MORE THAN ANYTHING!!!!! I have literally asked her to stop texting me until the "evening hours" and then she just bitches and moans about how hateful I am. I AM NOT HATEFUL. However I can easily see that this is going to make me distance myself from her. And like I said I have NO family other than her. But I cant stand the same texts and emails 15 times a day everyday for the last few years. There is a lot more to this story which I can explain later. But I just need some advice on how you handled a creepy helicopter parent. She literally has no problem what so ever texting me 12 times with no response.
TL;DR: | Mom texts and emails me waaaaaay too much. Starting to piss me off and makes me not want to answer. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Took the 0% - what to do with the cash?
POST: I recently purchased a new car and took the 0% for 60 month financing option in lieu of a $1250 rebate. Now, I had the cash for the vehicle set aside and could have paid for it, but it seemed that $40k invested in pretty much anything would have been the better way to go. Anyone have any advise on how to use that cash?
Having it sitting in a a savings account paying .90% ($360 per year) is, I suppose, one option. I also like the idea that monthly payment could come right out of the savings account and draw down for the next 5 years, and I can pretend that it never touches my cash flow. I can keep contributing to my savings, 401k, mortgage, etc. as though it never happened. I don't "need" the money, it was above an beyond my emergency fund. I've considered a bond ETF (BOND), or something with more than zero risk. I'm comfortable with more than zero risk, but also like the idea that I could just pay the thing off if I ever wanted or needed to.
TL;DR: | Took the 0 percent for 60 months... what to do with $40k that's low, but not zero risk. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Dear Reddit, what is your opinion on tattoos?
POST: My dad's older brother was a small time magician who was murdered before I was born. I grew up always hearing about him and our similarities. Last year, around the anniversary of his death, my dad got more upset than usual. He explained to me that I'm the age he was when he died and that everything I do reminds him of my uncle. I look like him, act like him, and I'm even taking the same courses as him in university. Since that night I've thought a lot about my role in my dad's life. I don't really believe in reincarnation, but I suppose a part of me wants my life to be an homage to my uncle. Anyway, recently I thought about getting a tattoo that says "Abracadabra", in memory of my uncle, and in a way representing his last trick for my dad. What does Reddit think of this idea? Tattoos are a permanent thing and I don't want to make a rash decision.
TL;DR: | I was considering getting a tattoo that says "Abracadabra" in memory of my late magician uncle. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: So, Reddit, any spectacularly awful first time stories? (NSFW)
POST: So, I have 2 pretty bad first time stories...(Yes, 2 first times...)
So, First time 1: Almost there!
So, I had been dating this girl for about a year, we were 17, seniors in high school, she was my first girlfriend, I, her first boyfriend. So, after a few months of fooling around, we decided we were tired of just taking turns, and decided to just bang already! so, we start out with foreplay and all, and once she is sufficiently wet, I go to put it in, and just can't. shes so tight it just won't go in. My fingers went in no problem... So, I got all excited to finally fuck her, and boom, no go. We tried several more times throughout the 2 more years that relationship lasted, and it never worked, it hurt her too much.
Now, first time number 2: this time we got there!
So, broke up with that girl in a huge mess after spending 2 years long distance. Dating this new girl for a few weeks, and we'd been having some great sexy times. (God damn she was hot.... way out of my league hot...) and in the heat of the moment, we just slid it in. I proceed to fuck the shit out of her, and a minute later, she's done... She reached the peak, got tired and rolled off... Isn't it the guy that usually ruins the first time prematurely?
TL;DR: | First time I was going to have sex, it didn't fit, first time I had sex, she prematurely came... |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by trying to relieve my chafed balls
POST: I play paintball and wear padded spandex shorts under my pants to protect my upper legs and crotch from being shot. Naturally after 8 hours of running around the area between the balls and the inner thigh gets quite chafed and red. I got home and had an idea: I read somewhere that isopropyl alcohol "burns" exposed nerve endings and relieve the chafing. So I splashed it on my hand and rubbed my ballsack. Within milliseconds agonizing pain of fire ignited my balls, I fell on my bed and started writhing in pain AUUUAUUAUUARGHHH!!! Thank god 15 seconds later it dissipated and I now had a pretty numb sack.
TL;DR: | Don't put isopropyl on your balls, feels the same as dipping them into a foundry with molten lead. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Took a few bloody poops. Am I dying?
POST: Here's the story. The past few days, every time I pooped, my TP would have a little bit of blood on it after the wipe. I wasn't incredibly concerned. Today, however, I took a poop that was slightly larger than average by my standards. Now, my bhole didn't have blood gushing like that horrifying jar video that I suddenly thought of and now my day kind of sucks, but there was blood. The first couple wipes were pretty much completely red, and then I noticed that it basically looked like I had a blood clot infused with one of my turds. Do I have some sort of internal death lurking? I've had some pretty brutal stomach aches lately, so that may or may not mean anything to people who know about bloody poopers.
TL;DR: | Pooped out what looked to be a blood clot turd. I am pretty sure I'm already a goner. |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: How do I know when to quit?
POST: So I am almost done with my third year of college studying 3D modeling, animation, etc. But I'm not very good at it. Most of my classmates are better and I don't put in too much time outside of class towards getting better. I have never been artistic and I kind of chose the major on a whim. I feel like I don't belong in this major but I'm almost done. Along with that in my life I've had issues with finishing things I've started. So I don't know if I'm scared or I actually want to quit and if that would be the best decision. People always say to follow your passion, but I don't know what my passion is. My biggest hobby has always been Video Games but I'm in a major based around making them and I still want to quit. I just don't know what to do with my life anymore, I don't want to waste my entire college career and I really don't want to end up working at a 7-11 for the rest of life because I regret quitting my major. Does anyone have any advice to help me?
TL;DR: | I don't know if I want to quit my major because I'm scared or just because I actually want to quit. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] with my long distance gf [21 F] of 3 and a half years, she made out with a stranger last night
POST: She'll see this because she frequents this sub but I wanted to post here to see what other people think.
So my gf went out last night to a club with some friends. We are both currently studying in different countries for this semester of uni but have been in an ldr since the start of college. She had a few drinks but says she wasn't drunk. Barely even tispy. Apparently the guy she was dancing with started kissing her and they made out for 1-2 minutes (maybe she isn't positive on the time) and then she ran away. She texted me 20-30 minutes later that "he kissed me and that's when I left" but after further prodding it turns out it was more than just one kiss. I have told her before that I'm strict on cheating (just in a general "here are my opinions on things" way. Not a "YOU BEST NOT CHEAT ON ME" kind of way) and that there have been cheaters in my family and I find it disgusting.
I don't really know what to do. I love her more than the world and this is just one mistake while drunk in a different country. But after the trickle truth and everything else I'm not sure how much I can trust her. I'm fairly confident that this is the only time and that she is sincerely sorry and will do anything to fix it. I don't think I'm going to break up with her but I wanted to know if I'm blowing things out of proportion here.
TL;DR: | GF made out with stranger, didn't lie about it but didn't tell the full truth. Am I overreacting? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by not knowing how to talk to a girl
POST: This didn't happen today but happened when I was in 7th grade. I had a crush on this girl, and I was afraid to talk to her or any girls for that matter (I am an only child and didn't know how to talk to girls until I was 18). For some back story, this girl was pretty popular and I was not. We used to IM back when that was still a thing. Cut to valentines day. I open up AIM and start talking to her. Things are going good, lots of LOLs and I think now's the time to ask her. So I type "Will you be my valentine?". I send the message after about 5 minutes of building up the courage to actually send this message. She immediately types back "Are you serious lol?" I say, " no sorry my friend typed that". I was alone. I never talked to her again.
TL;DR: | Valentines day ask my crush on IM to go out with me, I end up saying my friend was playing a prank. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I (29/M) not invite my friend (23/F) to a party now that I teach one of her classes?
POST: I'm planning a Halloween party and having a real dilemma about whether to invite one of my friends. I met her on the debate team at our university. I'm a grad student and she's an undergrad. I've hosted parties before where I invite most or all of the debate team and she usually comes, and good times are had by all.
This semester, I'm actually teaching a class and she's one of my students. So I can grade her and what-not. It feels a little weird that I'm not in charge of one of my friend's grades (even though I set up the grading of the class in such a way that there is little subjectivity when grading). But now I'm planning this Halloween party and wanting to invite all my old friends, but wondering whether to invite her or not. On the one hand, it could definitely look bad from the outside if a professor invites one of his students to his house for a party (esp. one with alcohol). On the other hand, I don't know if she would feel slighted or like I'm unfairly excluding her by not inviting her, even though I'm inviting a lot of other people from the team.
I'm sort of leaning in the direction of not inviting her, but willing to listen to advice.
TL;DR: | I find myself being one of my friend's teachers. Is it weird to invite her to a party at my house? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Aside from the gift exchange, randoms acts of pizza, and petty, sarcastic arguments over Reddit, what has been your most memorable interaction with another Reddit user?
POST: I remember posting on r/nyc back in 2011, asking for someone to volunteer for a charity event. Little did I know how offensive it was to ask for a volunteer photographer. Nevertheless, I found out the hard way.
This one particular redditor (who happened to be a professional photographer) made it clear that you just don't *ask* someone to take photographs for free. Looking back, I should've just let it slide, but I was in my 8th month of Americorps--feeling tired, hungry, and overworked, I launched right into a heated argument.
We went back and forth--in typical online fighting fashion--but it came to a head when I told him, "listen. i get it. you're a scrooge, but i'm pretty sure there are other people who would like to volunteer for my cause." his next comment said something like, "i'm not a scrooge. check your inbox."
five minutes later i got a call from my co-worker saying we randomly received a $50 donation. the name of the donor matched the reddit handle.
it completely made my week.
i'm eager to hear some of your stories!
TL;DR: | Got into a fight over at r/nyc. Resulted in a $50 donation to my former non-profit. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I properly ask a guy if he likes me after 4 years?
POST: I, [20F], have liked a guy [21M] for about four years now, but have no idea if he likes me. In the first two years of our 'relationship' we hung out a good amount and hooked up every time. As time went on, we dated other people, but every time we were single we would get together and hook up. Over the last two years we haven't seen each other as much, once a week to once a month, and pretty much hook up and leave. Last week he uploaded a cheeky picture of him with a girl going to a date party, when we were going to hook up earlier that day, but I was too far away before he had to leave.
I know there's no chance he's head over heels in love with me, but I honestly like him. I want to text him (I know in person is better but I'm going to be a coward) asking him if he likes me at all. How do I go about this?
TL;DR: | I've been causally hooking up with a guy for four years and want advice into asking if he likes me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: blood in newly adopted puppy's stool...help?
POST: I adopted her last Friday from the animal shelter and as soon as I switched her food she started having diarrhea. It has gotten progressively worse over the past few days. She saw the vet yesterday and her fecal test came back normal (negative). I have been feeding her white rice and boiled chicken for the past two days. Tonight when I walked her I noticed bright red blood in her stool and of course I half panicked.
I don't think she's drinking enough water so I got her some Pedialyte but she's not interested in drinking it.
Do you guys think she'll be okay until the morning when I can call the vet?
Her energy and and mood seem to be totally fine, in fact she's in full blown puppy mode.
TL;DR: | new puppy has bright bloody stool and I don't know how to help?/what do you think the vet will say? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [18F] of 3 years, how do I accept her kinks? NSFW?
POST: Hey reddit, so basically my gf is into pegging and while I wasn't into the idea at first, she kept talking about it and eventually I was like "sure, maybe it'll be fun". It wasn't. In my mind I can see how it'll be fun but when the actual act is happening it's just pain.
Issue:
I can see how happy it makes her and in my mind I like it... just not in reality. I don't want to take away something that makes her happy but this just isn't doing it for me. How do I tell her that what makes her happy hurts me?
TL;DR: | Pegging + tiny butt = pain for me but happyness for gf. How do I tell gf without making her sad. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [25M] trying to learn how to talk to introverted girls
POST: I was homeschooled, and due to shyness, degree choice, and some really bad athletic injuries, I didn't socialize much in college.
My type is introverted (or at least 50% introverted) girls who are athletic, intelligent, and talkative. I love listening (to smart people), and I'm kinda an adrenalin-seeker. I'd much rather go sky diving than go to a party or go clubbing.
I've had few close female friends, and all have been super extroverted. I'm used to letting girls make all the moves, and I don't know what to do!
Now that my injuries are better, I'm trying some sports out, but it's hard for me because I'm super athletic, but I never played sports growing up. I also just get really shy, and only talk to guys and extroverted girls.
So, if you are an introverted, talkative girl and just met an introverted guy who seems nice, what would you like him to do???
TL;DR: | How do I talk to introverted girls? I'm used to letting extroverted girls make all the moves... |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: To refinance or not. Details inside.
POST: I bought my first (new) car a little over a year ago. Being my first car, I got a pretty bad APR at 8.99%. I am in the process of looking to refinance my car. I got an offer through National Auto Loan Network for 2.49%
My current loan I have $14,253.12 owed. My payments are $320.06 and I've got 54 of them to go. Again it is at 8.99% APR.
The offer I've got from National Auto Loan Network looks like its got a lot of fees. I would put down another $7,000 on my loan so I thought I would be financed for the difference of my current loan. I currently owe $14,253.12 so I figured put down $7k I'd be financed for $7,253 however the paperwork NALN emailed me shows me being financed for $8761 with total payments of $9251.52. I've got a finance charge of $490 and a GAP fee of $800. Should I ditch the GAP fee? Are they giving me the run around? Any insight is greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: | Current Loan: I owe $14,253.12 with payments of 320.06 for 54 more months at 8.99% APR |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How long should someone wait to drop the L-bomb in a relationship? [27/m]
POST: Background for question:
My [27/m] current SO [28/f] have been together for about a month now and we have dropped the ole L-bomb already. I know, it happened really soon. But, we have known each other for >4 years already and things just kinda... Happened. And it seems like we transitioned into a relationship seamlessly.
When thinking about the whole *love* word issue, I had my reservations about sharing it (she pried it out of me) but, further reflection has me really questioning the social stigma over the whole thing. To a very small degree, I had feelings for her beyond many in my life already given that I used to see her daily for 8 months of the year for a few years. So it didn't take much to transition from that level of feelings to love, given that the level of *feelings* before was arguably a degree of *love*. Admittedly, the depth and degree of love I have for her will grow exponentially but that shouldn't stop me from sharing how I feel today; especially when you consider that today is all we really are guaranteed. I would rather say it than not say it and never be able to.
So, in your opinion, is there a *rule* of how long a couple should wait to drop the L-bomb?
TL;DR: | In your opinion, is there a *rule* of how long a couple should wait to drop the L-bomb? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17 F] with my Best friend [18 M]
POST: Basically, around a year ago I moved to a new College and became friends with this guy. This guy, I will call A for the purpose of this, and I became close friends quickly, he stopped speaking to the rest of his friends and we spent the majority of our time together.
After a month or two, it was pretty clear we were comfortable around each other, constantly teasing one another, playful fighting and the such. We also began to do things outside of College together, go to the movies, grabbing a bite to eat, and signing up for residential courses together.
Certain people have began to push for the two of us to get together, saying that 'everyone' thinks we should, since we are 'always' together. But usually A comes back with a quick snappy reply.
We've mutually expressed being comfortable around each other, more than with other people, but I have pretty strong feelings for him, and have since a short while after I met him, the problem is I cannot just blurt this out in fear of wrecking our friendship, since it is basically just the two of us.
TL;DR: | Feelings for my best friend, not sure if he feels the same way, Don't want to wreck the friendship. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: My girlfriend doesn't put out, my eyes are wandering.
POST: Me : 27
Her : 25
Known each other 6+ years, as lovers/friends.
We have been together 8 months now. We have had this problem in the past. She takes medication in which one of the listed side effects is decreased sex drive. She also takes birth control. We have sex maybe once a month, if I am lucky. It's a chore for me to even get that. I am always the initiator.
She uses excuses like she lives with her parents (we are moving in together soon) and of course blames her medication to some degree (which she is slowing weening herself off of) but it bothers me that I always have to start things and that she downplays the frequency.
She says things like, "It hasn't been that long!" But yes, my friends, it has. We are like the old married couple. I might get a blowjob for my birthday.
So naturally because of this, I constantly look at and fantasize about other women. I don't think about her when I masturbate and I watch a lot of porn now.
I should add that in the past we would have regular sex but that got interrupted because I was having ED issues. I saw a urologist and am perfectly fine now. I guess time will tell when we move in together - but I am pretty sure it's going to be more excuses when we move in.
"I'm tired." ... etc
What do you think, Reddit?
TL;DR: | GF of 8 months doesn't put out, lots of excuses, I want to fuck other women. How can I fix it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [28/F] seeing [27/M] for about a month - no exclusivity talk, should I keep dating other guys?
POST: I've been on about seven dates with this one guy over a period of 3 and a half weeks, so we've seen each other a good bit. I really like him and we get along / have great chemistry. We haven't slept together yet because we haven't had the 'exclusive' talk, just my personal preference.
It seems like he really likes me - i've met his friends, he's incredibly affectionate, cooks for me, we text every day, is open about his life with me... we hung out today and it was like he didn't want me to leave. But there's been no 'hey i really like you, you're great' or he hasn't asked if i'm dating other guys. He's more reserved when it comes to this sort of thing, also its only been a short time.
The thing is, i do like him but want to date other guys if he isn't interested in being exclusive. I've been asked out and want to proceed potentially (seeing as he hasn't asked to be exclusive) but want to see if its ok with him first. I don't know how to do this - really worried I'll screw things up and hurt his feelings if I even mention this. How can I do so without sounding like a jerk? Should I even mention it at this time?
TL;DR: | Not exclusive with guy ive been seeing, is it ok to now ask if he's ok with me seeing other people? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [26F] ex[34F] won't stop coming into my work. Has anyone else delt with this before?
POST: My ex and I were together for a total of 7 months. On New Year's Eve this year she broke up with me because we are in different places in our lives. (She is significantly older than me and doesn't want to wait for me to finish my masters before settling down.) She said some really hurtful things and I don't think getting back together is what's good for me.
I work as a barista at a local coffee shop and since 2 weeks after the break up she has been coming in at least once a week. Yes, she was a regular before, but she only comes in on days I work now despite schedule changes.
It upset me a lot the first time, and now it's just frustrating. It is mostly frustrating because I have been trying to get some of my things back, but she is always too busy or too sick to do it. Even after I text her and she's too sick I'll see her in the shop the next day.
My question is am I just being too sensitive about this? I have only ever been in long distance relationships and this is the first time I have dated someone from my area. Yes, seeing her was inevitable, but I haven't gone into her work at all out of respect. Has anyone else had an ex that has done this and how do you deal with it?
TL;DR: | Ex broke up with me on New Years, too "sick" to exchange things, but keeps coming into my work. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I applied for an Amex card today...
POST: Hi PF, long time lurker here...
Long story short, I have been browsing credit cards lately and my SO recommended American Express blue cash for a number of reasons. I have a 730+ credit score, and currently only have one USAA credit card with a $1500 credit limit. No other loans/credit lines. I never carry a balance on this one card, I always always pay in full. So I applied.
I was approved, hooray, and will be getting my card in the mail shortly. I called their customer service line to confirm when my card would be arriving (I'm living in blizzard conditions at the moment and was just curious and mostly bored). The rep told me the credit limit on my new card will be $15,000.
My question to PF is, WTF, why? I input all my information as honestly as I could on the application. I make $40-50,000/yearly. I have stock currently worth ~$1000 that I never touch. Checking and savings (savings about $6k). A 403b opened last year thru my employer, with ~$1000, indicated all of this on my app. Credit score previously mentioned. Is this not a ridiculous amount to give to someone like me? I am not a big spender nor would I be able to pay off $15k in charges. Maybe I'm just credit stupid. Was this a mistake?
TL;DR: | applied for credit card, was approved, new Amex card has $15k limit and I don't understand how. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Any Adivce On How to Be A Dick?
POST: Reddit, I've finally decided I'm going to become an asshole. I'm tired of doing the nice guy rutine and getting snubbed by the ass hole docuhe bags I claim to dispise so much. So, I'm going to become that which I hate in order to see if it's really worth hating. I was thinking about starting with my physical appearance you know, working out, running getting in shape. After that, I need to know the attitude to have. I don't want to come off as a complete ass douche, but I want to find that right level of douche baggary that establishes dominance. If you disagree or think I'm being stupid in wanting this, please feel free to tell me why.
TL;DR: | Tired of being nice. Wanna be a dick. If you agree/disagree, feel free to tell me why. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Is it a big deal if he doesn't get me anything for Valentine's Day?
POST: We've been dating for about 3 weeks. He's 21, going on 22 and I turned 21 today. Yes, today is both Valentine's Day and my birthday. He's working tonight so I understand not taking me out, but something small would have been nice, right? I made him a little beanie that he asked for but he didn't give me anything. Didn't even acknowledge that it was Valentine's Day, not really. I don't know, I'm not upset, I'm just kinda like [okay.jpg] I'm just bothered by the fact that he made everything serious so quickly - he introduced me to his parents and said the L word - but can't even get me a singular rose? I just feel like it means things are fizzling out, I don't know...
TL;DR: | it's my bday/valentine's and I didn't get anything, should I be bothered or does it not matter? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [35 M] had a 2 night stand in Vegas and she [28 F] is becoming clingy
POST: I was in Vegas a few weeks ago and ended up meeting a fellow tourist and spending 2 days with her. We had copious amounts of sex, which was fantastic, but also had a few meals together, went to a show, did some sightseeing.
We live quite far away from each other and I'm not looking for a relationship, LD or otherwise, which I made clear while we were together. Since Vegas I get regular texts from her, provocative photos and then last night she wanted me to call her so she "could hear [my] voice".
She's nice and I'm all for being long distance friends but I feel she's trying to establish something else. What's the best way to let her down gently?
TL;DR: | had a vegas fling, she seems to be trying to form a LDR. How do I let her down gently? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [20F] Girlfriend [24F] Forces Me To Do Sexual Stuff
POST: She's lesbian, I'm bisexual, and she makes me feel bad about the fact that I've had previous relationships with guys. She's the first girl I've ever been with and because of that I'm hesitant and nervous about doing sexual stuff, she's been pressuring me into doing stuff when I don't feel ready to. And when I try saying I'm not comfortable with certain things or I don't want to do it, she'll say well you did it with guys, are you sure you're bi? And it makes me feel really bad and guilty so I give into doing it and I don't know what to do. We've been dating for 7 months and I feel kind of stuck as I'm afraid to stand up for myself, I don't know what to do. I feel terrified when she tries to get me to do sexual stuff and I'm really nervous about saying no because whenever I say no she gets angry and insults me. Help :(
TL;DR: | My girlfriend forces me to do sexual stuff when I don't feel ready to. I don't know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/travel
TITLE: Need some advice on my specific predicament regarding Turkey
POST: I know there have been a ton of posts on here about whether it's safe or not to travel Europe, all of which have been quite helpful and I've taken into account. I'm 18 yrs old (M) from Australia currently on my gap year, and I plan to go travelling for a couple of months in June.
I'm of the belief that you shouldn't let terror affect where you should travel; however, I am also Jewish, and as a such come from a typically conservative and neurotic community.
Turkey is one of the highest places on my list of places to go, but the group I was travelling with have decided that due to the recent attacks, they don't think it's safe enough to go anymore (a response we both view as an overreaction). My twin brother and I want to travel Turkey on our own - we thought maybe its better we aren't in such a large group. We plan on flying from Israel (a country that has sent numerous warnings not to travel Turkey and suggested all Jewish people leave) straight to Istanbul, and then catch a connecting flight down to the south-west coast for a couple of days (Bodrum/Ölüdeniz/Fethiye). Can anyone who has been to this area of Turkey please offer their opinion - are my brother and I naive to think it is safe to travel Turkey coming from Israel, or is our slight paranoia unwarranted?
TL;DR: | Two Aussie Jews want to travel Turkey on their own for a couple of days. Good idea or not worth it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by not talking
POST: Unlike most TIFUs this actually happened today. Not an hour ago from when I wrote this. This is my first time posting so.. mistakes will be made.
Set the stage: one girl who is academically successful and has some sort of school club to attend. Enter slacker boyfriend who has yet to get his license.
So, earlier today my girlfriend says "so am I giving you a ride today? It seems like every Monday you need one." I kindly accept to that, I may slack but I'm still a gentleman. She gives me a ride, which I am busy thinking about other things (such as how my friend thinks a student teacher is hot and I think he's dumb, and a possible life guard job in the summer) so I'm not really sharing a conversation with her.
We get to my house and I think she will need to get to the club as soon as possible so I skip the macking session that was in store for me, for what I thought was her well-beinig. Turns out she thinks I'm upset due to the lack of talking and lack of making out with her, I tell her I'm not and she does not believe me (I've lied before, sue me). I still want her to get there on time and I live in the country so she should leave relatively about right at that moment, but she ensues with asking why I'm upset, I say I'm not and it goes back to the roots of trust issues.
She drove away and appeared to be upset. Sorry for length.
TL;DR: | Didn't talk to girlfriend, she thought I was upset, not upset, I've lied about being "fine" before. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] have been together for a month now, but doesn't feel like we're dating?
POST: So my girlfriend and I met at the gym and we've been dating for about a month now. We're both extremely into working out, and we do it about 4-5 times a week together - which is what got us together. At the same time, we're both university students who are extremely busy and for a lack of a better word, "obsessed", with schoolwork and grades. Due to school, aside from working out, we're reluctant to do other activities together. I don't (and I'm sure she doesn't) really have a problem with this as spending time with one another at the gym is fun enough and is an activity we're both passionate about. But at the same time, none of us have dated before and not sure how to do more relationship-y stuff together. It just feels like gym time is the only time when we feel it's "worth" spending time together, if that makes sense, and doesn't even feel like we're dating at all. Anyway, I suppose this isn't really a cry for help; opinions, views, etc. are all welcome!
TL;DR: | Aside from working out, gf and I don't do much else. Doesn't feel like we're dating at all. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: NJ: My dog bit my friend's 4yo in the face
POST: First off... after plastic surgery to close her wounds, she's in good spirits, and is going to be ok.
I wasn't in the room, but reportedly it was "unprovoked". It was at a party, there may have been food or an misinterpreted "touch" involved... But none of that really matters. It's awful and it happened.
Has anyone gone through this before? What should I expect to happen next?
I have not yet contacted my homeowner's insurance. Based on some articles I've read, it looks like I will be forced to put my dog down after they pay out on a claim, as they will most likely deny me future coverage if I keep him. And from what I've heard, it will be impossible to find an insurance company with a dog that has a bite on it's record.
On paper my dog is a "Lab-Mix"... but there's no doubt he's mixed with a pit-bull.
TL;DR: | I have failed as a dog-owner, and my dog bit a small child in my house. What can I expect? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How long to skype in long distance relationships?
POST: I [22 female] have been with the same boy [20] for 2 years now, and we are embarking on long distance. For the summer I am a flight away, but starting in fall I will be only a 3 hour drive. Anyway, before when we spent breaks apart in college we would skype everyday. Now, we keep fighting out skyping. ideally, I would like to skype 3-4 times a week, the length doesn't matter to me, but that I want to see his face or hear his voice ever other day. However,we usually end up skyping for 2-3 hours when it does happen. Anyway, today I asked him if we could skype friday morning for 30 minutes, and then sunday evening for longer. He got very upset and told me we would not be skyping 10 hours a week and that he can't feel guilty all the time for not skyping. I have several questions:
1. Why doesn't he want to skype 10 hours? I mean, I don't quantify the time I guess. If I have a free day and we skype 5 hours, that is great with me. But he like doesn't want to fit in 3 hours 3 days a week? Does this mean he is pushing me out of his life?
2. What is a reasonable amount of time to skype or talk on the phone? How many times/hours a week?
3. It sucks that when we start skyping we both enjoying it, so neither of us stop it then he gets upset after it was 3 hours.. What do I do?? Cut it off at 1 hour now always?
Thanks!! Long distances SUCKSSSS
TL;DR: | Not sure how often to skype long distance, bf and I keep fighting because I guilt him into skyping. |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: Tonight was supposed to be my long and slow night...
POST: I was planning to do about 5-6 miles or ~1hr. Well, I started late due to being hung up at work. As I finished my first lap, I noticed a cat in the dark running away from the track. No worries, just a cat. The next lap, 1 mile in and I see the cat again, except this time, it stays closer to the track. Oh wait, it's not a cat, it's Fox.
Next lap, 1.5 mile the Fox stays closer to the track again. Except now there are two. Hmm.. Okay... Next lap, as I come to the point where the fox normally runs off, this time it stays. Both just stand there and stare at me.
At this point I decide to sprint back to my truck ~.25 mile and call it a day.
TL;DR: | played chicken with a cat on my run, cat was a fox, 1 fox is 2 fox, fox won lap 4.. I went home |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I may have made a mistake, and I don't know how to fix it. I just up and stopped paying bills about a year ago. Student Loans, utilities, and cable. What is/could happen to me (I'm sort of afraid I'll be arrested, seemingly at random)? And what do I do?
POST: So, I dropped out of school in 2010. I just never got around to dealing with the student loan collection letters, and they piled up. I continued to ignore them.
A year later I make yet another poor decision and move into an apartment with the girlfriend. For reasons I won't get into we're broke the whole time and living paycheck to paycheck. We make payments on utilities only when they threaten to turn them off.
Stupid decision number three (well, more like number 6,284): When moving away from the apartment a year later, we don't set up a forwarding address. I've been away from the town of the apartment for a year and a half now. I'm sure they still send collection notices (or whatever those move up to after being ignored) to the old address.
I still have not paid any student loan payments. My girlfriend got a student loan letter today and it made me remember all these problems I had been ignoring, and now I'm worried:
Reddit. What is going to happen to me?
TL;DR: | I have paid almost no bills for the past two years. What do I do? How worried should I be? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[22m] thinking about ex[21f]
POST: Just needed to put this out there, if you have any suggestions or words of wisdom I would appreciate them.
About 6 months ago my gf of 6 years broke up with me. I should have seen it coming, I think I did but chose to ignore the signs as I never believed she'd actually do it. After that I was in a bad way for a month or two. Since then my life has changed and I've been with other girls, just fun nothing serious.
Recently I cannot stop thinking about my ex and I don't know why. Where things went wrong, things I should have done differently, if she's with or has been with anyone else, just everything seems to remind me of her. Even though I am only 22 I can't help but fear never meeting anyone else to have a real relationship with, not just girls in clubs, I don't even know how I would go about that anymore. I feel like this is just a phase but I can't seem to stop it no matter how hard I try.
Everything else in my life is going pretty well, my degree/ work but I just have an empty feeling. I am so tempted to contact her out of the hope that she feels the same that she made a mistake but is to proud/ embarrassed to reach out to me. But I am also scared that I'll find out that she has someone else or would see me as a weak loser for still caring after all this time.
TL;DR: | Gf of 6 years broke up with me 6 months ago and for the past month or so she is all I think about. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by choosing the wrong answer on a test on purpose.
POST: So this happened during finals week last semester. I had my calculus final coming up. I had a 91 in the class, and my teacher doesn't round. But as long as I got above an 87 I would be fine. So the day of the test comes around and I'm feeling confident. I breeze through the free response section and start on the multiple choice. On the second to last question, I thought I had done really well so I decided to get this question wrong on purpose. It was a really basic question: "Paul creates an integral to solve something. What are the units of such and such integral that Paul has if P(t) is measured in problems per minute and t is measured in minutes?" The obvious answer is problems but I decided to be clever and choose answer choice e, which was headaches. I thought it would be hilarious to show my friends when I got my final back. So I do the last question and turn the test in. However, when I get it back I am surprised to find that I got 173/200, which is 86.5 dropping my grade below a 90. Had I gotten that one question right, I would have gotten a 174/200 or an 87% which is the percentage I needed.
TL;DR: | get a question wrong on my test on purpose. Turns out be the difference between an A and a B. fml |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (18 M) am concerned about my girlfriend (18F) of 10 months. She cries a lot.
POST: my girlfriend breaks down crying at least once a week, some weeks almost every day. She does not usually cry when I'm with her, other than some times when I'm about to leave.
When does she cry?
* in the mornings (not often)
* in the middle of the day (rarely happens. never if she's at work)
* when she goes to bed (this is mostly where it's at)
(she calls me every night to say goodnight, that's how I know)
* when I don't answer her snaps (she just told me this one. don't think it's often.)
If I ask her *why* she cries, she tells me she doesn't know. That it's because of one of her friendships is currently being torn apart (because her friends are bitches, and brought her sadness even when their friendship was on its best), because she's missing me, or because of some reason she has repressed or just can't think of.
It's difficult to see her like this, please come with suggestions or tell similar experiences to how I should handle this or what's gonna happen in the near (or far) future.
Thank you in advance. <3
TL;DR: | Girlfriend cries. A LOT. Hurts my blood-pump. Please tell me why and what to think. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My friend [20 M] cheated on his girlfriend [20 F]
POST: My friend and I got into this heated argument about a recent break up with an ex-girlfriend of his.
It started out with him cheating with another woman at a party. His girlfriend found out somehow and obviously it turned into a heated argument. She ended up kneeing him in the balls and in response he slapped her across the face. They both decided to go their own separate ways.
A week later, he receives a text message from his ex-girlfriend with a picture of obvious bruising on her face. He said that he is now afraid that she'll report a lawsuit against him. He asked me what to do. I first asked him if he apologized to her, and he said that he did not, he didn't get a chance (bizarre tbh). He also said that he didn't deserve to get knee'd in the balls. I told him that may be sort of true, but since he cheated I understand why she did it. He just got extremely mad at me and asked "so if she cheated on me, I deserve to hit her?" He made a good point to be honest. Maybe I'm just being sexist (I think that's the word, sorry it's late can't think lol). He then proceeded to say that he's just gonna file a lawsuit before she does, stating that he has bruising on his balls.
What do you guys think? Do you think he deserved to be hit like that, or was it just out of line?
TL;DR: | Friend cheated on gf, gf found out, he got knee'd and stated that he didn't deserve that. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Do I drink too much?
POST: [Throwaway account] I run a restaurant for a living. I usually work about 60-80 hours a week and have little time to myself. When I do get time off I like to drink, not to get drunk, but to go out and socialize. I am originally from Milwaukee and the drinking culture there is not present anywhere I've been since.
Looking at the last 24 hours, I bought a bottle of whiskey, 750ml of Tullamore Dew, and was casually drinking it on the rocks while at home.
Here is why I'm getting concerned, the bottle is almost gone and I haven't been drunk since purchasing it. I drank a quarter of the bottle last night, it was over the course of 4 hours and I felt fine. Tonight after work, drank about the equivalent of half the bottle over the course of 3 hours.
the bottle I bought yesterday.
I never get drunk before work or during the day, in fact, I don't like to be drunk. When I drink I try to watch if I've had too much and pace myself off of that. But looking at the amount I can drink, I'm getting concerned.
To summarize I've finished close to a bottle of whiskey in 24 hours without getting drunk, is this a problem? Food for thought, this entire post was written after drinking half of a 750ml of whiskey.
TL;DR: | I like to drink, but not get drunk. Is a half a bottle of whiskey a night too much to drink? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [24f] with my sister [29f] Keeps sending packages from Groupon to my home. I would like it to stop.
POST: This is a pretty easy one. I just want some advice/perspective.
My sister and her husband live in a bad area. I am on Groupon a lot and order things for myself and friends. I tend to find vacations that way. I have been getting packages with my sister's name on them from Groupon and other discount sites.
I told her to stop sending things to my house and that I would be leaving them out there until she got them, if she did. But I have been unable to buy things I needed from websites because she put them on my address. It is also annoying because I have ordered things for myself and she yells at me for 'getting there first.'
I am not sure what to do about this.
I don't want her calling me up at all hours wanting to know if her package arrived. I really don't want much contact with her and her husband at all. She annoys me, but she thinks that I owe her nice things because I am unmarried and don't need "those nice shoes" as much as she did.
It doesn't matter. I pay for the residence, she doesn't.
Advice?
TL;DR: | [24f] with my sister [29f] Keeps sending packages from Groupon to my home. I would like it to stop. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I realized today that I got scammed. Did they get away with it?
POST: I gave a shot to one of those workout pill free trial ads a couple of months ago because I was depressed and looking for a change, as I'm sure can be said for just about everyone else who has done the same. I know it was stupid, but I was in a bad state of mind at the time. Today I found that, instead of charging me the advertised $12.95 a bottle they have been charging around $80 a bottle (two at $79.95 and two at $86.93.) When I called to cancel, I was informed that I signed up for ~$80 bottles and the $12.95 price was a recent change, which is completely wrong. On top of that, I have four charges and three bottles, with the last charge being in December (meaning that it's probably not in the mail.)
When I went through my emails to find the original receipt, I found I had no emails from the company and can't remember getting any, either. Wells Fargo says they can't do anything without some paper proof on my end, so it looks like I'm royally fucked.
If you're wondering why it took me so long to notice, my mother used to be a bookkeeper so she doesn't mind keeping tack of my finances. In this case, she didn't realize anything was out of the ordinary.
TL;DR: | I got taken for about $300 bucks of credit and I have $75 in my banking account. Did I get owned? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [M/21] unsure what to think about breakup with ex [f/20]
POST: I broke up with my girlfriend yesterday after a 4.5 year relationship. After months of feeling trapped, controlled and under emotional abuse from her, I had to end it. I was 100% ready to end it after all the time I spent being unhappy with her. She however, was completely blindsided by it because she thought everything was fine and took it as a sudden thing. We had talked about my issues in the past but she never really took anything I said seriouslyrics and always assumed I was fine because I don't really show much emotion.
More toward the main point, I am feeling such a strange mix of things and I don't understand them. On one side, I feel free and relieved that I don't have to worry about being chronically stressed out anymore because of her. I feel like I'm my own person for the first time in YEARS. The other side of me keeps remembering the way she reacted when I broke up with her. It was the most horrible feeling thing I had ever done. Even though I don't love her anymore, watching her cry the way she did is almost haunting to think about.
What I'm asking, is that are these feelings normal after a breakup like this? I've never broken up with someone before, and I don't know if the way I'm feeling is normal after this situation.
TL;DR: | Op feels both relieved/guilty for leaving girlfriend of 4.5 years and isn't sure if this is normal. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Hey all. I need cheering up. Give me your funny antidotes!
POST: I live with my bf but since his older brother moved out of his parents house & moved in with us I have been severely depressed.
His bro has OCD, anorexia, "eats" our food (more like makes a big plate of food then throws it out), tells us how & what we can use & drains our internet cos he plays battlefield all day long. He has no job, no goals & is hoping to find a gf soon. He listens into our conversations, wakes us up in the morning. Even having sex gets interrupted. I come home to a messy house after work, I am the only one who cleans up, cooks the meals & pretty much mother the pair of them. My bf has accepted that he won't get a job & is ok with all of this. I would never get in between family so I keep my mouth shut, though passively let my bf know my concerns. I tried approaching his brother but I get an aggressive response. He is in his 30's & his parents don't want him back because they just got him out.
My bf & I have/had a great relationship, though since his brother moved in, I am not attracted to him anymore & I feel angry all the time. I want to move out but it breaks my bf's heart. It's not fair on him. He is trying to be a good partner & brother. I do love him & I know that I am not angry with him, just the situation.
TL;DR: | bf's sponge, crazy brother is depressing me, he is in his 30's & needs a job, but won't get one. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20f] with my ex [20M] were in a really weird place..
POST: Sorry if this has mistakes I'm writing this on my phone. Some back story I am an America living in another country I have citizenship in. I have been living here for about 7months by myself. It's been very tough and I have been diagnosed with severe depression, but I am currently on meds.
Anyways recently my ex dumped me because I am too emotinally fucked up, or well I have too much baggage and he can't deal with me. The thing is though he was never there for me...he would leave me alone for days and go to the bar with his friends. He watched me cry to my parents on the phone about how much I miss them, he just played video games.
I guess I'm just bummed and it really has made my depression a bit worse. What I'm confused about though is he still lets me go to his place to watch Netflix and play his Xbox one (I bought a game for it and I don't own one so) but hes not home because I guess we don't want to see each other? I don't know.
Also before we started dating he was so sweet and kind but once we became an item he just acted bored of me.
anyways
What should I do? Is he an asshole? I still like him but I just don't think he can give me what I need. I just need some advice.
TL;DR: | I know I should move on from my ex but were in this weird place...I don't know what to do help |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Batman VS all four ninja turtles?
POST: Long story short - my friend and I talked about fictional matchups after seeing a pic of 'Raphael VS Bane'. (
He said, "Seeing batman could kick all the tnmt butts and bane broke batman. Then bane could beat all the tnmt simple logic".
Ok fair enough - Bane is pretty freakin' tough - but it wasn't That comment that struck me, it was that he said Batman could kick all the TMNT's butts. I'm like ... What? All four at the same time? No waaayyyy.... Batman would lose.
I guess for matchup purposes we'd go for the darkest sides of the characters ... So Nolan's Batman (at his peak - so dark knight Batman) VS the TMNT (animated movie version or new animated version - whatever is more on par fighting style).
TL;DR: | who would win - Nolan's batman VS all four TMNT (animated movie/newer animated series version)? |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Reddit I need advice about my Father.
POST: My dad is about to turn 53 next month. I love him with every ounce of my existence, and tonight everything really snapped into reality. My father started his construction and home improvement company with his own hands. He taught me everything I know today, I've never met someone who has so much knowledge in everyday life, and in his field of work. We live in a house we use to be able to afford, now that the economy and overall income has diminished there's no work for people like him. He gets a job about once a month to keep the lights on and food on the table. I help him when I can but I'm about to be 22 next month also (we share the same birthday) and I'm moving away from home to try to make enough money to survive on my own. He told me tonight that he hasn't paid our mortgage in almost two years. Now I know everyone else is pretty much going through this but how the hell am I suppose to face that? I honestly feel like it's my fault and he's making me feel like I'm abandoning him more or less. My father cant start a new career now because we're broke and I can't afford the house, what do I do?
Reddit I'm not asking for anything more than advice, if you can give me that I'd appreciate it.
TL;DR: | My home is going to be foreclosed on, my fathers business fell apart, and I feel like it's my fault |
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